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Are you winning the "Oscar" for "Best Self Trash Talk"? Are you playing the role of “Best Unsupporting Actress”? Who is fabricating illusions in your mind? Who is stopping you from fully enjoying a life of purpose? YOU! It's time to kick that can, STOP the story, and retire all those negative thoughts you are telling yourself. Tip #1 - You get to choose the thoughts you think! Join us this week on Girlfriendit Radio as we share more tips on how to rewrite pages and even whole chapters in the ongoing story that is called your life! Start working towards a new reality; Potential is waiting for you.

Jesus told him, "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one can come to the Father except through me." - John 14:6 This weekend a question was posed to me by Caleb, my son’s friend. He asked me if I thought one needs to know evil to know good. I guess the next question would be, "What is evil and what is good?" Do you ever wonder if anything is absolute anymore? Do truth and lies exist or is it all “grey” . . . up to each individual to ponder and interpret? Many of us bend the truth and transform it to fit into our own little boxes. Some people say if your intentions are good, then your actions are good. Others say that things that seem perfectly good to one culture, might seem totally evil to another. You can spin it and you can stretch it, but there is still right from wrong. Our family was split on the answer to Caleb’s question, but that is what makes great conversation. Join us in our dialogue of good and evil, truth and lies on this week's show. Pat M

Have you ever had one of those “God flashes” where you realize how incredible and intimate God really is? After being in my house for 22 years, my family and I moved this week. I had been struggling with the move and uncertain of so many decisions. I just wanted God to write on the wall to answer my prayers. Well, instead of writing on the wall, He did it through a song. There we were, my entire family sitting cross-legged on the carpet in the new house filled with nothing but echoes. It was completely empty with the exception of an iPod I'd decided to bring last minute so we could listen to music while praying over the house. Kevin, my hubby, began praying to ask God for a blessing over our new home and this great fresh adventure. In the middle of the prayer, Phillip Phillips' song “Home” began playing. To most this song might be just an ordinary song, but to me this was significant; it was as if God was whispering to all of us, “Thank you for honoring Me and asking Me to bless it . . . I’m going to mak

Wouldn't it be cool if everywhere you went you had your own marketing agent that would go before you to prep your "audience"? You know, someone to sell others on your strengths and talent and create a buzz of anticipation? It'd be kind of like what John the Baptist did for Jesus! Imagine how great a first impression you'd make because you had an advocate that paved the way. If this sounds like an exercise in narcissism, consider how being or having that agent could make voices heard that are trying to make a difference in this world. Learn more this week as we hear from Erik Lokkesmoe, the founder and buzz creator of Different Drummer, an agency for global entertainment brands and content. Different Drummer is aptly named; they've built an impressive list of clients through their dedication to "rethink everything" and “go different this time!” They say, “Great art, entertainment, and media should leave the audience a little better off than when they first entered the theater, turned on the iPod, or op

Do you ever feel invisible? If we are honest, most of us would say we have experienced invisibility in some fashion; such as feeling alone in a crowded room, being ignored and overlooked, sensing someone is looking through you not at you, or having your voice silenced because it wasn’t loud enough or strong enough. Perhaps “invisible” hit you when a circumstance or status changed and you found yourself struggling for your identity. As women, we are wired for relationship. We need each other for encouragement, support, and community. It is easy to forget our worth, our value. We are caretakers and nurturers. Often we put our needs on hold and forget that we matter, too! Sometimes feeling invisible is a result of our own self inflicted insecurities or self esteem issues, but for many women, it is the result of being in an abusive relationship. These women are treated as invisible. They are told they are invisible. As a result, many retreat and go into isolation mode to survive. Is there hope? YES!

What is the first thing you do in the morning? Honestly, our mornings look more like a mad dash than an intentional ease into the day. What if we began each day with a prayer of availability (God, how can you use me this day?)? What would be different about our day if only we took a few seconds to ask this significant question? We can always come up with excuses of “why” we don’t have time to join God where He is working and why we don’t have the time to share His story. Opportunities are all around us, if we just take the time to be aware. At Church recently, we were all given an envelope that had various denominations of money placed inside. We were challenged to go and release what was in our hand into our community with no strings attached and be a blessing to someone. Immediately, wanting to be a good steward of this “blessing”, prayers of availability were said and we were on high alert for God’s leading. It was a great opportunity to be a Relational Entrepreneur for Jesus! Here’s a couple of quest

Unfortunately, our society screams for beauty and physical perfection. The media in America showcases beautiful females to promote the majority of products for sale. So what do we do? How can we stop being so “appearance focused?” We can start by listening to God’s truth that we are wonderfully created, (Psalm 139:14) then, say something positive about yourself. Hear from special guests, Wendy Smith and Rachel Dotzler

"Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.” ~ Neal Donald Walsch When we think of comfort zones we think of ruts, routines, boredom, and predictability. Thinking outside the “zone” evokes an adrenaline rush or a sensation of being highly caffeinated! Excitement, adventure, and risk are the antithesis of comfort. It can be tempting to settle and snuggle into our comfort zones because of convenience, safety, and of course, comfort! But does life in those zones create memories and stories that you’ll be talking about in 25 years??? (It's all about the story, girlfriends!) Several years ago we were hosting a global trip for women in the jungles of Peru. We were asked if we wanted to take a walk into the jungle, complete with spiders and snakes. The adrenaline started to activate and we immediately said YES! Our guides led the way with machetes in hand as we followed with great anticipation. We were not disappointed. Along the way we met a boa constrictor that some of the natives said was friendly. Is t

How do I help someone become more fully human??? How can I help others integrate all areas of the human experience (social, cultural, spiritual)? How does my vocation fit into the mission of this world? If these kind of questions keep you up at night, listen in this week as Dale and Jonalyn Fincher, founders of Soulation, show us how they not only help individuals tackle these uncertainties but they help rejuvenate others with biblical truths. Dale and Jonalyn are speakers and authors and their latest book, Long Live the King, is out this month on Amazon! This month is a special time as we celebrate Jesus’ sacrifice and resurrection. Listen to the show and let’s be intentional together as we prepare and become more whole, free, and as the Finchers say, “more fully human!”

We are sitting in the Miami Airport waiting for our flight, staring at the overhead TV monitor watching the celebrities walk the red carpet – it’s Oscar Night! Cameras are flashing, microphones are waving and the celebrities are poising for gawking onlookers and paparazzi. The world is watching . . . and so are we! One part of us is intrigued, the other is sad. Yet, we want to watch . . . only because it is convenient. It raises questions about our culture and our fascination with celebrities. We want to know what they are wearing, who they are with, and are they likable? Is this idolatry and perhaps a little narcissistic? What do we love? What do we value? What do we display on our own “red carpet” in life? We all have a red carpet that we walk that symbolizes the things we love and value. Are you absorbing the world’s values or Gods? In 2012, Bethany Jett won the Florida Christian Writers Conference Writer of the Year award. Her debut book, The Cinderella Rule, hits bookstores in Aprilof 2013. She is repres

I just read Arron Chambers’ blog on “Top 10 Things That Can Drain a Preacher”, and had a smile on my face the entire time. Whether you’ve been in ministry for a decade or a month, you can relate to some of these top 10 things, which were compiled from responses of his FB friends. They are hysterical and highly relatable. Aaron is a Pastor, Author, Speaker, Leadership Consultant, Marriage Coach, and Blogger! He will be on Girlfriendit Radio this week, and you do not want to miss him! {The following is excerpted from Arron Chambers’ blog.}
10 Drainers 1. When, after a sermon, someone from the congregation asks, “May I give you some constructive criticism?” 2. When, at a board meeting, a deacon says, “Let me play the Devil’s advocate.” 3. EGR’s: Extra Grace Required People. 4. Having to see your salary posted on the wall outside your office when you know that every other Elder and Deacon makes twice as much as you do and thinks that you are overpaid. 5. When someone approaches you and says, “The Lord

This is one of the most touching and refreshing and inspiring stories I have read in a long time. If you had made this story up, I wouldn’t have believed it, but it’s true. We all need something to inspire us, and I promise you, this book will make you want to stand up and do something nice for people. What a wonderful and needed story for all of us. An Invisible Thread is fantastic.” Mike Huckabee
Former Governor of Arkansas,
Host of Fox News’ “Huckabee Show” Can “Love” truly change lives? We have never heard a story of love that didn’t lead to transformation. Stories are powerful and God uses them as His Stories. When we open our eyes and ears to them we see where we can fit into a story or make our own. Listen in to Girlfriendit Radio as we chat with Laura Schroff and the impact that love has made on two people because she chose to stop and give time to an 11 year old that was begging on the streets of New York. Now 25 years late, this meeting has turned into a friendship that has impacted not only thei

The following is an excerpt of an article by Harmony Dust: So who am I? Does what I’ve done in the past define who I am in the present? What do I love? What are my dreams? At their core these are questions of identity and purpose. If we anchor ourselves in the truth, that what we have done is not who we are, then part of the process of picking up the pieces is determining what things that we are going to leave behind. Some of the things that used to “work” for us just don’t work anymore. Habits that don’t serve us. Thoughts that tear us down. Beliefs about who we are that hinder us. Old defense mechanisms that helped us survive at one point, but are not needed or helpful in the new life we are building. What circumstances cause you to retreat? What false beliefs are connected to these circumstances? Join us this week on GirlfriendIt Radio as we unpack more of these vital questions and get closer to discovering our authentic selves with Harmony Dust of Treasures Ministries. Don’t miss it!!

Love! Do we over-use and abuse this word – or – do we not use and demonstrate love enough in our lives? Patty has been candid with us about the pain surrounding the tragic death of her mother in recent shows and a piece of that story surfaced for her publicly last week with the death of the man who murdered her mother almost 13 years ago. My heart, and I am sure many other hearts resonate with the struggles Patty and Lisa have talked about before: How do we love those that are hard to love??? It is our commandment to love; specifically to love God and love others. What message are you communicating on a daily basis? What about when pain hits your path in life, is it harder to love? This week, Patty will be chatting with special guest, former Beatles manager Ken Mansfield. And the Beatles really wanted to give the world a message when they came out with the song, “All You Need is Love.” You won’t want to miss hearing former Beatles manager, Ken Mansfield’s fascinating story! His unique story tou

What do the words holy sexuality stir in you? Do you believe that these words go together? Do you have a distorted view of God and your sexuality? Perhaps sin or past pain in your life has infested your heart and blocks the truthful view. What do you long for God to help you with or redeem with regards to your sexuality? If everyone is doing it, why should one save sex for marriage? Is masturbation a sin? Maybe this is a taboo topic for you… If not, listen to this week’s show with Patty and Lisa as they discuss holy sexuality with special guests Dale and Jonalyn Fincher founders of Soulation. They will unpack how a husband and wife can truly share themselves beyond an encounter of just heat and passion, but to the physical and spiritual interchange that comes from the mysteries that lay inside us. God never intended sex to be boring or a dull act of reproduction . . .

You were born to win, but to be a winner, you must plan to win, prepare to win, and expect to win. Zig Ziglar What’s your plan . . . · Spiritually · Ministry wise · Financially · Healthy wise · Professionally This is a question we seem to ask ourselves most often at the beginning of a new year when we are “planning” our year at a glance. Motivation is the highest at this time along with the desire to live a productive year and make it our best yet! But . . .do you know where you are going? If not, it is almost impossible to create a plan . . . a plan that will inevitably go nowhere. A few years ago, while sitting in a room full of people who were ready to learn how to create a Health Plan for a better life, a question was asked. We were asked to think of a number between 1 and 10 that best described our desire to live healthy. The facilitator then said, “If your number was not 9 or 10, you are not ready for ‘the plan’.” Desire accompanied with a strong determination is the th

Girlfriendit is dedicating January to focus on holiness, so perhaps we should say, “Happy Holiness!!!” God says, "Be Holy for I am Holy." But what does that mean? In Romans 12:1, Paul urges us to offer ourselves as living sacrifices . . . setting us apart for His purpose. So how do we do this? We can begin by asking ourselves if and how we are allowing God’s Spirit to change the way we think. How are we renewing our minds for transformation? Each New Year offers a great time of refreshing; let’s set goals and choose Holiness to be expressed in every aspect of our lives. Goodbye, 2012 . . . Every Happy ending is just a New Beginning . . . P.S. Renew your mind this Thursday by listening to Girlfriendit Radio! With our guest, author and #1 New York Times Bestseller, William Paul Young.

How are you conveying to your team and to others the plan-the “IT” of what you do-the “Why” that keeps you going? Our ultimate goal in this life is to get closer to Christ, be an ambassador for Him, and to do His will. Basically, make a big deal about HIM! Our focus as we are building our teams and putting our plans in place is to make certain that the major decisions are based on building the Kingdom, not on personal interests. 
 
Matthew 6:33-34: "But seek first His Kingdom and His righteousness, and all these 
things shall be added to you. And one great tip Patty and Lisa received from one of their prayer intercessors, Lynn, was to read and meditate on Psalm 90:12, 14-17. “Teach us to number our days aright, that we may gain a heart of wisdom. Satisfy us in the morning with your unfailing love, that we may sing for joy and be glad all our days. Make us glad for as many days as you have afflicted us, for as many years as we have seen trouble. May your deeds be shown to your servants, your splendor to th

“Hey, let’s connect some time” . . . How many times do we use that phrase without really thinking of how significant it is? We all communicate, but very few people actually connect. Have you ever wondered why certain people flourish in their jobs, organizations or ministries while you might feel stagnant or stuck? This week, Patty and Lisa chat with Christian wife, mother, writer and speaker Gillian Marchenko. Gillian writes and speaks to connect with other women about real life motherhood, stumbling faith, down syndrome, adoption, grace and a whole lot more. Her writing has been featured in MomSense Magazine, EFCA Today, Four Cornered Universe, The Tri-City Record, Chicago Parent, Story Bleed, Chicago Special Parent, Gifted for Leadership, Charlottesville Family, Connections Magazine, and Today’s Christian Woman. Also, hear who Patty and Lisa have sat next to recently. Listen and connect with us!