Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

A mother of toddler twins is frazzled by her children’s constant conflicts, which often deteriorate into what she describes as hand-to-hand combat. While she makes every effort to be respectful and patient, she’s exhausted by the relentless discord and is wondering how she might diffuse future struggles before they become altercations.For more on siblings and other parenting issues, please check out this new audio resource -- "Sessions" -- my recorded consultations with parents: SessionsAudio.com.Our Sponsors:* Check out BabyQuip and use my code UNRUFFLED for a great deal: http://www.babyquip.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

A nervous mother writes about her daughter’s new compulsion to hit the family dog, even after she’s been asked numerous times to stop. While this mom generally trusts the dog as docile and doesn’t believe her daughter’s intentions are malicious, she worries the dog may have a bad moment and nip the toddler."Sessions" is Janet's exclusive collection of phone consultations with parents. Check out episodes here: SessionsAudio.comOur Sponsors:* Check out BabyQuip and use my code UNRUFFLED for a great deal: http://www.babyquip.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Janet responds to a toddler’s mother who appreciates her child’s ability and willingness to vocalize her feelings, but she doesn’t always appreciate the words she chooses.For more advice on common parenting issues, please check out Janet's best-selling books on Audible, FREE with a 30-day trial membership if you use this link: adbl.co/2OBVztZ.Paperbacks and e-books are also available at Amazon: https://amzn.to/3ATFwkb Google Play, Barnes & Noble, and Apple Books.Our Sponsors:* Check out BabyQuip and use my code UNRUFFLED for a great deal: http://www.babyquip.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Janet replies to the parent of an active 7-month-old who worries that their otherwise respectful relationship is jeopardized by constant struggles at bedtime that are upsetting to her and her baby.For more advice on common infant/toddler parenting issues, please check out Janet's books at Amazon and Audible (adbl.co/2OBVztZ).Also available for download, her audio series "Sessions" -- recorded consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (SessionsAudio.com).Our Sponsors:* Check out BabyQuip and use my code UNRUFFLED for a great deal: http://www.babyquip.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Janet engages child development expert Lisa Sunbury (http://regardingbaby.org) in a discussion about one of the most controversial, hot-button parenting topics -- crying. Together they explore responses to crying that are respectful and healing and describe how adjusting our perception of crying can foster our children's psychological health and emotional resilience.There's more on this topic in Janet's post, "7 Reasons to Calm Down About Babies Crying": http://www.janetlansbury.com/2011/09/7-reasons-to-calm-down-about-babies-crying/For more audio on common parenting issues, please check out this new resource -- "Sessions" -- my recorded consultations with parents: SessionsAudio.comOur Sponsors:* Check out BabyQuip and use my code UNRUFFLED for a great deal: http://www.babyquip.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It’s common for children – toddlers especially – to ask the same question again and again. The behavior can be exhausting and annoying. Perhaps they won’t take “no” for an answer, or they innocently ask, “Why, why, why?” when you’ve answered their question repeatedly. Janet discusses the causes and possible remedies. For more on common parenting issues, please check out this new audio resource -- "Sessions" -- my recorded consultations with parents: SessionsAudio.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Janet responds to a note from a mom who says her toddler is actively rejecting her husband's company and attention, a situation which is hurtful to them both. For more advice on common infant/toddler parenting issues, please check out Janet's books at Amazon and Audible (adbl.co/2OBVztZ). Also available for download, her audio series "Sessions" -- recorded consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (SessionsAudio.com).Our Sponsors:* Check out BabyQuip and use my code UNRUFFLED for a great deal: http://www.babyquip.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

A parent is having difficulty convincing her 10-month-old that pulling mommy’s hair is not a good game, but her son is not getting the message. For more advice on common infant/toddler parenting issues, please check out Janet's books at Amazon and Audible (https://adbl.co/2OBVztZ). Also available for download, her audio series "Sessions" -- recorded consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (SessionsAudio.com).See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Janet shares an excerpt from her book “No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame” where she addresses a mom's frustration with her toddler’s new habit of constantly saying, "No!" For more advice on common parenting issues, please check out Janet's best-selling books on Audible, FREE with a 30-day trial membership if you use this link: adbl.co/2OBVztZ. Paperbacks and e-books are also available at Amazon: https://amzn.to/3ATFwkb Google Play, Barnes & Noble, and Apple Books.Our Sponsors:* Check out BabyQuip and use my code UNRUFFLED for a great deal: http://www.babyquip.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

A concerned mom realizes she's been interfering in her baby's gross motor development by restricting movement and wonders if there are steps she can take to help get her baby get back on track. For more advice on common parenting issues, please check out Janet's best-selling books on Audible, FREE with a 30-day trial membership if you use this link: adbl.co/2OBVztZ. Paperbacks and e-books are also available at Amazon: https://amzn.to/3ATFwkb Google Play, Barnes & Noble, and Apple Books. Also available for download, her audio series "Sessions" -- recorded consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (SessionsAudio.com).Our Sponsors:* Check out BabyQuip and use my code UNRUFFLED for a great deal: http://www.babyquip.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Janet addresses a parent's concerns about feeling “way over my limits with anger and frustration” when dealing with her children’s intense and noisy battles.For more advice on common parenting issues, please check out Janet's best-selling books on Audible, FREE with a 30-day trial membership if you use this link: adbl.co/2OBVztZ.Our Sponsors:* Check out BabyQuip and use my code UNRUFFLED for a great deal: http://www.babyquip.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What it really means to connect with kids when we're guiding their behavior, and how to do it with empathy, calm, and respect. I share a complete guide to respectful discipline in my book "No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame," which is available at Amazon, iBooks, B&N, and also (and popular!) on Audible. Also available for download, my audio series "Sessions" -- recorded consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (SessionsAudio.com).See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode: The interventions we use when children battle over toys or engage in other social struggles are reflective of our perceptions of their abilities, as well as our general attitudes toward learning and ‘struggle’. Do we perceive babies, toddlers and preschoolers as basically capable? Or fragile and needy? Are our children born active, self-directed learners (as child specialist Magda Gerber asserted), or do they need us to manage their development from day one? Should we prevent children from struggling, avoid frustration and disappointment, or are age-appropriate conflicts healthy learning opportunities? My experiences working with infants and toddlers confirm Magda Gerber’s assertions about their competency and the benefits of allowing them to learn through conflict. For more advice on common infant/toddler parenting issues, please check out Janet's books at Amazon and Audible. Also available for download, her audio series "Sessions" -- recorded consultations with parents discussing their most