Divorce Conversations For Women

False Sense Series False Sense of... Amicability It is far wiser to judge people by their deeds than their speech – judge their track record rather than their talk. -Rasheed Ogunlaru Do you find yourself believing what your spouse says rather than believing their actions?  This is what I call creating a false sense of amicability.  What is a false sense of amicability and how does it play out for some people in the divorce process?  It is where one person believes it is possible to avoid all conflict throughout the divorce process even though the previous track record proves otherwise. There is more emphasis on words than actions.  You want to believe that you can avoid conflict. You want your divorce to be amicable. I mean, who doesn’t, right? However, avoiding conflict may not be the answer. Avoidance is often fueled by fear of feeling uncomfortable, fear of being bullied or fear of being perceived as selfish or unreasonable. Let’s be honest, being passive is exhausting. You work tirelessly to please others