Let's Parent On Purpose

This is part three of a four part series to help parents and teens improve their communication and reduce conflict. It’s adapted from a parent/teen retreat and includes small group questions you help you process the material as a family. Every family is going to have conflict. We need a better conflict toolbox to allow us to win the person and not the argument. Today we look at principles from Proverbs as well as Chris Voss’ book Never Split the Difference: Communicating Like Your Life Depends on it. I also share some of the most helpful marriage counseling advice I’ve ever been given.   Key Points:
 1. You’re going to have disagreements and conflict. You need a better conflict toolbox. 2. The vast majority of conflict work is done before the conflict. Refill the love bank! 3. People want to be understood and appreciated. 4. Tools for conflict: • Be a Mirror - Active listening and reflecting • Accusation Audit - Admit the ugly truth and state your worst case • Tactical Empathy - State their case and feeli