Conversations With Cinthia

You know that feeling that happens when you arrive home and get ready to go inside?  It can be a wonderful feeling, a terrible one, or lots of things in between the two, depending on what it is like for you to live there.  You also live inside yourself, inside your own body and head.  When your distractions subside and you become more aware of your own internal environment, how do you feel about living inside of you?  Today Cinthia discusses ways you can change your own internal environment, making the inside of your own head a place you don’t have to avoid. To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

Competition is everywhere, from the football field to the freeway, from the playground to that phone call with family last week.  When does friendly competition become threatening?  Why do some people treat everything as a competition?  And how can we compete appropriately without losing our joy to our own inner comparisons with others?  Join Cinthia to discuss competing in order to improve ourselves, rather than to destroy others or fulfill an inner longing that winning cannot touch.  To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

Whether we deny it, dwell on it daily, or turn backflips to avoid thinking about it, the past can haunt us.  What would it be like to face your past and make some decisions that help you move forward?  To do what needs to be done so you are no longer defined by it?  Today Cinthia discusses what it means to face your past in a healthy way and deal with it so it no longer deals with you.  To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

Is there a legitimate need for vice in life?  Life is hard, and it is easy to turn to vice to numb the pain.  We may view our vices as anesthesia for our hurts and crutches for helping us get through life.  Unlike crutches and anesthesia, however, our vices tend to move us slowly away from life and health rather than helping us do what is necessary to embrace those things.   Today Cinthia explores what makes a vice, what function it serves, what it costs, and what other options exist for dealing with the pain of life. To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

How do you think about your future?  What do you dream, plan, or casually toss around in your brain?  Whether we chart it all out mentally or simply put things off until tomorrow, we all give mental space to the time ahead of us.  Today Cinthia explains that the way we think about ourselves and our future, as well as the way we interact with God about our future plans and the plans He has for us, make a huge difference.  How will you think differently about tomorrow, today?  To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

Anger is an emotion that is not good or bad, in and of itself, but it can be powerfully used for good or for ill.  It can energize and inspire, hurt and harm, move us toward connection or annihilate our relationships, push us to fight for justice or inflate us to believe we are superior to others.  Do you manage your anger, or does it manage you?  Are you aware of your anger, and do you know how to calm yourself and express anger simultaneously?  Join Cinthia to look at how to use this super-power emotion for good.  To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

Most of us know the signs of physical adulthood, but we often struggle to identify, define, or deal with issues of emotional maturity in ourselves and others, despite the fact that these issues impact much of our lives and the lives of those around us.  Today Cinthia discusses characteristics of emotional maturity and immaturity and offers guidance for helping ourselves to mature in these less-obvious but oh-so-important areas, as well as dealing with people in our lives who currently lack emotional maturity despite living in adult bodies.  To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

How have you experienced the holidays this year?  It would be nice if we could all feel bathed in the joy and peace of Christmas and then greet a new year with excitement and fresh energy… but sometimes the holidays make us keenly aware of our loneliness and the ways we feel disconnected from others.  Some of the factors involved in this are beyond our control, but there are some pieces we can address.  For example, did you know that one of the greatest sources of loneliness and disconnection from others can be a sense of disconnection with ourselves -- a lack of self-knowledge, or even a rejection of who we are and how we are made?  And, while we may be stuck with some non-returnable Christmas gifts, we don’t have to keep our self-rejection, self-alienation, and discontentment about who we are and how we were made.  Join Cinthia to consider how changing your relationship with yourself just might impact your relationship with the world around you and help that loneliness begin to lift.  To dive deeper into th

Now that the presents of Christmas 2022 have been bought/made, wrapped, and opened, what gift do you still want to give?  What kind of gift do you want to be?  You were made by God on purpose because He wanted to make you, and He intended you to be a gift to the world unlike any of the others He made.  So New Year’s (which is coming up, by the way) doesn’t have to be about making a bunch of self-focused, perfectionistic resolutions to become what you think you should be.  It can be more.  Join Cinthia to consider the specific kind of gift you get to be to the world this year and what it might take to become that gift.  To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

Why do we keep doing the same things again and again, expecting different results even though we continue to get the old ones?  If you’ve listened to Cinthia for long, you won’t be surprised to hear that both the problem and the solution have to do with the ways we think.  Cinthia explains that our brains tend to respond to triggers by going down neural pathways that have been created over time, reinforcing them even further every time we travel there.  She also explores ways we can challenge these own patterns and work on creating and traveling down some new neural and behavioral roads. To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

The word “vibe” can make people think of different things, some of which are hard to define or differentiate.  But we do know that our bodies have electricity, chemicals, and other physical properties that influence our “sense” of those around us.  When should we trust our intuition?  What is the difference between heeding those difficult-to-define danger signals and jumping to unfair conclusions about others?  Join Cinthia to consider what we mean by “vibes” and how to approach these vague feelings that can seem so confusing.  To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

Why do human beings (who, by the way, need love desperately) fight so hard against the gift we most need?  What should we do when we wonder whether a gesture of love or kindness might have strings attached?  And, when we do try to give and receive love with another person, why do we sometimes feel as if we are speaking different languages?  Join Cinthia to explore why the love we most need is sometimes so threatening to us and to take a step toward more effectively enjoying the gift of love.  To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

As a holiday, Thanksgiving can take a lot of preparation.  But the actual giving of thanks requires ongoing realignment of our hearts and minds.  The good news is that it is worth the work on so many levels!  Now that last Thursday's feast has come and gone, join Cinthia to look at the continual feast that gratitude can create.  To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

We can like, enjoy, and respect people with all kinds of differences from ourselves, but true intimacy requires a shared value system.  We know we will not agree with our spouses about everything all the time – in fact, some might even say that “opposites attract” or that differences can help to create chemistry!  But core values are those beliefs that most deeply influence the way we live our lives.  Join Cinthia to consider your deepest values and how they impact your closest relationships.  To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

Do you think of yourself as a leader or a follower?  Do you want to teach or to be taught?  Whether or not we own it, each of us gives and receives influence, and we are responsible for our behavior in each role.  How can we own our influence and be teachable at the same time?  What does it mean to be accountable for what we teach and what we learn?  Join Cinthia to talk about all this and more. To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

Traditions are powerful, and their impact can be positive, negative, or mixed.  What happens when a tradition seems to do more harm than good?  What about when traditions devolve into going through motions that simply cause more stress, or when family makeup changes and different people bring different traditions to the table?  Is there a way to hold onto the connections traditions provide while respectfully retiring or adjusting those that need to change?  As we enter the holidays, join Cinthia to consider what to do with our traditions.  To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

We've all been there... burnout.  It's the point when we don't care anymore.  It goes beyond stress into the realm of despair.  What do we do when the value of the journey seems to pale in comparison with the tedium, the pain, the effort of continuing?  What about those times when we no longer have much hope, and even the thought of victory seems too far away to matter?  Join Cinthia for a look at beating burnout in our everyday lives.  To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

Why do some people lie more often than others?  More easily than others?  Do most people who lie meet the stereotype of a manipulative, generally unethical person?  While acknowledging that lies can come in many forms and happen for many reasons, Cinthia explains that, for many of us, most of our lies result from fear.  So what fears are getting between you and the truth?  To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

What is it like to be in close relationship with you?  To have a conversation with you?  To stand next to you in line at the DMV?  Today Cinthia encourages us each to consider whether our ways of relating to others are generally more positive or negative and what impact this has on those around us.  She discusses some characteristics that may make us generally more high- or low-risk for others (and vice versa), as well as some habits that tend to make things better or worse for those who cross our paths.  In a society that seems to promote both the selfish indulgence of our own whims at the expense of others AND the anxiety-riddled determination to validate everyone else’s feelings and beliefs all the time, how can we learn to be basically safe humans for the people next to us?  To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6

If you’ve listened to the show for long, you’ve heard Cinthia talk a lot about “being your own best version.”  You’ve heard her teach that you (yes, you, personally) are alive for a reason, that God only made one of you, and that He did it on purpose.  No one else can be what He made you to be.  You’ve heard her teach that you can effect change in yourself and in the world around you.  You’ve heard her teach that pain is inevitable and that the effective management of it is imperative for being your own best version.  So are you learning to be your own best version?  And, if not, what is getting in your way?  Today Cinthia explores these established teachings in a new way.  To dive deeper into the message of each podcast, we've created a study guide for each episode. Download your FREE Study Guide here!  https://www.cinthiahiett.com/services-6