Marriage Radio: Helping Your Marriage

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Have you heard of the so-called “1000 Mile Rule”? It’s a trend spreading online that suggests if you’re more than a thousand miles away from your spouse, you can cheat guilt-free. Sounds shocking, right? In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, explains why this idea is destructive and why you should avoid it at all costs.For over 30 years, Marriage Helper has worked with more than 25,000 couples, helping them restore their marriages and rebuild lasting commitment. In this episode, Kimberly breaks down:✅ What the “1000 Mile Rule” actually is and where it came from ✅ Why ideas like this weaken trust and commitment in marriage ✅ The truth about monogamy and long-lasting love, backed by experts like Dr. Helen Fisher and Dr. John Gottman ✅ How to build stronger connection and intimacy with your spouse instead of looking outside your marriageAt Marriage Helper, we know what makes marriages thrive—and it’s not free passes, open marriages, or outside flings. True

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Are you struggling to save your marriage and wondering where to begin? In this video, I’ll walk you through 5 mindset shifts to save your marriage—practical and proven ways to reframe how you think, act, and grow in your relationship.These five shifts cover the essential questions of who, what, when, where, and why. You’ll discover:Why doing this for yourself (not just your spouse) is criticalWhat strategies actually work to rebuild connection instead of quick-fix gimmicksHow long it really takes to restore a marriage in crisisWhere your focus should be to break free from negativity and resentmentWhy your deeper motivation will keep you going when things feel impossibleDrawing from psychology, performance research, and Marriage Helper’s decades of experience, this video will give you the clarity and encouragement you need to take the right steps forward.If you want a stronger marriage, it begins with your mindset. These shifts can make the difference between staying stuck and

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Are you noticing patterns in the way you and your spouse talk to each other that leave you feeling distant, frustrated, or unheard? In this video, we’ll unpack 3 signs of unhealthy communication in your marriage—and what you can do to stop them before they cause lasting damage.Drawing from leading research and years of experience at Marriage Helper, we’ll walk through: ✅ Disrespectful communication—why criticism, belittling, or eye-rolling can erode trust. ✅ Avoidance and isolation—why “never fighting” isn’t healthy and how conflict can actually build intimacy. ✅ Jokes at your spouse’s expense—how sarcasm and mockery damage closeness and connection.If you’ve wondered whether the way you communicate is creating distance instead of closeness, this video will give you the clarity you need. You’ll also learn practical steps to replace unhealthy patterns with healthier, more loving ways of talking with your spouse.At Marriage Helper, we believe communication can either tear a marr

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!You don’t have to change who you are to look and feel your best. In this video, we’ll talk about how you can become more physically attractive without changing your personality, values, or authenticity.You’ll learn simple, practical ways to enhance your natural appearance—things anyone can do to boost confidence, posture, and energy—while still staying true to yourself. We’ll cover tips for improving your style, taking care of your body, and showing up in a way that makes people notice you for the right reasons.If you’ve ever felt like “attractive” means you have to fit someone else’s mold, this video will show you a different approach: how to become more physically attractive without changing the core of who you are. Because true attractiveness isn’t about pretending—it’s about highlighting what’s already great about you.Watch until the end for practical steps you can start using today to look better, feel better, and attract the right kind of attention—while being 100% you.

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!If your marriage is falling apart, you’re paying a high price—and it’s called the Pain Tax. In just minutes, Dr. Joe Beam will show you the simple Push-Pull Principle that can stop the hurt, break the cycle, and start drawing your spouse back toward you.This isn’t theory—it’s the same principle that’s helped thousands of couples around the world turn their marriages around. Whether it’s infidelity, addiction, disconnection, or constant fighting, this could be the turning point you’ve been praying for.If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!You betrayed your spouse—and now you're living with the crushing weight of guilt, fear, and regret. Whether it was a one-time mistake or a long-term affair, you're asking the one question that keeps you up at night: Can I save my marriage... and if so, how?In this video, Dr. Joe Beam—founder of Marriage Helper and a man who has personally walked the painful path of infidelity—shares the exact steps thousands of people have taken to rebuild trust, restore connection, and ultimately save their marriage after betrayal.You’ll learn:Why affairs happen (and why understanding this matters)The 5 proven steps to begin healing and restoring your marriageHow to take full responsibility without excusesWhy ending contact with your affair partner is essentialWhat transparency and personal transformation really look likeHow to rebuild emotional and physical intimacy over timeDr. Beam has helped thousands of couples recover from even the deepest wounds, and this video is your first

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Your spouse cheated—but now they want to come back. Can you ever truly forgive? Can passion and intimacy return after betrayal? In this powerful video, Dr. Joe Beam walks you through the raw emotions, fears, and questions that surface when you decide to take your spouse back after an affair.You’ll discover:Why fear and anger can affect your sex life after infidelityHow to avoid “spectatoring” and comparisons that destroy intimacyThe critical role of forgiveness in rebuilding passionHow to create a sexual and emotional connection stronger than beforeWhether you’re wrestling with hurt, struggling to restore trust, or wondering if passion can ever return, this video offers hope—and practical steps to rebuild your marriage from the inside out.If you’re ready to fight for your marriage, we can help. Join thousands of couples who have saved their relationship through our 3-day Marriage Helper Workshop.If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: Th

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Have you found yourself in love with someone who isn’t your spouse? You feel alive, seen, deeply connected—and yet... you’re married.This intense, overwhelming emotion has a name: limerence.In this video, Dr. Joe Beam speaks directly to the heart of what you’re experiencing.He explains the science, the soul connection, and the emotional rollercoaster that makes it feel so real—because it is real. But it’s also something that won’t last forever.

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Have you ever heard the devastating words, "I love you, but I'm not in love with you"? This phrase can feel like an emotional earthquake, like something broke inside your chest, shattering the life you knew and leaving you stunned and confused. If you've heard it, you are not alone, you are not crazy, and this is NOT the end of your marriage.When your spouse says "I love you, but I'm not in love with you," they are not saying they hate you or have stopped caring. Instead, they are often expressing that the feeling of being in love—the intense emotional pull, the thrill, the spark, the butterflies, and infatuation—has faded or gone. Most people define love by these intense emotions, but these feelings were never meant to last forever. The version of love your spouse might be mourning was simply not sustainable.What could be fueling this feeling of disconnection? Your spouse might be comparing your steady, imperfect love to a fantasy in their

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Are you living with your spouse but feel like you're just living with a roommate? Do conversations revolve only around finances, kids, and chores, rather than the fun and passion you once shared? Many couples experience what's called a "companionate relationship," where intimacy and commitment are present, but the crucial elements of passion and eroticism have faded, often leaving one spouse yearning for more oneness and excitement. This often happens when deep security and intimacy lead to a level of predictability that can, over time, "de-eroticize" the relationship.But there's a powerful secret to reigniting that spark: Planned Surprise.While intimacy thrives on trust and predictability, allowing you to not worry about what's coming next, eroticism and passion flourish on "something new, something different, something unexpected". Predictability, in fact, kills eroticism.In this video, we reveal how to bridge this gap and s

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!You want to save your marriage, but your spouse doesn’t seem interested. What now?In this powerful episode, Kimberly Beam Holmes and Dr. Joe Beam walk you step-by-step through how to approach your spouse about working on the marriage—even if they’ve checked out, are asking for a divorce, or are involved with someone else.You’ll learn how to:Overcome the fear of asking your spouse for helpAvoid common mistakes that push your spouse further awayUse a proven, non-manipulative framework to invite your spouse to a Marriage Helper workshopUnderstand and validate your spouse’s objections—while staying calm, confident, and respectfulIdentify your spouse’s true motivations (even ones you don’t agree with) and speak to what matters most to themPlus, discover how to navigate tricky objections like:“I don’t believe in counseling”“This won’t fix anything”“It’s too expensive”“I just want the divorce”Whether your spouse is emotionally distant, hostile, or seemingly indifferent, this video g

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!What happens to a marriage when life doesn’t just get hard—it breaks you?In this deeply honest and emotional conversation, Cassia shares her and Cory’s journey of staying married while raising a medically fragile child, navigating grief after miscarriages, and confronting the realities of long-term caregiving. From ambulance rides every three weeks to learning how to love when there’s no guarantee of being loved back, their story is one of resilience, raw faith, and choosing to show up—day after day.If you're parenting in hard circumstances, walking through suffering, or just wondering how couples stay connected in crisis, this episode is for you.

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!This is one of the wildest marriage stories we’ve ever seen.When Elisa walked into our couples workshop, she said, “I would rather die than stay married to this man.” She had already had four affairs. Marcos, her husband, had just retaliated with one of his own. They had already divorced once, remarried, and were still stuck in a cycle of resentment, control, and disconnection.By all accounts, their marriage was over.But what happened next turned everything around—and what they learned during that process could change your marriage too.This case study isn’t just about betrayal. It’s about transformation—how love, humility, and the right tools helped two people rewrite their story against all odds.If your marriage feels hopeless, their journey may be the spark of hope you need.If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!In today’s episode, we tackle one of the most emotionally charged topics in relationships: narcissism. Whether your spouse has called you a narcissist, or you're wondering if they might be one, this conversation cuts through the confusion and cultural noise.Kimberly Beam Holmes is joined by Meredith Ball, a Marriage Helper certified coach, to unpack the real meaning of narcissism—what it is, what it isn’t, and why it's become the go-to label in so many hurting relationships.

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!When your marriage feels like it's falling apart, it's tempting to search for answers—especially ones that explain your spouse’s behavior. Maybe you’ve wondered, "Could they be a narcissist?" or "Do they have bipolar disorder?"In this episode, Kimberly Beam Holmes is joined by Marriage Helper coach and counselor Meredith Ball to unpack the dangers of diagnosing your spouse. You’ll learn why it’s natural to want clarity, but how labeling your spouse can backfire—leading to more disconnection instead of healing.We’ll discuss:Why people self-diagnose their spouseThe risks of assigning mental health labels without professional helpHow to focus on what’s actually within your controlThe surprising way real healing startsIf you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!He did everything “right”—worked hard, stayed loyal, provided for his family.But when his wife left him for his own brother… he didn’t fight.He tried to understand. He felt bad for them.And somehow, he believed that was love.In this real-life conversation from Marriage Helper, we unpack the painful truth behind passive behavior in marriage—and how it often pushes a spouse away more than anything else.This isn't just a story of betrayal. It’s a wake-up call for anyone who’s given up their identity in the name of sacrifice… and lost their marriage in the process.You'll discover:Why empathy without boundaries can become self-sabotageHow passivity kills attractionThe real difference between panic and passionAnd why ownership is the turning point between wishing and winningWhether you're in a marriage crisis or stuck in survival mode, this episode is your invitation to stop letting life happen to you—and start choosing who you want to become.If you're strugglin

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!What do you say when a friend confesses they’re struggling with pornography? Whether they admitted it directly or you discovered it by accident, knowing how to respond can feel overwhelming. In this honest and compassionate episode, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes guide you through how to handle these conversations with empathy, truth, and clarity.They discuss the spiritual, relational, and physiological effects of pornography and how to walk with someone you care about toward hope and healing. Whether you're supporting a friend or facing this struggle yourself, there is a way forward.

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!You've probably heard people talk about "manifesting" their ideal relationship or saving their marriage just by thinking positive thoughts. But when your marriage is in crisis, hope alone isn’t a strategy. In this episode, Kimberly Beam Holmes—CEO of Marriage Helper and trained performance psychologist—breaks down why traditional manifestation falls short and what actually works when your relationship feels like it’s falling apart.You'll discover 3 research-backed mental techniques that high-performing individuals use to overcome adversity—adapted specifically to help you save your marriage:✔ Visualization (the right way)✔ Resilience-building breathing exercises✔ The power of intentional practiceIf your marriage is on the brink, but you're too scared to take the next step, this video will give you the tools to begin. It's not about perfection—it's about progress.If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: T

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!What happens when a well-meaning husband provides, protects, and leads—yet still finds himself blindsided by his wife's decision to walk away? In this powerful episode, Dr. Joe Beam and Nathan McIntyre unpack a real-life story of a man who thought he was doing everything “right” in his marriage… until it all fell apart.You'll hear:✔ Why many spouses feel emotionally abandoned even when their physical needs are met✔ How "doing the right thing" can still create emotional distance✔ What pushes and pulls are—and how they impact your relationship✔ The silent warning signs your spouse may be reaching their limitIf you’ve ever wondered “Why did my spouse leave when I was giving so much?” - this episode is for you. Nathan shares practical insights from hundreds of conversations with men and women in marriage crisis, and offers real hope for those ready to change, reconnect, and rebuild.If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource:

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