Curious And Curiouser Podcast

This week’s question is:  How do you know when you’re holding something that’s not yours to hold? Tracey and I talk about how you can inadvertently take on the emotions of others, how to recognize when you’ve done so, why it’s not actually helpful to feel your loved ones feelings with them, and what to do instead. Specific topics discussed include: How we can absorb other people’s emotions and pain without even realizing it Emotions are highly contagious Our brains as problem solvers How boundaries are harder to hold when we get tired, sick, etc. How to recognize when you’ve picked up something that’s not yours to hold Why it isn’t helpful to take on your partner’s, kids’, or friends’ emotions The double edged sword of being simultaneously a very capable and highly sensitive person Why not taking on other people’s shit takes discipline Holding space and what that actually means The observer effect and the power of being witnessed in our pain Why we shouldn’t rescue our kids or partners How taking on someone