10 Things To Tell You

We're back with all new episodes!  I have so many Favorite Things to share with you from this summer. Remember that we share favorite things every few months as an exercise in gratitude but also because it's a fun and low stakes way to share ourselves. What we're into at any given moment is a reflection of our tastes and interests.  My Favorite Things (Right Now) Summer 2023: Birthday Journal NEST NY Himalayan Salt and Rose Water Candle Everyday Habits App Adult Friendship bracelets (the one I bought here) Taking loved ones on a trip of a lifetime Abbott Elementary The Retrievals Basecamp Shark Heart by Emily Habeck Event Culture  FULL SHOW NOTES (with everything I talk about) HERE   ALSO MENTIONED in this episode: TLC Book Club Drop Ins  Secret Stuff private podcast & membership community Book Soup Event with Emily Habeck    Books we’re reading in Secret Stuff: On Writing by Stephen King  On Our Best Behavior by Elise Loehnen Monsters by Claire Dederer   Birthday Journal IG post  Fab

I met author Alli Worthington over a decade ago when we were both in the mommy blogging world, and I've long looked up to her as an entreprenuer and innovator in the online space. And while I was a mommy blogger back then who didn't write much about motherhood, Alli was creating conferences, writing books, and raising FIVE boys and a stepdaughter.  So of course with that kind of expertise, I am excited to share this conversation about motherhood that's aimed at the MOTHER. Alli's latest book Remaining You While Raising Them is the opposite of an instruction manual for parenting, which is what makes it so refreshing.  In this episode, Alli and I talk about mom guilt, real self care, and the different ways social media and the likes can make us feel like we’re not measuring up. We also talk about our identities as mothers, the magic question Alli wants women to get in the habit of asking themselves, and why it’s important to allow our kids to see us get angry sometimes. Learn more about Alli Worthington  Buy Re

As we near the 200th episode of 10 Things To Tell You, we're using this summer to pull a few episodes out of the archives from the first year of the show.  August feels like the second "new year" on the calendar. Even if you're no longer super aware of the school calendar as a student, parent, or teacher, it still feels like a fresh start after the summer and heading into the last half of the year. This episode is for you if you’re thinking about setting intentions, starting affirmations, and creating a vision board for the new year. In this replay episode from the end of 2019, I’m sharing my experience with setting intentions, writing down affirmations, and creating a vision board for the future. Let me be clear that I am no expert on any of these things, but I do believe that something goes on in your consciousness when you stay open to receiving what the world has to offer (instead of closing yourself off from anything you don’t understand), and by putting in place a few practices that might positively aff

As we near the 200th episode of 10 Things To Tell You, we're using this summer to pull a few episodes out of the archives from the first year of the show.  This episode is for you if you're interested in general mindfulness for personal growth.  The things we avoid are the things that can be teaching us something. I'm talking about the topics and people who give me a little twinge that I should pay attention to, both in real life and on social media. FILL OUT THE 10 THINGS TO TELL YOU PODCAST LISTENER SURVEY   Mentioned in this episode: Tools of Titans by Tim Ferriss   SPONSORS: HelloFresh // Go to HelloFresh.com/YOU50 for 50% off plus free shipping   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tre

As we near the 200th episode of 10 Things To Tell You, we're using this summer to pull a few episodes out of the archives from the first year of the show.  This episode is for you if you’ve ever needed to shake off a bad mood or a bad day.  I’m sharing 10 ways to pull myself out a funk. FILL OUT THE LISTENER SURVEY HERE   MENTIONED in this episode:  BONUS EP: Intentions, Affirmations, and Vision Boards, Oh my! Ep 46: Book Club 2019 Best Books of 2019 blog post Burnout by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski Gretchen Rubin (her podcasts and her books) The Next Right Thing by Emily P Freeman (her podcast and her book) Ep 9: 10 Ways to journal     SPONSORS: Betterhelp // Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month Lume // Go to LumeDeodorant.com/YOU for 40% off your starter pack     SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group S

As we near the 200th episode of 10 Things To Tell You, we're using this summer to pull a few episodes out of the archives from the first year of the show. This episode is for you if you’ve ever looked at a photo of yourself and gasped. This has happened to all of us, right? We've looked a photo of ourselves and seen a stranger.   FILL OUT THE PODCAST LISTENER SURVEY HERE   Mentioned in this episode: Episode #4: How do you connect to your body?   SPONSORS: Zocdoc // Go to Zocdoc.comYOU to download the Zocdoc app for free   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megap

Amy Keller Laird is the founder of Mental, the first mental health lifestyle platform for women. Previously, she was the Global Editor-in-Chief of Women’s Health and Beauty Director of Allure. Amy is a thought leader in wellness, mental health, and beauty, having appeared as an expert on Today, Good Morning America, The Doctors, and Entertainment Tonight. She has OCD, and has been named a Friend of NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) for her journalistic work in mental health. In our conversation, Amy shares 10 Things she wants you to know about mental health in this moment, including tools that can help you and thoughts on destigmatizing the way women talk about living with mental health struggles.  Learn more about Amy Keller Laird  Check out the MENTAL website   FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Calm Strips Fired over zoom: what to do next 6 Reasons you might want to reconsider ADHD Is it ADHD? Or bipolar? Could it be both? How to find your best weighted blanket Poet Brianna Past

As we near the 200th episode of 10 Things To Tell You, we're using this summer to pull a few episodes out of the archives from the first year of the show.  This episode and this concept is brought to you by an old boyfriend, who (I think?) made up this analogy and it contributed to the end of our relationship and also has stayed with me as a major life question and metaphor. FILL OUT THE PODCAST LISTENER SURVEY NOW!   MENTIONED in this episode: Netflix docuseries REMASTERED: Devil and the Crossroads   SPONSORS: Betterhelp // Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laur

June is my birthday month, and every year I create a personal episode for the occasion. This year, instead of waxing nostaligic or sharing what I've learned in the last year, I'm taking us on a journey.  Of metaphors.  I'm sharing four metaphors that feel especially apt for life right now: One Point (clap clap) At A Time There are years where you wander and years when you're on the road Accelerate through the turn You are not lost   I hope you take something from this episode that helps you on your path.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Ep 174: 3 Things I've Learned While Working with a Business Coach  Their Eyes Were Watching God by Zora Neale Hurston JOIN SECRET STUFF for an exclusive invite to the Secret Stuff Summit     SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show

Instead of waiting for the end of the year to talk about our favorite books, my real life book club members Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith and I decided we should have a mid-year meeting to discuss some of the great things we've read in this first half of 2023.  We talk about the best novels, memoirs, personal growth, and general nonfiction books that stand out, and even share some of the personal things going on in our lives that have affected our reading habits lately.  We also unintentionally talk a lot about Hollywood in this episode - where the three of us all live and work - discussing the writer's strike and multiple celebrity memoirs.  JOIN SECRET STUFF NOW FOR BONUS CONTENT Of course, we talked for hours. And there was still more we had to say. Check out the Secret Stuff bonus episode for even more book talk, including the books that haven't worked for us this year.    FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   LAURA’S FAVORITES: We All Want Impossible Things by Catherine Newman The Perfectionist’s Guide To

I am coming off of an intense season where the work-life balance scale was tipped firmly in the work direction. I know the ebb and flow of this equation and I have come to understand that sometimes imbalance is exactly what is needed while tending to something important. But none of us want to feel out of balance for long. This is why I loved chatting with my guest Tina Wells, author of the new book The Elevation Approach. Tina has had an entrepreneurial journey like no other and in the book she redefines this idea of work-life balance by introducing the concept of work life harmony. In this conversation we talk about the difference between balance and harmony as it relates to our very full lives. She shares her elevation approach, the routines and rituals that have helped her as she works towards harmony, and how this can affect your relationships on this journey. Tina Wells is a business strategist, advisor, author, and the founder of RLVNT Media. Tina is also the author of 16 books, including the best-sell

Elizabeth Passarella and I have a lot in common: we're both authors, and mothers, and both moved from small, southern cultures to big cities to become writers. I spent my twenties working in reality tv while she spent the same time period as an editor at the top beauty magazines.  And then, having never met but with many mutal friends and chasing similar literary dreams, we released both of our books just weeks away from one another - first in 2021 and then this spring of 2023. On such familiar paths but on opposite coasts, it felt like the most natural thing in the world to finally record a conversation together.  Elizabeth Passarella is a contributing editor for Southern Living and former editor at Real Simple and Vogue. She has spent more than 20 years writing about food, travel, home design, and parenting in a variety of magazines. She is the author of two books, Good Apple: Tales of an Southern Evangelical in New York and her latest It Was an Ugly Couch Anyway: and Other Thoughts On Moving Forward. She g

Do you have a signature style? Do you want to have one? I have a few signature styles, things that I feel good in, looks that I'm known for, a style of expressing on the outside how I feel on the inside: bold lipstick, head scarves, and sweatshirts. These things anchor my favorite outfits.  JOIN SECRET STUFF FOR THE JUNE STYLE SYMPOSIUM In this episode, I'm taking away some of the myths of signature styles. They don't have to be forever choices. They don't have to be considered classic. They don't even have to be flattering. (Yes, really!)  Then I share three steps for finding your own signature style. (Hint: you start in your own closet.) FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Ep 42: Have you lost your style? (a conversation with Amber Haines) Ep 134: 10 Tips to Wardrobe Confidence (with Alison Lumbatis) Ep 123: How to feel pretty when you don’t  The Life Council Secret Tapes   SPONSORS: Betterhelp // Go to BetterHelp.com/YOU to get 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You

When I sat down to write The Mentor chapter of The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, I thought I was going to reveal that The Mentor was the seat that has remained empty on my own life council.  But as I wrote, I realized that I have had mentors along the way, women who have lit the path the ahead of me and shown me who I wanted to be. Chief among those is my friend Cyndi Finkle - a woman who so greatly influenced me when I moved to Los Angeles that I can trace so many of my decisions to her and her example. GET THE SECRET TAPES NOW When Cyndi and I sat down to record this conversation for the Secret Tapes series, we had barely seen each other in nearly ten years, even though we live within miles of one another. It was a chance for me to tell her how much she meant to me during the most important year of my life, and to hear her side of what it felt like to take a 22-year-old sorority girl fresh out of Oklahoma under her wing. This conversation is part of my SECRET TAPE series - 10 episodes of conve

The third annual STEPHEN KING SUMMER starts June 1!  This year we're reading two books and watching two movies together.  We'll kick off STEPHEN KING SUMMER with a movie watchalong of The Shining on Sunday, June 4 and throughout June & July we'll be reading THE STAND.  Later in the summer we'll do a movie watchalong of The Dead Zone, and in August we'll be reading King's nonfiction work ON WRITING: A memoir of the craft.  JOIN STEPHEN KING SUMMER NOW Stephen King Summer is part of my Secret Stuff Patreon membership community that offers special programs a few times a year like this one. Secret Stuff is $7/month and Stephen King Summer runs June - August. Your total would be $21 (charged monthly). When you join Secret Stuff to participate in Stephen King Summer, you also get all the other Secret Stuff goodies like personal episodes, general reading roundups, and more.  All of the Stephen King Summer meetings will take place over zoom, and the book club discussions will be recorded and turned into podcast e

Over the last few months of talking about the many layers to adult friendship as I promote my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, I've received so many questions about friendship conflict and how to navigate it with grace or end a friendship with love.  I've answered these questions to the best of my ability with my own life experience, but I also know when it's time to call in a certified expert. Danielle Bayard Jackson is a female friendship coach and educator who speaks nationally about the science of women’s platonic connections. Her coaching business, Friend Forward, is dedicated to teaching women how to create and maintain better female friendships. In this episode, Danielle gives us actual scripts for how to start those hard conversations with friends. I hung onto every word.  We all have friendship conflict sometimes and get tongue-tied or scared when we need to say the hard thing. These tips and thoughts from Danielle will give you concrete take aways for your next ackward yet ne

There is something about Mary Marantz’s story and writing that I just connect so deeply with. Her memoir DIRT was one of my favorite reads of 2021 (listen to our conversation about it here) and she is back on the show to talk about her newest book, Slow Growth Equals Strong Roots, which came out last fall. In this episode, Mary and I talk about striving to be the most put together person in the room in the pursuit of perfection and acceptance, feeling like we need to prove that we deserve whatever success or opportunity we have, and how our little girl selves would be so happy with who we have become. (And how even still we wonder what it would be like if our lives were different.) Follow Mary Marantz on IG Listen to The Mary Marantz Show   FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE     SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode

Eighteen months ago I started working with a business coach. It was the end of 2021 and I was, frankly, falling apart in several ways. In an effort to make something (anything) work, I hired business coach Retha Nichole to help me figure out how to prioritize the various aspects of my online work. I wanted to feel less scattered and I wanted to make more money.  At first, I felt embarrassed that I needed outside help with my business. And it wasn't an overnight fix. It has taken me almost two years (and multiple launches) to see all that has come out of this relationship, both emotionally and financially.  In this episode, I'm sharing the three most important things I've learned while working with business coach Retha Nichole: How to prioritize How to plan How to make more money In turn, Retha shares the main reasons people reach out to hire her. This conversation is not meant to sound like an infomercial - I want you to listen as a way to opening your mind to outside help in areas of your life that aren't

My new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs came out last month, and one of the greatest pieces of feedback I've already received is that it would make a great book club pick!  I agree wholeheartedly - I envisioned both of my books being read with a friend, partner, or group. Which is exactly why I offered a book club as a preorder bonus and why I chose The Life Council as the April book club pick for Secret Stuff (my membership community).  JOIN SECRET STUFF HERE Today's episode is a live replay of the Secret Stuff book club meeting. (Recorded and replayed with permission.) All the meetings for Secret Stuff are held on zoom, with optional participation from members, and this the best work I'm doing online right now. We talk about all kinds of things together (not just books) and it's just so meaningful to connect twice a month with this community. So you can imagine how extra special it was to meet and discuss The Life Council. If you haven't read The Life Council, you'll still appreciate this

As someone who has been writing and creating on the internet for over a decade, I know first hand all the challenges that one can face in their pursuit of creative work. The desire to create is there, but the obstacles are real, especially if you become a parent and feel like your time, resources and energy are limited. My guest, Ashlee Gadd, is the perfect person to speak to his as she has just released a book called Create Anyway: The Joy of Pursuing Creativity in the Margins of Motherhood Ashlee and I ended up talking for two hours about art and perfectionism, how it takes a village to create good work, and the social media of it all. We also took a tangent and had a fascinating discussion about paid communities (including Patreon - where I host Secret Stuff), and metrics and some of the more in-the-weeds parts of content creation. That part of the conversation will be available to Secret Stuff members only. JOIN SECRET STUFF HERE I felt so inspired after talking with Ashlee. You don’t have to be a writer