Relationships Uncomplicated

Have you tried everything you can to heal after a breakup but still feel as though you haven't been able to? Chances are you have been trying to get over your ex/move on instead of putting in the work to heal your heart.  On this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated titled The Difference Between Moving On And Healing, Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov shares her professional insight on what it feels like when you are ready to heal.  Together with Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni, this episode addresses the necessary mindset shift in order to truly heal. Alina also reveals the biggest downside to getting over someone. Hint: it affects your future relationship.  Links mentioned in this episode:  Episode 4: How To Heal After A Breakup  To send us questions you'd like us to answer in a podcast: Please write your question in the following form and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com or alina@alinagershonov.com: Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to

Do you find that whenever you tell it like it is your partner takes it the wrong way? Does your partner get defensive whenever you tell them something is wrong? On this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni challenges the need to be brutally hones with your partner. She also provides listeners with a recipe on how to say things in a way that has the potential to be heard and bring about a change.  Tune in to learn from co-hosts Idit Sharoni and Alina Gershonov what they wish you knew to better your relationship.  Links mentioned in this episode:  Episode 19: Love Your Partner How THEY Want To Be Loved To send us questions you'd like us to answer in a podcast: Please write your question in the following form and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com or alina@alinagershonov.com: Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast, Idit Shar

On this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov shares three areas where most people feel stuck after they've healed from a breakup and begin dating again.  This episode titled How To Attract The RIGHT Person After A Breakup will help you look deeper within if you're stuck in the dating world and are having trouble attracting quality potential partners. Together with Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni, Alina reveals a takeaway tip to steer you closer to Going Forward and finding the one who is right for you. Tune in to listen to expert knowledge and a new perspective that can assist you in making the changes in your life you yearn for. Links mentioned in this episode:  Book Recommendation- Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy by Ken Page, LCSW https://www.kenpagelcsw.com/deeper-dating-home/ To send us questions you'd like us to answer in a podcast: Please write your question in the following form and email idit@iditsharonicounsel

Do you ever feel like you're trying so hard to show your partner you care, but they just aren't seeing the effort you're putting in?  On this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni explains how these common arguments appear in relationships.  Together with Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov, they share the basic assumption that causes most of the relationship distress discussed in this episode; both partners expect each other to be mind readers.  Idit reveals easy-to-impliment argument de-escalating tips you can begin using immediately. These practical tips allow space to have a different, more productive and healing kind of conversation. The goal of this relationship help episode is to create understanding, effective communication, and gain clarity. Links mentioned in this episode:  The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman www.5lovelanguages.com  To send us questions you'd like us to answer in a podcast: Please write your question in the following form and email idit@idit

Do you want to have a friendship with your ex?  Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov asks thought-provoking questions to help you figure out the real reason why you still want to be friends.  Together with Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni, they explore the differences between a true friendship and a casual, check-in friendship.  On this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, Alina & Idit guide you with important factors to consider internally such as emotional attachment, closure, and potential ulterior motives.  You may find that your decision to be friends could change after listening to Idit & Alina's expert advice based on real client experiences.  Links mentioned in this episode:  Study mentioned: Griffith, R.L., Gillath, O., Zhao, X., & Martinez, R. (2017). Staying friends with an ex-romantic partner: Predictors and outcomes. Personal Relationships, advanced online publication. Episode 4: How To Heal After a Breakup: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/relationships-uncomplicated/id1232273542

Ever wonder if you're spending too much time with your significant other? On this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni and Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov address a question they received from one of their podcast listeners.  Idit and Alina offer their different perspectives on this topic along with valuable indicators and advice on time spent together in a relationship, in addition to healthy ways of separating work life and home life.  Don't miss out on Alina's freebie below: 10 Warning Signs of A Toxic Relationship. We welcome your questions! See details below.  Links mentioned in this episode:  Freebie mentioned: 10 Warning Signs of A Toxic Relationship (click here) Episode 4: How To Heal After a Breakup & Episode 3: How To Listen & Be Heard: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/relationships-uncomplicated/id1232273542?mt=2  To send us questions you'd like us to answer in a podcast: Please write your question in the following form and email idit@iditsharonicou

If you are trying to piece back your relationship after it's been shattered by an affair, then this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated will be of help to you.  This episode called Staying After Infidelity - Mistake #2 addresses the second mistake couples make while trying to heal after infidelity. Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni provides a breakdown of questions to avoid and questions she recommends asking when confronting your partner. Together with Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov they explore possible scenarios of conversations and their benefits along with potential detriments to the relationship. Idit's Freebie is a worksheet guideline on how to access your partner's inner world- a necessary step towards rebuilding broken trust and healing your relationship.  Links mentioned in this episode:  Freebie: Staying After Infidelity: Mistake # 2 Worksheet Download Access to Idit's private Facebook group: It's Okay To Stay Episode 12: Staying After Infidelity - Mistake #1  To send us questions you'd lik

Have you recently asked yourself, "How did my relationship get to this point?" If you are in a new relationship or in a committed relationship for a while and things are not going as well as you'd hoped they would in the beginning, then this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated could help you.  Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov and Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni discuss the reasons Why We Overlook Red Flags in Relationships. One message Idit & Alina really emphasize during this episode is that your instincts or intuition are rarely wrong. They discuss ways you can listen to it along with signs of red flags.  If you want to find out if you are ignoring the red flags in your relationship, then take the free quiz below. Links mentioned in this episode:  Freebie: QUIZ: Am I Seeing The Red Flags In My Relationship? Article mentioned: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/prescriptions-life/201107/relationship-red-flags-are-you-ignoring-them Episode 14: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/relationships-unco

Have you said the following words to yourself recently? "We Need Help." If so, then this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, "Is It Time for Couples Counseling" is one you don't want to miss.  Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni provides a roadmap for the process most couples go through when they are experiencing issues in their relationship.  Did you know that the average couple waits 6.7 years to see a professional? Idit Sharoni and Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov hope to change this number by providing essential information in this very episode. They also share some helpful tips on how to find the right couples counselor for you!  To send us questions you'd like us to answer in a podcast: Please write your question in the following form and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com or alina@alinagershonov.com: Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast, Idit Sha

Do you ever think about the one that got away?  Believe it or not, the reason why you can't let go has nothing to do with the person constantly on your mind and absolutely everything to do with you.                           If you're intrigued, then this episode is definitely for you! In this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov reveals 3 things that are keeping you stuck and not allowing you to let that one person go.  Together with Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni, they reveal both the conscious and subconscious reasoning for why people still hold on emotionally. Don't forget to send us questions you'd like us to address in a future episode! (We'll respond to you directly first!) Resources: To send us questions you'd like us to answer in a podcast: Please write your question in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com or alina@alinagershonov.com: Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us

Ever wonder how to increase trust after infidelity has been revealed in a relationship? On this Episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni reveals the first of many mistakes both partners make after infidelity has been revealed in their relationship. Together with Breakup specialist Alina Gershonov, this group of episodes titled "Staying After Infidelity" will present common mistakes both the hurt partner and the betrayed partner make along with how to solve the problem and most importantly; how to increase trust. The tips given during this episode are expert advise given from years of experience helping couples rebuild trust after infidelity and overwhelming emotions of betrayal have plagued a relationship. Links mentioned in this episode:  Freebie: Click to gain access to Step-by-step worksheet on how to increase trust and create a plan to part ways with your affair partner.  Freebie: Click to ask for access to Idit's Closed Facebook Group: It's Okay To Stay Book mentioned: Not

If you're currently in the dating world, then you've likely heard of "being ghosted" or you have unfortunately experienced it yourself.  As if ghosting isn't painful enough to deal with; icing, and simmering have plagued the dating scene even further. Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni and Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov address these extremely hurtful and emotionally damaging ways to part in a dating relationship. Idit and Alina address the reasons why people resort to saying nothing out of fear of a confrontational conversation or ultimately hurting someone's feeling. Also, learn just how frequently ghosting, icing, and simmering are used and the reasoning behind this non-existent form of communication.  Get expert tips on how to deal with being ghosted, iced, or simmered and learn how to date mindfully.  Resources: To send us questions you'd like us to answer in a podcast: Please write your question in the following form and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com or alina@alinagershonov.com: Type of relati

Have you searched the internet endlessly, trying to understand why your partner cheated? If you have, then chances are you discovered misleading information and unfortunately have been misinformed. Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni and Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov discuss the causes of infidelity on this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, called Why Do People Cheat? Idit & Alina also address common misconceptions about infidelity; the one that comes up the most is that the betraying partner wants to get out of a bad marriage and be with the person they are having the affair with. The truth is, most of the time, the partner who cheated does not want to leave the marriage at all. In fact, a recent study shows that only 3% of those who divorce after an affair actually end up marrying their affair partner.  Don't get caught up in the reasons why people think affairs occur; tune into this episode to find out the 3 main reasons why people cheat which are backed by evidence-based research. Idit's FREE

If you've recently gone through a breakup, then you may find relief in knowing that you are not the only one who feels like you're withdrawing from a drug.  Believe it or not, the deep pain experienced after a split actually triggers the same part of the brain that is stimulated during drug addiction, according to a recent study at Stony Brook University. This makes sense, love is one of the most powerful addictions; if it's lost then the body enters a period of withdrawal.  In this episode called Why Getting Over a Breakup Can Feel Like Drug Withdrawal, Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov and Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni explain what the physical process entails once the body's stress hormones have been released.  In addition, the #1 tip for survival is shared to help you through this withdrawal period. You don't want to miss it! Resources: For more information about the podcast, Idit Sharoni, and Alina Gershonov visit: www.iditsharoni.com www.alinagershonov.com Links mentioned in this episode: Freebie: D

Have you asked yourself "Am I crazy to stay in this relationship after I've been cheated on?" then you're in the right place. If you haven't personally been in this situation and thought this questions about a friend or family member, then this episode will absolutely be helpful for you as well.  Did you know that infidelity affects 1 in every 2.7 couples? In fact, most couples (65%-70%) stay together afterwards.   In this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni shares research based facts about infidelity along with trends she's seen as couples therapist specializing in infidelity. Together with Breakup Expert Alina Gershonov, they shed light on the reasons why friends and family encourage the betrayed partner to leave. They also address societal norms and the shame both partners experience. Additionally, they discuss exactly what needs to happen when both partners are committed to staying and what that process looks like. Learn how so many couples are able to thrive after an

Have you recently gone through a breakup? Do you feel as though you're mourning a death? It may seem like the deep emotions you're feeling are going to last forever. If so, then you are not alone. Many people can't see the light at the end of a tunnel after a breakup or a divorce. How can you see the light when what you're going through is grieving? Grieving a loss of a relationship is often compared with the same, if not more intense, feelings a person experiences when they lose a loved one.  In this Episode called Why A Breakup Could Feel Worse Than A Death, Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov gives you 4 easy-to-apply tips to help you begin your healing journey.  Together with Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni, both co-hosts offer insight to help you understand the nature of your attachment to your ex and 4 simple tips to get you going towards healing and letting go. This valuable information will help you understand your obsessive thoughts, need for communication, and closure.  Resources: For more informati

Have you felt like you and your partner are drifting apart? Does it seem like you're simply out of synch with each other? Maybe you're not getting the feeling that you're a team anymore. If this is what you've been experiencing, then it is likely that you're at risk of other marital or relationship issues that are lurking in the corner waiting to surface.   This episode called 'How To Stop Drifting Apart' is divided into 2 main parts for your convenience: Part 1: A full description of how drifting apart looks like in couples and what is the usual path couples take that makes them end up there. Part 2: 2 strategies to help you avoid future drifting apart, or fix an already drifted apart situation. The two strategies work together as a holistic approach to get you back in synch with your partner. While relationship expert Idit Sharoni and breakup specialist Alina Gershonov have you look inside your relationship, they also get you to take a step back and see things from the outside in. This step-by-step approach

Has this ever happen to you where all you were looking for is support from your spouse and all you got was a cold shoulder? Does that happen more often than not? Many couples go through this vicious cycle we call the pursuer distancer dynamic. It is when one partner (the pursuer) attempts to make a connection with his or her partner and is turned away by not getting the response hoped for. As a result, the pursuer continues attempting by making more gestures towards their partner usually more focused in getting their attention. This usually ends up with the pursued partner withdrawing even more and becoming the distancer making them look like they don't care.  This vicious cycle leaves the pursuing partner feeling powerless and defeated, while the distancing partner feels upset and harassed.  In this Episode called 'What To Do When Your Partner Doesn't Care' relationship expert Idit Sharoni lays down strategies for you to avoid these situations and move away from feeling not heard to being listened to and car

Have you recently gone through a breakup? If so, chances are you went from feeling a sense of relief all the way to experiencing painful moments that usually come in waves. Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov has come up with 5 techniques you can start applying today. In addition, she offers a tool to keep you afloat when you feel hopeless.  Alina and Idit will share with you a full Game Plan for individuals who are in their first steps towards healing after a breakup. Check out the game plan and the tools in this episode to start feeling better. Resources: For more information about the podcast, Idit Sharoni, and Alina Gershonov visit: www.iditsharoni.com www.alinagershonov.com Links mentioned in this episode: Free online journaling tool - www.penzu.com Paid online journaling tool - www.mytherapyjournal.com Mindfulness for beginners - https://www.mindful.org/meditation/mindfulness-getting-started/ See you at our next episode, Idit & Alina     

Ever feel like getting through to your partner is too complicated? You don't feel heard and your partner has no clue how to make it better. You end up almost every time exactly where you started or even worse.  Relationship expert Idit Sharoni along with co-host and breakup specialist Alina Gershonov Un-complicate communication rules for you. This episode is all about being an awesome listener and a great speaker in conversations with your significant other. You will find 8 easy-to-apply communication tools that will improve the next time you communicate with your partner.  Resources: For more information about the podcast, Idit Sharoni, and Alina Gershonov visit: www.iditsharoni.com www.alinagershonov.com For more information about The Gottman Institute mentioned in the episode please visit: www.gottman.com See you at our next episode, Idit & Alina