Smalley Marriage Radio

Dr. Larry Nasser is dominating the news right now, and for good reason! How in the world did he get away with harming so many young ladies?  What can you do as a loving parent to protect your own child from people like Nasser?   These questions and more will be answered on today's broadcast.  I will also be taking your live calls, so get ready for some real advice on how you can build a better relationship starting today! Here's a little cheat sheet of the show today: "JANE REMEMBERS THE linoleum floor in the bathroom of Larry Nassar's apartment. She remembers feeling strange as he walked in and handed her gymnastics magazines to read as she lay fully naked in his bathtub. She was 12 or 13; she can't recall exactly." (http://www.espn.com/espn/otl/story/_/id/22046031/michigan-state-university-doctor-larry-nassar-surrounded-enablers-abused-athletes-espn) More than 150 women who reported him US Gymastics seemingly ignored NCAA ignored Michigan state ignored Why

What a show today! I get to interview Rhonda Jolliffe, the founder of rhondanp.com.  What's so great about the show today? We have one of the most honest and frank conversations about menopause ever!  Rhonda has great insight for women who might be experiencing menopause but we also address how menopause impacts a relationship and what to do about it. About 20 years helping women through menopause The creator of rhondanp.com Get a free course, just visit rhondanp.com/smalley Understand the positives of menopause. Does menopause help creativity for women? What are some of the best things women can do for menopause? Tips for husbands with wives going through menopause. Andropause, it’s the menopause for men!

My co-host Seth takes over the show today!  Seth wants to talk about ending well. Every good thing sometimes comes to an end Dating, marriage, business, etc. How to end well “Ending well means intentionally setting aside time for reflection and acknowledgment, time to name the cost, the enormity of the work and everything that has gone into it, and name the moments of grace and beauty that helped carry us through.” The Allender Center Don’t dismiss it or avoid it Embrace the awkwardness Don’t lie What are your favorite memories?

A single guy asked a question for the show that hit some serious buttons for me.  I wouldn’t say I’m angry, because I’m not, but I am definitely worked up because I feel like single Christian people get themselves into the most ridiculous situations because...well, I’ll save the rest for the show. “My ex girlfriend and I have been in and out of a relationship for the last two years. we recently started talking again. The reason for the in and out is because she went on a missions trip and started to feel like God may be calling her to full time ministry in another country. We both want to get married but everything that she feels God has been doing in her life over the past two years doesn't allow us to grow in our relationship because of the lack of security of not knowing if she will even be around for much longer if God "calls her" to the mission field. She has been unsure of her calling and doesn't know for sure if God is calling her so she's been pursuing different opportunities and something legit

“You've talked about taking a timeout when things get too heated. I feel my husband uses this phrase as a way of avoiding the problems we face. Unfortunately, communication in our marriage has become so unpleasant and difficult that timeouts have become a lifestyle and we have virtually no communication. I'm talking like years and years, at least 15. At this point I feel we have no connection and no relationship, along with so many unresolved issues I don't even know where to start. We have been married for 35 yrs. I don't want to give up, but I do not want to live the rest of my life with a hostile stranger. HELP!” If this sounds like you...then listen to the show.

Today we take on one of the shortest, yet intense questions asked by a listener yet! I’ll just let you read it for yourself, “Is there a walking away point in marriage?”  I don’t know...is there? We’ll answer this question on today's show. “My wife wants a divorce, I do not. She wants the four kids and I am supposed to move out. I want reconciliation, she says ‘No chance, ever!’ What do I do?” Respect the boundary even though it seems counterproductive Give her the space she is demanding Let her know you would love a chance to hear what you can do to repair the relationship, but you’ll be patient till she is ready In the meantime Get help Counseling, mentor, discipleship Make changes She needs to see and experience the change...not hear about it Let your actions do the talking for you Listen to our series A Hero’s Guide to Winning Back Your Wife https://www.smalleyinstitute.com/blog?tag=hero%27s+guide+to+winning+back+your+wife

On Saturday Night Live, a character named Stuart Smalley used to say, “I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and dog gone it people like me.” I’m not sure we’ve ever had a better introduction to the show...ever! Today we discuss the benefits of talking to yourself and how it can positively impact your relationships.

Why we are doing a show like today is beyond me!  Because I know at first, you’re going to be thinking to yourself, “How is this going to help me? I’m not a pastor or a leader at a church.”  Well my listening friends, all that needs to change today.  Because you need to know what an effective church marriage strategy looks like so you can begin harassing your church leadership to implement it.  But it can also help your relationship specifically, if you’re willing to do the same things for your own marriage.

What's healthy when it comes to sexual intimacy in marriage? This episode is definitely not for little ears, a warning to those parents who might not want their kids to hear an honest and frank discussion about sex. I've got Dave Willis on the show and we don't shy away from anything when discussion sexual intimacy.

I am the survivor of a vicious lion attack.  It happened this past June, and it may be the reason our family is closer than ever.  What is the secret to a close-knit family? The post Benefits of a lion attack – sort of appeared first on Smalley Institute.

It’s the ninth show in our series called, The Hero’s Guide to Winning Back Your Wife! It is the final show (until Seth reminds me that we need to do a wrap-up show) of the series.  Last show we had to walk you through the possibility that your wife won’t come back.   The post What if she does come back – Hero’s Guide to Winning Back Your Wife appeared first on Smalley Institute.

It’s the eighth show of our series, The Hero’s Guide to Winning Back Your Wife.  Sometimes, the hero’s journey doesn’t have a hollywood ending.  It can be more like the ending of Cold Mountain with Jude Law and Nicole Kidman. The post What if she doesn’t come back – Hero’s Guide to Winning Back Your Wife appeared first on Smalley Institute.

We’ve landed on the seventh week in our series, The Hero’s Guide to Winning Back Your Wife.  Today’s show could possibly be the most important of the entire series because you are going to learn the one question you have to ask. The post Asking the all powerful question – Hero’s Guide to Winning Back Your Wife appeared first on Smalley Institute.

This is our sixth installment of the Hero’s Guide to Winning Back Your Wife series! Today you get to discover exactly how a real man seeks forgiveness. The post How a real man seeks forgiveness – Hero’s Guide to Winning Back Your Wife appeared first on Smalley Institute.

Today you’re going to learn, perhaps, one of the quickest ways you can win back the heart of your wife. The post Why she’s always right – The Hero’s Guide to Winning Back Your Wife appeared first on Smalley Institute.

Today we talk about one of the best ways you can stop the miserable conflict dance you learned about in episode two and you’re not going to like it. The post It starts with you: Hero’s Guide to Winning Back Your Wife appeared first on Smalley Institute.

“It was pride that changed angels into devils; it is humility that makes men as angels.” Saint Augustine.  You’ll never guess what we’re talking about today. The post Every hero has been humbled – A Hero’s Guide to Winning Back Your Wife appeared first on Smalley Institute.

It’s the second show of The Hero’s Guide To Winning Back Your Wife, and it is a big show!  Today you are doing to learn exactly how you lost your wife in the first place...and my guess is...you never knew it was because of this one thing. The post How you lost her in the first place – A Hero’s Guide to Winning Back Your Wife appeared first on Smalley Institute.

Today we start a special series on The Hero’s Guide To Winning Back Your Wife.  It’s based on a new book I’m writing with my brother-in-law Roger Gibson for men who want to build the marriage of their dreams. The post A Hero’s Guide To Winning Back Your Wife – who’s your daddy appeared first on Smalley Institute.

One of our listeners asks some questions that deal with some real and troubling things.  Is a separation a good thing for a troubled marriage?  How do you handle a spouse who’s been diagnosed with a personality disorder?  Can divorce actually help create a clean slate for your relationship to reboot or start over again?  Answers to these questions are coming up next. The post Can separation heal a troubled marriage? appeared first on Smalley Institute.