Our Better Half

The title of our show begins with dandies, a term used in the late 19th century referring to men wearing women's or effeminate clothing.  Most of Oscar Wilde’s male protagonists were considered dandies and some of them were also gay.  We think the term is similar to the term, metrosexual.  And we connected this to Jane’s latest research on older adults in same-sex relationships countering previous misconceptions about older LGBTQ adults and their sexual satisfaction.  Not only is there very little research about this population, the research that does exist problematizes their sexual lives.  If you’d like to learn more about her research, just click here or go to Jane's website to learn more about it.   We also talked about dildos and other sex toys for older adults.  Ashley talked about dildos as a great way to experience sexuality both solo through masturbation and as a couple.  As you age, your toy needs might change because of vaginal atrophy, arthritis, or erectile issues.  Sleeves, cock rings, and vibra