It's My Pleasure

There are three main skill sets needed to create the most mind-blowing sex life and honestly life in general. This episode is the first of three part series and is all about how to become an observer of the mind. My experience as a long time meditator as well as a meditation and mindfulness instructor has allowed me to not only become keenly aware of my mental happenings but to help others do the same. So what does watching your mind have to do with having an amazing sex life? Tune in to find out and how you can start becoming a witness to your mind or hone your skills more so that you can apply them to your pursuit of pleasure.

When you decide to create a better sex life than the one you are currently experiencing then taking responsibility for your pleasure is essential. But we don't automatically do this, in fact we blame our sexual pleasure on almost everything else! Listen in on this empowering episode and starting taking your sexual pleasure BACK! Please note: possible trigger warning. Mention of sexual assault.

One of the most, and I would argue THE most, common thought I see standing in the way of desire is thinking of sex as pleasure for someone other than you. That is not thinking of sex as an act for YOUR pleasure. All of the "shoulds" come out - you should be more sexual, sex is something you should be doing for a good marriage, I should want it. These "shoulds" all indicate and underlying lack of belief that sex is in fact about your own pleasure. And when you approach it as such, the best sex of your life is possible, as one of my clients recently discovered. Also I announce the winner of the $250 sensual escape voucher as well. Thanks again for all the rules.

The biggest issue that my clients comes to me with is lack of desire. They have achieved so much in their business and life but find that they simply don't "want" it that much. And they want to want it. I mean don't we all? But we think that desire is this thing that just overcomes us and when it doesn't we are afraid that there must be something wrong. In this episode I begin to explore the topic of desire and offer one of my common practices called "Never Say No" which is aimed to help brake the mental habit of blocking desire and the action we take of "saying no" on autopilot.

Ugh this conversation with the amazing Mahsa Darabi was so much FUN! Mahsa immigrated to the US from Iran when she was 7 years old and despite being the butt of many jokes in her youth for being "weird" she became a successful model and actress. Enjoy this talk I have with a dear friend and former client as we chat about how her definition of beauty changed despite the industry she was in and her transformation into becoming a sexually empowered woman after having children.

whether or not you have a fabulous and blah sex life. No, I am not lying - manage your mind and have mind-blowing sex - promise. Listen in to figure out how.

What would happen if you didn't have to keep yourself "in line"? Many people don't consciously think that they are trying to control everything around them, until they take a closer look and realize, that they are, in fact desperately trying to hold on to control. Because perhaps the fear is that if you let go of that control you might not stay motivated, or are afraid to see what is on the other side of really releasing your grip. What would happen if perhaps you kept allowing stimulation after orgasm? Or when something feels new? Or when you can seem to relax and just receive? In this episode we explore the mindset of control and despite your best efforts how it is keeping you from realizing your pleasure potential.

There is a lot of talk about pleasure and how it can be BAD. I break down the difference between false and true pleasure and how sex can actually be BOTH, what?!? I know crazy right. And then I will take you through how to begin to prime your body for more pleasure for better sex and a better life.

Ugh why isn't pleasure happening? Well likely the same reason that calm isn't happening in your house, because there is too much shit crowding every single corner. In this episode learn exactly how you can begin to create the right type of environment that pleasure might actually exist in. It may sound boring, but this is EVERYTHING!! Extra show notes: If you wanted to get in touch with my amazing organizer and live in the Portland Metro area hit Sarah up at simplyreorg.com

Holy sh*t this interview, with badass boss Lora Haddock CEO and Founder of Lora DiCarlo was so much fun! We talk about how her and her team created the revolutionary hand frees robotic tool made to bring about the ever coveted blended orgasm, swoon! How this genius invention won a prestigious award and then was swiftly take away for, wait for it . . . being profane. And this my friends is what is at the heart of the issue of women going after and owning their pleasure. Hope you enjoy this tantalizing conversation of brilliance, bossing and bias.

If you are looking for any tips on how to have a brilliant marriage filled with love and pleasure then Maggie has the answers for you! Seriously. She does. Like allllll the answers. She is a marriage and relationship expert and I love our conversation - how to talk to your partner about sex and pleasure, how to notice and close up those loops that may be keeping you from pleasure, and how impactful a delicious sex life can ACTUALLY be in your marriage, health and impact on the world. To access the link Maggie mentioned in the interview please visit  https://modernmarried.com/creatingsafety

We make time for what is important to us, even though our time is usually consumed by the things the brain labels as urgent. And the fact of the matter is, for most entrepreneurs and those of us with a lot on our plates SEX doesn't make the cut - in either category - urgent or important. But why not? Sex - pleasurable sex - is the connector of every single desirable trait we want to have in our lives and our business - don't believe me? Listen in and find out why sex should 100% be considered important.

It's easy to believe that pleasure is unattainable when we are experiencing physical pain - that perhaps it is not accessible to us. It can become a reason to shut down the possibility of pleasure in our bodies because we hurt. And boy do I know this story well. In this episode I share my personal struggles with physical pain and how I was able to find a delicious harmony of pleasure and pain in my body. Listen in to learn how to begin to experience pleasure alongside your pain or health issues.

Vacay and sex seem to go hand in hand for many couples - and why shouldn't it, it can be oh so good. In this episode we explore what happens to make vacation sex oh so good and what keeps you cumming back for more. Also how can we get a little more of that at home? Listen in as I break down some common things that happen while on vacation, the mindset behind it and how you can specifically recreate the magic in your own home.

In this special inaugural interview episode, I am joined by the founder of The Felt Sense, Rachel Sample. We discuss the importance of creating safe and welcoming spaces for conversations to emerge around sensuality and sexuality and how The Felt Sense was born. The assumptions made about women who speak openly about sexuality, erotic story telling versus porn, and of course the patriarchy of pleasure. You will be sure to fall in love with Rachel, her sassy and smart approach to sexuality and the open discourse we need in today's world.For more on Rachel, her offerings and to download her audible erotic stories please visit thefeltsense.com

Scheduling sex? Um no thanks! If that is your immediate response you are so not alone. I used to turn my nose all the way up to planning or scheduling anything especially sex. But why might this help you get your groove on? And no it isn't just about getting that date night on the calendar - it goes so much deeper than that. Listen on and find out why!

In this episode we explore what happens when we have an agenda with sex, and specifically getting to that orgasm. How does having an orgasm focused agenda effect your pleasure when you hit the sheets. Listen on to find out!

Learning to be more sexual might seem as though it should come easy. I can just flirt more and wear a sexy outfit right? Well, yes and no. In this episode we explore the nature vs nurture convo as it relates to sexuality as well what you can do to set yourself up for success as you learn how to step into your sexual prowess.

There is an underlying subtext that most of us have when we begin to take a closer look at our sex lives . . . will it get better? Is this possible for me? Am I broken/fixable? And that my friends is exactly where we start - with where YOU are in this moment and taking a closer look at how you are mentally relating to sexuality. In this episode, through relatable stories and the psychology of the mind, you will learn that knowing where you are at and then knowing how you feel/think about where you are at,  is the key to creating lasting change. Because how you relate to yourself when facing change or challenge is everything when it comes to cumming.

Ok so you have been with your lover for a while now and perhaps you are starting to feel like two ships passing in the night or like your connection has lost that passion or maybe just that sex feels super routine and not exciting. I totally get you. In this episode, you will learn how to actually desire your longtime lover again and how to bring more deliciousness into your sex life. Buckle up buttercup, time bring the sexy back to your marriage or long-time partnership.