Clarity On Fire

When I first met Amanda, she was lugging around shame like it was an anvil strapped to her back. In her mind, she didn’t deserve to feel light or free because she’d left her marriage of almost 20 years in a way that she felt very guilty about. But as long as she was carrying guilt and shame like a penance, she wasn’t able to pick anything else up. It’s hard to move on with your life, or get clear about who you are on a deeper level, if you’re not allowed to forgive yourself. So, that’s what she had to learn how to do. And that’s what Amanda and I got in to during this month’s new interview with a normal person! We talked about … Why she was ashamed about how she left her marriage, and why she felt unable to let that shame go for a long time. The difference between letting yourself off the hook for bad behavior (something you probably shouldn’t be doing) and genuinely forgiving yourself (something you definitely should do). How forgiving herself allowed her to heal the issues that caused her marriage to disso