Clarity On Fire

Lately, one of my (Rachel’s!) clients came back a couple weeks into a homework assignment and proclaimed: “I’m really frustrated and disappointed. It’s not WORKING!!” When you’ve spent a couple weeks on something and you’re seeing no results, of course it’s frustrating. Especially when every day that passes by gives your inner critic more and more fodder for beating you up—“If you were good at this, it would work.” “See, I told you that you’re a failure. Why even try?” But I wasn’t “in it” like she was, so I could see the reality of the situation: It’s not that her strategy wasn’t working, it’s that it wasn’t working YET. She hadn’t given it nearly enough time or effort to conclude it wasn’t working and would never work. So, in this month’s brand-new Side Chat, Kristen and I sit down to talk about how to tell the difference between “it’s not working,” and “it’s not working YET.” We got into… How to define what something “working” even means, according to your situation. Ways you can tell something has the po