10 Things To Tell You

It's October! I'm joined on this episode by my friend and co-host of the Currently Reading podcast Meredith Monday Schwartz, to talk about why we read (and love) books in the horror genre and to give you a pile of recommendations for this spooky season.This is a conversation for longtime horror readers AND for those who are horror-curious. We cover everything from why escaping into scary stories HELPS our anxiety (yes, really), to how we believe horror books are often tackling some of the most important cultural topics.Follow Meredith Monday Schwartz on IGListen to the Currently Reading podcastSign up for the Currently Reading Patreon to get the All The Things Murderful seriesFULL SHOW NOTES HEREJOIN SECRET STUFF by Laura Tremaine Laura’s Spooky Books:We Have Always Lived in the Castle by Shirley JacksonMexican Gothic by Silvia Moreno-GarciaThe Need by Helen PhillipsHow to Sell a Haunted House by Grady Hendrix (Mutual pick for Laura and Meredith)Meredith’s Spooky Books:Diavola by Jennifer ThorneWe Used to Liv

Back in February, during a casual, late night conversation, my friend Kendra Adachi (aka The Lazy Genius) asked me a question that completely that changed my year.The answer to a question I had never thought about came to me with such clarity. And since her question (and my answer) was about the Big Picture plan for my life, it only felt appropriate to ask Kendra to talk through it all with me here on the show.Kendra Adachi's new book is called The Plan: Manage Your Time Like A Lazy Genius and it's out everywhere on October 8, 2024.Buy THE PLANLearn more about Kendra AdachiFollow Kendra @thelazygenius on IGListen to The Lazy Genius podcastFULL SHOW NOTES HEREMENTIONED in this episode:Episode 51: How to Create and Structure a Business Peer Group (with Jamie B. Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi)Episode 71: Kendra Adachi is The Lazy GeniusEpisode 164: Are We Friends Or Not? (A Secret Tapes Mastermind Conversation with Jamie B. Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi) SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you nev

This episode is for anyone who has looked at a photo of themselves and wondered if that's what they really look like. Professional photographer Jess Koehler is my guest today as we talk through all the hangups that keep us from taking, sharing, or displaying photos of ourselves, and how we can overcome them.This is not a typical "tips and tricks" episode (although we do weave tangible and emotional tips throughout). Jess and I are talking about WHY we should document ourselves, maybe even on our hardest days. We're talking about the benefits of having professional photos taken when our camera phones have become so advanced. And, yes, we're sharing all kinds of logistics on taking photos, from finding a professional photographer to using your Apple Watch as a selfie timer.Learn more about Jess KoehlerFollow Jess Koehler on IGSign up for Jess Koehler's newsletterFULL SHOW NOTES HEREMENTIONED in this episode:Ep 37: Who do you see in the picture?Fleabag: A Love Story (BONUS episode with Sueann Fortener)RELATED:Ep

This is the latest episode in the ONE THING series, where I host conversations with interesting people and ask them the ONE THING they would tell you. You might know Joy Cho as the bright, stylish, happy face and founder of Oh Joy!, a lifestyle brand with millions of followers and whose products and designs have appeared in Target, Petco, House Beautiful (to name a few) and in collaborations with Keds, Casetify, Calpak (and more).But even with a soaring career, Joy experienced a midlife crisis after a hard season in her family and a series of professional setbacks. She tried all the things you're supposed to when you're struggling: therapy, a life coach, but there was really ONE THING that pulled her out of a long funk.In our conversation, Joy and I talk about how I fanned out on her not once but twice, how an outfit can change the way you move through the day, and why it helps to remember what we loved to do when we were kids.I knew Joy would bring wisdom and insight to the show, and of course she over deliv

This is an episode for writers, aspiring authors, readers, and anyone who likes a peek behind-the-scenes.We're going to talk about the publishing industry as it stands, how it's changed in the last few years, the rise of self-publishing, conquering self-doubt, money, and so much more.I'm sharing 4 lessons I learned after achieving my lifelong dream of becoming an author. My first book Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. published in 2021, and my second book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs published in 2023.RELATED Episodes:Ep. 73 I wrote a book! (Agents, publishing, writing, and editing)Ep. 111 Behind-The-Scenes of Publishing, Launching, and Marketing a BookEp. 166 How to Write a Book (in 10 steps)BONUS: 5 Things About Writing Your Own Story (with author, ghostwriter, and book coach Allison Fallon)Ep. 205: 10 Things All Podcast Fans Should KnowFULL SHOW NOTES HEREJOIN SECRET STUFF FOR BONUS CONTENTMENTIONED in this episode:The Martian by Andy WeirFifty Shades of Grey by E.L. JamesThe Shadow Work J

What is the best thing you read this summer? My guest Carmel Phillips and I are sharing the books that made the greatest impression over the last few months, including backlist titles and the buzziest books of the season. (And yes, of course we mention the NYT Best Books of the 21st century list that dropped in July.)Carmel Phillips is a design and style blogger who regularly shares bold interiors, budget-friendly fashion, and a splash of book talk! I've wanted to have her on the show forever and this felt like the perfect time to chat.Follow Carmel on IGFollow Carmel on TikTokFollow her book club @4ReadingWomenFULL SHOW NOTES HERECarmel’s picks:Bastard Out of Carolina by Dorothy AllisonThe Island of Sea Women by Lisa SeeThe Women by Kristen HannahTomorrow, and Tomorrow, and Tomorrow by Gabrielle ZevinLaura’s picks:The God of the Woods by Liz MooreAll the Colors of the Dark by Chris WhitakerUnreasonable Hospitality by Will GuidaraYou Like It Darker by Stephen KingSandwich by Catherine NewmanALSO MENTIONED:Int

The kitchen may be the heart of the home, but it's also the place most likely to collect clutter and be full to the brim of stuff. Professional organizer Tara Bremer of @house.peace shares with us 10 ways that we can achieve peace in the most used room in the house.FOLLOW @house.peace on IGSIGN UP for the House Peace newsletterAs I'm in the middle of a kitchen remodel, I've been thinking a lot about how to make this space feel and function the way we want. I share a little more about the changes we're making to our home on Ep 230: Favorite Things Summer 2024 and Tara and I have a bonus conversation over on Secret Stuff about some of the crazy stuff she's come across while organizing for others as well as the mental health aspects that come up around hoarding and purging.JOIN SECRET STUFF TO LISTENFULL SHOW NOTES HEREMENTIONED in this episode:The Home Edit organizing stuff at WalmartThe Home Edit labels at The Container StoreTalented Kitchen labelsBrother P-Touch Label Maker SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You

This episode is inspired by Snoop Dogg at the Olympics.In the early 2000s, I worked on Snoop's short-lived MTV show Doggy Fizzle Televizzle and when I made a joke about this on social media, my DMs quickly filled with questions and I realized this was a story I hadn't told in awhile.So in this episode I'm sharing 10 weird things I've done - from watching Drew Barrymore crawl through a second-story window to calling the cops on a teenage prank gone wrong.I hope you enjoy my weird stories, but even more than that I hope that they inspire you to tell YOUR weird stories. Text a friend, post on social media, or revisit your past in your journal. This is a fun one.*A list of these weird things originally appeared in my book Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. 10 Questions To Take Your Friendships To The Next LevelFULL SHOW NOTES HEREMENTIONED in this episode:Snoop Dogg’s Doggy Fizzle TelevizzleJackassWildboyzSecret Stuff by Laura Tremaine (join to listen to the Secret Tapes episode with my friend Noah from Doggy Fizzl

August is such a crazy month - the second "new year" as it's often called, except without the fresh start and instead with the idea that we're all gearing up for school, fall chaos, and, of course, all of that bleeding into the holiday season.But I don't want the second half of the year to feel frazzled, so I'm setting myself up for (better) success with a few rules and mantras to live by.FULL SHOW NOTES HEREMENTIONED in this episode:Secret StuffUnreasonable Hospitality by Will GuidaraRELATED Episodes:Episode 227: Time AnxietyEp 162: 10 Ways To Handle OverwhelmEp 79: 10+ Mantras and Affirmations For Right Now SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookJOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection GroupSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notesJOIN the Secret Stuff PatreonBUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura TremaineBUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Eve

We're back with all new episodes and kicking it off by sharing my favorite things of the summer!In this episode I'm recommending books, podcasts, documentaries, and more favorites from this season. I'm also sharing details on our current home renovation and an update on my sister's recovery from brain surgery.FULL SHOW NOTES HEREJoin my SECRET STUFF Patreon community for more favoritesJoin us for STEPHEN KING SUMMERFAVORITES in this episode:Home renovations NYT 100 Best Books of the 21st Century listKindle remote page turnerThe God of the Woods by Liz MooreDay Date Foodie Adventures with JeffChanging up my artwork/Scout Design Studio art piecesWho Killed JFK? podcastAshley Madison Sex Lies and Scandal on Netflix and The Perfect Wife on HuluOne Hundred Stars Stork RobeMy sister’s recovery from brain surgeryALSO MENTIONED:Haus of MeeshieMy personal ballot for the Best Books of the 21st CenturyLong Bright River by Liz Moore“American Nightmare” documentary on Netflix11/22/63 by Stephen King SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things

This episode originally aired in November 2021 and is a very fun departure from my usual interviews. One of the strangest things about our life in Hollywood (and there are many, many strange things) is our enormous fish tank. Every time I share a little bit about our fish tank on social media, I get flooded with questions that I mostly can't answer. So I finally recorded a conversation with someone who could! Nic Tiemens is the co-founder of Infinity Aquariums and not only does he take care of the Tremaine Tank for us every week, he has installed and maintained tanks for some of the biggest celebrities and most beautiful homes in the world. In this episode, Nic shares how he stumbled into this line of work, why you shouldn't ever get a fish tank on a whim, and the insane new project he's been working on for two years in Bel Air. My husband Jeff also joins us for part of the conversation, because he's the real reason we have a 1,500 gallon fish tank in our dining room. FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HEREMENTIONED in this

This episode originally aired in August 2021, and is one of my personal favorites. Ready to bust out the air mattresses? This episode is FULL of practical, logistical, and emotional tips for hosting people in your home. I'm sharing everything from the 4 things that keep (most) guests happy, to the mindset shifts that will keep you from being overwhelmed or resentful.Look, if there's one subject I can give many (many) words to, it's hosting houseguests. Since I moved to Los Angeles 20 years ago, I've hosted friends and family of all group sizes, from couch crashers in a tiny apartment to my entire extended family at our new home last month. Our lovely lake house has also been a revolving door of guests over the years, where I've become an expert at managing meals, airport pickups, activities, and downtime for families and groups. I know that having guests can be an absolute honor and also completely exhausting. I hope this episode gives you the tools to plan and the freedom from pressure the next time you're t

This episode originally aired in November 2021, and has been one of the most downloaded and referenced episodes of the show. Have you ever had the thoughts:I don’t have enough timeTime is passing me byI’m wasting too much timeIf this is something that really affects your mood, your schedule, and you're full of frazzle, overwhelm, or a continuing existential crisis, then you may have Time Anxiety. (Not an official thing - just a name I gave to something that affects me regularly.)In this episode, I’m sharing about my own Time Anxiety and how it hurts my productivity and my parenting. I’m also talking about how to notice ALL the messages we get in our culture about TIME, and why those messages are giving us constant low-level hums of anxiety.I’m also sharing a few concrete methods I use to combat Time Anxiety.I hope you find this episode helpful or at the very least like you’re not the only one obsessed with the passage and managing of time.Mentioned in this episode:My IG post about Time AnxietyHeadspace medita

Are you thriving or are you just...fine? What about your friendships?Two podcasters I've listened to for YEARS are tackling a new series this summer on friendship (the topic on everyone's tongue). I was so excited to welcome Kristen Meinzer and Jolenta Greenberg from the How To Be Fine podcast (formerly By The Book) to the show to talk about their podcasting roots, their relationship as business besties, their experiment of living by the advice of self-help books, and their latest project on friendship.Listen to the How To Be Fine podcastBuy the How To Be Fine bookListen to the new By The Book episodes on PatreonFollow How To Be Fine on IGFollow Kristen on IGFollow Jolenta on IGSUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookJOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection GroupSIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notesJOIN the Secret Stuff PatreonBUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go

This is a story about growing up feeling like an outsider and finding a book that made you feel less alone. And then growing up to create an adaptation of that book for the screen, in a dream project that took years to complete. This is a story about my friend Jill Killington and her work on the tv adaptation of Stephen King's THE STAND.You don't have to like horror or Hollywood to appreciate this conversation. Jill gives us a behind-the-scenes Hollywood perspective that was new and fascinating to me even after knowing her for 20+ years and sharing a longtime love of Stephen King. I think you are going to love the insight and insider stories she shares in this episode.NOTE: There are spoilers for THE STAND in this episode. Learn more about Jill Killington at JillKill.comFollow @JillKillsMe on IGJOIN STEPHEN KING SUMMERFULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Face

Since I write and talk about friendship so much, a frequent question comes up around supporting a friend when they are going through something difficult. I think the answer on this can vary, depending on the particular hardship, but my guest today is someone who knows what friends need when their difficult life circumstance is ongoing.Jessica Patay is the founder of We Are Brave Together, a nonprofit organization that provides respite, community, and resources for mothers caring for children of any age with disabilities, unique needs, or other medical or mental health challenges. She is is passionate about serving caregiving moms and creating authentic communities, and brings 10 tips to the conversation that will help us better support our friends who are caregiving mothers, daughters, partners, and more.Jessica has also created an anthology for caregiving moms sharing their stories titled Becoming Brave Together: Heroic, Extraordinary Caregiving Stories From Mothers Hidden in Plain SightLearn more about Jess

It's my birthday week! I'm turning 45. And every year around this time, I do a birthday episode looking back and looking ahead.This year's theme is about the quiet changes that happen when you're distracted, or busy, or not paying attention.Last year on my birthday I was convinced that something HUGE was going to happen in my 44th year. I thought I had an intuition about it. I journaled my heart out about what was coming for me. And then...when I approached the end of 2023 and then eventually the end of my 44th year, I was disappointed that what I thought was a premonition hadn't come true.Instead, what I found was that I fundamentally changed in the last year. Through a series of events, heart aches, conversations, and maturity, I find myself at a really different place than I was last June. And while it might not be the seismic event I was anticipating, it has been earth shifting all the same.FULL SHOW NOTES HEREMENTIONED in this episode:Join us for Stephen King Summer!Ep 201: 10 Things I Learned in 2023Ep

We're halfway through 2024, which means it's time to take an inventory of the best books we've read in the last six months.My real life book club joins me for a mid-year look at the literary landscape for the second year in a row. Regular guests Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith are always a delight to have on the show.Apologies to your TBR after listening to this one.IT'S NOT TOO LATE TO JOIN US FOR STEPHEN KING SUMMER!Yasmin’s books:You Like it Darker by Stephen KingJames by Percival EverettKnife by Salman RushdieSteph’s books:Long Island by Colm ToibinNeighbors and Other Stories by Diane OliverSlow Horses by Mick HeronLaura’s books (on this episode):Listen for the Lie by Amy TinteraSociopath by Patric GagneSomehow by Anne LamottLaura’s Best Books of the Year (So Far):The Bee Sting by Paul MurrayThe Book of Love by Kelly LinkHow to Walk Into a Room by Emily P. FreemanFULL SHOW NOTES HEREMentioned in this episode:Stephen King SummerE. Shaver Bookstore in Savannah, GA on InstagramThe Stacks Bookstore on

Jodi Wellman is focused on death. And she wants you to think about it more, too.Death is (clearly) not a popular topic, and something most of us avoid thinking about at all costs. But Jodi believes that knowing you have something to lose can help you live like you mean it. Her new book You Only Die Once: How To Make It To The End With No Regrets can walk you through making the most of your time on this earth.In this episode, author and speaker Jodi Wellman shares 5 ways to live like you're dying:Count your Mondays (quantifying your time can be remarkably clarifying)Diagnose the dead zones (areas in life that feel dead inside)Identify your deathbed pre-grets (regrets-in-the-making that can still be course-corrected)Live wider (with vitality) and deeper (with meaning): identify a list of enlivening endeavors Pick one small thing to take action on at a timeLearn more about Jodi WellmanBuy You Only Die Once: How To Make It To the End With No RegretsFollow Jodi Wellman on IGFULL SHOW NOTES HEREJOIN STEPHEN KING SU

Obviously friendship is a big topic around here, but one of the aspects we don't touch on much is how these important relationships have changed in modern culture. We now have hundreds of connections in our daily lives, where our ancestors probably never met that many people in their entire lifetime.Friendship writer Anna Goldfarb brings us 5 Things to think about in our modern friendships that she expounds upon in her new book Modern Friendship: How To Nurture Our Most Valued Connections.Called “the New York Times’ friendship correspondent,” Anna Goldfarb's reporting on friendships has appeared in The New York Times, The Atlantic, TIME , Vox, and more.Follow @AnnaGoldfarb on IGSubscribe to her substack Friendship ExplainedBuy her new book Modern FriendshipSTEPHEN KING SUMMER IS IN FULL SWING! Join us hereFULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode!CLICK HERE for episode show notesFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on InstagramFOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on FacebookJOIN the 1