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At times, we tend to get into our own heads and become our own worst enemies. We often write off anyone who happens to disagree with us, puts us down in any way, and label them as "haters." But it's our natural tendency - especially as high achieving men - to be our harshest critics. It's valuable at times and drives us to do great things and, other times, it creates unnecessary barriers to our success. My guest today, Gary John Bishop, author of Unfu*ck Yourself joins me to talk about how to redefine yourself by becoming unrealistic, how to uncover the narratives we tell ourselves, the difference between knowing something and being aware of something, and how to get out of your head and into your life.
 
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 How to get out of your head How to develop a no-nonsense approach to life The critical difference between affirmations and personal assertions Why self-help is inferior to self-development and growth How to uncover the narratives you tell yourself Understanding the study of Oncology and ho

Everywhere you turn you’ll find another “motivational guru” attempting to inspire the masses to take action. If you’re like me, you’ve attended conferences, purchased courses, and poured over endless quotes and memes in a feeble attempt to get motivated enough to do what you already know you should be doing. Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing particularly wrong with motivation, other than it doesn’t last. We’ve all left that conference feeling inspired only to get back into the grind and lose the excitement within 24-48 hours. Like a drug-user hooked on cocaine, we’re constantly on the lookout for the next conference that promises to inspire, amaze, and motivate us yet again. We go. We spend the time, the energy, and the money. And, we even get motivated for another 24-48 hours, until our next fix is needed. And that’s the problem. We become dependent when we seek motivation from outside sources. And those that host these conferences know that and bank on the fact that you’ll have to come back next year. I’m

Every single one of has fallen a time or two in life. And, everyone of us knows a man who has failed to get back up from that fall. It's not an easy thing to overcome the wounds of failure, but if we want to thrive, it's a requirement. My guest today, Champion Muay Thai Fighter Chris Romulo, joins me to talk about finding the fight in us, the difference between ego and confidence, living by the mantra, "Fall seven times, stand up eight," and how to develop the fighter's mindset. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS • What is the "Champions Uprising" • The fight that changed everything for Chris • How to find your rhythm and flow in life • Why timing is critical • The importance of settling into life • How to change your mindset • How to find the fight in us • The difference between complacency and getting comfortable • How to overcome the pushback • How to develop of fighter's mindset • 7 factors of an uprising • The difference between ego and confidence • Living by the mantra, "Fall seven times, stand up eight"
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I typically like to frame these discussions in a positive perspective but I do think it’s important that we occasionally look at the other side. Most people are more than willing to talk about what will make a man a success and, while I agree that’s an important subject to cover, just as important is the discussion of what is going to keep you from accomplishing what you want. So today, in an attempt to keep you from falling into some of the same traps this humble man has fallen into a time or two, I’ll share with you 6 reasons why men fail and, in doing so, help you find a new path to thriving in what we call the Quadrants (yourself, your relationships, your health, and your wealth). PRIDE COMES BEFORE THE FALL The number one reason most men fail, and the reason I fail from time to time is pride. I’ve talked about it before but we have been led to believe that if you don’t have the answer, you’re an idiot or less of a man. It’s unfortunate that’s the case because it drives us to go at it alone, to figure out

Someone asked me several weeks ago, "If you could have one super power, what would it be?" To which I responded, "The ability to read people's minds." As it turns out one doesn't need to be a superhero in order to possess the ability to understand what other people are thinking and, to a degree, use that knowledge to produce desired outcomes. My guest today, the founder of Ellipsis Behavior Laboratories and the author of The Ellipses Manuel, joins me to talk about reading body language and thoughts, becoming a human lie detector, how to activate trust in others, and how to decode and decipher human behavior. CHASE HUGHES Chase Hughes (@thechasehughes) is a Navy veteran and an author and speaker on behavior analysis, body language and behavior engineering. He founded Ellipsis Behavior Laboratories in 2011 and has since developed the Behavioral Table of Elements which, after pouring over this, is probably the most extensive behavioral analysis tool I've ever seen. Chase is also the creator of other life-saving

What exactly is “The Drift?” The Drift is the natural tendency we have as men to coast, and in a way, take our hands off the steering wheel of life and allow ourselves to be controlled and put ourselves at the mercy of all that life offers. The fact is that there are forces at work against us that keep us from accomplishing what we truly want in life and, unless, we’re actively engaged in the process of intentionally living our lives, it’s very easy for us to get off course. Today, I’m going to share with you why this happens but, more importantly, 3 measures you can take to ensure you maintain the course you are meant to maintain. www.orderofman.com/FFN074 www.orderofman.com

Everywhere you turn, you'll find men living what I call the sedated life. Like robots on an assembly line, these men wake up at the same time, eat the same food for breakfast, drive to work the same way every day, do the same menial tasks for 8-9 hours, drive home, kiss the wife and kids, eat dinner, watch some TV, go to bed, and do it all over again. My guest today, former Navy SEAL and wingsuit base-jumper Andy Stumpf is the exact opposite of that. And, while we can't all be Navy SEALs, jump of really high mountains and structures, and travel the distance of 18 miles in a wingsuit, we can all take some calculated risks that make us feel alive. Today we talk about finding something worth fighting for, eliminating emotions in the decision-making process, why people fail in the application of their goals, and how to live life on the edge.

 ANDY STUMPF Andy Stumpf (@andystumpf77) is a former Navy SEAL with SEAL Team Five and later joining the most elite counter-terrorism unit in the military, SEAL Team Six.
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I think it’s safe to assume by now that you probably - at least to some degree -  understand that having a coach is such a valuable strategy towards becoming great, whether that’s improving your golf swing, enhancing your public speaking skills, building a solid relationship with your wife, or growing your business. But, it amazes me how often men recognize the value of coaching in elite performers yet underestimate the power of having a coach even if you’re not at the elite level or competing on the global stage. Today I talk about why you should consider hiring a coach and what to look for. www.orderofman.com/FFN073 www.orderofman.com

If you're anything like me, you are what I refer to as a "starter." I've never been at a loss for figuring out how to start things. Getting things done is a completely different story. Today I am joined by New York Times Bestselling author, Jon Acuff. If you have a problem with finishing what you start, this is the episode for you and, I'm not going to lie, I needed this one more than most. We talk about the developing a tolerance for imperfection, why "strategic incompetence" is a powerful tool, how to overcome what Jon calls "noble obstacles," a new spin on SMART goals, and how to finally finish what you started. Jon Acuff Guys, I am so stoked to be introducing you to my guest today, Mr. Jon Acuff. I've read all four of his books and I've been trying to get him on the show for two years. The time finally came with the release of his new book today (if you're listening to this the day it is being released), Finish: Give Yourself the Gift of Done. The other books I've read are Do Over, Start, and Quitter. Al

Today, I thought it would be a good idea to address something that has impacted millions of people over the last several weeks and that is the nightmare in Houston created by Hurricane Harvey. As I’ve thought about what those people must be experiencing and what we’ve seen online and on TV, I can’t help but think of a couple glaring lessons we should all look to when it comes to how we conduct ourselves as men. I see some areas of improvement and I see some areas that, from what I can tell are absolutely amazing to see in the wake of such a horrific situation. So, let’s get into these lessons today. www.orderofman.com/FFN072 www.orderofman.com

Politics - just the mention of the word infuriates most and has the ability to split up marriages and lifelong friendships alike. What a shame, since our political environment literally permeates every single element of our lives - taxes, defense, infrastructure, education, economics, and so much more. 
Today, I am joined by my good friend and mentor Sean Whalen. Sean is currently running for congress in the third congressional district in Utah. You're going to love some of what this man has to say and, I'm sure a lot of you are going to hate what he has to say. But, regardless, I encourage you to listen with an open mind so we can prove to the world that it is possible to hold a civil and intelligent political conversation. SEAN WHALEN Gentlemen, today I get to introduce you to one of my favorite repeat guests, Mr. Sean Whalen.
 Sean is a friend and mentor of mine and, although I don't agree with him on everything, I have always admired his candor and ability to hold true to his convictions. He has done ever

You may have heard the Latin phrase, “Memento Mori” which quite literally means “remember that you have to die.” That phrase has also been used to describe an object that serves as a reminder of death, like a skull or any other object that has that connotation. Now, the reason I want to talk with you about this because, just prior to hitting record on this podcast, I booked a flight and hotel to go see my father who, just a couple days ago, had a heart attack. I don’t know whether he is going to live or die but, unfortunately, right now, things don’t look good. I’m sure by the time this podcast is released we’ll know if he has passed or if he’s in the clear. As I think about all that’s gone on for me physically, mentally, and emotionally over the past 48 hours, I can’t help but think about the prospect of my own death. www.orderofman.com/FFN071 www.orderofman.com

So many men are afraid to even talk about style. In my experience, they believe that it's just not that important when it comes to being a man or they don't want to be viewed as anything less than manly. I get it. I used to be the same way. That was until I understood the power of dressing well and leveling up your presence. Dressing well isn't about a well-tailored suit, fancy shoes, and overpriced jeans. It's about being deliberate and intentional about sharing with the world who you really are. My friend, Ryan Magin joins me today to talk about what role style plays in masculinity, why men are afraid to elevate their style, something he calls "enclothed cognition" and the "halo effect," and how to use your style to have more and be more. RYAN MAGIN Gentlemen, my guest today is my good friend, Ryan Magin.

I met Ryan three years ago as I was launching Order of Man and the StyleCon conference. I'll admit, I'm not one who is very good when it comes to what I wear and how I look. But, I've learned a ton from R

Most men seem to be living in the past. They live with guilt, remorse, sorrow, and regret. What a shame that is because if they’d only realize that their past experiences don’t define who they are, I think we’d see a lot more men stepping up to the responsibilities they have today. Today, I want to share with you four steps I’ve incorporated in my life so that I live in the present moment. Yes, I learn from my experiences and reflect on the past but, only as a means to get better today, not to sit around feeling sorry for myself. www.orderofman.com/FFN070 www.orderofman.com

Whether you own a business or you're working your way up the corporate ladder, learning how to more effectively market yourself is a critical. This one is a little different guys as you'll listen in on the conversation I have with my friend, Noah Kagan. We talk about business, side hustles, living from your purpose, and I even get into a small discussion about my religion. But, the underlying theme to the conversation we have today is how to more effectively market yourself.

 NOAH KAGAN Gentlemen, my guest today is Noah Kagan. Some of you will recognize the name, others will not. But, if you run a website in some form or another, I'm sure that you're already using the tools he created for your business. He is the founder of AppSumo and Sumo. He was employee #30 at Facebook and #4 at Mint (if you want to read some interesting stories, look into how he separated from each of those companies). In other words, the guy knows what he's doing, he knows how to market himself, and he knows how to do things on a lar

This podcast is a replay of my presentation at The Meltdown in the Desert. In it I talk about the dark catalyst for change in my life and the rock-bottom foundation for my growth as a man. Without this darkness, you would not be listening to or be part of The Order of Man. www.orderofman.com/FFN069 www.orderofman.com

We are constantly bombarded by stimulus and, more than any other time in history, the ability to focus is becoming increasingly difficult. Focus, however, sits at the top of a list of virtues and abilities every man needs to develop if he hopes to experience any level of success in his life. My guest today, Navy SEAL Brandon Webb, joins me to talk about how to make better decisions under pressure, the power of self-talk and visualization, how to become more effective at "violence of action," and the 7 principles for total focus.
 
BRANDON WEBB My guest today is Navy SEAL Sniper and New York Times Bestselling Author, Brandon Webb.
 I'm absolutely blown away by the caliber of man this guy is. He spent 13 years with the Navy SEALs and was instrumental in redesigning the Sniper SEAL Training program which trained members such as Chris Kyle and some of the deadliest snipers in US military history. Upon leaving, Brandon went on to found SOFREP.com and Hurricane Media which is one of the largest media organizati

Intuition. It’s the ability to understand or recognize something about a situation or circumstance without having to analyze or break down the facts about that particular situation. It is so critical that we, as men, learn how to hone our sense of intuition and improve our ability to listen to this little voice – however you choose to define it. So today, as I was thinking about what I wanted to address, I thought it would be a good idea to talk about why it’s important we improve our intuition and a couple quick and easy steps each and every one of us can employ to make our intuition work better. www.orderofman.com/FFN068 www.orderofman.com

It all starts in the mind. Whether you're trying get into better shape, grow your bank account, start a business, become a better father, or a better man in general, growing and expanding your mind is the first step. But, it's often one of the most overlooked muscles we use. My guest today, Learning Expert Jim Kwik joins me to talk about how to turn on your superhero brain, avoid information overload, cut through he noise and become more focused, and how to enhance the most powerful muscle we have - the mind. 

JIM KWIK My guest today is Jim Kwik. He is an expert is speed-reading, memory improvement, brain performance, and accelerated learning.
 I came across his work a couple months ago and, after following him for the last couple months, and really digging into the results he is creating, I knew I needed to have him on the show. I talk about improving the mind a lot but I wanted to have an expert on to share some of his insights and secrets. The man is extremely qualified to talk about this (you'll hear

Depression. It’s very real. It’s very common. It’s very destructive. We all know someone who is going through a bout with depression, and, we might even know someone who has contemplated or attempted suicide. Suicide rates are on the rise among men. In fact, as I was researching this morning, I found that some studies have shown that suicide rates among men are more than 3.5 times that of women. I don’t know why that it is and, unfortunately, I cannot get into all the causes that may lead to what a lot of men seem to be experiencing these days but, what I would like to do is give you five strategies I’ve personally used to overcome getting down on myself and falling into a bout with depression. www.orderofman.com/FFN067 www.orderofman.com