Coaching For Leaders

My 2015 Goals Produce and launch the first Coaching for Leaders product or service. Achieved. Play 7 songs on the guitar. In progress. Free 2-3 hours a week of work by delegating significant audio production. Achieved. Dale Carnegie goal. Not applicable. Read 15 books, including 1 fiction, 2 on early childhood development, and 2 HBR essentials. In progress. Strengthen my network and friendships through two significant interactions interactions each week. No. Attend a copywriting course. Achieved. Go on a camping trip with Luke. Achieved. (I mentioned the Last Child in the Woods* by Richard Louv). Double the weekly listenership of Coaching for Leaders. In progress. Final 2015 tally: 4 goals achieved 3 goals in progress 1 missed goal 1 not applicable Two calls to action: Michael Hyatt has released a free LifeScore Assessment It will help you: Evaluate Where You Are Track Your Progress to Where You Want to Be The LifeScore Assessment is completely free and accessible at: http://coachingfor

Bonni Stachowiak: Teaching in Higher Ed Audio Question from Steve Steve had a question about how to be a project manager and deal with tough situations while having an introverted personality. Episode 124: How to Get What You Really Want Out of a Conflict CFL: How to Restore Productivity When People are Angry CFL: Make Difficult Conversations Easier by Dave Stachowiak CFL: 5 Ways to Address a Hostile Audience by Dave Stachowiak Question from Michelle I'm rather annoyed with myself this week as I was very harsh to my team member. I have apologized and she accepted my apology. However I'm not happy that it occurred and I need to deal with the cause. I think the cause is to do with the fact that she is older than me and is a different personality type. I find it difficult to believe that she does respect me and so my harsh communication was a result of my suspicion. It's such a shame because we'd reached an even closer level of communication this week too. We both wanted to work with each other and after

Dr. Laura Sicola: Vocal Impact Productions Link for workbook: http://vocalimpactproductions.com/coachingforleaders Quotes In teaching, your best skill is flexibility. –Dr. Laura Sicola Most people are painfully oblivious to how they come across when they communicate. –Dr. Laura Sicola Typically, with somebody that you choose to listen to regularly, there’s something about the way they communicate that both speaks to you in their content, but you also like the sound of their voice. –Dr. Laura Sicola What I’m trying to help people see is that you already have the entire range of speech styles available to you. They’re already a part of who you are. It’s just a matter of being able to tap into them when necessary. –Dr. Laura Sicola Feedback * Comments, questions, or feedback for future Q&A shows: http://coachingforleaders.com/feedback * The next Q&A show is episode 221 Please join my weekly leadership guide. The leadership guide is delivered to your inbox each Wednesday and includes my thoughts and recommend

Michael Port Author, Steal the Show* www.michaelport.com Reporter: “How can an actor run for president?” Ronald Reagan: “How can a president not be an actor?” Michael Port is a NY Times bestselling author of six books including Book Yourself Solid*, The Think Big Manifesto*, and his hot new release, Steal the Show*. He has also been a successful professional actor, guest starring on shows like Sex & The City, Law & Order, Third Watch, All My Children, and in films like The Pelican Brief and Down to Earth. These days, Michael can be seen regularly on MSNBC, CNBC, and PBS as an expert in communication and business development. A good performance is authentic behavior in a manufactured environment. –Michael Port The better prepared you are, the easier it is to be authentic. –Michael Port If you have a high stakes situation, and you need your Powerpoint slides to know what’s coming next, you’re not prepared enough. –Michael Port Three questions people ask when listening to a speech: Will this thing work?

Beth Buelow: The Introvert Entrepreneur Beth Buelow shows us how to expand into our “capacity zone” while still using our “comfort zone” as a home base. Author, The Introvert Entrepreneur* Host, The Introvert Entrepreneur podcast www.theintrovertentrepreneur.com Coaching for Leaders episode 201: How Introverts Make Great Leaders Quotes When you 'fail,' it’s usually because you were attached to a particular outcome. And when it doesn’t happen that way, it gets labeled a 'failure.' —Beth Buelow If you approach your goals with less attachment, you’ll find yourself much better able to see those failures as data, rather than indictments of your character and who you are. —Beth Buelow The comfort zone is what makes stepping out into the unknown possible. —Beth Buelow Remember to celebrate every time you stretch that capacity zone. —Beth Buelow Feedback * Comments, questions, or feedback for future Q&A shows: http://coachingforleaders.com/feedback * The next Q&A show is episode 221 Please join my weekly lead

Kendra Kinnison kendrakinnison.com coach.me/kendra How to Get Yourself Unstuck: Lead yourself effectively (get your own ducks in a row) Build your empathy muscle Don’t let stress derail you Tiny Habits When you’re stuck, use the Tiny Habit Approach Developed by BJ Fogg, a researcher at Stanford Think about what’s the absolute tiniest step you can take forward, and then commit to taking that step every day Tiny habits lower mental hurdles so much that our mental resistance doesn’t kick in. -Kendra Kinnison Think About a Restarting Strategy More often than not, it’s the good things that throw us off. -Kendra Kinnison I see restarting as just as natural a skill as continuing a routine. -Kendra Kinnison Resources: App: Gratitude Journal* App: Coach.me* Feedback: Comments, questions, or feedback for future Q&A shows: http://coachingforleaders.com/feedback The next Q&A show is episode 221 Please join my weekly leadership guide. The leadership guide is delivered to your inbox each Wednesday and

Bonni Stachowiak Teaching in Higher Ed Question from Willian I have been working at the same area (Customer Service) for 2 years and 9 months. I really like my job and I have a better performance comparing with my coworkers who are older than me. How do you see the integration between people from different generations at work? How can I improve my influence with people more experienced than I? Is there any tip for people like me who need to contact professionals from different cultures at work? “The counts of the indictment are luxury, bad manners, contempt for authority, disrespect to elders, and a love for chatter in place of exercise. Children began to be the tyrants, not the slaves, of their households. They no longer rose from their seats when an elder entered the room; they contradicted their parents, chattered before company, gobbled up the dainties at table, and committed various offenses against Hellenic tastes.” -Kenneth John Freeman Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert Cialdini* H

Kirsten Foot: Collaborating Against Human Trafficking “There are blindnesses that can only be smoothed out when leaders from one sector really listen to the leaders of another sector.” -Kirsten Foot Resources that Kirsten and Dave mentioned during the episode that will help your collaborate across organizations: Collaborating Against Human Trafficking: Cross-Sector Challenges and Practices* by Kirsten Foot BEST (Businesses Ending Slavery and Trafficking) Alliance Collaborating Against Human Trafficking U.S. Department of Labor: International Child Labor and Forced Labor Reports U.S. Department of Labor: List of Goods Produced by Child Labor or Forced Labor Ending Human Trafficking podcast Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.

How to Stop Worrying and Start Living* by Dale Carnegie is a classic that can help almost immediately. I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them have never happened. -Mark Twain 1. Seal Off Your Troubles 2. Find the Silver Living Thank goodness I’m not married to this person. 3. Focus on What’s Next I mentioned Tim Stringer of Technically Simple and his excellent Holistic Productivity* course. There’s only two problems in life. Either you don’t know where you’re going or you don’t know the next step. -David Allen 4. Consider the Worst Case Scenario 5. Eliminate Worry For Good Feedback Comments, questions, or feedback for future Q&A shows: http://coachingforleaders.com/feedback The next Q&A show is episode 216. Please join my weekly leadership guide. The leadership guide is delivered to your inbox each Wednesday and includes my thoughts and recommendations on the best articles, podcasts, videos, and books, to support your development between shows. It also includes a brief over

J V Crum III Author, Conscious Millionaire: Grow Your Business by Making a Difference Host, Conscious Millionaire Podcast “It’s the leader’s responsibility to set the vision.” - J V Crum III “Vision is about how you’re going to transform your client’s life.” - J V Crum III A great question for every leader to ask: ”How is my business contributing to making this world the one I really want to live in?” The Formula for Creating Wealth: 1. Conscious Leaders need to ask: “Who are you and why do you want to chose one priority over another?” “What resources are you going to need?” “What are the different options for getting to the #1 priority?” 2. Focused “If you’re a leader and you have a vision and you have your whole heart in it, your chances of achieving it is significantly higher.” 3. Action List out the actions you think you need to be taking. Put them in the order they need to occur. Does something need to happen before each step? 4. Result How well did we achieve the stated outco

Bonni Stachowiak Teaching in Higher Ed We mentioned a recent article that featured Bonni’s podcast in The Chronicle of Higher Education: Improving My Teaching via Podcast Question from Jane As a new migrator from China who continues career (IT area specifically) in a western country, I wonder whether you can provide some advice what are the major barriers for us migrators to move up to a manager position. If you could provide some insights from employer's point of view would be super helpful. Bonni mentioned the work of Geert Hofstede on power distance and other cultural dynamics. Another resource is his book Cultures and Organizations: Software of the Mind*. Question from Michael I am an avid listener and enjoy the show. I am a VP, Sales/Director of Client Services managing a remote team of 11. We have a 30 minute weekly team meeting for which we do set an agenda and stick to it. However, I feel that most of this information can probably be communicated via email. I speak to each person at least once a day

Jeremie Kubicek 5 Gears: How to Be Present and Productive When There is Never Enough Time* Jeremie Kubicek is co-founder of GiANT Worldwide and the GiANT companies. He is the bestselling author of Making Your Leadership Come Alive and speaker to organizations throughout the world on transformational leadership, emotional intelligence, and personal growth. 5th Gear: Learn to Get "In the Zone" Do you have trouble getting "In The Zone"? This is where 5th gear can help. Time flies by, you get things done, and progress is made. Dave mentioned the book Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience* by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. 4th Gear: Leading in a Task World Most adults spend their day multi-tasking with phone calls, emails, chores and more. Learning how to manage 4th gear correctly is key for maximum productivity. 3rd Gear: Why Being Social Matters Third Gear is all about being social and building friendships. It happens in coffee shops, at dinner parties and other social gatherings, and it's the secret ingred

Sharone Bar-David (LinkedIn) Author, Trust Your Canary: Every Leader’s Guide to Taming Workplace Incivility* Six beliefs that cause many of us to tolerate workplace incivility: We’re Like Family Here We Have the Right to Vent I Know My Colleague’s Boundaries You Can’t Change Someone’s Personality The Characteristics of the Group (or Industry) Make it OK People Need to Get Thicker Skins “It’s your responsibility to create a workplace where everyone can perform at their best.” -Sharone Bar-David Feedback Comments, questions, or feedback for future Q&A shows: http://coachingforleaders.com/feedback The next Q&A show is episode 212 Please join my weekly leadership guide. The leadership guide is delivered to your inbox each Wednesday and includes my thoughts and recommendations on the best articles, podcasts, videos, and books, to support your development between shows. It also includes a brief overview and link to the full weekly show notes. As a bonus, when you join the weekly leadership guide, you

John Corcoran Author, How to Increase Your Income Today by Building Relationships with Influencers, Even if you Hate Networking Host, Smart Business Revolution podcast “An interview is just an opportunity for a conversation.” -John Corcoran John recommended the book Give and Take by Adam Grant* as a framework to consider when engaging with professional associations (and any relationship). John and I previously aired episode 123: The Practical Pursuit of Work-Life Balance Feedback Comments, questions, or feedback for future Q&A shows: http://coachingforleaders.com/feedback The next Q&A show is episode 212 Inaugural Mastermind Announcement I’m announcing the inaugural Coaching for Leaders Mastermind. Most leaders are not born. They are made. I've gained the most from: * Practice coaching others * Committed action * Genuine support from others You can learn to lead more effectively. The application for inaugural membership I spoke of on the episode is here: http://coachingforleaders.com/apply If you

Bonni Stachowiak Teaching in Higher Ed Bonni mentioned episode 84: Daniel Pink on To Sell is Human We also mentioned and recommended the book Drive by Daniel Pink* as a great resource on how to motivate people Audio Question from Jenga ”The only way to influence someone is to find out what they want and show them how to get it." -Dale Carnegie Dave mentioned the Carnegie Coach series on “innerviewing:” Carnegie Coach episode 39: Get To Know People Without Being Awkward Carnegie Coach episode 40: Just the Facts, Ma’am Carnegie Coach episode 41: Discovering Another Person’s Motives Caring Coach episode 42: How to Know What People Value Question from Tyler How do you get off the phone with someone who is a long-winded "good ole boy?" My analysts each work with lots of sales reps, and many accounts. We have a few sales reps who like to call every day, and invariably the call ends up being 15-25 minutes. A lot of drawn out, slow responses. Talking about local news, smalltalk before they want to get down

Mark Barden Author, A Beautiful Constraint: How to Transform Your Limitations Into Advantages and Why It’s Everyone’s Business Working with constraints is more and more the norm in today’s organizations. Dr. Seuss was an early example how a constraint helped him develop a style that became uniquely his own. Even if you believe in the potential from constraints, it doesn’t mean you still like them — especially early on. “We are the stories we tell ourselves.” -Mark Barden “As a marketer, you go nowhere if you don’t understand the needs of your audience.” -Mark Barden “Anybody with the right mindset, the right method, and the right motivation, can be better.” -Mark Barden Visit eatbigfish to download a free sample of the book Feedback Comments, questions, or feedback for future Q&A shows: http://coachingforleaders.com/feedback The next Q&A show is episode 208 If you're not already subscribed to this show, please do so and you’ll get new episodes every Monday. Just search for Coaching for Leaders o

Michael Nichols Author, Creating Your Business Vision Guidestone University Realizations Michael had after dealing with his own overwhelm: I could give more I can grow on purpose Every leader needs help “Your employer will soon forget the long hours that you spent at work, but your children will never forget the memory making moments.” -Michael Nichols The Five Phases (video) (PDF) that Michael articulates in this episode to conquer overwhelm: Purpose Path Plan Prepare People The four things leaders are typically interested in getting better at: Improving income/revenue Leadership skills development Becoming more effective/efficient Leading better through change Michael mentioned the Personal Life Plan Guide and The SIMPLE One-Page Business Plan as resources, as well as the Guidestone Executive Retreat Center. Feedback Comments, questions, or feedback for future Q&A shows: http://coachingforleaders.com/feedback The next Q&A show is episode 208 If you're not already subscribed to this

Randy Willhite Guitar Instructor The Burbolators (his band) “If people have two weeks to practice, they do less in two weeks than they normally would have in one.” -Randy Willhite Ten ways to learn faster: It’s hard to start, but easier to keep going Memorize first, and then practice You have to practice Schedule time each day to practice You don’t need to master something before you go onto the next thing You don’t have to like something to learn from it Consistency beats clock time Don’t beat yourself up for falling behind Touch the strings Get back on when you fall off the horse Feedback Comments, questions, or feedback for future Q&A shows: http://coachingforleaders.com/feedback The next Q&A show is episode 208 If you're not already subscribed to this show, please do so and you’ll get new episodes every Monday. Just search for Coaching for Leaders on iTunes, Stitcher, or any podcast app you use and subscribe there. Please join my weekly leadership guide. The leadership guide is deliver

Amy Morin Author, 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do* Amy is a licensed clinical social worker, psychotherapist, and the author of the book, 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do.* She dealt with a lot of personal tragedy in her life in a short period of time, and realized that having good habits wasn’t enough. She also had to get rid of bad habits. In 2013, she wrote the list, 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do. It went viral and was read and shared by millions of people in a matter of days. They Don’t Give Away Their Power “While other people can influence you, they can’t make you feel anything.” -Amy Morin They Don’t Resent Other People’s Success “When you want to change how you feel, the two things you need to change are how you think and how you behave.” -Amy Morin They Don’t Give Up After the First Failure They don’t view failure as a reason to give up. Instead, they use failure as an opportunity to grow and improve. They are willing to keep trying until they get it rig

Bonni Stachowiak Teaching in Higher Ed Question from Nancy I am in a situation myself right now where I was promoted awhile back as it stands right now. I manager a team, but I don't have salary discussions or assessments with them. My manager has said he is willing to give me the mandate I want and to form the role together with me. This is flattering and scary at the same time. My longterm goal is to become a director. Now I am thinking, perhaps I should ask for the responsibility of having the assessments and salary discussions with the team? I am thinking it might be a good step towards my longterm goal. If you have any wise advice I would appreciate your input. I am a little lost. Audio Question from Jeff Dave mentioned episode #190: How to Improve Your Coaching Skills with Tom Henschel Dave mentioned Dale Carnegie’s book How to Win Friends and Influence People* Bonni mentioned Peter Block’s book Flawless Consulting: A Guide to Getting Your Expertise Used* Dave mentioned his past article, 8 Ways