Swoon: Love Lessons With Julie And Gina

We've received so many questions about dating in real life we decided to start with a dating overview so you have tools to navigate the most common stressors people face in the dating world. Listen in to stay grounded while you look for connection.

For many couples initiating sex and foreplay is a loaded issue.  We get locked into roles of initiator and receiver and can build huge resentment stories about the patterns we've fallen into over time- and it can feel impossible to break free.   In this week's episode, Gina and Julie share thoughts on how to shift those patterns and get things started with ease.  

In this bonus PRIDE episode Julie and Gina answer listeners questions.  Q1: How do I come out to my family? Q2: How do lesbians have sex? Q3: How do I come out to my spouse?

Happy Pride Month! In this episode Gina and Julie celebrate queer relationships! They also discuss research that highlights some of the wonderful things we can learn from gay and lesbian relationships.

Embracing the full complexity of your sexual self - including desire, fantasy, and even some of the areas that can feel confusing can help you have a more fulfilling sexual life. Join us for this week's episode with Julie and Gina focusing on understanding your own erotic template and exploring yours with a partner.  

In this episode Julie and Gina discuss monogamy and nonmonogamy. They talk about different relationship styles, different forms of intimacy, relationship expectations and some of the ways people may get their wants and needs inside and outside of their primary partnerships.

Has trust ever been an issue in your relationships? Join Gina and Julie this week to talk through the finer points of building, repairing, and nourishing trust in your intimate relationships.

Are you repeating the same patterns over and over again in relationships? How you bond with your early caregivers can affect how you partner and show up in relationships. In this episode Julie and Gina discuss the 4 main attachment styles and how they influence your current or future relationships.

Most long-lasting couples end up in some kind of sexual routine and lots of them ultimately find themselves in a sexual rut. They can feel uninspired, bored, disconnected or generally un-sexy and that’s where it can become a problem. In today’s podcast Julie and Gina focus on the ways couples end up in a sexually stuck place and a few ways you can break out of routines that no longer serve you.

Do you and your partner fight over the roles and responsibilities in your relationship? Does the division of labor feel equitable? Are you clear about your expectations? In today’s podcast Julie and Gina talk about one of the most common sources of conflict in relationships – Division of Labor! They'll share tips for exploring your default roles and ways you can create a system that works better for your relationship and lives!

Do you feel disconnected from your partner? Does it feel like it takes a lot energy to initiate sex (or show up for sex)?  In today’s podcast Julie and Gina talk about tending the erotic fire in your relationship. Learn how to keep the romance, intimacy and passion alive in your relationship.

Do you have a hard time staying present during sex? Are you distracted? Worried about performance? Or focusing on your to do list? In today’s podcast Gina and Julie share tools and practices to help you stay present and experience more pleasure in and out of the bedroom.

Being the high desire partner can seem like a simple problem form the outside, but people living this experience will tell you it's not that easy. You want to connect, share passion, and get your needs met, but you need to be careful to do it in ways that don't add pressure to what can often be a tense situation. Let Gina and Julie help you understand how to handle high desire in mismatched desire relationships, in loving consensual ways.

In this bonus episode Julie and Gina answer listeners questions.  Q1: How did Julie and Gina become so comfortable talking about sex? Q2: How can I still have sex if I am experiencing pain in my vagina during intercourse? Q3: How should I handle crushes that I get outside of my relationship?

Most long-term couples experience something called desire fatigue (the slow decline of sexual connection and/or activity the longer you’re together) but most couples don’t want to accept low desire as an inevitability.  In today’s podcast Gina and Julie explore the common contributors to desire fatigue in relationships and the understanding you need to overcome this very common issue.

Most people struggle to talk about sex without conflict in relationships. In this episode of Swoon we are going to tackle how to ask for what you want. We'll cover when, where and how to talk about sex in a way that works best for connection. We'll go over how to flip the story you're telling about sex in your relationship from "this is hard" to "we still got it".  

A lot has been said about low desire partners in relationships. It’s one of the most challenging and misunderstood dynamics in intimate partnership. So knowing how to sort the junk form quality information is critical. Let Gina and Julie help you understand why low desire occurs even in healthy loving relationships, and what you can do to address it.

Join Julie Jeske and Gina Senarighi, two Portland, Oregon-based sexperts in a conversation about the most common sexual issue couples face: mismatched sexual desire. Learn why couples face different levels of desire and take home a tool to help you connect, even when it’s not easy.