Marriage Radio: Helping Your Marriage

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Learn how they saved their marriage after an affair and addiction, even after 25 years of what looked like a "perfect" life. In this raw and honest interview, Aaron and Rena Garcia open up about the secret pornography addiction and infidelity that nearly destroyed their family, and the specific steps they took to rebuild trust from the ground up.If you are asking, "Can a marriage survive infidelity?" or "Is it possible to heal from betrayal trauma?" this video provides a real-life roadmap. Aaron, a former pastor, lived a secret double life for decades, while Rena was completely blindsided by the discovery. They discuss the intense physical reality of betrayal trauma (flooding), the shame of addiction in the church, and why they believe leaving isn't always the "easier" option.In this video, we answer hard questions like:How do you rebuild trust after cheating?What does real healing look like for a betrayed spouse?Why does the "

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Did you know that divorce filings increase by 30% in January? It’s not a coincidence. The holidays don't just magnify relationship problems; they market a perfection that no marriage actually has. If you are dreading this Christmas because you feel like you are walking on eggshells, you are not alone.In this video, I’m sharing the exact "Stop The Chaos" plan you need to implement next week. This isn't about fixing your whole marriage in one day. It is about damage control. It is about getting through the holidays without becoming a statistic.I was where you are 12 years ago. I know the fear, the loneliness, and the overwhelming anxiety. But I also know there is hope.In this video, we cover:The "Knee Surgery" Analogy: Why you need to calm the inflammation (the chaos) before you can have the surgery (the workshop) to fix the root cause.The Holiday Truce: Why you must stop all relationship talks from Dec 23rd to 26th.Managing External Chaos: How to

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!The shocking termination of Michigan head coach Sherrone Moore has dominated the headlines, but beneath the sports scandal lies a profound psychological phenomenon: Limerence. In this video, we break down the reports from USA Today and Sports Illustrated to analyze the behavior leading up to Moore’s firing. From the alleged years-long affair to the reports of stalking and the "kitchen scissors" incident, we look at these events through the lens of relationship psychology. Was this just a lapse in judgment, or was it the destructive cycle of limerence?What You’ll Learn in This Video:The 3 Stages of Limerence: Understanding Infatuation, Crystallization, and Deterioration.Why Good People Make Bad Decisions: How brain chemistry changes during an obsessive affair.The Reality of Stalking in Limerence: Why the person "left behind" often resorts to desperate, unrecognizable behaviors.Hope for Marriage Recovery: Can a marriage survive a public scandal and limerence

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!This episode is from the Marriage Helper LIVE Call-In Show from December 10, 2025. Marriage Helper LIVE airs live on YouTube, every Wednesday at Noon CT. To listen in or have a chance to call into the show, you can head to https://youtube.com/@marriagehelperIf you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Getting served divorce papers can feel like the final blow, but it doesn’t have to be the end of your marriage. If you’ve just received the filing, you are likely feeling panic, fear, and anger. In this video, we break down exactly what you need to do immediately to stay sane, protect yourself, and maximize your chances of saving your marriage.Just because your spouse filed for divorce does not mean it is over. Divorce is an event, not the end of the story. We see couples save their marriages even after papers have been served.In this video, we cover the 5 crucial steps to take right now:Regulate Your Nervous System: Learn the "Box Breathing" technique (4-4-4-4). Set alarms for 8:00 a.m., Noon, and 6:00 p.m. to do this for 3 minutes. This resets your amygdala and stops the fight-or-flight response.Process Your Emotions: Don't bottle it up. Write down every thought, fear, anger, and resentment on paper. Getting it out of your head helps it lose power over you.An

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Have you lost those feelings of attraction? Are you wondering if it’s even possible to fall back in love with your husband or wife after years of distance, hurt, or "storms" in life?In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes shares the roadmap for How To Fall In Love With Your Spouse Again In 2026. Even if your marriage feels like it is on the brink of divorce, or you feel completely numb, you can get those feelings back. Don't throw your marriage away yet.The process of falling in love isn't a mystery, it’s a predictable path called The LovePath™. By focusing on four specific steps... Attraction, Acceptance, Attachment, and Aspiration... you can revitalize your relationship and save your marriage.In this video, you will learn:The PIES of Attraction: How to work on your Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual self to naturally draw your spouse back.The Power of Acceptance: How to accept your spouse without tolerating destructive behaviors (like alcoholis

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Can your marriage be saved after an affair, separation, or even after divorce papers have been filed? Is there a point where a relationship is truly "too far gone"?In this video, Kimberly from Marriage Helper reveals the shocking truth about which marriages actually won't be saved. The answer might surprise you—it has nothing to do with how much time has passed, the severity of the infidelity, or legal proceedings. Instead, it comes down to three specific roadblocks that stop reconciliation in its tracks.If you are wondering, "Is there hope for my marriage?" this video is a must-watch. Kimberly shares insights on why complaining, making excuses, and letting fear paralyze you are the real reasons marriages fail—and exactly how you can start doing something different today.In this video, we cover:The psychological danger of focusing on the negative.Why making excuses creates a barrier to intimacy.How to overcome the fear that "nothing will work.&qu

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Is your behavior accidentally destroying your marriage? In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes reveals one of the top predictors of divorce—second only to affairs—that most people don't even realize they are doing.Control is a silent relationship killer. You might think you are just trying to "help" your spouse, protect your family, or make sure things are done "the right way." But to your partner, it feels like intrusion, intimidation, and a lack of trust.At Marriage Helper, we see thousands of couples in crisis, and control is one of the hardest hurdles to overcome—but it IS possible. In this video, Kimberly breaks down the psychology behind why good people become controlling, the 5 distinct ways control manifests in a marriage, and gives you a 5-question self-assessment quiz to see if you are guilty of these behaviors.In this video, you will learn:The Root Causes: Why fear, low self-esteem, and poor emotional regulation lead to controlling behavior.Th

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Are you being gaslighted in your marriage, or is something else going on beneath the surface? In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes breaks down what gaslighting actually is, how to know if it’s truly happening, and when a painful pattern in your marriage might be caused by miscommunication, different backgrounds, fear, or unhealed wounds—not intentional manipulation.If you’ve ever felt confused, crazy, or like you’re losing your grip on reality during arguments with your spouse, this is the video you need to watch. You’ll learn the real signs of gaslighting, what makes it different from normal disagreements, and the three key statements you can use to set boundaries, stay grounded, and stop getting pulled into endless arguments.Kimberly also explains why the term “gaslighting” is often misused, how fear can drive controlling behavior, and why two people can remember the same event in completely different ways. Most importantly, she shows you what to do when you feel invalidated

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!If you’re a woman who makes more money than your husband, this video is for you.This dynamic is becoming more and more common—but many couples are struggling silently with the tension it can create. The goal of this video is not to shame success, ambition, or calling. It’s to help you protect your marriage while you continue pursuing the work you feel called to do.I’ve been the primary income earner in my own marriage for nearly a decade. I know the pressure, the guilt, the loneliness, and the internal tug-of-war that can come with it. And I also know how easy it is to unintentionally say or do things that leave your husband feeling disrespected, unseen, or pushed away—even when that was never your intention.Today, I’m sharing 3 things you should not say to your husband when you earn more than he does—and what to do instead so that your marriage can feel like a true team again.Because your marriage can stay strong. You can be successful and connected at home. You don’t have t

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!If your wife is the primary income earner in your home, this video is for you. More and more marriages today are experiencing a shift in traditional roles — and many husbands aren’t sure how to navigate it. You may fully support your wife’s success and still find yourself wrestling with confidence, identity, or how to “lead” in the relationship without competing with her.In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes shares:Why this role reversal can create unexpected stress in a marriageWhat your wife actually needs from you emotionallyHow to step up as a confident, loving husband (without becoming controlling or passive)How to work together as a team so both of you feel respected, valued, and connectedYou don’t have to make more money to play a meaningful, strong, and respected role in your marriage. And your wife doesn’t want to compete with you — she wants to be on the same team with you.There is a path forward where your marriage can feel balanced, secure, and deeply connected agai

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!When your marriage feels like it’s falling apart, anxiety can take over your mind—and your marriage. In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes shares 3 powerful ways to overcome anxiety during a marriage crisis so you can think clearly, stay grounded, and begin the process of saving your relationship.Drawing from her personal experience with lifelong anxiety and her decades of helping people in crisis through Marriage Helper, Kimberly explains how fear, control, and uncertainty can keep you trapped—and how to break free from that cycle.You’ll learn: ✅ How to take every thought captive and stop the endless “what if” spiral ✅ Why you must find the helpers who bring peace, not panic ✅ The science-backed way to reset your body through 4x4 breathingAnxiety doesn’t have to rule your mind—or ruin your marriage. These tools will help you calm your thoughts, regulate your emotions, and start rebuilding the connection with your spouse.If your marriage feels stuck in chaos, remember: there is

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!In this segment, taken from our live show, Dr. Joe and Kimberly talk with a wife who wants to reconcile the marriage but is encountering some resistance... her husband is still sleeping with his affair partners.Dr. Joe and Kimberly give insight into how to start exploring reconciliation, even when your spouse might not be willing.If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Do you ever wonder how to feel more alive in your marriage again? That spark you felt in the beginning doesn’t have to fade forever. In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, shares 5 proven ways to reignite passion, intimacy, and connection with your spouse so you can feel fully alive in your relationship again.Research shows that “being madly in love” is often just limerence—a temporary stage fueled by brain chemistry. But real, lasting love is built on intimacy, passion, and commitment. The good news? You can rekindle that passion and start thriving together no matter where your marriage is today.Inside this video, you’ll discover:How a shared purpose can pull you and your spouse back together when life pulls you apartWhy adventure and play boost bonding and create lasting memoriesThe role of emotional safety and vulnerability in building trust and passionHow affection and desire keep love fresh through small daily actionsWhy supporting each other’s grow

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Are you the one fighting to save your marriage while your spouse seems ready to give up? Maybe they’ve grown emotionally distant, controlling, or even unfaithful. You feel the weight of the marriage on your shoulders, asking: “Why me? Why do I have to do all the work?”In this video, Dr. Joe Beam reveals the hard truth about what it takes to save a marriage when your spouse wants a divorce. You’ll learn:Why focusing on your spouse’s mistakes often pushes them further awayWhat you can control when it feels like everything is slipping through your fingersWhy criticism, guilt, or pressure rarely bring a spouse back—and what actually canHow choosing strength, grace, and perseverance changes the dynamic of your marriageAt Marriage Helper, we’ve worked with thousands of couples on the brink of divorce. Many felt hopeless, yet they discovered a proven path forward. If you’re hurting but still holding on to hope, this message is for you.If you're struggling in your marriage, don’

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Divorce is never easy. But when kids are involved, the stakes are even higher. Before making the life-changing decision to divorce, there are five essential considerations every parent needs to think about.In this video, Kimberly shares heartbreaking real-life stories and powerful research that reveal the true impact divorce can have on children. You’ll learn:✅ Why children’s greatest fear is losing a parent—and why divorce can feel even harder for them than a parent passing away.✅ How stability and consistency directly affect a child’s ability to thrive.✅ What shared custody really looks like—and the sacrifices many parents don’t anticipate.✅ The hidden emotional toll kids carry when they blame themselves for their parents’ divorce.✅ The financial realities that can drastically change a child’s lifestyle.✅ How your marriage (or divorce) teaches your kids what love, forgiveness, and relationships look like.Kids are resilient—but they shouldn’t have to be. Divorce doesn’t just

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Do you feel something is “off” in your marriage but can’t quite explain it? The truth is, the biggest warning signs of a troubled marriage aren’t always obvious. In this video, Dr. Joe Beam reveals 3 hidden signs your marriage is in trouble—and why couples often miss them until it’s too late.After working with thousands of couples over 30+ years, Dr. Beam explains: ✅ Why “we never saw this coming” is more common than you think ✅ The dangers of emotional drift and what it looks like in everyday life ✅ How secretiveness creates distance (even without an affair) ✅ Why criticism and keeping score can destroy your bond ✅ The specific steps you can take TODAY to turn things aroundWhether your spouse has pulled away, mentioned divorce, or you simply feel disconnected, this video will give you hope. At Marriage Helper, we’ve seen marriages restored even after affairs, separation, and divorce papers were filed. No marriage is too far gone if the right changes are made.If you're s

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Have you heard of the so-called “1000 Mile Rule”? It’s a trend spreading online that suggests if you’re more than a thousand miles away from your spouse, you can cheat guilt-free. Sounds shocking, right? In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, explains why this idea is destructive and why you should avoid it at all costs.For over 30 years, Marriage Helper has worked with more than 25,000 couples, helping them restore their marriages and rebuild lasting commitment. In this episode, Kimberly breaks down:✅ What the “1000 Mile Rule” actually is and where it came from ✅ Why ideas like this weaken trust and commitment in marriage ✅ The truth about monogamy and long-lasting love, backed by experts like Dr. Helen Fisher and Dr. John Gottman ✅ How to build stronger connection and intimacy with your spouse instead of looking outside your marriageAt Marriage Helper, we know what makes marriages thrive—and it’s not free passes, open marriages, or outside flings. True

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Are you struggling to save your marriage and wondering where to begin? In this video, I’ll walk you through 5 mindset shifts to save your marriage—practical and proven ways to reframe how you think, act, and grow in your relationship.These five shifts cover the essential questions of who, what, when, where, and why. You’ll discover:Why doing this for yourself (not just your spouse) is criticalWhat strategies actually work to rebuild connection instead of quick-fix gimmicksHow long it really takes to restore a marriage in crisisWhere your focus should be to break free from negativity and resentmentWhy your deeper motivation will keep you going when things feel impossibleDrawing from psychology, performance research, and Marriage Helper’s decades of experience, this video will give you the clarity and encouragement you need to take the right steps forward.If you want a stronger marriage, it begins with your mindset. These shifts can make the difference between staying stuck and

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Are you noticing patterns in the way you and your spouse talk to each other that leave you feeling distant, frustrated, or unheard? In this video, we’ll unpack 3 signs of unhealthy communication in your marriage—and what you can do to stop them before they cause lasting damage.Drawing from leading research and years of experience at Marriage Helper, we’ll walk through: ✅ Disrespectful communication—why criticism, belittling, or eye-rolling can erode trust. ✅ Avoidance and isolation—why “never fighting” isn’t healthy and how conflict can actually build intimacy. ✅ Jokes at your spouse’s expense—how sarcasm and mockery damage closeness and connection.If you’ve wondered whether the way you communicate is creating distance instead of closeness, this video will give you the clarity you need. You’ll also learn practical steps to replace unhealthy patterns with healthier, more loving ways of talking with your spouse.At Marriage Helper, we believe communication can either tear a marr