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Graeme Wood (@gcaw) is a political science lecturer at Yale University, a national correspondent for The Atlantic, and author of The Way of the Strangers: Encounters with the Islamic State. The Cheat Sheet for Understanding ISIS: How does ISIS view itself in the context of the modern world? What is the allure of ISIS to educated, professional, and otherwise "normal" members of society? How does ISIS vet potential candidates, and in what ways has recruitment changed over the past few years? What has ISIS learned from Al-Qaeda's failures? How does a western reporter like Graeme Wood persuade terrorists and terrorist sympathizers to talk to him? And so much more... A gift from the heart is always worth giving -- like farm-to-table and artisan florist bouquets from bouqs.com. Art of Charm listeners enter promo code CHARM to get 20% off! Want to wash two loads and dry two loads of laundry at the same time? The new Wi-Fi enabled Samsung FlexWash and FlexDry washer and dryer pair can do it -- and you can get it no

Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable -- to make you more magnetic and effective -- that you can implement right away. This week, we've got a little lesson in art history: Katsushika Hokusai's woodblock print The Great Wave and how it was influenced by -- and went on to influence -- art from around the globe in spite of its creation during Japan's most isolated period. Let's get to it! The Cheat Sheet: Do you think you're impervious to outside ideas -- positive or negative? Consider Katsushika Hokusai's 1829 woodblock print, Under the Wave off Kanagawa (also known as The Great Wave). This famous piece was created in Japan during a period of intense isolation -- yet it prominently displays European influence from color choice to composition. In turn, The Great Wave went on to influence artists around the globe -- again, in spite of Japan's dedication to isolation at this time in history. Influence is never something we can fight, but it's something we can b

Daniel DiPiazza (@rich20something) is the founder of Rich20Something -- an education platform that teaches millennials how to build businesses they care about -- and author of Rich20Something: Ditch Your Average Job, Start an Epic Business, and Score the Life You Want. The Cheat Sheet: The psychology of entrepreneurialism -- the social media hype vs. the reality of starting your own business. The Seven Maxims of Entrepreneurship. The dip -- how to bounce back from an entrepreneurial slump. Making the transition from freelancer to entrepreneur to CEO. The surprising lesson Tupac can teach struggling entrepreneurs. And so much more... Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Show notes at https://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/daniel-dipiazza-rich20something-bonus/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTu

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let's cut to it! In this episode: How do you make room in your life for personal growth when you have an ill parent who needs your care? Regrets? We've had a few... Wondering if your grieving friend still needs support past the six-week point? Immersed in the culture and language of a foreign land, how do you begin the path to fluency when your brain's first instinct is to tune out what it doesn't understand? The friend zone may not be the vacation destination you anticipated, but maybe it's the vacation destination you need. "Boning the same sex does not a lifestyle make." Where do we stand on Internet security issues? [Related: No Place to Hide: Edward Snowden, the NSA, and the U.S. Surveillance State by Glenn Greenwald, the documentary Citizenfour, Jordan's VPN recommendation, and Jason's PIA recommendation] Quick shoutouts to David Teles (good luck with your e

Andy Molinsky (@andymolinsky) is a professor of organizational behavior and psychology at Brandeis University's International Business School and author of Global Dexterity: How to Adapt Your Behavior Across Cultures without Losing Yourself in the Process and Reach: A New Strategy to Help You Step Outside Your Comfort Zone, Rise to the Challenge, and Build Confidence. The Cheat Sheet: You know it's important to step outside your comfort zone for the sake of growth -- but are you doing it regularly? Understand why it's hard to act outside your comfort zone, how you (perhaps unknowingly) act to avoid stepping out of your comfort zone, and what it takes to successfully act outside of your comfort zone. Learn the five psychological roadblocks to exploring outside of your comfort zone. Discover the three key tools for systematically attacking your limitations in order to grow: conviction, customization, and clarity. Harness the power of props (or kangaroo costumes, as the case may be). And so much more... Are yo

Jim Kwik (@jimkwik) is a brain coach with clients including Virgin, Nike, Zappos, SpaceX, NYU, GE, Fox Studios, Harvard, and Singularity University. He joins us to share tips for developing amazing learning, memory, and recall skills. "If knowledge is power, learning is your superpower." -Jim Kwik The Cheat Sheet: Why faster learning and meta learning is a force multiplier. Strategies for learning anything faster. How we can increase our recall and retention. An amazing set of principles to help us learn and remember names and other data or ideas. How Jim Kwik ended up teaching his superpowers to other superheroes and how we can develop those superpowers for ourselves. And so much more... Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Learn over 500 subjects (no tests or homework!) at The Great Courses Plus -- The Art of Charm listeners get one month free here! We Are Podcast 2017 is happening in Brisbane, Aust

Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable -- to make you more magnetic and effective -- that you can implement right away. This week, Dilbert's Scott Adams rejoins us to talk about a concept called skill stacking -- and how it can put you in the top one percent of performers in any area (or mix of areas, as the case may be). Let's get to it! The Cheat Sheet: It's not good enough that you're really good at one thing -- because there are probably a lot of people who are also really good at that one thing. But if you can pick up other skills that complement this one thing -- like public speaking, persuasion, communicating, and writing -- you've got an edge. You're skill stacking. According to Scott, every skill you acquire doubles your odds of success. Scott says he's not a great artist, a great writer, the funniest person in the room, or a stellar businessperson, but his skill stacking of these talents makes him a unique force in the market. Did you know that Di

If you're new to The Art of Charm Podcast, this isn't a great place to start. Most of our content is more in-depth and longer format. Let's cut to it! In this episode: Ben Franklin was good at dealing with rivals who tried to show him up in public, and you can be too. [Related: The Ben Franklin effect] How should a "real" man behave in the workplace? How do you make a decision when both options are great? What's the key to overcoming a physical insecurity? [Related: What is nystagmus?] Some listener feedback for Can't Take Criticism from Fan Mail Friday #98. Are there any advantages or opportunities for people who speak outrageously unique languages -- like Kiribati? Or Klingon? Quick shoutouts to Dave Schudel and NASCAR's Jeff Gordon! [Related: AoC Toolbox episodes found here.] Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com! Check out Jordan's (@TheArtofCharm) other show: The Forbes List, and Jason's (@jpdef) other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Do

Vanessa Van Edwards (@vvanedwards) is a behavioral investigator, body language expert, returning guest, and author of Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People. "I think it is important to understand how much space you take up in the world indicates to others and yourself how confident you feel." -Vanessa Van Edwards The Cheat Sheet: How can nonverbal communication affect the first impression you make to someone -- even if they're just hearing your voice over a telephone call? Explore the science of popularity -- what makes the cool kids so cool? Understand the difference between social attraction and romantic attraction -- and why they both matter. Find out what we can learn about people from their photographs -- especially on dating sites. What interesting patterns turn up in researching episodes of reality television shows Blind Date and Shark Tank? And so much more... Save money on travel and get a free Amazon gift card every time you use Upside! Enter the code FORBES at checkout here and you're

Sarah Robb O'Hagan (@ExtremeSRO) is an executive, activist, entrepreneur, and author of Extreme You: Step Up. Stand Out. Kick Ass. Repeat. "Almost anyone who's enormously successful will be able to point to epic fails in their life that became the cornerstone of their future success." -Sarah Robb O'Hagan The Cheat Sheet for Extreme You: Thrill to tales of epic failures, embarrassing screw-ups, and glorious rebounds. Find out why it doesn't matter if you know what you're good at or what goals to pursue. Discover how to turn failures into fuel and how to get out of a rut when you've been laid off, fired, or feel like you're going nowhere. Learn how to stand out in your field and at work -- in the right way. Understand why and how successful people are constantly rebuilding themselves -- and how we can do the same. And so much more... If you're a business owner, did you know your payments solution can be an engine for growth? Rethink payments with Braintree. Find out more at braintreepayments.com/forbes! To tr

Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable -- to make you more magnetic and effective -- that you can implement right away. In this one, we talk about renegotiating the unwritten rules that allow others to exploit our anxiety and explore what we can do to put a stop to spreading this anxiety to others. Let's get to it! The Cheat Sheet to Stop Spreading Anxiety: While it's well known that misery loves company, company doesn't tend to love misery. When you're sharing your problems with others (and vice versa), is it in hopes of finding a solution, or just venting and spreading anxiety in an unproductive way? The correlation between reality and anxiety is tenuous. So be aware that some people do it unknowingly, while others exploit our anxiety for power, attention, or money. Like a virus, anxiety is spread more easily than ever in the age of social media. How often do you find yourself falling prey to it and passing it along to others -- it happens to all of us if

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let's cut to it! In this episode: Sometimes it's easier to know who's not "The One" than who is. Does Jordan talk too much about himself? Some listener feedback for Lydia from FMF #105 about remaining professional in the non-profit volunteer world. Our policy on "controversial" interviews explained. [Related: How a Gang of Skinheads Forever Changed the Course, The Oprah Winfrey Show] How do you seamlessly continue mingling at a social event when you find yourself stuck in conversation with that guy? What's something you think about all the time that you believe makes you crazy compared to other people? Quick shout outs to Mary Tesone and the USA Wrestling Team! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com! Check out Jordan's (@TheArtofCharm) other show: The Forbes List, and Jason's (@jpdef) other

Justin Wren (@TheBigPygmy) is an MMA juggernaut with the body of a Viking and the heart of a Pygmy. He's also the author of Fight for the Forgotten: How a Mixed Martial Artist Stopped Fighting for Himself and Started Fighting for Others. "Charity can be great. But opportunity is always better." -Justin Wren The Cheat Sheet: Slavery may have ended just over a hundred and fifty years ago in the United States, but Pygmy tribes in the Congo are among populations still enslaved today -- in fact, there are more slaves worldwide in 2017 than at any other time in history. With land they've inhabited for generations stolen from under them, Pygmies are considered animals by the landowners and forced into a self-perpetuating cycle of slavery. Now, MMA master Justin Wren fights for the rights of these forgotten people by helping them buy their own land, source their own clean water, and become self-sufficient. How does a clinically depressed, bullied kid become a successful mixed martial artist who raises money and awar

Laila Ali (@TheRealLailaAli) is a world-champion boxer, entrepreneur, and author of Reach! Finding Strength, Spirit, and Personal Power. The Cheat Sheet: What made Laila become the only boxer out of Muhammad Ali's nine children? Why do fighters trash talk (and does Laila regret any trash talking she did during her fighting career)? How did Laila make the choice to pivot from an aspiring nail salon tycoon to a world-class boxer? What was it like growing up around fame, and how does her father's legacy still affect her? How did her father react when she got serious about boxing? And so much more... If you're a business owner, did you know your payments solution can be an engine for growth? Rethink payments with Braintree. Find out more at braintreepayments.com/forbes! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Free yourself from typing notes, reports, and documents by going with the transcriptionists we trust

Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable -- to make you more magnetic and effective -- that you can implement right away. Dilbert's Scott Adams rejoins us to talk about using the body to gauge ideas the brain thinks up during the creative process -- and sort what works from what doesn't. "You don't have anything if you haven't moved somebody's body." -Scott Adams The Cheat Sheet for Thinking with Your Body: When trying to create something, Scott uses his body as a sensor to gauge what works and what doesn't. Scott has a process where he quickly cycles through a series of ideas. A lot of them may be good, but it's the ones that elicit a physical reaction -- usually a chuckle -- that stick. "The x factor of any kind of creative effort -- any kind of art, any kind of product -- is that little thing that just makes you go, 'Ah!' Like you feel it." Scott gives the unboxing of an Apple product as an example. Every little facet of the experience is carefully designe

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let's cut to it! In this episode: Do you know anybody who's a jack of all trades? Gabriel Mizrahi joins us, and he's a jack of one trade -- which may seem underachieving to some, but let's be honest: it's still better than being a jack of no trades. When making cuts to your circle of friends, how do you discern between toxic people who take advantage of your good nature and real friends who are simply in a bad place and need your help? [Related: How to Cut Toxic People out of Your Life] The details of your sexual orientation seem to have a record of stalling promotion once discovered by your higher-ups; how do you stay true to yourself without hurting your career prospects? [Related: Neal Brennan | 3 Mics (Episode 601)] How do you convey warmth to others when you have a resting angry/serious face? How do you deal with the fallout when your business partner turns o

R. Douglas Fields (@RDouglasFields1) is a neuroscientist based in Bethesda, MD and author of Why We Snap, Understanding the Rage Circuit in Your Brain. The Cheat Sheet for Understanding Rage and Why We Snap: What is rage, and what evolutionary purpose does it serve? What makes ordinary people "snap" -- that is, react violently when triggered by rage? Can we control our urge to snap when rage overtakes us? Understand the nine triggers of rage. LIFEMORTS: the mnemonic that helps us identify when rage intrudes so we can get a rational handle on it preemptively. And so much more... If you're a business owner, did you know your payments solution can be an engine for growth? Rethink payments with Braintree. Find out more at braintreepayments.com/forbes! Wearing a stylish timepiece shouldn't break the bank. Art of Charm listeners can find out why MVMT is the fastest-growing watch company in the world for 15% off with free shipping and free returns here! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whop

Scott Adams (@ScottAdamsSays) is a trained hypnotist, the creator of Dilbert, and author of the upcoming book Win Bigly: Persuasion in a World Where Facts Don't Matter. He also predicted a 2016 presidential win for Trump -- for reasons others didn't see. "Check your facts." -Scott Adams The Cheat Sheet: Did Donald Trump win the election because his persuasion skills include elements of hypnosis? Why is visual persuasion so effective? How do we spot the moment when people are trying to influence us? How is pacing and leading used for persuasion? We revisit the copy machine effect and learn a new one: the McGurk effect. And so much more... Learn over 500 subjects (no tests or homework!) at The Great Courses Plus -- The Art of Charm listeners get one month free here! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Free yourself from typing notes, reports, and documents by going with the transcriptionists we trust h

In this Minisode Monday, we address why graduating from school into the workforce isn't a pass to stop learning. The world is constantly changing, and the true professional is a perpetual student. Understand why learning and growth should be seen as a prerequisite for success -- not a distraction. The Cheat Sheet - Learning Is Earning Entering the workforce after graduating with a diploma or certificate or degree is no excuse to stop learning. In fact, the savvy and successful know it's just the beginning. A lawyer legally needs to keep learning just to keep his or her license, but anyone who wants to be good at what they do should follow this example -- whatever their field. In short: if you want to succeed at any level, you're never "done" learning. Learning and growth should be seen as a prerequisite for success -- not a distraction. How many books did you read last year? People at the top of their field could probably rattle off a dozen. But the average for someone who thinks they're done with learning?

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let's cut to it! In this episode: At what point are you changing too much of yourself for someone else? Is it worth moving to a place you don't like to benefit your career -- at the expense of just about everything else? [Related: Roy Wood Jr. | Father Figure (Episode 593)] If you had to choose just one skill that you would live / deliver well, what would it be and why? Has this podcast had an impact on your life? Please let us know! [Related: Kimberly Seltzer | How to Find a Therapist (Bonus)] How does body language differ in people who grew up under oppressive regimes (e.g., behind the Iron Curtain or North Korea)? How do you know if you're asking too much from someone? Shoutouts to Blueprint and his team at Super Duty Tough Work Podcast and Chelsea the yacht attendant currently navigating the waters of Central and South America! Have any questions, comments, or