Coaching For Leaders

Workplace bullying is real for trailblazers. Col. Jill Morgenthaler had the courage to take command and shares leadership lessons for other trailblazers. Col. Jill Morgenthaler, USA, Ret. Author, The Courage to Take Command: Leadership Lessons from a Military Trailblazer* How a female US Army colonel tamed the males-only Egyptian Army “I’m not going to change the culture, but I can adjust the behavior.” -Jill Morgenthaler Sometimes bullies don’t know they’re bullies. Ensure that we don’t become the bullies ourselves. Aggressiveness vs. assertiveness. When people starting to show disrespect, he would stop it immediately. Hang back and watch when moving into a new situation. Ask people how they want to be rewarded. Never ask anyone something that you’re not willing to do. Feedback Join the conversation: http://coachingforleaders.com/172 Comments, questions, or feedback for future Q&A shows: http://coachingforleaders.com/feedback Next Q&A show is episode #174 on resources for leaders Thank you

Allison Clarke: What Will They Say? Allison Clarke attended 30 funerals in 60 days with the intention to discover how to live without regret. She captured her discovered in the book What Will They Say? and shared her key findings during this conversation. Key Points 1. Listen and lead others to their own answers. 2. Remember the value of face-to-face communication. 3. Do something unique and special for someone. 4. Make time for important people in your life. 5. Bring your courage to the forefront. Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.

How much do you know about employment law? If you’re a leader in an organization, having a base knowledge about how to limit your liability is prudent. Today, three current hot spots in employment law and what you need to know. Laura Schiesl Partner, Molever Conelly PLLC 1. Social media One general best practice is to have a social media policy if you don’t already have one. Social media guidelines from the National Labor Relations board (see pages 22-24) 2. Employment classification Independent contractor vs. employees United States Department of Labor 6-factor economic realities test United States Department of Labor on independent contractors Internal Revenue Service Section 530 relief requirements California Department of Industrial Relations on worker misclassification 3. Wages and hours United States Department of Labor Overtime Pay Requirements of the FLSA Connect with Laura Schiesl on LinkedIn Dave recommended the book Law 101* by Jay Feinman and The Legal Seagull podcast by Neer Lern

If you work with or work in different cultures, Nathan Czubaj, author of Emails from Mumbai*, will inspire your attitude about what matters most. Nathan Czubaj Author, Emails from Mumbai* Senior Vice President, Dale Carnegie of Southern Los Angeles I wanted go somewhere that would really be different…that I could learn most about the world and most about myself. Preparation Talking to people is most helpful. Pick up some of the language, at least the greetings and please/thank you. Give yourself time for the mental preparation. “I’m never going to find the things that I’m used to. I need to get used to the things that I can have.” -Nathan Czubaj “I didn’t need all the things that I thought I needed. My definition of wants and needs changed radically.” -Nathan Czubaj Obstacles Some of the obstacles are how people do business that you would never expect. It was hard to impose my way of doing things and our Western way. People don’t always trust Westerners. What you’ve been successful with back h

The working world is very different than it was a generation ago, and all of us must adapt to be successful. Today, how promote yourself (and others) through intrapreneurship with Dan Schwabel, author of the New York Times bestseller Promote Yourself*. Dan Schawbel Author, Promote Yourself: The New Rules For Career Success* Author, Me 2.0: 4 Steps to Building Your Future* “Smart companies create a good internal culture, and then it becomes really easy for them to communicate to the outside world.” -Dan Schwabel Practical Action or Advice Bring reverse mentoring into your next mentorship conversation or program Ensure that senior leaders are engaged with you next initiative before proceeding   Thank you for supporting the Carnegie Coach podcast, a sister show to Coaching for Leaders A new, daily show hosted by Dave Stachowiak One principle each day from Dale Carnegie's library The show will air Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday. Less than 10 minutes per show! Nothing is changing w

None of us can be great at everything and neither are our organizations. On today’s show, three key elements to consider for forming an effective alliance with another leader or organization. Guest: Aaron Kent CEO, Dale Carnegie of Southern Los Angeles Aaron was last on the show on episode #35: You Don’t Have to Be a Trainer to Know How to Hire One. Find Industry Overlap In the same world as you, but not in a competitive place with you Each party brings insight and resources that wouldn't be available to the other Focus on what you are best in the world at, and form alliances in other areas Aaron mentioned the book Good to Great by Jim Collins* Clear and Immediate Financial Value Overlap Identify where a win-win outcome can be that benefits both parties This doesn't necessarily mean a dollar for dollar match Be sure it's measurable Aaron mentioned How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie* Dave mentioned How To Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie* Dave mentioned The

Bonni and I respond to questions from the Coaching for Leaders community on how to handle difficult conversations and more. Guest: Bonni Stachowiak Teaching in Higher Ed Question from Leonardo I´m one of your fans, I listen your podcast every day and I see better results on my day job managing an emergency room in Brazilian Hospital. I'm a cardiologist and today I work as a manger also. I was listening the episode 143, about feedback, while I was driving to my job and I was thinking how difficult to me is receive a negative feedback. I think that what struggle in this situation is emotion and controlling the emotion to respond or give some excuse for that negative perception. When I give any feedback to my employees I saw this same problem. How do I train myself to be better on that? Episode #143: Accepting Feedback With Sheila Heen of Difficult Conversations Episode #107: Three Steps To Soliciting Feedback with Tom Henschel Lets Get Real Or Let's Not Play by Mahan Khalsa* Question from Dow Difficul

Michael “Coop” Cooper: Innovators + Influencers Do you feel like you are playing whack-a-mole, constantly putting out fires in your organization? Are others and you clear on the real reason for most problems? In this conversation, I welcome Michael “Coop” Cooper from Innovators + Influencers to share a 5-step strategy that will help you define problems so it’s clear what to do next. 1. Describe the situation There’s a lot of information in the situation that people don’t talk about. This does not have to take as long as most people think it does. 2. Draft a problem statement The problem we’re trying to solve is… Find the simplest statement possible. 3. Ask “Why is that a problem?” (REPEAT) Be aware of the thud factor and the pause. 4. Is this the real problem? Involve someone else 5. Is this problem worth solving? Will it save you time or money? Will it make your company/department more competitive/productive? Will this solution make your work or life easier in the long-run? Does

Guest: David Sparks Author, Presentations* MacSparky.com and MacPowerUsers.com David last appeared on episode #119 to help us get control of our email. Memorize the opening and the closing of your presentation Nail the beginning. Close strong. Utilize an effective remote A green laser shows better than a red one Keep the button options simple Dark the screen when you’re not referring to a slide Find one with an on/off switch David recommends the Kensington K72427AM Wireless Presenter* Tools to consider You need to learn to be self-sufficient Adapters Extension cord Duct tape Speakers for audio David’s final advice Think about your presentation as a story Your slides are not your script David and the folks of Apple have shared 11 free copies of David's book with our community. To enter to receive one, simply leave a comment at the link below with thoughts on one of two things: One thing you gained from this episode that you'll use for your next presentation day Someth

Have you struggled with the generation gap between you and today’s younger employees? Do you find millennials to be a challenge to lead? You’re not alone and today, some proven principles and practical actions you can take to engage the millennial generation. Guest: Chip Espinoza, Ph.D. Author, Millennials@Work* Co-Author, Managing The Millennials* Director, Organizational Psychology, Concordia University Irvine Who are the millennials? They were born between 1980-2002 range. These are many of our newer employees in organizations. “The millennials are the first generation that has not needed an authority figure to access information.” -Chip Espinoza There is a dynamic in the workforce of a generation that doesn’t know how to reach up working with a generation that doesn’t know how to reach down. “The people with the most responsibility need to adapt first in an organization.” -Chip Espinoza “Ambiguity is the millennial kryptonite.” -Chip Espinoza This generation is used to experiencing success and m

Do you find yourself struggling with changing your behavior? Real learning is hard, but keeps you from making the same mistake again.   I wrote this article a few months ago: Sorry, I Don't Love Learning Have you seen this scene in the Matrix? I mentioned the book Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell* Practical Advice 1. Ensure that it’s something important for you to learn I mentioned the book Soar With Your Strengths by Donald Clifton and Paula Nelson* 2. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable “When you are tough on yourself, life is going to be infinitely easier on you.” -Zig Ziglar 3. Recognize that what you’ve been able to change your behavior on is really challenging for others “Every single time I get on a plane I’m really glad that the plane is not being flown by someone who just always loved planes.” -A teacher quoted in Building A Better Teacher by Elizabeth Green*. Feedback Join the conversation: http://coachingforleaders.com/157 Comments, questions, or feedback for future Q&A shows: ht

Mark Allen: Aha Moments In Talent Management Mark Allen is a professor at Pepperdine University and author of The Corporate University Handbook* and The Next Generation of Corporate Universities*. He just released his newest book, Aha Moments in Talent Management*. In this conversation, Mark and Dave discuss practical strategies that you can use to develop talent in your organization. Key Points “Having better people is the best source of competitive advantage, so attracting top talent is a top priority. Be willing to do whatever it takes to bring in top talent. Do not let your own policies prevent you from hiring exceptional people.” -Mark Allen Ask for the rationale for why rules are in place that are preventing talent acquisition “The job of manager requires specific skills and abilities. Promotion should be based on the ability to do the next job, not performance in the current job. Good performance should be rewarded appropriately, but promotion should not be a reward for past performance.” -Mark All

Dave Stachowiak: Eight Types of Power A brief word from Power vs. Force* by David Hawkins In 1959, French & Raven identified several types of power in their research: 1. Reward power Giving something of value 2. Expert power Knowledge, competence, and experience 3. Referent power Personality and charisma to influence others 4. Legitimate We have the legitimate right to command given our position in the organization In 1975, Raven & Kruglanski added to the list... 5. Connection power Access to powerful people and organizations 6. Information power Access to information that other parties don’t have In 1989, Liberatore et al. added... 7. Group decision-making power The decisions an entire organization gets behind Finally, in 1991, Yukl & Falbe identified... 8. Persuasive power The ability to influence through logic and dialogue A brief word about force Coercive “power” is also cited in the research This is the force against will - to threaten punishment and deliver penalty

Bill Bliss: Success In the C-Suite Bill last appeared on episode #118: What's The Difference Between Management and Leadership Myths and stopping points of succession planning The organization is only mine (I own it) The organization is too small I don’t know how to create a plan In reality, a lot of people just don’t want to make the hard decisions. Succession planning strategies and principles: 1. Development of leaders requires an investment of time and money Look at where the company needs to be five years from now - that’s where the discussion starts Then determine the competencies that will need to be ready at that time “The number one role of any leader is to identify and prepare their successor.” -Bill Bliss 2. Successful leadership development is a multi-faceted approach Bill mentioned the Center for Creative Leadership as a resource Mentorship is valuable for some organizations, as is experiential leadership Coaching is also very valuable for individuals 3. Backup successio

Many of us struggle with being more productive. Here are four steps we can all take to get better results. Guest: Tim Stringer Holistic Productivity Online Courses LearnOmniFocus.com “There’s only two problems in life. Either you don’t know where you’re going or you don’t know the next step.” -Tim Stringer, paraphrasing David Allen Tim recommended Tony Schwartz's book Be Excellent At Anything* Step 1 - Reflection Tim recommends journaling to separate the noise from what’s most important The Day One app* is an excellent resource for this Step 2 - Accepting life as is Step 3 - Focus on one thing A positive shift in one area of life will influence many other areas It’s a lot easier to get early wins by starting with one area first Step 4 - Inspired action Work on a specific action for a 90-day period Think a strategize about your action like it’s already occurred Strategies Name projects the define the objective Due dates only when things are actually due Resources OmniFocus for th

The three key steps to take after you conduct a survey, with the recent Coaching for Leaders listener survey as our case study. Guest: Bonni Stachowiak 1. Thank people Dave used Surveymonkey.com for the listener survey 2. Share the results Resources for visualizing results Column Five Piktochart Demographics Over 100 people participated 40% have graduate degrees 75% of listeners are managers Of those, 60% have managed five years or more Findings Dave needs to be more concise (introductions and show length) People want to continue to hear more advice for practical action People like and want more Q&A 3. Take action Show length will be 30-40 minutes Advice or practical action at the end of each episode Question and answer show the first Monday of the month (submit your question) Products and services Free online resource library is coming Paid monthly membership with access to weekly training videos will start with a private beta test Email Dave at feed

When we think of successful people, astronauts are often fairly high on the list. Chris Hadfield flew on two space shuttles and commanded the international space station. Here’s here today to share wisdom from his success that will help all of us us, right here on Earth.   Guest: Astronaut Chris Hadfield Author of the New York Times Bestseller: An Astronaut's Guide to Life on Earth: What Going To Space Taught Me About Ingenuity, Determination, and Being Prepared for Anything* “So many people in life, maybe without even acknowledging it to themselves, let fear dictate a lot of their decision-making.” -Chris Hadfield Some keys to balancing sweating the small stuff and avoiding micromanagement Visualize it going perfectly Visualize failure before it has happened What’s the most likely 10 things to go wrong? Let’s simulate them and figure out how we will react to them Then run the simulation again to find the best plan and change behavior Aim to be a zero Begin by soaking up what’s going on a

Leaders often hear about influence through storytelling, but don't know where to start. Here are four stories to tell and how to get started.   Guest: David Hutchens DavidHutchens.com Author of the Upcoming Book: Circle of the 9 Muses: A Storytelling Field Guide for Innovators Storytelling is utilized for influence “It’s more important to tell a strategic story, to tell the right story, even if you don’t tell it particularly well.” -David Hutchens The starting point of telling stories is permission Storytelling is a skill that nobody really has to learn since it’s our natural language Leaders needs to give themselves permission to tell a story in their organization The 4 stories leaders need to tell Who we are stories - what it means to be us Think about the stories parents and caregivers told you when you were young about what it was like growing up for them When we do this, we impart information about what we believe and who we are today Every organization and team has an origin story Da

Matthew Butterick: Practical Typography Written communication may say as much about you as what you wear. Typography is more than just font. Matthew's rankings of common system fonts Book resource: Garner’s Modern American Usage* by Bryan Garner Mark Twain received the following telegram from a publisher: NEED 2-PAGE SHORT STORY TWO DAYS. And famously replied… NO CAN DO 2 PAGES TWO DAYS. CAN DO 30 PAGES 2 DAYS. NEED 30 DAYS TO DO 2 PAGES. Use one space after a sentence. Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.

Kent Rhodes: The Family Business Consulting Group Culture is how we do things around here. The three Levels of Culture from Edgar Schein Artifacts Espoused values Underlying assumptions Culture is difficult to identify when you are inside of it. Organizations confuse climate and culture: Climate comes from the outside and tends to be more temporary Culture is what is happening internally and more difficult to change Resources Books Organizational Culture and Leadership* by Edgar Schein Diagnosing and Changing Organizational Culture* by Kim Cameron and Robert Quinn Articles The Trader Joe's Experience by Mark Mallinger and Gerry Rossy Recognizing Organizational Culture in Managing Change by Mark Mallinger, Don Goodwin, and Tetsuya O'Hara The Competitive Advantage of Culture in a Family Business by Kelly LeCouvie and Kent Rhodes Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.