It's My Pleasure

Orgasms! Of course you want them! I want them and I want them ALL for you. But when we focus on orgasms, not only can it create problems, but it will diminish your overall capacity for mind-blowing pleasure.So what should you focus on instead? Listen in on this episode to learn of why it is SO important to not lead getting orgasms drive the show.What You’ll Learn from this Episode:Why orgasm focused sex is problematicWhat we lost when we try to get the orgasmsWhere you want your focus TO be so that you can have the most memorable and mind-blwoing sexual experienceAnd a very relevant tangent about a craft storeFeatured on the Show:Please, please rate and review! And if you do, send me an email - I would like to thank you personally and answer a burning question you may have!Group coaching is the best way for you to elevate your experiences of pleasure in and OUT of the bedroom. TANGLED is now open for enrollment! LEARN MORE HERE.Enjoying the podcast?Make sure you don’t miss a single episode! Subscribe on Apple

Blowjobs - love them or hate them, this episode is for you.The blowjob is one of those sexual acts that is seeped in assumptions, stigmatization and ‘shoulds'. Sure they are ‘for’ your partner and it can be so fun to see him turned on, but I want you to know there is so much MORE to them.In this episode I will be sharing with you an entirely new way to look at blow jobs — one that will have you excited to practice your technique and make blowjobs a more regular occurrence.What You’ll Learn from this Episode:What society taught you about fellatio and how to spot where it is holding you backWhy the blowjob can bring you in closer relationship with your sexualityThe prerequisites for being turned on by giving a BJFeatured on the Show:Dreamy Blowjob Masterclass only 9.69:https://www.daniellesavory.com/offers/FTuWd8zA/checkout

Puff, puff, pleasure! Ha! In this episode, we speak with Dr. Adie Rae, a leading neuroscientist researcher in the field of cannabis, discussing the effects of cannabis on female sexual pleasure. Dr Adie shares their knowledge and insights on the topic, discussing the ways in which cannabis can enhance women's sexual experiences.What you’ll learn from this episodeDr. Adie explains the science behind how cannabis affects female sexual pleasure, including how it can enhance sensitivity and increase relaxation and other ways it directly helps you experience more pleasureWe get into the different strains and methods of consumption that are best suited for enhancing sexual experiences.In this conversation Dr. Adie also addresses potential risks associated with cannabis use and fears you might have if you have never used it before.Dr. Adie offers tips and advice for individuals who are interested in incorporating cannabis into their sex life, including dosage recommendations, communication with partners, and safe us

In this episode, we explore how visualization can be used to enhance your sex life and increase your desire. This is a tool that I use regularly in my own personal life and is vital in helping my clients get the results they are wanting as well. I will share 5 specific techniques for using visualization to improve your sexual experiences and tips and techniques to make visualization easier.What you’ll learn from this episode:The science behind the mind-body connection and how visualization can impact sexual function and satisfaction.Why visualization can be particularly helpful for individuals who struggle with low desire, performance anxiety, or other sexual challenges.The 5 specific visualization techniques that I recommend for enhancing your sex life, including [insert techniques].Tips for getting started with visualization and incorporating it into your sexual routine.Featured on the show:Dreamy BJ workshop: www.daniellesavory.com/dreamybjsNext cohort for Tangled opens mid May - enroll NOW or get on the w

Do you ever struggle with scheduling sex because you’re afraid that when the time comes you might not like feel like it and you don’t want to get your partner’s hopes up? Or you hold yourself back from a midday makeout sesh or big french kiss because you know it’’ be met with a knowing grin and “Oh I see what’s going on” suggestion - and to be honest you just don’t know if you want to? Or maybe you have with all good intention been into it and then along the way you simply aren’t feeling it anymore, but it is easier to go along than stop things.Then you have to listen to this episode. Subconscious fears about not wanting to disappoint your partner, give the wrong idea or lock yourself into something you aren’t so sure about are keeping you from feeling more desire.And the solution is simply. Listen in to find out what it is.What You’ll Learn from this Episode:Why giving yourself permission to change your mind is VITAL to feeling more turned onThe emotional responsibility women take on, especially when it come

Hello my fellow neurodivergent lovers! This episode is FOR you. Today we talk about how high sensitivity and ADHD tendencies can keep you from loving the sex you are having and dampening your desire and exactly what to do about it.This episode originally showed up on The Black Sheep Playground podcast with Meg Kierstead and I loved the interview so much I wanted to share it here as well. Because to be honest it isn’t talked about a lot. How to regulate more - yes, how to get organized and stay on task - yes but sex and pleasure? Not so much.In this episode I will give you specific tools, that I have used to work with my own neurodivergent brain, in order to relish in all the pleasure your body is wired for. Enjoy!What You’ll Learn from this Episode:How to make your environment pleasure friendlyCreating a physical anchor to give your busy brain something to return toWhy schedule sex is once again a fabulous thing to do, even if you are super resistant!Using pleasure for a barometer and more!Featured on the Sho

Have you ever asked yourself the question what the difference between caring or caretaking is? And why am I even asking this question? Because if you are anything like me, or my clients, playing mother to your lover is for sure NOT a turn on. So when does genuine caring and doing something from love for another cross into the realm of being their caretaker? That is exactly what we will be discussing on this episodeWhat You’ll Learn from this Episode:How caring plays a vital role in our intimate relationshipsThe identifying factors between caring and caretakingHow sex shows up in our ‘caretaking roles'Choosing on purpose what and how you’ll do particular tasks so that you can continuously foster that passionFeatured on the Show:Tangleddaniellesavory.com/tangledGet FRESH the free course to help you ignite those sparks with your long time lover https://www.daniellesavory.com/join-freshEnjoying the podcast?Make sure you don’t miss a single episode! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, RSS, or follow on Spotify.

There is a lot of talk about the mental load and physical load of running a house that a woman in a heterosexual relationship typically experiences. And thank goodness - we NEED to be talking about this.However, I do see some of this narrative getting turned into a laundry list of “dos” for our partner and often in the vein of “Maybe I would be more in the mood if I had more help”.And I want to address why this subtle shift can be problematic to the connection you are actually wanting.Also TANGLED is open - enroll now or email me to schedule a call to see if this program is right for you!What You’ll Learn from this Episode:How we unintentionally create a transactional relationship and how exactly this causes less emotional intimacyWhat we get wrong about emotional intimacy and who is really in charge of creating itThe generational belief that we unconsciously are believing at some level that makes it harder to experience pleasureFeatured on the Show:Tangled daniellesavory.com/tangledemail for consult at danie

Understanding sexual pleasure and desire can feel complex - there can be so many factors that impact your mood, your openness to receive and your experience of pleasure.That being said, in order to increase your sexual satisfaction it really comes down to three essential things. You can keep your mind focus on these THREE things over and over again because you’ll always find little nuances to work with that will help you elevate your sensual experience.Tangled is the group coaching program that starts in a couple of weeks and this is the framework we work from.What You’ll Learn from this Episode:The top three things that will elevate your sexual experience over and over again.Why it’s important to understand the nuances of each focus - what it means and what it doesn’t mean.The skills to develop that will help you do each of these three things wellFeatured on the Show:Tangled daniellesavory.com/tangledFREE mini-course now available: FRESH - making your long time lover feel new again. Get it NOW: https://www.d

“Babe. Listening to this woman was like I was listening to myself. I want to sign up for this program. I want what she has!” That’s the exact thing one of my clients said to her husband after listening to an interview about a year ago on “It’s My Pleasure”. Now she is coming on to share with all of you how this work, in her words, “has completely changed my LIFE.”It is easy to think that truly LOVING your sex life and being orgasmically fulfilled is just for “other women” and not for you. My client Faith was nervous that the same might be true for her. Having had a conservative upbringing and being dedicated to her own religious beliefs, Faith was worried that it might not be in the works for her to love her sex life, but she knew she wanted things to change.Listen in on this compelling story full of raw honestly, transformation and truly seeing a ripple impact of what is possible when becoming a turned on woman.It is so important that we not only conceptually understand what is possible, but listen to others

It’s easy to blame the “big” culprits for our lack of desire or intimate pleasure - things like crazy schedules, hormones, a partner who is being an a-hole. But what about the little things? The way that you are behaving that is unconsciously depleting you and cutting you off from your body?This week we talk about the yes’s that are having a direct negative impact on your body, your desire and your intimacy. Not the all over, full body “hell yes!” but the habitual ways we say yes to others and expectations. Understanding the way we unintentionally hide our ’true’ self in the name of showing up the way we are expected to. How we start saying yes to avoid conflict and get approval - aka people pleasing.In this episode we dive into the world of people pleasing, but in a way that will allow for more compassion AND motivate change. I want all women to feel incredible in their bodies and sex lives and having acute awareness around our socialization to please is the key to that.What You’ll Learn from this Episode:Wh

For high achieving women, especially leaders, pleasure and rest tends to be seen as irrelevant to the important work and impact they are creating in the world. On this week’s episode, former client and leadership coach, Emily Feairs shares why we’ve got it all backwards.Emily is The Feminist Leadership Coach. She has spent years as a leader in politics and knows from experience how overwhelm and perfectionism can get in the way of the most determined woman. She shares her own knowledge from years studying the brain with her lived experience leaning into more pleasure to show women how focusing on being pleased is key to being the badass you want to be in the world.This conversation challenges the norms we’ve been taught and will demonstrate exactly why pleasure is vital to our success.What You’ll Learn from this Episode:How your ability to lead ties to your ability to receive pleasureWhy ‘pleasure’ can feel so ‘ick’ for high achieving women and what you can do to move past itThe importance of understanding ho

Mismatched desire is one of the main sources of frustrations and tension in sexual relationships. However most of us might label the different levels of desire as ‘mismatched’ when in fact that isn’t what is going on - which is exactly what we talked about in last week’s episode 152.But what do you do if you have determined that it is in fact mismatched desire you are experiencing? Well tune in this week to find out. Sometimes it seems as though there is nowhere to go, but but there is actually a lot both partner’s can do to alleviate the tension and get back to pleasurable play.What You’ll Learn from this Episode:What mismatched desire is an isn’t.Why emotional responsibility is essential.How to determine non-negotiable and where to go from there.Featured on the Show:FREE mini-course now available: FRESH - making your long time lover feel new again. Get it NOW: https://www.daniellesavory.com/join-fresh It’s My Pleasure episode 152: Is Mismatched Desire a Problem?Share, subscribe and review “It’s My Pleasure!

Mismatched desire is one of the main sources of frustrations and tension in sexual relationships. Mismatched desire is the term used when one person may want more than the other. This is the most common thing I clients will bring to me, however with further investigation most women will realize that there isn’t actually a problem with mismatched desire at all.This week I want you to understand what mismatched desire is and isn’t, because how we handle this and move forward looks very different in either case. Learning more about yourself and about your partner will help both of you have much more satisfying sexual experiences - which is of course my aim! Listen on and find out if you truly are experiencing mismatched desire or perhaps the way desire is presenting itself is outside what media depicts.What You’ll Learn from this Episode:The importance of labels and why calling it sex ‘drive’ can be problematicSexual urges vs sexual desiresThe misrepresentation of desire in the media and how that can impact your

Lets do something different in 2023, let’s embark on the actual PRACTICE of pleasure. Without the shame, without the guilt, with out the feeling that we are doing something selfish.When pleasure is your AIM, when it becomes the goal everything in your life changes. In this episode learn why practicing more pleasure this next year is a worthy endeavor and how it can impact all the other goals you may have in your life. 2023 is your year, to feel good, to create at a higher level, to become truly turned on. What You’ll Learn from this Episode:Why the pursuit of pleasure is not only a worthy endeavor, but a necessary one.How your conditioning keeps your from pursuing pleasure and the mindset needed to set your self up for successThe impact that practicing pleasure will have on your other goalsActionable steps to take to make sure your life is infused with pleasureFeatured on the Show:Undressed: new course that will rewrite your relationship with your sexuality AND with your body and have you opening up and exper

I talk to loads of women every single week about increasing our desire - that wanting, that longing. You want to WANT it more and  I get it, it can be jarring going a time in your relationship when looking forward to intimacy with your partner seemed effortless to wondering how the hell you were going to get yourself in the mood. And despite the fact that we talk about other ways to create that desire, you may feel like it is a game of mental gymnastics to get there.In this episode we take a look at ‘natural desire’ and our longing to create more of that. Plus don’t forget that the holiday special with sexy gift guide is available now for free - your way to make your holidays more pleasure! Join for free at https://www.daniellesavory.com/tow-holidayWhat You’ll Learn from this Episode:What does natural desire even mean and why its important we have a working definition of it.The impact of hormones on your desire and what can be even more influential in you wanting it.How putting sex in a special category of mo

Let’s make this the most pleasurable holiday - filled with gifts that will actually LIGHT you up. Have you ever wanted to buy something for the holidays to add to your pleasure, your intimacy or feeling more turned on? Then look no further! Whether you want some fun and creative experience ideas or a few toys from your own ‘naughty’ list this episode will cover it all.I have also included a shopping guide with links to ideas of some of the gifts mentioned on the podcast in the Turned on Woman Holiday Plan - This is my free gift for you -  5 day emails series that will give you exact tools and strategies to keep leaning into your turned on woman self, daily fun challenges and now your juicy gift list! Join for free at https://www.daniellesavory.com/tow-holiday and let's get you all holiday spiced up.What You’ll Learn from this Episode:Ways to invest in your pleasure and passion this holiday season.Some toys you might never of heard from that you can check out.How to turn on YOUR mind with resources and educati

Look we don’t need to kid ourselves that the holidays are NOT a busy time of the year. The month of December brings on different things that will fill up your calendar - traditions, social gatherings, volunteering, baking, gift buying etc.  Prioritizing pleasure is tricky in REGULAR time, let alone during the holidays - especially because we are socialized to put everyone else’s needs and feeling FIRST. Listen, I promise no one wins when you put your pleasure on hold - not you, not your family, not your partner. And during the holidays when the obligations and requests from others are running high it is important to get intentional about how you WANT to experience the holidays. The holidays are magical and fun and an incredible time of year - let’s make sure that is YOUR experience this year.Here are my 5 tips for the most ecstatically enjoyable holidays. PLUS make sure you sign up for the FREE 5 day Turned on Woman Holiday Plan - your 5 day emails series that will give you exact tools and strategies to keep

Being too tired is one of the main reasons that I hear women dismissing an invitation for intimacy or putting off pleasure for another day - when they think they might have more energy. And I get it, I too have experience lots of tired nights when sex is the last thing my mind says I want. But in this episode I want to offer you a very radical perspective . . .  what if being tired is the exact reason we need to be having MORE sex? What if it is actually the antidote to having more energy?Well my friends, this isn’t just a theory - when we look at how orgasms and sensual pleasure support the body and the brain you will quickly see how orgasmic pleasure might be the ‘caffeine’ boost we all need, but even more nourishing because it helps create actual rest and ease in the body. Pls when you learn how to put pleasure at the top of your list, instead of the bottom, the way you show up will have the added bonus of giving you more energy to begin with.What You’ll Learn from this Episode:The impact of coaching 1:1 w

I was being interviewed awhile back by the producer for Red Table Talk (a story for another time) and she asked, “so what do you think is the main reason women aren’t having much sex or it isn’t that good” and without hesitation I answered . . . Because we are tired. And this was in March 1, 2020 - before the pandemic hit - before we had experienced the level of fatigue most of us our experiencing now.But despite the fact that we have every reason in the world to BE tired, it doesn’t mean our desire and sexual should suffer because of it. In this two part podcast on tiredness and fatigue we explore a simple mindset shift and speaking tip to help you begin to break out of the cycle of fatigue.What You’ll Learn from this Episode:How our mindset about fatigue and tiredness impact our physical sensation of itThe importance of breaking out of the habitual beliefs around tirednessHow to use our approach to fatigue to gain more energyFeatured on the Show:REVIEW It’s My Pleasure and help spread the word for more wome