Rapid Fire, Marriage Straight Talk: No Sugarcoating, No Protecting Egos, Just Man To Man

If couples could see the depth of the pain, I believe many of them would understand just how much they really do love each other. If they could just learn to measure the depth of their love by the depth of their pain they may just be willing to give it one more shot, one last run at turning their marriage around.

To whom should you turn when you need marriage advice? In this episode I discuss why you should avoid advice from family and friends.

Which of these two statements is true: A GOOD marriage produces a HAPPY spouse or A HAPPY spouse produces a GOOD marriage? We'll break these down and I'll provide some insights the will hopefully help you to a Happy and Good marriage.

Marriage is difficult, it's hard work, and it's complicated. Have you heard or even said things like that? Well, I don't think marriage is difficult or hard work or even complicated. In this episode, I explain why I believe that to be true.

What makes a good marriage good. Why are some marriages able to handle stress better than others? Why do some couples just seem to get along with each other better and why do some marriages thrive where others fail?

At some point, and more likely, at several points, life is going to throw a few curveballs at you. This is true in life and it's true in marriage. When trials come, when your marriage gets hit with a curveball, there are only two options: push away from each other or hold each other up.

Chapter 12: Appendix, 30 x 30 Challenge. “For The Honor of The Vow - Field Guide” -Robert Cossick. Sometimes, something as simple as a walk can radically transform your marriage. In this episode, you'll learn more about this transformational challenge.

Chapter 11: Final Word, This Is Not A Game. “For The Honor of The Vow - Field Guide” -Robert Cossick. The fight for your marriage will be the toughest battle of your life. However, a successful campaign offers the greatest rewards. You can do this.

Chapter 10: Real Life, Riding Out The Storms. “For The Honor of The Vow - Field Guide” -Robert Cossick. One of the toughest battles you’ll face is the battle for your marriage because you’re going to experience heavy turbulence multiple times. This is going to be tough, and at times the pressure will seem unbearable.

Chapter 9: Gifts From The Heart. “For The Honor of The Vow - Field Guide” -Robert Cossick. What do gifts really say to your wife? Does it say: I thought of you, I appreciate you, and I love you? We certainly think so. But, what does the gift itself say. Does it say, I got you this because I had to or it's the first thing I saw? In this episode, we discuss how to give gifts that actually say what you mean for them to say.

Chapter 8: Emergency Exits. “For The Honor of The Vow - Field Guide” -Robert Cossick. Arguments are never fun. I’m not talking about debates; I’m referring to heated discussions where voices are raised, blood pressure is elevated, and feelings get crushed. Since these will happen from time to time, I'm going to suggest a couple of rules you can implement to help minimize the damage and expedite the recovery process.

Chapter 7: Smoke & Mirrors (Four Steps Backwards, Two Forward) “For The Honor of The Vow - Field Guide” -Robert Cossick. Spouses use ‘smoke and mirrors’ to hide or disguise their true feelings to avoid being emotionally hurt. This is especially true when the marriage is at or close to the divorce stage. In this episode, we breakdown the process to seeing through the smoke.

Chapter 6 - Wall (Protecting and Destroying Marriages Every Day). “For The Honor of The Vow - Field Guide” -Robert Cossick. All marriages contain both positive and negative walls to some extent. In this episode we discuss different types of walls, why they exist, and how to safely tear them down.

Chapter 5 - Getting Past the Past. “For The Honor of The Vow - Field Guide” -Robert Cossick. If what has happened up to now in your marriage is going to be a factor going forward, you’ll never get past the past. In this episode, learn about forgiveness how to move past a past hurt.

Chapter 4 - Why Him, Why Her. “For The Honor of The Vow - Field Guide” -Robert Cossick. Joe was married to Katy for eighteen years. They were both burned out on the cycle of ups and downs. Neither wanted a divorce, but neither knew what to do next. In this episode we discuss how to get historical…in a good way.

Chapter 3 - Take Ownership of Your Marriage. “For The Honor of The Vow - Field Guide” -Robert Cossick. Frank and Alice were married over twenty years and had been to several counselors over the course of their marriage. My solution for their marriage was to no longer meet with them. Find out why in this episode.

Chapter 2 - Fired Up About Marriage. "For The Honor of The Vow - Field Guide" -Robert Cossick. Half the battle to have a passionate and thriving marriage is won or lost with attitude, because your attitude will drive the level of your effort.

Chapter 1 - A Practical and Quick Reference. "For The Honor of The Vow - Field Guide" -Robert Cossick

Have you settled in your marriage? In this episode, we discuss why couples settle for a mediocre marriage and how to make it better.

Should you have to prove your love for your spouse? How about this follow on question...How do you prove your love for your spouse? We tackle both of these questions in this episode.