Sex With Emily

Finding love has always been hard work, but COVID has made it ten times more difficult. That’s why this episode is ALL about dating. From moving off the apps to dating post-breakup, to finding someone who meets your sexual desires, I go over the most common dating debacles. I also cover why it’s crucial that you know what you want in a partner—after all, how can you find love if you don’t know what you’re looking for? To make things easier, I share my top tips for breaking down the steps to finding clarity so that you can manifest your dream partner. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today’s episode is all about one of my favorite topics: masturbation. Specifically, we’re getting into “doomsturbating,” or masturbating in order to distract yourself when the world feels like just too much. But how much masturbating is too much? Like anything in life, there’s a limit—here’s how to know if you’ve reached yours. I’m also taking your calls and answering questions about breast sizes, how confidence and self-love can change your bedroom game, how to help your partner reach orgasm, and some super fun handjob tips and tricks. It’s one of the most underrated sex moves! For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today’s show, I’m talking with author, sociologist, and sexology royalty Carol Queen. Carol has been leading the charge for open, honest sex talk for over 40 years. We dive into the CDC’s new glory hole guidelines and Carol’s new favorite all-gender vibrators and much more. I also help a couple find the best sex position for their changing bodies, someone wanting to know where they can live out their public masturbation fantasy and a man who wants to make oral exciting again. For more information about Carol Queen, visit: goodvibes.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you’re trying to focus on self-improvement these days, you’re not alone. In today’s episode, Violet Benson talks about how isolation helped her develop a newfound appreciation for self-love and confidence. Violet is also the founder of @DaddyIssues on Instagram and the host of the podcast, Too Tired To Be Crazy. Not only does she discuss her new favorite vibrator, but she also shares how she learned to stop dating toxic people, the new ways she loves her body, and reveals her secret hookup with Too Hot To Handle’s Francesca Fargo. I also break down some important relationship terms: what exactly is “love bombing” and how does it correlate with codependency in relationships? Plus, I help a caller with tips on how to initiate sex without feeling like you’re left rejected. For more information about Violet Benson, visit: instagram.com/violetbenson For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today on the show, we’ve got Shafia Zaloom, a health educator and author who develops curricula for sex education in schools across the country. Shafia and I discuss the most effective ways parents can teach their kids about sex to develop healthy sexuality and cultivate shame-free knowledge. Shafia also brings up specific words and strategies to use in helping children learn about sex, so that you can go into conversations about sex with an expert-level toolkit. We also get into how to teach consent and what we can do improve Sex Ed in schools. Spoiler: It starts with you!! The show ends with me taking calls and answering questions, like “what do you do if your partner hates oral?” or “how do you stop dating the wrong person?” No question is off-limits. For more information about Shafia Zaloom, visit: shafiazaloom.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s no mystery that things have been more stressful than usual these days. When life feels chaotic, our relationships and sex lives tend to suffer, and so it’s important to reset the mind and focus on the present. That’s why I’ve brought on my therapist Dr. Anadel Barbour to discuss the coping mechanisms and mindfulness techniques I use to reignite my best self. Dr. Barbour and I talk about EMDR therapy and its revolutionary healing power, specifically in the face of trauma. We also talk about the difference between your thoughts vs. the truth and how to eliminate overthinking in the bedroom. Stick around for the end of the episode, when Dr. Barbour leads us through a full body positivity scan because, let’s face it, loving a partner begins with loving yourself. For more information about Dr. Anadel Barbour, visit: anadelbarbour.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As many of you know, I’m obsessed with communication so it only makes sense that we look at word choice when talking about sex. In this epsiode, I meet with Amanda Montell, linguist and author of Wordslut: A Feminist Guide to Taking Back the English Language, to explore the greater meaning, power, and historical importance of the words we chose to use. Plus, we delve into the origins of gendered slang like ‘vajayjay’ and offer positive alternatives to the current words in our sexual dictionary. In the second half of the episode, I take a few calls and answer questions on how to examine yourself after several failed relationships, increase enjoyment of oral sex, and have fun and safe sex in a noncommitted relationship. For more information about Amanda Montell, visit: amandamontell.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today’s throwback show, I’m revisiting my 2018 interview with Elizabeth Kott & Stephanie Simbari from the That’s So Retrograde podcast. We talk about mindfulness, wellness & how it relates to your relationships both with yourself and a partner. We also get into what all this “retrograde” talk really means, how it affects your life and some alternative ways to work on yourselves because we’re never done improving. Plus, how your gut relates to sexual health and acts like a second brain. For more information on Elizabeth & Stephanie, click below: That’s So Retrograde For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You’ve heard me talk about the importance of a woman’s orgasm but you’re still wondering, ‘what about men?’ On today's show, I give tips and tricks for both genders on how to achieve their most powerful orgasm yet. Then, I share toys specifically for male pleasure. Stick around for the end of the show because I answer even more of your questions and calls. Including, tips for oral sex, the importance of loving your body and confidence even if you Plus, I speculate on the distinction between someone who is interested in dating vs keeping it platonic. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today I’m talking with sex, kink, and relationship educator Sarah Sloane from the dating app #Open about the reality of cuckolding, dating effectively after divorce and reigniting the connection with your partner. I explore consent as one of the sexiest things you can practice in a relationship, how you can use it to enhance intimacy and why it’s the hottest sex move you haven’t tried (yet). For more information about Sarah Sloane, visit: hashtagopen.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today I’m talking with certified sexuality coach Shani Hart about how to keep yourself satisfied while you take care of your partner. Shani also gives us her helpful oral sex philosophy, tips for using toys together and talks about the importance of representation in the sex industry. I also talk to psychological astrologer Dr. Jen Freed, who joins us with her monthly astro-sex forecast for each sign. We dive deep into what IS sexy, why it’s necessary to be with someone who brings out the best in you and non-negotiables when it comes to self worth and self pleasure. For more information about Shani Hart, visit: hartsdesires.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever wonder what the world would be like if we all felt comfortable talking about sex? We’d have way more pleasure, less shame and much healthier relationships. Not to mention that talking about sex increases desire and leads to a more satisfying life all around. In today’s episode I also cover how to plan a sexy staycation. It’s possible even if you’re stuck at home! I advise the best way to bring toys into the bedroom, why you should consider a lube shooter and the best time to communicate your needs to a partner. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When it comes to relationships, it’s not unusual to get into unhealthy patterns—so I'm going to help you identify some of the warning signs you might be ignoring. Whether you’re dating a perfectionist or a partner who is emotionally unavailable, there are some red flags that will never turn green. I also address why words are just as important as actions, how to spot if someone is emotionally detached and you’ll learn when and how to communicate difficult feelings with the people we love most. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today I bring you a special combination of guests, to give you a unique perspective on the porn industry. I talk to legendary porn star and sex educator Nina Hartley, sex addiction specialist Dr. Marnie Breecker and ethical porn director Erika Lust. Nina Hartley shares her insights on her decades long experience in the porn industry, her personal relationships and advice on figuring out what kind of relationships work for you. Then, Dr. Breecker and I take a deep dive into the complexities of sex addiction. Dr. Breecker is a therapist who specializes in sex addiction and she has advice for people who are struggling to break free. I also talk with erotic filmaker Erika Lust about her mission to create ethically minded films for all genders. Erika has been writing and directing for years so she’s full of insights about intimacy both onscreen and off. For more information about Nina Hartley, visit nina.com For more information about Dr. Marnie Breecker, visit marniebreecker.com For more information about Erika L

Today’s show is all about you and answering your questions. One couple wants to know how to prepare for a threesome, another wants their partner to experiment with cuckolding. However you want to explore an open relationship, I cover the topics everyone should think about before pulling the trigger. Also, how to overcome anxiety in the bedroom whether it’s you or your partner with the distracting thoughts. Take a deep breath and listen in. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever wonder what to do about the sexual side effects of your antidepressants? It can be super frustrating to have an improved mood but a decreased libido. In this episode, I cover how to know if you’re experiencing unwanted side effects and what to do about them. Anyone else’s sex life taken a nose-dive in the past few months? Well, there could be a lot more going on than just mismatched sex drives. Starting with healthy communication can help you sort out those pesky resentments. I also dissect what we can learn (and not learn) from Cardi B’s WAP video featuring Megan Thee Stallion. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

For months now, the most popular blog post on SexWithEmily.com has been “Is it normal (or safe) to eat your own ejaculate?” I’m excited to finally be answering that on today’s podcast. Join me and my callers as we explore the curiosity and appeal around this popular question. I advise a woman on how to overcome feeling insecure around her partner, because we all suffer from self-doubt from time to time, especially in the bedroom. I also tackle how porn can impact your relationship and ways to safely explore your fantasies. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Did you grow up with a loud family? So did today’s guest. Adam Ferrara is a comedian, actor and recovering loudmouth. He and I talk about how important it was for his marriage to learn to listen. We get into control issues and the work required to undo the damage caused by childhood trauma. Before that, I take a call from a young woman who has great sex when she’s tipsy but wants to find that same fun mentality without a drink. Another woman wants to know why she can squirt with one partner but not others. I also talk to Brooke from Pennsylvania who needs help getting comfortable receiving oral from her husband. All of these issues are more common than you’d think. Don’t miss the lively discussion with my team about what to do with your sex toys after a breakup! For more information about Adam Ferrara, visit: adamferrara.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Answering your questions about how to have more pleasure is my jam and this episode is no exception. Alongside my friend and sex educator Elle Chase, I cover sex without penetration, summer sex tips and mindfulness. Elle and I get right down to business taking a call from Mike in Arizona who wants to have a threesome (shock!) with his girlfriend, but wants to make sure he sets it up for success. Later, we answer your questions about sex positions for curvier people and what to expect after a hysterectomy. First off, though, is Dr. Jennifer Freed’s monthly astro-sex forecast! Jen is a renowned psychological astrologer who has been helping people realize and reach their potential for over thirty years. To go even deeper this month, Jen takes questions from the Sex With Emily team about the relationship between our moon and sun signs and what we can expect during the next full moon. For more information about Elle Chase, visit: ellechase.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Host

Alternative relationships are more popular than ever so today I’m talking to Miley Manliguis from #OPEN, a new dating app that’s designed for modern relationships - essentially, anything other than monogamy. Maile shares the intimate details about opening up her relationship with her husband after they had a child. She talks about juggling parenting and dating, her boundaries with her husband and how giving birth empowered her to embrace her sexuality more than she ever had. Maile’s an amazing woman. You’re going to love her perspective. I also talk to our content coordinator, Amanda, about her first experience being a unicorn (that’s slang for a third in a threesome). We get into how she felt going into it and what she learned about herself from the experience. Talk about getting to know your team on the job! Have you ever wondered how you’d feel going into a threesome? Amanda walks me every step of the way through her worries leading up to it and the things that helped her be present and have a fun, relaxed