#be Inspired

Between us, Itodo, Victoria, Agatha, Jude, Tobi, Paul and myself, discuss the myths surrounding virginity. Ponder over the reasons why some want to marry virgins and some decide to abstain after getting some experience. We also look into the question, is it possible to be an experienced virgin? 

Some say you must be sexually attracted to the person you intend to be in a relationship with, but is that enough to sustain the relationship? what do you think? listen to Itodo, Agatha, Isreal and my self talk about this and I pray it blesses you and makes a difference.

Maya Angelou said, “There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.” Most times all you need to do is confide in someone else, share your hurts, worries, concerns. Open up to that person you know will always listen to you and not just hear you. Those tears in your eyes are like words that need to be spoken, tell your story and your experience to someone. Sometimes the best way to heal and excel is to remind yourself that you are not the only one going through this and all you need to do is Share, begin to Heal and then Excel.

"Don't forget am just a girl standing in front of a boy asking him to love her" A quote from the film Notting Hill summarises this episode. the questions are, should a lady ask a guy out? should she propose if he doesn't? do men take women who ask them out for granted? Come along with Itodo, Victoria, Agatha, Nsikan and she heals, as they discuss, dissect and delve into opinions, myths and trends of life in the 21st century

"When you are trying to talk to your spouse about something, remember one thing. You attract more bees with honey than vinegar. Ultimately the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or in friendship, is the conversation. Communication to a relationship is like what oxygen is to life'' Anonymous. Be open in your relationship, communicate, share, explore, have fun and live a fulfilled life. if you don't. you leave your relationship open to outside influences. Join My five dear friends, Victoria, Itodo, Agatha, Nsikan and Grace, as we dissect, discuss and share. 

Five of my dear friends, Nsikan, Itodo, Agatha, Grace and Victoria get together with me and between us we dissect the trend of young guys relying on  women to pay their bills. is it right? should a woman support her man whether they are married or not? should a man be a house husband? who should stay home for the first 5 years of the child's life? why is it okay for a woman to depend on a man but not the other way round? So many questions, very interesting and diverse opinions. Join us as we share and you listen and learn. 

I love what Oscar Wilde said  “ Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”  Becoming you, is being the authentic version of yourself and not the fake version of someone else. Everything about you becomes you, your thoughts, your life and your passions are yours. The best way to love your self and be you is to understand and become who God made you to be. Your time on earth is limited don't waste it living someone else's life, Today, make the decision to take the next step to become you.

Life is about the choices you make and creating yourself. What's your purpose? where are you going? what are you doing?. Are you sitting back and letting life pass you by? Do you always see disappointments as tragedy's or blessings? Did you know that when one door closes another one opens, or do you spend too much time looking at the closed door that you don't notice the other open doors?. There comes a time in life when you have to choose between taking the next step forward of staying put in the past. What are you going to do? remember, it is said that Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. So make the decision today, to step into your future, make the right choice, recreate your self and begin to live life and don't let life live you.

  Your next step of a thousand miles starts  with just one. You might never take that next step if you worry  about how hard it will be or how long it might take . We make the journey by taking each day step by step and then repeating it again and again until we reach our destination. Pray,Focus, think,innovate , collaborate,  Keep your eyes on the goal, making that move one day at a time will lead you to the finish line. Step outside your comfort zone because that's the only way you're going to grow, breakthrough and succeed. 

 The most important things in life are your relationships and how you nurture them. By showing that you care, you can make a big difference in peoples’ lives. Be a difference maker! People will forget everything you do to and for them but they will never forget the way you treat them. Love is when you care too much, T.Roosevelt put it like this "Nobody cares how much you know, until they know how much you care". To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.

Raising A well-adjusted person means having  a mature personality and being in  control of emotions and dealing with problems without becoming anxious.  To navigate the ups and downs of life requires the right support systems. Never feel you are alone , never feel no one loves you, do not put too much pressure on yourself. no matter the problem there is always a solution, Nothing is impossible . If you ever feel alone, Just take a look around and see all the amazing people God has put around you to be there for you no matter what.

    Reality is a question of perspective , what is yours might not be for others . To judge others by your values alone is you being judgmental. we all have our values and believe what we think is right. so think before you impose your values on someone else .  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/she-heals/message

  “Love yourself. Enough to take the actions required for your happiness. Enough to cut yourself loose from the drama-filled past. Enough to set a high standard for relationships. Enough to feed your mind and body in a healthy manner. Enough to forgive yourself. Enough to move on.” – S. Maraboli . “Love yourself enough to set boundaries. Your time and energy are precious. You get to choose how you use it. You teach people how to treat you by deciding what you will and won’t accept.” – A. Taylor 

Take a look around and see how fortunate you are, think about all the things you are grateful for and watch your life turnaround for good. Happiness comes easier when you stop complaining about the problems  you have and start being thankful for the problems  you dont have

   People and situations will always disappoint you and let you down but never stop believing in yourself, and believing you can. When one step fails, take another and keep going. Have a positive attitude, remember it’s how you think, that you feel and how you react. The key to achieving success is never giving up.

   Most of the time failures and irrevocable disastrous situations stem from people with a habit of making excuses, justifying mistakes and blaming someone else. Eleanor Roosevelt said something that really drives this home for me “In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility”.

" Life is a matter of choices, and every choice you make makes you". J.Maxwell . The choices you make today, will determine your life tomorrow, " Decisions become easier when your will to please God outweighs your will to please the world"A Coetzer.

Asking for help and advice, or asking how someone did what you are about to do , is not a sign of weakness but a sign of great strength.

"The secret of change is to focus all your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new"-Socrates

  Many of us live in denial of who we truly are because we fear losing someone or something and there are times that if we don’t rock the boat, too often the one we lose is ourselves. It feels good to be accepted, loved, and approved of by others, but often the membership fee to belong to that club is far too high of a price to pay. ― D.M Jones. We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change. ― H. Cloud