Sex With Emily

Consuming your own ejaculate: a kink on the rise. Whether it comes from porn or curiosity, a ton of you have asked me about it in the last few years. But that’s not the only trending sex topic: from porn to mental health, these are some of the most frequently asked questions we get at Sex With Emily. First, is porn healthy or harmful? It’s all about your relationship to it. Next, anxiety and low self-worth can make it more difficult to get turned on with a partner. I offer strategies to one listener for restoring their self-love practice. Finally, eating your own semen: yay or nay? I explain why this is not only a totally normal question – but a totally acceptable practice. Show Notes: When It’s Time to Unplug, Plug In a Magic Wand Je Joue Ami 3 Step Kegel Training Set Article: The Ins And Outs of Ethical Porn Podcast: Find Your Sexual Voice w/ Lake Bell XConfessions.com TryQuinn This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off yo

Just how many pathways are there to your best orgasm? It’s more than you realize. Today’s episode is all about creative ways to climax, so you can unlock even more pleasure the next time you have sex. First: are breastgasms a thing? I explain to one caller how they work, and give her ideas for stimulating them and her other erogenous zones. Next, a couple calls in with a common problem: he finishes during penetrative sex, she doesn’t. I give them some orgasm gap hacks to solve it. Finally, why is it often easier to have a G-Spot orgasm with a toy, but not during sex? I give you tips for getting there with a partner and more tips to maximize your pleasure. Show Notes: When It’s Time to Unplug, Plug In a Magic Wand Uberlube “Good to Go” Travel Sets from Good Vibrations  Woo More Play Coconut Oil Pjur’s Back Door Lube Article: Where is the Clitoris? Article: 9 Ways to Elevate Your Solo Sex This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10%

Ever feel like your relationship is on cruise control? Do you continue to have the same conflicts, stale sex routine, or toxic dynamics and want to break the cycle and be with someone who’s actually a great fit? I’ll help you break out of all that. Today’s episode is designed to help you build better sex, dating and relationship habits. From incorporating kink and exploration into a relationship with someone who’s more reserved, to tips to work through jealousy in a relationship - we can all learn so much from this episode. I’ll also go over some exercises to build intimacy and share your top “green flags” when it comes to dating. All this and more on today’s show. Show Notes: Sexual Wellness Trends to Try in 2023 VUSH Empress 2 (code SWE50 for 50% off) Tips for Better Communication & Other Guides Article: How to Have More Sensual Sex Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Tell a New Partner About My Fantasies? Article: What to Do When Your Partner Says ‘No’ to Trying New Things This episode is brought to y

Your sexual needs are key to your sexual satisfaction and overall wellness. And when you’ve got a need that just can’t be met, I’m here for you. On today’s show, I give one caller who's never had an orgasm surefire masturbation tips to help her get there. Next, she’s 23 and loves her boyfriend, but he wants to move in together and she’s… not so sure. Psychologist and dear friend Dr. Jen Freed and I coach her on next steps. Another caller asked her partner to be more dominant in bed, and now he thinks they’re sexually incompatible. Finally, she needs more sexual experience – should she snag a friends with benefits? All this and more as we unpack your sexual needs and give you specific, sexy steps to achieve them. Show Notes: Sexual Wellness Trends to Try in 2023 Odela Health (use this link for $50 off your 1st prescription) 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand Pleasure Planner, Yes No Maybe List & Other Guides Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When it comes to your sexual style, have you ever thought about your voice? Do you moan? Slow things down? Pitch up or down an octave? Actor, writer and director Lake Bell is obsessed with the human voice. On today’s show, we’ll discuss her new audiobook Inside Voice, which explores this obsession, including the “sexy baby voice” phenomenon - which happens to be her least favorite choice for bedroom talk. We also discuss your takes on dating in your 40s, and why things often get better with age when it comes to the pursuit of romance. All this and more with my amazing guest, Lake Bell. Show Notes: Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Get Better at Dirty Talk? Lake Bell’s New Audiobook, Inside Voice: My Obsession with How We Sound: Audible | Pushkin More Lake Bell: Instagram | Twitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As the year comes to an end, what are the biggest revelations you’ve had when it comes to pleasure? What is something new you’ve learned that has redefined your sex life - now and in the new year? To answer this, I turned to you - the Sex With Emily community - for a roundup of the best of the best. From oral secrets to solo sex, your sex language and your sex fantasies, these are some of my favorite moments from the episodes you listened to the most this year. Consider this your end of year send off, from Emily with love.  Show Notes: Article: How to Write Your New Year’s Sex Resolutions Magic Wand Breathe App Podcast: Your Top Sex Fantasies, Revealed Podcast: Your Sex Language w/ Dr. Jen Freed Podcast: How to Relationship Better w/ John Kim a & Vanessa Bennett Podcast: Best Blow Job Ever Podcast: Orgasms with a Capital O Podcast: Sex & Loving Your Body w/ Shaun T Podcast: Therapy: The Relationship Game Changer Podcast: Sex + Creativity w/ Liz Goldwyn Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/priv

Are you considering opening up your relationship? When and how did you decide to do so? And did moving away from monogamy change your perspective on sex and pleasure? Today, I’m taking your calls all about being in open relationships. First up: a group sex success story after a married couple learned to communicate their fantasies – always love hearing those. Next, they have a great sex life, but after a threesome gone wrong, she’s worried he’ll leave. How can she alleviate her anxiety and share her fears? Finally, we define compersion and discuss what to do when your partner wants a threesome… but you don’t. We get into all this and more on today’s hotline show. Show Notes: Article: The Podcast Eps + Articles You Loved in 2022 Promescent Article: These Are The 5 Arousal Styles. Which One Are You? SWE Pleasure Planner, Yes No Maybe List & More Guides Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Variety is the spice of life – as well as vital to your sex life. But how many times have you turned to your partner on Friday night and said: “how about dinner? Usual spot?” Planning a creative date requires thinking outside of the box. That’s why I’ve done the legwork for you of helping you create playful dates that are as unique as they are arousing. From role playing sexy strangers to planning out a sensual dinner at the farmer’s market, these date ideas will give you a break from the norm - while also building sexual tension and enhancing intimacy.  Show Notes: Article: How to Train Your Penis VUSH (SEXWITHEMILY for 40% off Next Gen Vibes) Article: These Are The 5 Arousal Styles. Which One Are You? Podcast: What’s Your Arousal Type? The 36 Questions That Lead to Love OhMiBod blueMotion Panty Vibe Podcast: Sex & Loving Your Body w/ Shaun T Fleur Du Mal x SWE Bundle (FLEURWITHEMILY for 10% off 1st order) Je Joue Luxury Massage Candle Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more inform

Alex Cooper, host and creator of “Call Her Daddy” knows a thing or two about the pursuit of a more fulfilling sex life. From transcendental oral to disastrous anal, she walks us through the good, the bad, and the funny when it comes to trying new sexual experiences. Alex also shares her mindful masturbation routine and what her partner does to make oral incredible (hint: vulva worship). All this and more in today’s fan favorite best of episode.  Show Notes: Emily on Call Her Daddy: How to Have an Orgasm | 104- The Roadmap to his A**hole | 96- The Orgasm Gap & Forced Sex Fantasies Article: 9 Ways to Elevate Your Solo Sex Article: Ask Emily: Oral Sex for Beginners More Alex Cooper: Instagram | Twitter Call Her Daddy: Website | Instagram | Twitter | TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Mismatched sex drives: it’s one of the most common issues longterm relationships face. Frequently one partner has an insatiable appetite for sex, while the other treats sex more like a chore. But just because your libidos aren’t synced up now doesn’t mean they’ll be that way forever. On today’s Hotline show, I answer questions all about you and your partner’s differing sex drives and how to communicate your way to better alignment. From a caller who misses the drama and excitement their sex life once had, to another whose partner’s medication has caused his desire to be depleted - I’ll break down step by step how to broach this sensitive subject. Because if left unaddressed, issues around sex can be fatal to a relationship - and working through it will only make you and your partner stronger. Show Notes: Article: Best Sexy Stocking Stuffers 2022 FirmTech Tech Ring (Emily20 for 20% off) Article: These Are the 5 Arousal Styles. Which One Are You? Podcast: Your Top Sex Fantasies, Revealed Hosted on Aca

We’ve all heard of “body positivity” - the idea that we should celebrate the skin we’re in, rather than emphasize how we think others see us. But in practice, how really is your relationship with your body? Today’s show is all about giving our bodies the respect they deserve. I’m first joined by Bethany C Meyers, whose fitness company the be.come project aims to change our motivation behind working out. Bethany also shares why sex takes on a new, rich depth when we learn to connect with our movement on a daily basis. Afterwards, I’ll answer questions from listeners struggling to accept their own bodies. Because if we can’t learn to love our own bodies, how can we share them intimately with someone else? Show Notes: Article: 4 Sex Toys So Pretty, They Double As Art Article: Ask Emily: How Can I Be More Confident in the Bedroom? Promescent More Bethany C. Meyers: Instagram | Twitter The Become Project: Website | Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As we wind down the year, what are your pleasure goals? Do you want to explore your body? Incorporate a new pleasure ritual? Try out a new toy? Today on the show, I pull back the curtain on Sex With Emily and invite my team to share their pleasure goals and the toys to get there. From vibrators to arousal gels, they give their honest reviews on what to stuff your stockings with this holiday season. I’ll also break down the science behind them that makes them so effective. If you’re looking to create your own pleasure goals for the new year, these products are a great place to start. Show Notes: Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays Article: 4 Sex Toys So Pretty they Double as Art Book: Court of Thorns Guide: The Pleasure Planner 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand Good Vibrations Je Joue (Emily30 for 30% off all products) OhMiBod bluMotion NEX1 Wearable Panty Vibrator Lelo Sona 2 Cruise B-Vibe Triplet Lelo Hugo Prostate Massager Playground Lube (SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off 1st orde

It’s the question married men often ask themselves: why is my marriage just OK? How do I get the spark back? And when did our sex life become so mediocre? Life coach and fellow podcaster Larry Hagner has not only worked through these issues himself, but has devoted his life to helping other men become better husbands and fathers. His project the Dad Edge was inspired by both his struggles in parenting and a lack of having a father during his own childhood. On today’s best-of show, Larry breaks down his four pillars of a good marriage (which absolutely includes sex), as well as how to talk to sons about sex, porn and masturbation. Show Notes: Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays Vush Destination: Play (SEXWITHEMILY for 40% off Destination: Play) More Larry Hagner: The Dad Edge | Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dating - for most of us, it's a necessary evil. We fear rejection, don’t know where to look for our people, or simply feel it's a hopeless waste of time. But as my guests on today’s show can attest, the research behind dating may tell a different story. Today, I’m joined by Anthropologist Dr. Helen Fisher and evolutionary biologist Dr. Justin Garcia of the Kinsey Institute. They pulled data from 5,000 American singles ages 18-89 as part of Match’s annual Singles in America survey, and the results are fascinating. People dating more consciously - hookup culture is dead, and singles are prioritizing things like political awareness rather than looks. We’ll unpack their findings and why today’s singles should be more optimistic than ever about finding their match. Show Notes: Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays Article: Cold Weather Date Ideas 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand Singles in America Study More Dr. Helen Fisher: Website More Dr. Justin Garcia: Kinsey Institute Bio | Instagram

What do you wish you knew about pleasure when you were in college? Maybe it's how to please yourself? Or the signs of sexual incompatibility? Or maybe you just need permission to break up? I answer your questions all about sex in college. From making casual hookups more stimulating, to embracing queerness in heteronormative spaces, to simply finding your people - I give the advice we all wish we could tell our younger selves. I also asked for your hottest college sex stories, and you absolutely understood the assignment. All this and more on today’s best of show. Show Notes: Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays Article: A Submissive’s Guide to Being Dominant Promescent Delay Spray & Arousal Gel Article: Is Casual Sex Right For You? Article: 7 Books to Teach Your Kids About Queer Sex & Identity Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How’s your orgasm lately? Do you wish it was more intense? More frequent? More predictable with a partner? Orgasms don’t have to be a thing of mystery. And that’s why today's call in show is devoted to all things O. First up: she fears a loss of control while climaxing, which derails her arousal altogether. Can she relax and stay present? Next, he’s fit and athletic, with a girlfriend who loves sex. The problem? It takes him a long time to finish – maybe too long. Finally - when you’re with a partner who loves giving you oral, but it’s not exactly getting you off…what gives? I answer these questions and more from our brave live callers. Show Notes: Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays Promescent Delay Spray & More Article: I’ve Never Had An Orgasm Article: Where is the Clitoris? Article: 6 Tips for Mastering the Game-Changing Technique of Mindful Masturbation Article: How To Respond When Your Partner Can’t Stay Hard The Yes No Maybe List & Other SWE Guides Episode: More Sex, Le

Getting the sex we want: it’s easier said than done. Sharing your needs with a partner can be difficult and awkward. But what if we feel undeserving of the gift of pleasure all together? On today’s best-of episode, I’ll answer your questions all about giving and receiving. From trouble with orgasms to insecurities around body parts - how we receive the gift of oral is often where mental blocks around sex begin - and end. Plus, we hear some giving success stories. Because improving our pleasure potential is all about communicating our needs - ask, and you shall receive. Show Notes: Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays LELO HUGO (code ‘EMILY’ for 25% off all products) Article: The Kivin Method Article: How Do I Go Down on a Vulva? Article: How Do I Better Enjoy Oral Sex? Article: How Can I Be More Confident in the Bedroom? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Mental health and sexual desire - do you really have to choose between one or the other? While antidepressants like Lexapro can be lifesaving — all too often, they can deflate our sex drive. But conversely - it’s hard to get aroused if your depression goes untreated. Is there any way out of this predicament? On today’s show, I’ll discuss how to overcome this struggle that is more common than you think - as you’ll hear from some of our listeners. From alternative treatments to hacks around timing and dosage, I’ll help you keep pleasure in your life without compromising your mental health. Show Notes: Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays Article: These Are The 5 Arousal Styles. Which One Are You? Episode: What’s Your Arousal Type? The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness (36 Questions) Article: How Do I Have Good Sex During Menopause? Hormone Intelligence by Aviva Romm, MD  Article: How Do I Deal with Anxiety During Sex? Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Make Scheduling

Infidelity - it’s one of the most painful emotional experiences out there. But once the pain heals, it can also create enormous opportunities for growth and self-reflection. In this episode, I’ll unpack infidelity and all the ways it can play out. It doesn’t always mean the end of a relationship. Sometimes, monogamy just isn’t the right fit. Other times, it means a couple needs to work on deepening intimacy and trust with one other. Whether you’ve been cheated on or you’re the cheater, I’ve got advice to help you work through it to create the love life you want. Show Notes: Article: Ask Emily: My Wife Cheated  VUSH (code ‘EMILYBFCM’ for 60% off Empress 2 OR Big O Bundle) More Tom Goss: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | Website Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We all strive to be lifelong learners - as the world and people around us change, we need to adapt and evolve to keep up. And nowhere else is this more true than our sex lives. Our sexual intelligence can only reach its full potential if we’re open to nurturing its growth. That’s the mission of today’s call-in show. I answer your questions all about picking up new sex skills. From a fun-loving couple who wants to incorporate others into their play but can’t find the right candidates, to a twenty-something who wants to learn how to squirt on her own - these brave callers’ questions offer something for everyone to learn from.  Show Notes: Article: The Different Kinds of Unconventional Couples Article: The Guide to a Successful Friends with Benefits Relationship Article: Ask Emily: How Do We Prepare for a Threesome? 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand Playground Je Joue (use code ‘Emily30’ for 30% off) #Open Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.