Soul Talks With Bill & Kristi Gaultiere

“More” is often the theme of this season — more gatherings, more celebrations, more shopping, and more activities! But too much of a good thing can be stressful, and setting limits is key.Tune in for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi discuss boundaries around the holidays. These boundaries for self-care give us strength to be generous. The ability to say “No”, frees us to say “Yes”. You’ll draw encouragement to assess your own needs this holiday season and create limits that enable you to love well.Resources for this Episode:Donate to Support Soul Shepherding

In the coming season of Advent, we love to celebrate together with friends and family and in times of silence and solitude. You can experience greater depth and intimacy with Jesus during advent by meditating on the biblical accounts of Christ’s birth even in the midst of stressful circumstances.Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi share which character in the Christmas story they most relate to in this season of their life and ministry. You’ll learn how you can use Surprising Joy: A Journey with Jesus for Advent for visual devotions to deepen connections in your small group, ministry, and family gatherings as well as for your personal devotions.Resources for this Episode:Surprising Joy: A Journey with Jesus for AdventSoul Shepherding InstituteSr. Spiritual Directors

As soul shepherds, we can lose ourselves while caring for others. Maintaining our identity and boundaries and avoiding enabling, rescuing, and co-dependence is crucial for healthy relationships.  Tune in to this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi discuss enmeshment and boundaries. Growing in emotional intelligence helps you create a clear and grounded sense of self. You’ll learn to care for your own emotions while loving and supporting someone in need.Resources for this Episode:Healthy Feelings, Thriving Faith: Growing Emotionally and Spiritual Through the Enneagram AudiobookAttend a Soul Shepherding Institute RetreatEnneagram & Emotions CourseYour Enneagram MapEnneagram and Emotions AssessmentDonate to Soul Shepherding

Powerful emotions like grief can feel overwhelming, especially if you are not used to recognizing or processing your feelings. But you don’t have to stay stuck in painful emotions! You can learn to have your emotions serve you rather than control you.Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi discuss healthy ways to process grief and sadness. You’ll understand the difference between repressing and containing your feelings, and how spiritual and emotional training can grow your emotional intelligence to make you effective in your life, relationships, and work.Resources for this Episode:Attend a Soul Shepherding Institute RetreatEarn a Certificate in Spiritual Direction Healthy Feelings, Thriving Faith: Growing Emotionally and Spiritually Through the EnneagramMeet with a Soul Shepherding Sr. Spiritual DirectorDonate to Soul Shepherding

Peacemakers who tune into the needs of others have a vision for bringing harmony and collaboration to their relationships. But sometimes the desire for peace can cause you to fall asleep to your own needs and avoid stress and conflict.Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi discuss soul care for Enneagram Nines — spiritual direction. If you are a Nine or have a line, wing, or relationship with a Nine, you’ll learn the root sin, emotional alarm, and soul care practice to increase your self-awareness and self-activate in following God’s will.Resources for this Episode:Meet with a Soul Shepherding Sr. Spiritual DirectorHealthy Feelings, Thriving Faith: Growing Emotionally and Spiritually Through the EnneagramSoul Talks Episode 151 — Enneagram: Expressing Your True Self (Peacemaker Type)Soul Talks Episode 152 — Enneagram: Dealing with Conflict (Peacemaker Type)Attend a Soul Shepherding Institute RetreatEarn a Spiritual Direction Training CertificateDonate to Soul Shepherding

Energetic and dynamic personalities who are confident and bold influence and impact others as leaders. Yet you may resist vulnerability, using your strength to protect yourself.Tune in for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi explore soul care for Enneagram Eights — spiritual friendship. If you are an Eight, or have a line, wing, or relationship with an Eight, you’ll learn the emotional alarm, family formation, root sin, stress emotion, virtue, and soul care practice to become vulnerable with the Lord and a soul friend to be your healthiest, most joyful, tender loving self.Resources for this Episode:Healthy Feelings, Thriving Faith: Growing Emotionally and Spiritually Through the EnneagramSoul Shepherding Institute RetreatsSpiritual Direction Training CertificateJourney of the SoulDonate to Soul Shepherding in Memory of Betty Southard

Joyful enthusiasts are exceptional at creating and spreading happiness and fun among those they love. Yet you may also misuse enthusiasm and charisma to avoid anxiety, pain, and conflict. Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi discuss soul care for Enneagram Sevens — quiet prayer. If you are a Seven or have a line, wing, or relationship with a Seven, you’ll understand the emotional alarm, defense mechanism, stress line, and soul care practice to draw you into the depths with Jesus to experience maximum joy with a peaceful and quiet brain.Resources for this Episode: Healthy Feelings, Thriving Faith: Growing Emotionally and Spiritually Through the EnneagramYour Enneagram MapSoul Shepherding Enneagram ResourcesEnneagram & Emotions CourseEnneagram & Emotions Assessment

Practical thinkers who are effective multitaskers look out for the well-being of others. Yet underneath, you may struggle with fear and worry, looking for security and safety nets.Tune in for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi explore soul care practices to quiet the busy brain of Enneagram Sixes. If you are a Six or have a line, wing, or relationship with a Six, you’ll learn the emotional alarm, Biblical examples, common mistypes, empathy statements, and soul care practices to find the sweet, peaceful center in your relationship with Jesus.Resources for this Episode:Healthy Feelings, Thriving Faith: Growing Emotionally and Spiritually Through the EnneagramSoul Shepherding InstituteYour Enneagram Map: Guides for Each Type to Flourish in God’s LoveLectio Divina GuidesLectio Divina Online Course

Thinkers and analyzers are often keen observers who ask insightful questions. However, approaching your life primarily through analysis without emotional awareness can be an unhealthy way of coping with anxiety. Tune in for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi unpack soul care for Enneagram Fives — Bible study as worship. If you are a Five or have a line, wing, or relationship with a Five, you’ll learn your emotional alarm and soul care practices to engage your heart, increase your intimacy with God, and become emotionally alive. Resources for this Episode:Healthy Feelings, Thriving Faith: Growing Emotionally and Spiritually Through the EnneagramEnneagram & Emotions CourseSoul Shepherding Enneagram ResourcesContact Soul Shepherding to Invite Bill & Kristi to SpeakSpiritual Direction Training CertificateSoul Shepherding Sr. Spiritual DirectorsSoul Shepherding Institute 

If you are a deep feeler, sometimes living in melancholy emotions can cause you to lose sight of your positive emotions. Being able to find words for emotions is a gift, but our own deep emotions are not the only thing that is authentic about us.Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi unpack thankfulness as a soul care practice for Enneagram Fours. If you are a Four or have a line, wing, or relationship with a Four, you’ll learn an important virtue to cultivate and several soul care practices to regain emotional balance to see what is true, good, and beautiful.Resources for this Episode:Healthy Feelings, Thriving Faith: Growing Emotionally and Spiritually Through the EnneagramSoul Shepherding InstituteEnneagram & Emotions CourseSoul Shepherding Enneagram Resources

Being successful and winning appeals to all of us, but when this becomes a measure of our worth we are imprisoned by our false self. Living up to conditions of worth can suffocate your soul and lead to burnout.Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi discuss the importance of emotional honesty. If you are an Enneagram Three or have a wing, line, or relationship with a Three, you’ll learn the emotional alarm and spiritual disciplines to help you grow in grace and emotional honesty to bring your authentic self to Jesus.Resources for this Episode:Soul Shepherding InstituteHealthy Feelings, Thriving Faith: Growing Emotionally and Spiritually Through the Enneagram

We all need to be loved. For Enneagram Twos, the deep core belief that you aren’t loved or wanted can drive you to secure love from others by focusing on meeting their needs while denying your own. If you are a Two or connect to Two through a wing, line, or relationship, understanding shame and the role solitude plays in soul care is critical.Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi discuss solitude as a key soul care practice for Twos to combat unconscious coping mechanisms. You’ll learn how to practice the discipline of solitude to reorient you to the love and embrace of Jesus rather than denying your own needs or striving to meet them in unhealthy ways.Resources for this Episode:Healthy Feelings, Thriving Faith: Growing Emotionally and Spiritually Through the EnneagramContact Soul Shepherding to Invite Bill & Kristi to SpeakSoul Shepherding InstituteSoul Shepherding Enneagram Resources

As leaders and soul shepherds, we seek to be responsible and do our best. But the wisdom of God is to do your best, but don’t trust your best!Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi discuss abandoning outcomes to God, the primary soul care practice for Enneagram Ones. All types can struggle with wanting our work and relationships to go a certain way. You’ll learn specific ways to train in abandoning outcomes until it proves to be an easy yoke with Jesus and a source of joy and peace.Resources for this Episode:Healthy Feelings, Thriving Faith: Growing Emotionally and Spiritually Through the EnneagramYour Best Life in Jesus’ Easy YokeContact Soul Shepherding to Invite Bill & Kristi to SpeakEnneagram & Emotions Video CourseSoul Shepherding Enneagram ResourcesEnneagram and Emotions AssessmentYour Enneagram Map: Guides for Each Type to Flourish in God’s Love

Stepping outside of our normal routines and habits of life to draw close to the Lord in retreat fosters incredible healing, growth, and life change. These extended windows of time allow you to explore your hurts, hopes, dysfunctions, and needs. Tune in for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi share the power of an immersive retreat for each Enneagram type. You’ll learn the key spiritual discipline for each of the nine types and ways to practice them on retreat to become more like Jesus.Resources for this Episode:Soul Shepherding InstituteHealthy Feelings, Thriving Faith: Growing Emotionally and Spiritually Through the EnneagramSoul Shepherding Enneagram ResourcesSpiritual Direction Training CertificateUpcoming Soul Shepherding Institute Dates

Reading the classics of devotion to Jesus is an incredible source of encouragement for our faith. When a devotional classic highlights lessons and struggles by someone with our Enneagram type, the impact is even more profound. Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi explore a devotional classic written by an Enneagram Three. Reading classics by Enneagram types you relate to personally or types of those you love helps you understand each type’s root sin and strengths in a deeper and more personal way. You’ll be blessed as you explore some of these classics for yourself.Resources for this Episode:Healthy Feelings, Thriving Faith: Growing Emotionally and Spiritually Through the EnneagramYour Enneagram MapSoul Shepherding Enneagram Resources

Cultivating our enthrallment with Jesus is so important because we are shaped by what we love. For all nine Enneagram types, the Gospels show us Jesus as the healthy and holy perfection of our type.Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi reveal Jesus as the perfect Enneagram Six. Jesus is the exemplary Loyalist, trusting in God’s authority, and a pragmatic problem solver. As you come to appreciate Jesus as the perfection of your own Enneagram type, you will be drawn to become more like him.Resources for this Episode:Healthy Feelings, Thriving Faith: Growing Emotionally and Spiritually Through the EnneagramSoul Shepherding Enneagram ResourcesEnneagram & Emotions Free AssessmentContact Soul Shepherding to Invite Bill & Kristi to Speak

Each Enneagram type has a unique emotional alarm that is an unconscious behavior pattern. This alarm helps us identify the lie from the enemy that we have believed in the area we are most vulnerable.Tune into this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi discuss the power of your emotional alarm to reveal your slide into unhealthy parts of your personality. Learning to recognize this alarm will help you ask for the empathy you need to bring this lie to surface, refute it, and find greater freedom and dependence on Jesus.Resources for this Episode:Enneagram & Emotions AssessmentSoul Shepherding Enneagram ResourcesHealthy Feelings, Thriving Faith: Growing Emotionally and Spiritually Through the EnneagramEnneagram & Emotions Course

Our personality can charm us when we only focus on its positive aspects and remain unaware of our needs and the unconscious areas where we are broken or dysfunctional. These ways of coping work for a while, but ultimately limit our growth and health in Jesus.Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi explore the blindspots of our Enneagram type through the example of type Nines. When you recognize the ways your personality is controlling you, you can process your core emotions with empathy to gain freedom in Christ and flourish in his love.Resources for this Episode:Healthy Feelings, Thriving Faith: Growing Emotionally and Spiritually Through the EnneagramEnneagram & Emotions CourseSoul Shepherding Enneagram Resources

We each have habitual approaches to securing ourselves that come out of our unhealthy selves. When we learn to recognize these false messages operating in the background of our activities, we grow in awareness of our own needs and emotions.  Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi discuss how to use your  Enneagram map for growth and health. Through the example of Enneagram Twos, you’ll see how you can employ this map to recognize when you are depending on yourself to have your needs met rather than depending on Jesus. These targeted insights into your personality give you a path for growth and help you understand those you love.Resources for this Episode:Your Enneagram Map: Guides For Each Type to Flourish in God’s LoveHealthy Feelings, Thriving Faith: Growing Emotionally and Spiritually Through the EnneagramEnneagram & Emotional Free AssessmentEnneagram & Emotions CourseSoul Shepherding Enneagram Resources

Much of our personalities are unconscious and habitual defense mechanisms and coping patterns for dealing with pain, problems, and sin, causing us to miss God’s love and grace. The power of the Enneagram as a tool is to help us grow in self-awareness so we can receive God’s grace in areas we need it most.Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi explore Your Enneagram Map: Guides For Each Type to Flourish in God’s Love. We each have three to four subsidiary types for our primary Enneagram type, and this resource will help you understand the patterns of interaction between these wing, stress, and growth types both in your personality and in your relationships with others. As you learn to receive empathy for your specific areas of struggle, you can discover authentic joy.Resources for this Episode:Your Enneagram Map: Guides For Each Type to Flourish in God’s LoveHealthy Feelings, Thriving Faith: Growing Emotionally and Spiritually Through the EnneagramEnneagram & Emotions CourseEnneagram &am