Brojo Online Podcast

Most people try to label themselves as succinctly as possible. These identity labels come with an unwritten set of rules, standards and boundaries. Whatever the identity, the label is a summary of the rules you must follow to remain true to “yourself.” We believe in our identities only because of a massive filtering out of evidence - both passively and actively - to avoid acknowledging the simple truth: That we’re not identifiable.

If something exceeds your expectations, you're happy. If it doesn't, you're disappointed, upset and anxious. So, given that you set your own expectations, we see a great opportunity for you to gain more autonomy over your enjoyment of life. Let's explore what an expectation is, how it's created, and what you could be doing differently about this whole process.

From early childhood we start receiving the message that we need a purpose in life; a single goal that we are supposed to feel passionate about and chase with unrelenting vigour. What if this is actually counter-productive to finding meaning in every single moment, because it keeps us focused on the fictional future? In this episode we explore how to create a meaningful life one second at a time

Most people are passive in their interactions, while others are overly controlling and dominant. Leadership has nothing to do with either of these states of being. Leading a conversation is about expressing truthfulness without attempted manipulation, followed by opening up a space for others to contribute, and listening to them attentively while they speak. Check out this short episode to learn more

We all have weeks that just do not go our way, or are filled with heartbreak, failure and confusion. These are unavoidable. What can be influenced, however, is how we react to and deal with weeks such as these. Introducing Confidence Coach and Founder of the Forge Your Life Podcast, Richard Phu. In this true-life episode we explore how Richard was able to cope with a week that included a major career change, a break-up with a fiancee and so much more.

Thanks to the internet, we are the generation who gets to see a full, unmoderated view of how full of shit everyone is. Sometimes it beggars belief how insecure, irrational and just plain misinformed a majority of the world seems to be. It’s a big deal. Most of who ‘you’ are gets created through the influence of others. There is no such thing as objective independence. As soon as you come into contact with another human, they affect you. This cannot be prevented. So let's look at how to reduce the impact bullshit has on your decision-making.

Neediness is the enemy to success. Creating a Nothing to Lose mindset means letting go of your emotional attachment to things that don't matter, and behaving as a person who is already complete. Sounds complex but it's as simple as taking a small risk. Listen to this episode for more on how you can behave like a confidence person who has nothing to lose and everything to gain.

Meeting MJ Fitzpatrick these days, you'd struggle to believe he ever had any self-worth issues. He's successful. He's socially confident. He's extroverted, with a loving wife and thriving coaching business. But you're seeing the end result of years of pain, suffering and growth. If you know what it's like to be bullied as a child, you need to listen to this inspirational true story of recovery.

There are 3 common mistakes guys make when it comes to showing attraction towards someone. These mistakes cause them to express themselves indirectly, and come across as needy and desperate. It doesn't have to be this way! In this episode we look at how you can create the courage needed to be shamelessly honest about your interest in someone without sounding creepy.

Simon Cottrell was the typical Mr Nice Guy. As a result, he suffered from superficial connections, low self-worth, and a lack of self-respect. Then, he decided to make a change. Listen to his story, as he delves into the depths of bullying and self-loathing through to discovering who he really was. This one is a must listen for all recovering people-pleasers and Nice Guys.

There has only ever been ONE thing stopping you from truly enjoying life and creating what you want: Neediness. When you chase something, it runs away. When you try, you create failure. In this episode, we dig into the psychology of neediness and explore practical, realistic methods for reducing it, to allow you to experience deep connections and to actually get what you want (sometimes)..

When you're at your lowest low it can seem inconceivable that your life might one day be fully satisfying, enjoyable and an inspiration to others. Meet Justin Stenstrom, CEO of Elite Man Magazine and an all-round remarkable human being. In this vulnerable interview he shares his story on how he went from suicidal, depressed and crippled by social anxiety, to the genuine, loving and powerfully confident man he is today.

Treat yourself to a copy of Dan Munro’s new book “THE NAKED TRUTH: Using Powerful Honesty to Enhance Your Confidence, Connections and Integrity” https://www.brojo.org/pub/the-naked-truth-honesty-confidence-connections-integrity If you enjoyed this podcast, get access to more of Dan's content and his powerful confidence-building email courses by joining the famous BROJO self-development community. Learn more here https://www.brojo.org/enrol ------------------------ Every time you interact with someone, they influence you. Some people do this on purpose. Some do it to get something from you, even if it harms you. Some even do it to control you, just for their own amusement. This is what we often refer to as harmful manipulation. In this episode, I share what 7 years of battling manipulative criminal offenders for the Department of Corrections taught me about managing manipulation. If you want to make sure no one can ever get inside your head to control you, check this out.

Myke Macapinlac is the Program Director of Social Confidence Mastery, he helps shy guys succeed socially so they can create the lifestyle they deserve. In this vulnerable interview he shares his true backstory to overcoming crippling shyness and social anxiety, dealing with self-worth doubts and Asian cultural restrictions. Be prepared to hear the truth, and check out more about Myke here - www.socialconfidencemastery.com

For most, a first date is a high-anxiety interview with a potential mate, who has the power to destroy your self-worth. Not the most fun idea for a night out, right? What if dating didn't have to be this way? What if we're creating pressure where there doesn't need to be? If you're a single guy on the dating scene, this one may save you a tonne of anxiety. Enjoy!

Your fear of other people hating you has ruled your decision-making in the social sphere your entire life. It's subtle; things like being polite, hiding your feelings, and agreeing just to keep the peace. In a world that seems afraid of honest connection, what would it be like to allow people to hate you, so that you can find the ones who love you? Let's figure it out together.

Treat yourself to a copy of Dan Munro’s new book “THE NAKED TRUTH: Using Powerful Honesty to Enhance Your Confidence, Connections and Integrity” https://www.brojo.org/pub/the-naked-truth-honesty-confidence-connections-integrity If you enjoyed this podcast, get access to more of Dan's content and his powerful confidence-building email courses by joining the famous BROJO self-development community. Learn more here https://www.brojo.org/enrol ------------------------ You've been told you're a nice guy your whole life. You bend over backwards trying to make sure everyone is happy, particularly women. You feel like the last good guy alive and resent living in the "friendzone" as your reward. But are you really as nice as you think? What darkness lurks beneath all that helpful behaviour? Let's talk - Nice Guy to Nice Guy - about the truth of our intentions, and how to be more assertively confident, honest and powerful men.

Most people deal with confrontation in unhelpful ways. You either avoid it and sugar-coat it, leaving yourself to get walked all over. Or you explode and judge, destroying relationships and connections. Thankfully, there is a way to assert yourself and respect your boundaries without causing World War 3. Listen to this to learn all about it

Balance investment of effort, attention, love, money and time in a relationship is crucial to it's success. Yet so many of us are in relationships or friendships that are imbalanced. One person is doing too much while the other is holding back. Let's explore how to live by the value of Respect in a relationship.

All your life you've been fed the story about finding the one, and settling down to a happily-ever-after dream life. How's that working out for you? Before you start chasing people in a needy, desperate attempt to fit in with society's expectations, listen to this