The Chick Whisperer Podcast

Co-Host Marcus Oakey (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/marcus) Is it true that 'life goes on, long after the thrill of living is gone'? Men have a weird relationship with fun, don't we? Few of us would openly deny we like to have fun, but when it comes to CREATING fun with women we worry about coming off as unattractive...either by being immature or even feminine. My returning guest Marcus Oakey from the UK is a charisma coach. Charisma is a nebulous and even complex term to define for many people. But at its core, it's all about driving emotion. As it turns out, having fun and BEING fun are both closely tied to charismatic personality types. But being boring, gunfighter serious all the time or flat-out cranky is never attractive. We instinctively know this, so why can't we as men lighten up? I present as evidence how many first date conversations turn dark and negative...with our full consent. That leads to the familiar theme of taking oneself too seriously. Stay tuned for new and unique ways we do that...all

Co-Host Sarrah Rose (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/sarrah) Many men think women don't like sex, yet they also believe it when they're told women will leave them because of BAD sex. It seems the best defense against confronting this confusion is to simply rock your woman's world in the bedroom. My friend and queen of Tantric Activation, Sarrah Rose, returns...as proof positive women can have a luridly explicit conversation about sex without batting an eyelash. First, to establish 'street cred', Sarrah acknowledges the kind of sex that keeps MEN around. Stay tuned for the ensuing secrets to a great blowjob by a woman. But seriously, how often do women end relationships because of bad sex? As it turns out, there's often a BIG difference between how men and women define that. Ironically, most men think they're good at sex, while according to women they're not. Find out why porn serves as a completely inadequate lesson on how to have great sex...and it's not for any of the reasons you've heard before. Meanwhile,

Co-Host Dr. Joshua Estrin (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/estrin) As political dogma fast becomes new paradigm for religion in this culture, the more power the masses are willing to cede to the legal and judicial systems. But 'true faith' in government comes at what cost to our freedom...especially in our sex lives? Well, this episode is basically about what can only be called 'sexual libertarianism'. The bigger picture, however, is all about losing fear-based mindsets and thinking for oneself. And just to throw a wrench in the works, my guest Dr. Josh Estrin is an openly gay man. Although that's unusual (but not unprecedented) for this show, prepare to be amazed by how little the nature of our respective sex lives really matters relative to the importance of keeping government OUT. The resulting conversation will go down as exactly the kind of honest AND positive one gay and straight people need to have more of. Sure, we talk about why abortion isn't necessarily a religious argument, how 'choice' should appl

Co-Host Cole Rodgers (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/cole) So many of us as men complain about our WAGs, and guess what? Our women end up remaining exactly like what they keep complaining about. What if it's possible WE have something to do with that? My guest Cole Rodgers the the author of School Of Man: The Man's Guide To Living, Loving and Legacy, and he's all about men and women being better together than apart. After all, isn't that how it should be? We kick the show off by acknowledging two keys to happiness in this life. Without them, the rest of this conversation is all for naught. Next, what are the exact ways post-modernity has allegedly made our lives 'better', but at the devastating cost of really feeling ALIVE...especially in relationships with the women we love? The first step to really maximizing partnership with a great woman should be obvious to us as men, but unfortunately it often isn't. Cole reveals it. What is the undeniable link between today's 'convenience culture' and realization of th

Co-Host Kim Ades (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/frameofmind) What is 'resilience', anyway? That word has been coming up more than ever before lately. Well, it's a bit of a specialty for Toronto's own Kim Ades, head of Frame of Mind Coaching and my guest for this episode. What have the last two pandemic years taught us about being resilient? Why do certain people thrive even after immense personal trauma or tragedy, while others wilt even in the face of relatively lightweight challenges? What is the difference between these victims versus the victors? What's up with the new apparent push in society to embrace victimhood, if not flat-out celebrate it? Is that really helping anyone? Are people who troll political Twitter looking for fights MORE resilient than the rest of us...or is that an illusion? Next, stay tuned for the unfortunate buzzword that when used almost always indicates profound lack of resilience. Do 'first world problems' rob us of our resilience? What keeps talented and driven individuals from r

Co-Host Laurie Singer (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/laurie) My guest Laurie Singer is a board-certified therapist who specializes in applied behavioral analysis. She literally wrote the book on obsessions and fetishes, which makes her the perfect guest for this long-overdue topic. According to Laurie, you have to learn to LIVE with your fetishes and obsessions. But wait a minute...doesn't that depend on whether they're socially acceptable and not harmful to others? So what IS a fetish, anyway? How is it different from an obsession? And is it necessarily an abnormality that needs to be fixed? Is it fair to ask men who prefer a certain kind of woman if they're fetishizing them? For example, is men having an 'Asian fetish' really a thing? Is it weird to think women's feet are sexy? What are some other feminine physical features we might think strange to find sexy, yet many more men do than we think? Not to be outdone, Laurie shares some truly unique stories about real-life cases she's encountered. And hey, wha

Co-Host Dr. Joan Rosenberg (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/joan) We as men play all sorts of mental tricks on ourselves when our confidence level is down. That's truly a new and powerful take on the somewhat shop-worn topic of confidence, thanks to my guest Dr. Joan Rosenberg. Confidence and resiliency, she has found, has everything to do with your ability to handle unpleasant emotions. First off, discover how the 'Rosenberg Reset' can get you focused and immediately more confident in just 90 seconds. Next, Dr. Joan reveals how we distract or disconnect from feelings rather than allowing ourselves to feel them...resulting in a hit to our confidence every time. What are the 8 'confidence keys'? And what's up with the human tendency to 'layer feelings' as either an emotional distraction or a protection mechanism? How do we trick ourselves into 'transmuting' our feelings when we're not feeling all that confident? Why is it so many of us as men not only don't take criticism well, we don't take compliments well ei

Co-Host Dr. Judson Brandeis (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/judson) One thing we've never done in over 300 episodes is get a medical doctor's take on sexual attractiveness to women. So it was on that premise that we opened this episode, but it ended up being much more than that. My guest Dr. Judson Brandeis proceeded to reveal a myriad of ways we as men can reach peak sexual performance, literally becoming better sexual athletes. After a brief discussion of how to have more sexual stamina downstairs, we turned our attention to how your diet and alcohol consumption affect matters. If we shouldn't eat carbs, and we shouldn't load up on cholesterol...what's left to eat? Next, what are the primal elements of sexual attraction relative to our overall health? Why are modern-day men so bad at keeping our testosterone levels up? What's up with us as men being so complacent about exactly those elements of personal health that make us sexually attractive? How does the media assault on "toxic masculinity" trick us psych

Co-Host Zan Perrion (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/zan) Post-modern culture is pitting men and women against each other more and more as time passes. So who is left to make the case for the glory of men and women having the hots for each other? It seems like a weird question, but my friend Zan Perrion and I are left to stand in the gap. Zan loves women more than any man I've ever met (even myself), and proves it every day of his life. Listen in as he rekindles the case for masculinity and femininity as divinely-inspired intelligent design. Why are so many men afraid to express their natural attraction to women nowadays, especially given that heterosexual women WANT heterosexual men? What should our response be to this trend of aggressive fighting strategy toward women who hate men, or even men who hate women? Are you some sort of simp for having positive regard for women? Where did that fear even come from? What if our biggest complaints about interacting with women are really nothing more than weak excuses?

Co-Host Emily McKay (https://www.deservewhatyouwant.com) As the lyrics of one of Tyler Childers' songs say, 'There is hurt you can cause that time alone cannot heal'. When it comes to our interactions with women, a breathtaking amount of that pain is caused by what we say...or what SHE says. And when we get into a relationship, the stakes get even higher. Emily and I get straight to the point in this episode, first addressing the weird childhood refrain that 'sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me'. So then, what about childhood? How does what our parents--and maybe even teachers--tell us form our views of and expectations toward future romantic relationship? What's the truth about how early-stage communication between men and women can deeply impact BOTH participants, both in the short-term and the longer-term? What are the differences between how men and women tend to process conversational conflict...and the surprising similarities? What are the patterns that lead to couples blur

Co-Host Allana Pratt (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/pratt) The last time Allana was on, she spoke memorably about how a woman recharges a warrior's masculine energy with femininity. So when I started considering the topic of men and women being in partnership with each other rather than being adversarial, she was the first co-host who came to mind. And sure enough, this show delivers. Let's face it, there's just way too much out there about men and women lacking trust for each other, or even flat out not liking each other. Yet, if you think about it, the natural order of things dictates that men and women are designed to be together. So what happened here in post-modernity? What has contributed to the rampant blame game between men and women? What patterns of failur result in us thinking the other gender is no darned good? How has our 21st-century culture of self-absorption impacted relationships? Is our wife or girlfriend really OURS? Listen in as Allana makes a solid case for partnership being better than

Let's face it. There are a whole lot of things we are doing--either sins of commission or omission--that are shortening our lifespan as men. Not coincidentally, some of these same questionable habits are also making us less attractive to women and less likely to get ahead in our careers. Yet, we stubbornly refuse to modify our course...even when we know we're not doing ourselves any darned good. But here's the thing, the truly insidious part is we're probably also doing things that we have NO IDEA are killing us. Enter my guest, David Medansky. Now sure, like me David lost 50 pounds. But see, he doesn't believe for a second that dieting as you know it is good for you at all. For example, how are we supposed to differentiate between good, solid wisdom and convincing marketing tactics? Do you really have to get older and slower by default? What is the one simple, easy and cheap thing we can do immediately to be healthier all around and live longer, yet the vast majority of American men do NOT do? Despite the ti

Co-Host Tommy Breedlove (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/legendary) Without rites of passage, we aren't as well-equipped to face the reality of adult life. This used to be a foregone conclusion in cultures all over the world, for both men and women. There was a clear rite of passage from childhood into adulthood. But such has become purely symbolic in Western culture, if not rendered completely irrelevant. What happened to rites of passage? And more importantly, WHY did they all but disappear? And what has the impact been on our lives? My guest is bestselling author Tommy Breedlove. He is not only returning for his third appearance on this show, he's an erstwhile member of the board for the Rites of Passage Council. We have bar mitzvahs, graduations and weddings...but why do those ceremonial rites of passage fall short of really turning boys into men? Indeed, elaborate and far more intimidating ones are still a big part of cultures like the Maasai. What are rites of passage meant to teach us...and how are they

Co-Host Kenneth Play (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/kenneth) My guest Kenneth Play has been called The World's Greatest Sex Hacker by numerous media outlets. Whatever you can imagine is possible sexually with women, he has probably experienced it. In particular, Kenneth is well-versed in how to bring out a woman's sexual fantasies. Dating back to Nancy Friday's book My Secret Garden, it has been well established that women typically are full of deranged, horny, dirty thoughts. But most of us as men never lift the veil to see what's truly under there. I mean, we usually won't even face our OWN sexual fantasies, right? What are some of the most basic and common female sexual fantasies? Why is taboo such a turn on...yet it's more common to fantasize about such things than we think? And why do men talk about all the chicks they're bagging, or even their penis size...but never about the techniques they use? Meanwhile, how do women talk about their sex lives with other women? Why is any talk about sexual fantasy p

Co-Hosts Dr. Michael and Dr. Barbara Grossman (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/grossman) You've probably heard that those who are in a long-term relationship live longer. Well, my guests are specialists in that area. In this episode, they reveal exactly what we can and should do to make sure that happens. Can you believe there was an 80 year study to find out the truth behind this? What are the baseline rules for making sure you're in the right relationship with the right woman to promote longevity? What if we're already in a relationship that is likely the opposite of that? Even though the premise of this episode isn't completely gender-specific, why is it especially pertinent to men?How do maturity and responsibility intersect with all of this? As we go through different life stages during a relationship, how does the dynamic change that keeps us thriving over the long haul? What is the medical science perspective on all of that? How do menopause--and yes andropause--affect the power of our relationship to i

Co-Host Julian Hayes II (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/julian) Remember that old John Cougar Mellencamp song that says, 'Oh yeah, life goes on...long after the thrill of living is gone'? Yeah well, I never liked that song. Now on the other hand, the saying, 'Old truckers never die, they just get a new Peterbilt'? That I like. Hence this episode with my new friend Julian Hayes II from The Art Of Fitness And Life. Julian is an erstwhile medical student who is now on a mission to declare the ART of a long, healthy, fulfilling life rather than simply the science behind it. In this episode, we focus on how to be active and enthusiastic well into maturity instead of being that cranky 'get off my lawn' guy. Listen in as he reveals how the root causes of most health issues--and even most dating and relationship issues--are LIFE issues. How is aging better tied to not just the left-brained aspects of health, but possibly the right-brained ones as well? What is 'healthy narcissism', is it really a thing, and can it ac

Co-Host Lia Holmgren (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/lia) Far too many men somehow believe that women don't enjoy sex as much as we do. Further, they believe if sex happens, she's going to want to lock him down into a long-term relationship. Well, my guest Lia Holmgren is the author of a book FOR WOMEN on how to have empowered casual sex. In this episode, she will delight you not only with her mellifluous Eastern European accent, but with her decidedly unexpected take on women and sex. So, does Lia think women should reclaim the word 'slut'? Where exactly did the long history of slut-shaming women originate...and why? Are men simply possessive and jealous, or is there a more primal vestige of our caveman days going on there? Listen in as Lia perfectly describes just how screwed up sexual dynamics have become in this day and age...and exactly why. Hint: Only a few angry people made it this way, NOT the vast majority. So how did we as men convince ourselves women don't like sex? What's the uncomfortable truth t

Co-Host Dr. Mark Goulston (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/kindness) Nobody I know walks his talk better than my returning guest, Dr. Mark Goulston. What makes that particularly amazing is he is a world-class expert in conflict resolution and the inventor of the aptly named 'surgical empathy'. In this episode, Mark and I tackle the fascinating trend proliferating pro-masculinity circles of embracing 'toxic masculinity' rather than fighting it. Often, what comes with that argument is the weird assertion that kindness is not manly...and worse, that women find it straight-up unattractive. But here's the thing, isn't being kind different than being the dreaded 'Mr. Nice Guy'? What if our concept of kindness is indeed screwed up to begin with? Listen to the pure wisdom of Mark's five steps to being assertive without being a knucklehead. Thrill to his simple equation for channeling aggression properly. Prepare to be blown away by his radically simple way to get the best of bullies without losing your cool. Best of a

Co-Host Dominey Drew (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/drew) Who knows how or why it took so many episodes to address this topic, but guilt and shame are probably the biggest hurdles we as men face as we seek to get better with women. But what ARE guilt and shame? And what is the difference between them? My guest Dominey Drew has been working with men and women for years now, all with the aim of increasing purpose, fulfillment and joy. She graciously agreed to help me address this sticky but important topic, and believe it or not we somehow made it fun. Listen in as we first address the biggest irony surrounding guilt, shame and masculinity. Next, we talk about how and why the biggest reasons men feel guilt and shame are often the most illogical ones. What is the biggest stumbling block we as men face in getting rid of unnecessary guilt and shame? But wait...is there ever any GOOD reason to feel these emotions, and what should we do about that? Why can pride and gratitude get supplanted by guilt and shame, depe

Co-Host Benjamin Bequer (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/beqoming) Several years ago my guest Benjamin Bequer seemed like he had it all together, at least on the outside. But underneath was perpetual insecurity and anxiety, as is the case for many of us. That all manifested itself in strange ways, with counterintuitive consequences. Not until he discovered Ayahuasca did he start to turn everything around...culminating in the right relationship with the right woman for him. Discover how Benjamin's story feels like a 'conversion experience', yet comes about in a way that's unusual to most in Western culture. So what is Ayahuasca, how did Benjamin discover it, and what transformative meaning did it have for him? What is Ayahuasca's active ingredient, what does it do for you, and what's the shocking connection between it and something miraculous your body does naturally? How does it help give potential clarity to both purpose and relationships? Why is it that fear seems to rule so many people's lives, especially o