Simply Abundant Intuitive

Do you love a fight? One for a promotion, a relationship, or even just being right? Man that sounds exhausting and unnecessary. As a psychic, I received a download five years ago: Cosmic Intelligence and its definition. With Cosmic Intelligence are five archetypes: The Survivor, the Judge, The Seeker, The Dweller and The Oracle. You want to know the real intelligence in the Universe, here it is. Today I am filling you in on The Oracle. Not a perfect specimen at the top of the cosmic food chain. It's the archetype that witnesses life doing life, and may never whisper WTF again or laugh and say WTF. It’s the individual who can manifest, who can take the risk, who loves and is vulnerable….and yet not perfect. Might even be a pain in the a** and insecure too. This episode gets into what it actually looks like to expand your spiritual connection — UNDERSTANDING YOU need to find your true motivation, while being a flunky or a winner who has peace, and how an Oracle can have it all. Take the Cosmic Frequency

Ever think you should've had your big spiritual awakening by now? The one moment that everything is crystal clear? That's not how it works. Tracy's been on this path for over 30 years, and she still wakes up almost daily to something new. Some of it she's happy about. Some of it, not so much. Being highly sensitive as a kid meant she absorbed things that were never hers to carry, and spent years believing something was wrong with her because she couldn't find the flaw that she was told she possessed. This episode gets into three things she's learned along the way: what isn't yours will keep weighing on you until you name it as separate, growth isn't a hierarchy but an uncovering, and a decision made from self-love looks nothing like one made from fear. Take the Cosmic Frequency Quiz at TracyCrossley.com — Survivor, Judge, Seeker, Dweller, or Oracle. It's free. -> Click Here for the quiz

You have one. The relationship that's never worked, no matter how hard you tried to fix it, understand it, or earn your way into it. Is it Mom or Dad? Bro or Sis? Who are you stuck with? Nobody has their shit together, not even the gurus. What some people have is more awareness, and awareness isn't a badge you earn, it's honesty you can't hide from. That honesty means admitting you've spent years feeling responsible for a relationship that was never yours to fix. It means letting go of who you thought you were through someone else's eyes. Tracy shares three decades of trying to make an impossible relationship work, and how she finally became an audience member instead of a performer in it. Take the Cosmic Frequency Quiz at TracyCrossley.com — Survivor, Judge, Seeker, Dweller, or Oracle. It's free. -> Take the quiz at https://uncomplicatedstore.com/pages/cosmic-archetype

How long does it take you to decide what you’re wearing each day? What you’re having for breakfast, etc. Or any decisions that are focused on the little things I used to believe many of my choices were life or death, at least they felt that way! Don't disrupt, don't upset anyone, just go along with it. That was my 20s, and it never got me what I wanted, and that wasn’t clear either…what did I want? The ego doesn't care if you're happy. It only cares that you survive, so it drives you to win, to please, to avoid conflict, and calls it a decision. I watched my mother do this in real time — always to gain control, punish or prove a point. Unfortunately, most of it is self-sabotage, and she called it freedom. Surviving and being happy are not the same goal. Winning equals surviving. Happiness is something else entirely. Just because you won doesn’t mean you’re happy. Check out this episode on what actually matters for a happy and meaningful life. Take the Cosmic Frequency Quiz at TracyCrossley.com —

The problem child. The difficult one. Black sheep. The one who just couldn't get it right. It’s really not your story, even if you feel it deep inside. I thought it was my story for years. Being the scapegoat in your family means you have all sorts of peculiar labels that don’t belong to you. Like a pair of ill-fitting shoes, you made it work as you were hobbling along. Let’s talk about how perceptive we are as scapegoats and the spiritual path it takes you on. Cosmic Intelligence doesn’t grow without the contrast of being in survival mode. You, like myself, know the truth, so listen in to hear what may resonate with you. Take the Cosmic Frequency Quiz at TracyCrossley.com — Survivor, Judge, Seeker, Dweller, or Oracle. It's free. Tune in to learn more.

I bet you’re self-aware if you are reading this; you’re probably highly sensitive too and perceptive. Your awareness developed from observing the narcissistic parent in your life. Growing up with a personality-disordered parent doesn't just leave marks, it truly is a “normalized” operating system; the guilt, the shame, the belief that their chaos was somehow yours to fix. In having been on a spiritual journey of self discovery, and at one point wanting to stop anxiety, and other out of control feelings in Tracy’s life, this was one of the harder points of pain to get to the bottom of….. It was reflected in relationships, socially and professionally. The conditioning that made everything difficult when you believe you deserve nothing. Join Tracy as she shares a story of how the lunacy continues through a nutty story. Learn how her perspective has completely changed from feeling the familiar pull of a painful dynamic along with the blame for things that never belonged to her and into the present with the c

Being stuck in survival mode is to be a human being. Survival starts at birth, you have needs to be fulfilled or you won’t survive. Survival equals attachment. A cosmic connection utilizing spiritual intelligence has absolutely NOTHING to do with survival. Accessing it and moving into love and nonattachment is a beautiful commitment to thriving. Holding on to what you fear losing, will keep you in survival and therefore anxious, numb or depressed. The spiritual connection is always available, yet humans do the same shit, different day or year. And we haven't evolved internally from survival mode. The attachment you feel to people, money, outcomes; it's not love. Took me years to move from understanding what love is not, to actually inhabiting the space of nonattachment. Tune in to learn more. ****** Take the Cosmic Frequency Quiz and discover your archetype — Survivor, Judge, Seeker, Dweller, or Oracle. It's a mirror, not a test. And what it shows you might be the thing that changes the impossible to

What is “the thing” you are waiting for that you may not think you’re waiting for? I never thought that survival was such an overarching theme to my daily life. All that “had to” or “necessary,” was just an outpouring of survival. Life is f-ing short, if you’re like me you may not realize the amount of survival you’ve invested in rather than the good stuff. And doing the same shit, different day? That's not living. That's just waiting. Tune in if today seems like you’ve been waiting forever for “the thing!”

Are you waiting for your life to be perfect before you let yourself enjoy it? Waiting for the relationship to work out, the job to come through, the problems to resolve? Bullshit. You're wasting your life. Nobody is perfectly happy all the time. You're going to have anger, sadness, exhaustion, and happiness all mixed together. That's being human. Your circumstances might suck. Your roof might be caving in. Have fun anyway. Stop making someone else responsible for your joy. In this episode, Tracy explores: * Why mixed emotions don't stop fun * How attachment to perfect circumstances strangulates your life * The power of "this moment" vs overpromising forever * Breaking patterns by inserting different movements "Life is short. I don't give a shit if you're attached to somebody and you allow that to define your life—you still want to be fully present emotionally, physically, mentally for fun."

You think it's the person. The weight. The job. The relationship status. You think if you just solve that one thing, you'll finally feel okay inside. But here's what's actually happening: you're using that external problem to avoid the deeper feelings you don't want to touch. If you wait for everything to be okay before you have fun, you're going to be waiting till the 12th of never. Give yourself a fucking break. Start changing what you can actually change. In this episode, Tracy explores: * Why solving external problems won't fix your insides * How to change your energy and relationship to situations * Escaping your feelings vs. connecting to them * Why fun feels dangerous * A simple tool to get back in your body "It's safer to feel like shit than it is to feel great." ~ Tracy Crossley

Tracy calls you out on your bullshit–the "I don't care what people think" persona you keep alive while secretly waiting for someone to make it safe before you take a risk. She breaks down how avoidants stay stuck in a comfortable box, never developing real self-worth, always waiting for something to rescue them. A relationship, money, the universe. Something. Here's the truth: nothing is coming to rescue you from you. Tracy shares how even years into this work, she had to learn that her husband showing up didn't mean he'd clean up her shit. She still had to be in charge of herself. The way out? Tiny, emotionally risky actions where you're not attached to approval or disapproval. "I cannot tell you how many years, even in doing this work, that I still felt there would be something, some payoff, something somewhere rescuing me from me." ~ Tracy Crossley

Something new for you! Check this out–Tracy shares part of her experience and view on romantic relationships. Right out of her new book, Tracy uses clay to demonstrate an activity from her new book, Unboxed: Four Doors to Abundance. She walks through the difference between the fantasy relationship in your head and what real love actually requires—spoiler: it's messier, harder, and way more fun than you think. "Self-help is really about helping yourself to have a good f-ing time." ~ Tracy Crossley

After 800+ episodes diving deep into attachment theory, Tracy's making a shift. Freedom from Attachment is becoming UNcomplicated. Why? Even after all that work, she was still treating herself like “what’s wrong?” The age-old question lingering from birth… what needs fixing? Ya know when things are happening that suck or it seems difficult to have what you want—some of us go to “what am I doing wrong?” Or “Is it just me, and if so how do I change it so I am happy?” You can do all the work and still be waiting to arrive at some magical place where you're finally "happy." That place doesn't exist. You don’t arrive to happy, you decide to be happy even when your life ain’t all that! The whole wrong thing–most anxious avoidant people don’t realize, you're an extremist. Black or white–right or wrong. No gray. And that's exhausting as f***. Anywho–even if you’re attached or you are not where you want to be—can’t things be okay now? Instead of finding the solution, it’s to allow things inside to move, shift and

You think you're being nice. Accommodating. A good partner. But here's the truth: people-pleasing is killing your relationship. Every time you don't speak up because you're afraid of conflict, you're building distance. Every time you sacrifice and keep a mental scorecard, you're choosing resentment over love. Distance is not love. In this episode, Tracy gets raw about what really blocks intimacy—and it's not your partner's annoying habits. It's your refusal to own your feelings, speak your truth, and stop expecting the other person to make everything perfect. Using a real example from her own marriage (spoiler: it's about morning routines and walking the dogs), Tracy breaks down why speaking up isn't about changing your partner—it's about valuing yourself. In this episode, Tracy explores: * Why people-pleasing is manipulation, not love * How to speak your truth without expecting your partner to change * The difference between accommodation and sacrifice * Why you need to stop punishing yourself (and your

Are you waiting for someone to change? Expecting a relationship to finally fill that emptiness inside? You're blocking love. And you don't even know it. Most of us grew up without a manual on how to actually build a relationship. We watched dysfunction. We learned to attach instead of love. We created expectations that keep us stuck. And here's the kicker: nothing outside of you will ever fill you up. In this episode, Tracy explores: * Why your childhood conditioning blocks your ability to love as an adult * How expectations and entitlement destroy intimacy * The difference between living in reality versus fantasy about relationships * Why perfection is just another way of avoiding yourself * Her own mother as a mirror for what blocking love looks like * How to stop manipulating situations to get what you want * The four key steps to opening yourself to real love "Expectations block love. Every sense of entitlement you have blocks love." ~ Tracy Crossley This is part one of two. If you keep ending up in

Does it feel like you're constantly striving to be enough but never quite reaching that point? Maybe you've been told that the key to feeling worthy is to keep achieving more and more, but deep down, you still struggle with feelings of inadequacy. The pain of not feeling like you're good enough can impact every aspect of your life, from relationships to work and your overall well-being. If you're tired of constantly chasing validation and want to experience greater self-acceptance and inner peace, then keep listening. In this episode, you will be able to: * Embrace self-acceptance and inner peace for a more fulfilling life. * Explore the impact of not feeling enough and unlock your true potential. * Begin your journey towards self-love and find inner contentment. * Address limiting beliefs for personal transformation and growth. * Discover the importance of emotional exploration and awareness for a more balanced life. "You're here to take up space, meaning to be you, to be with who you are right now in this

Think attachment is about love? It's not. It's about greed, power, and control. Whether you're hoarding love, money, or status—it all comes from the same place: feeling empty inside and thinking that getting the thing will finally make you whole. We excuse behavior in others when we think it benefits us. We make our lives complicated with our own bureaucracy—rules and patterns that keep us stuck on a merry-go-round of grasping for control we never had. In this episode, Tracy explores: * Why attachment is really about greed and scarcity, not love * How hoarding (love, money, status) comes from feeling hollow * The difference between attachment and actual love * Living from the inside out instead of filling yourself from the outside in * Taking emotional risks instead of grasping for control "We excuse the behavior in others when we think it somehow benefits us." ~ Tracy Crossley

You know what we all do? We look at people through the filter of what we want them to be. Your parents. Your kids. Your partner. Even yourself. We're so busy projecting our expectations, our fears, our own experiences onto everyone else that we never actually see them. And here's the kicker—they can't see you either. Not really. Not if you can't see yourself. This isn't about getting people to understand you. It's about getting curious—about them, about yourself—without the agenda of trying to fix or control the outcome. In this episode, Tracy explores: * Why learning who someone is matters more than trying to change them * How your judgment of others is really about your own fear * The difference between seeing someone and wanting validation from them * Why shame keeps you separate even when you're in a relationship * What it means to feel your feelings without running from the anxiety "We judge others out of fear." ~ Tracy Crossley

Yes, there is good in all of us. But that doesn’t mean you should ignore red flags in a relationship because you want to see the good in people. And it certainly doesn’t mean it’s your job to make those red flags go away; to shine that diamond in the rough! When you tell yourself what an amazing person you are for seeing the good in someone, that’s your ego talking. It’s the false part of yourself seeing the false part of others. And it’s totally rooted in insecure attachment. Emotionally healthy people don’t sacrifice their own wellbeing for others. When you believe this martyr story and ignore or excuse red flags, you sell yourself short. You do NOT deserve a “broken” person who needs rescuing. That road leads to unhappiness because it’s an impossible journey, and you’ll never find what you’re looking for. Focusing on the other person means you’re avoiding yourself. In today’s podcast we’ll explore this story we tend to create, and how to change it. Ignoring red flags doesn’t make you noble. Let’s dispel t

Are you constantly beating yourself up for past decisions? Judging every choice you've made and wondering why you feel so isolated? Here's the truth: We judge because it was meant to keep us alive. But now we use it to tear ourselves apart. And that harsh inner critic? It's keeping you lonely as hell. When you're constantly judging yourself, you don't want anyone close because you're terrified they'll judge you too. You hide parts of yourself, thinking you're protecting yourself, but you're actually cutting yourself off from real connection. In this episode, Tracy explores: * Why judgment was meant for survival, not self-torture * How harsh self-judgment creates emotional isolation * Why everything is actually neutral until you assign meaning to it * The difference between having an experience and judging an experience * How to catch your judgment patterns before they spiral * Why your past "mistakes" aren't mistakes at all "Everything is neutral. It's what we assign to it, what we judge it to be. That's