Over It And On With It

This is a call about overcoming codependent and anxious patterns. Today’s caller, Carson, is looking outside of himself for his worth. He would like to know how he can begin to heal and learn to trust himself. This call is a classic case of looking for what we didn't get as a child in other people, as an adult.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode242]   Anything that made you feel unsafe, small, or unimportant as a child or adolescent can create codependent behaviors. The need to attach to someone else develops as a way to counteract the feelings of being small or unimportant. You try to grab on to someone to feel needed or to feel important in their eyes. Codependence can work in two ways. You could be the person that another person needs such as becoming a caretaker or rescuer. Or, you can be super needy.   The behavior of grasping onto others and being needy is not sustainable.  No one outside of us can make these wounds go away. We have to fill the voids ourselves. You have to learn to