Marriage Radio: Helping Your Marriage

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!If you have an extramarital affair, you can ruin your child's chances for having happy love when s/he is grown. No matter what age the child is when you have the affair...even if your "child" is now old enough to be in college.Having an affair doesn't only deceiving your spouse, it often involves deceiving yourself...especially about the effect your actions have on your children now and in their future.Even if the marriage doesn't end in divorce, infidelity negatively affects kids. They often view their parent's cheating to be against them. Their security is threatened. Their trust is broken. They experience humiliation and shame. As adults they often fear their own spouse being unfaithful and live jealous lives. Sometimes their fear is strong enough to prevent their having loving relationships. And, sometimes, they themselves become more likely to cheat on their partners.If divorce occurs, it gets worse. Some people say "kids are resilient;

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Good marriage counselors are worth their weight in gold.The others...let's just say they aren't. (If you've had a bad experience with a marriage counselor, you likely already inserted your own negative sentence.)We hear from thousands of people every year about their marriages. From those who convinced their spouses to go to marriage counseling, we very often hear how the experience hurt their marriage rather than helped.Is that the fault of the couple or at least one of the spouses? Obviously, it could be. But could it be the fault of the counselor? Yes.We hear people say their counselor told them they should divorce because their problems aren't solvable. Others say that the counselor told them that s/he will help them figure out how to divorce amicably but there is no need to try to save the marriage because one of them doesn't want that. One woman told us that her counselor very early in their sessions told the husband he should divorce her. When

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Good marriage counselors are worth their weight in gold.The others...let's just say they aren't. (If you've had a bad experience with a marriage counselor, you likely already inserted your own negative sentence.)We hear from thousands of people every year about their marriages. From those who convinced their spouses to go to marriage counseling, we very often hear how the experience hurt their marriage rather than helped.Is that the fault of the couple or at least one of the spouses? Obviously, it could be. But could it be the fault of the counselor? Yes.We hear people say their counselor told them they should divorce because their problems aren't solvable. Others say that the counselor told them that s/he will help them figure out how to divorce amicably but there is no need to try to save the marriage because one of them doesn't want that. One woman told us that her counselor very early in their sessions told the husband he should divorce her. When

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Not every relationship or marriage has a major meltdown...But when it happens, how do you put things back together?How do you get past the hurt? The broken trust? The fear that something else is coming...especially when one partner developed a deep emotional relationship with someone else, but has decided to try to make your relationship work again...How does the straying partner get over the emotional connection with that other person?How can s/he learn to love you again...and you learn to love him/her again with the security that your relationship will last a lifetime?There are things to do when reconciling a relationship. There are things NOT to do. There are also "gray" areas where you have to use your wisdom. (Knowing the right principles helps tremendously with this.)In this program Dr. Joe Beam explains why relationships fail and how they can be put back together again. He explains the principles of reconciliation and the specific do's and don'ts th

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Not every relationship or marriage has a major meltdown...But when it happens, how do you put things back together?How do you get past the hurt? The broken trust? The fear that something else is coming...especially when one partner developed a deep emotional relationship with someone else, but has decided to try to make your relationship work again...How does the straying partner get over the emotional connection with that other person?How can s/he learn to love you again...and you learn to love him/her again with the security that your relationship will last a lifetime?There are things to do when reconciling a relationship. There are things NOT to do. There are also "gray" areas where you have to use your wisdom. (Knowing the right principles helps tremendously with this.)In this program Dr. Joe Beam explains why relationships fail and how they can be put back together again. He explains the principles of reconciliation and the specific do's and don'ts th

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Have you ever prayed about love? Perhaps something that you wanted to happen. Maybe something you didn't want to happen.It might have been about a specific person, either someone you already have a relationship or marriage with or that you want a relationship or marriage with. It might have been about a specific situation...something that you have a strong desire to have...or to avoid.From a multitude of postings found on Facebook to thousands of conversations over the years, Dr. Joe Beam has chosen three of the prayers people mention that - no matter how much they believe they will be - are not going to be answered by God.Although his PhD is not in any religious area of study - his graduate work is about the psychology and emotions of love, sex, and marriage - he has a degree in Bible. That doesn't make him a theologian, but it does make him a student of the teachings of God.No, Dr. Beam doesn't claim to speak for God. Yet, he's convinced that some of wha

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Have you ever prayed about love? Perhaps something that you wanted to happen. Maybe something you didn't want to happen.It might have been about a specific person, either someone you already have a relationship or marriage with or that you want a relationship or marriage with. It might have been about a specific situation...something that you have a strong desire to have...or to avoid.From a multitude of postings found on Facebook to thousands of conversations over the years, Dr. Joe Beam has chosen three of the prayers people mention that - no matter how much they believe they will be - are not going to be answered by God.Although his PhD is not in any religious area of study - his graduate work is about the psychology and emotions of love, sex, and marriage - he has a degree in Bible. That doesn't make him a theologian, but it does make him a student of the teachings of God.No, Dr. Beam doesn't claim to speak for God. Yet, he's convinced that some of wha

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!What does it feel like? How does a person get into this situation? Why does she love a man other than her husband?In this program, a brave woman who is with her husband but still "deeply in love" with another man tells her story. She is willing to answer questions and talk about her situation.She wrote, "I have been madly in love with a man I work for four years now and even though I ended things in March and asked my husband to move back, I still feel as much in love as ever. Not a single day has gone by in four months that I haven't cried missing him and then feel overwhelming grief...I wouldn't wish this feeling of helplessness on my worst enemy!"Because of the sensitivity of this program - and to protect her from callers who may not be kind - no calls will be taken during this program. Instead, you can ask your question or make your comment by emailing AskJoe@MarriageHelper.com before the show airs. (Make sure your comments or questions are e

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!What does it feel like? How does a person get into this situation? Why does she love a man other than her husband?In this program, a brave woman who is with her husband but still "deeply in love" with another man tells her story. She is willing to answer questions and talk about her situation.She wrote, "I have been madly in love with a man I work for four years now and even though I ended things in March and asked my husband to move back, I still feel as much in love as ever. Not a single day has gone by in four months that I haven't cried missing him and then feel overwhelming grief...I wouldn't wish this feeling of helplessness on my worst enemy!"Because of the sensitivity of this program - and to protect her from callers who may not be kind - no calls will be taken during this program. Instead, you can ask your question or make your comment by emailing AskJoe@MarriageHelper.com before the show airs. (Make sure your comments or questions are e

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!There is a difference between that feeling of love and being "madly in love." If you long for that magically amazing love that is the focus of so many  movies, TV shows, and novels, you may indeed experience it...but not forever. Love that is deep and long-lasting isn't an overwhelming ecstasy but something much deeper...something with roots that dig deeply into your heart, your mind, your soul.Yet that "madly in love" feeling is truly amazing when experienced. In the social sciences we have a word for it; limerence. More than just identifying it, researchers dig into it to understand it better...including how long it lasts...and factors that either prevent it, diminish it, or end it.In this program, Dr. Joe Beam explains what he has witnessed in thousands of people "madly in love" and discusses the three phases of limerence he has identified.  If you are "madly in love" this program is for you. You may feel that the intensity of y

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!There is a difference between that feeling of love and being "madly in love." If you long for that magically amazing love that is the focus of so many  movies, TV shows, and novels, you may indeed experience it...but not forever. Love that is deep and long-lasting isn't an overwhelming ecstasy but something much deeper...something with roots that dig deeply into your heart, your mind, your soul.Yet that "madly in love" feeling is truly amazing when experienced. In the social sciences we have a word for it; limerence. More than just identifying it, researchers dig into it to understand it better...including how long it lasts...and factors that either prevent it, diminish it, or end it.In this program, Dr. Joe Beam explains what he has witnessed in thousands of people "madly in love" and discusses the three phases of limerence he has identified.  If you are "madly in love" this program is for you. You may feel that the intensity of y

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Do you feel abandoned by God? Do you wonder why He isn't intervening in your marriage?If you feel this way, you are not alone. But that doesn't mean that it has to stay that way. There's a reason for these trials and tribulations, even though it is hard to go through right now. How can you strengthen your faith instead of lose it? Or can you? Should you? We'll discuss all these questions, and more, in this real heart to heart conversation. We care about you and your marriage. 

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Do you feel abandoned by God? Do you wonder why He isn't intervening in your marriage?If you feel this way, you are not alone. But that doesn't mean that it has to stay that way. There's a reason for these trials and tribulations, even though it is hard to go through right now. How can you strengthen your faith instead of lose it? Or can you? Should you? We'll discuss all these questions, and more, in this real heart to heart conversation. We care about you and your marriage. 

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Sometimes it makes no difference if you don't agree with the person you love. Sometimes it does. Especially when your disagreement pulls you apart. Maybe you disagree about where you live, occupations, religion, money, children, or anything else that matters to you.On some things you are willing to yield. Not this. It is important to you. So important that you feel your loved one is being selfish, or doesn't understand you. Important enough that it might destroy the relationship.Is there a way to find a compromise that satisfies both of you...a solution where neither feels s/he loses...where you each get what you want and no one dominates?Yes.In this program Dr. Joe Beam teaches a method that the two of you can use to solve almost any seemingly insolvable disagreement. The principle isn't difficult to understand. You can apply it with great effect. To make it even clearer, Dr. Beam gives several examples of how people have used it to find a valid solution to th

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Sometimes it makes no difference if you don't agree with the person you love. Sometimes it does. Especially when your disagreement pulls you apart. Maybe you disagree about where you live, occupations, religion, money, children, or anything else that matters to you.On some things you are willing to yield. Not this. It is important to you. So important that you feel your loved one is being selfish, or doesn't understand you. Important enough that it might destroy the relationship.Is there a way to find a compromise that satisfies both of you...a solution where neither feels s/he loses...where you each get what you want and no one dominates?Yes.In this program Dr. Joe Beam teaches a method that the two of you can use to solve almost any seemingly insolvable disagreement. The principle isn't difficult to understand. You can apply it with great effect. To make it even clearer, Dr. Beam gives several examples of how people have used it to find a valid solution to th

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Whether it's done by your best friend, your child, or your spouse, it hurts when we discover that we've been lied to, doesn't it?No one that I know of likes being deceived. Even in affairs, I often hear the spouse who was cheated on say something such as "As much as the affair hurt, it hurt me even more that s/he lied to me!"Would it surprise you to know that sometimes the person who lied to you did so because you taught him/her to lie to you?Yes. It happens.No, not every lie a person tells you is in response to your actions. Sometimes people lie. Sometimes they lie with those huge life-altering falsehoods that devastate you. Even so, sometimes the lies start because of your own actions. Then the lies escalate. They can become ultimately destructive.This program isn't about "beating you up" and saying that the wrong things done by people you love are your fault. Every person is responsible for his/her own decisions and actions. Yet, thi

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Whether it's done by your best friend, your child, or your spouse, it hurts when we discover that we've been lied to, doesn't it?No one that I know of likes being deceived. Even in affairs, I often hear the spouse who was cheated on say something such as "As much as the affair hurt, it hurt me even more that s/he lied to me!"Would it surprise you to know that sometimes the person who lied to you did so because you taught him/her to lie to you?Yes. It happens.No, not every lie a person tells you is in response to your actions. Sometimes people lie. Sometimes they lie with those huge life-altering falsehoods that devastate you. Even so, sometimes the lies start because of your own actions. Then the lies escalate. They can become ultimately destructive.This program isn't about "beating you up" and saying that the wrong things done by people you love are your fault. Every person is responsible for his/her own decisions and actions. Yet, thi

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!It may be guilt you feel. It may guilt felt by someone you love. Either way, it affects everyone. The person who feels guilt has little to no peace. The ones who love the guilt-ridden are pushed away...or feel helpless to help.Guilt isn't a bad thing. We actually need it. If we never felt it, we'd have no conscience...we'd fake feeling remorse and true emotions about how we affect others, but that's all it would be...fake.But guilt can also work against us. It can lead us to make poor decisions, remove ourselves from others, cause us to lash out at others, or even do things to punish ourselves (whether we realize that we're doing it or not).When should a person feel guilty? What is the best way to deal with guilt?How can we get past guilt, especially when there seems to be nothing we can do to stop it?How can we find true forgiveness from others...from ourselves...from our God.How does gulit affect relationships?How can we help those who are captured

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!It may be guilt you feel. It may guilt felt by someone you love. Either way, it affects everyone. The person who feels guilt has little to no peace. The ones who love the guilt-ridden are pushed away...or feel helpless to help.Guilt isn't a bad thing. We actually need it. If we never felt it, we'd have no conscience...we'd fake feeling remorse and true emotions about how we affect others, but that's all it would be...fake.But guilt can also work against us. It can lead us to make poor decisions, remove ourselves from others, cause us to lash out at others, or even do things to punish ourselves (whether we realize that we're doing it or not).When should a person feel guilty? What is the best way to deal with guilt?How can we get past guilt, especially when there seems to be nothing we can do to stop it?How can we find true forgiveness from others...from ourselves...from our God.How does gulit affect relationships?How can we help those who are captured

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!You've done something that you know will hurt your spouse if s/he knew about it. Maybe it was recent? Maybe years ago? Maybe even before you met, but you have worry that s/he will react badly if it came out.Do you tell? Do you keep it a secret?If you do tell, will it end your marriage...or at the very least cause hard and angry feelings that will last for a long time?If you don't tell, will it erode your marriage from within because of how it affects you to keep it secret?And if you were to tell, WHAT should you tell and what should you leave OUT?In this program, Dr. Beam gives clear and understandable guidelines for deciding whether to tell or not to tell. That's right; in some situations it is far better NOT to tell. For others, the marriage is in jeopardy UNTIL you tell. The principles and guidelines presented in this program will help you decide. And if you decide you should tell, Dr. Beam gives principles of what TO tell and what NOT to tell.If you wish to