10 Things To Tell You

It's my favorite time of year! Not because of the holiday season, but because I love getting reflective, looking back over the last twelve months and looking ahead to changing of the calendar.  The 10 questions in this episode are meant to bring introspection (if you work through them alone) and connection (if you bring them up in conversation). Bring these to your journal, to your travel companions, to the holiday table, or just let them flow through your mind in these last few weeks of the year as we wind down 2023 and gear up for 2024.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: 10 Questions for Starting Over 10 Questions To Ask Yourself in the Middle of Anything Journaling for Grownups Laura on Instagram   SPONSORS: Daily Harvest // Go to DailyHarvest.com/TellYou for up to $65 off your first box Betterhelp // Go to BetterHelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month Uncommon Goods // Go to UncommonGoods.com/YOU for 15% off your order   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episod

This episode is for anyone who loves a teenager.  I'm the mom of a teenager and a preteen, and cultural norms and expectations have definitely shifted from my own childhood in the 80s & 90s. Sometimes I feel like I'm learning modern manners alongside my kids instead of teaching them from a place of authority.  My guest Brooke Romney believes that the only thing harder than parenting a modern teen is being a modern teen. In this episode, Brooke and I talk about a few of the rules that stuck out to me from her guide 52 Modern Manners for Today's Teens. This was a conversation I didn't even know I needed to have, and I loved it.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   Follow Brooke Romney on IG 52 Modern Manners for Today's Teens Volume 1 52 Modern Manners for Today's Teens Volume 2 52 Modern Manners for Kids     SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connect

A few times a year, I like to let you listen in on the conversations we're having in the Secret Stuff patreon community. Each month we meet twice over zoom to talk about something culturally relevant (we call this Symposium) or to talk about books (a pretty traditional Book Club). This Secret Stuff meeting was a bit of a mashup of the two.  When it was announced that icon and legend Britney Spears was releasing a memoir this fall, I knew it would make a splash in the publishing industry and in the celebrity world. And it did. The Woman In Me sold over a million copies in it's first week of release and there were a few bombshell's from the singer's life, most notably about her relationship with Justin Timberlake.  But what is just as fascinating about the content of the book is the way she chose to tell it, and that she was able to tell it at all. After 13 years in a conservatorship held by father, where everything she did was tracked and controlled, Britney is finally free to share her side of the story. As u

I love memoirs. I love hearing other people's stories in their own words. And, of course, I champion the idea to Share Your Stuff.  But what if the story you need to tell is really difficult? What if it's hard to do justice to the truth while also protecting (or not protecting) other people? My guest for this conversation is author Carmen Rita Wong and she is sharing her own 4 rules to doing this well.  Carmen Rita Wong's memoir is called Why Didn't You Tell Me? and is a book about secrets and identity.  Learn more about Carmen Rita Wong Follow Carmen Rita Wong   FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs b

This episode is for anyone who has asked themselves why they're so invested in what is clearly outrageous, manipulative, and phony "reality" television shows.  I watch Real Housewives every weekday on my lunch break, and as I've gone through phases of watching with both fascination and disgust, I’ve asked myself: why do smart people love dumb tv? What is it that we’re drawn to? Why do we get so sucked into the drama? Is it aspirational or escapism or something darker or is it just not that deep?  And so I decided to explore that topic with the perfect guest: Matt Marr, cohost of the Reality Gays podcast. In this episode, Matt and I talk about our history of reality tv watching (starting with the Real World in the 90s), and we talk about how we think reality TV has changed culture, why we’re so invested in the lives of these reality TV personas, and so much more. We talked for over an hour and didn’t even scratch the surface of all that we could have discussed.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE We do have an extended cut

10 Things To Tell You exists because Meg Tietz put a microphone in my hand nearly a decade ago when she launched the Sorta Awesome podcast and asked me to be a regular cohost. That invitation changed my life, along with the thousands of Sorta Awesome listeners who have been touched by Meg's words and wisdom for all these years.  Meg Tietz has long been a pioneer in the online space. She was one of the earliest mommy bloggers to build a large audience and one of the earliest independent podcasters in the girlfriend chat genre. I am lucky enough to have been friends with her since our childhood years in Oklahoma and have watched the way that she has shaped an entire corner of the internet.  Meg recently announced that she is bring the Sorta Awesome podcast to a close, and in our conversation here we reminisce about her online journey and talk about what it means to decide to end something that is going well, simply because you know it's time.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   Sorta Awesome episodes mentioned: Ep. 123: I

The 11th annual #OneDayHH social media challenge will be Wednesday, November 8! This is the ONE DAY of the year we dedicate to documenting what our lives look like right now, hour by hour. In this short episode, I'm sharing more about what #OneDayHH is, what makes it so special, and why you should participate.  #OneDayHH takes place on Instagram, and you're welcome to share in stories, reels, the main feed, or whatever feels comfortable for you. The point is to share what "a day in the life" looks like for you in the Fall of 2023. You'll be so glad that you took one day to notice these details, because our lives never look the same from one year to the next.  GET GRAPHICS, SIGN UP FOR REMINDER EMAILS, and LEARN MORE HERE Follow me on Instagram @laura.tremaine to see my day! Can't wait to share my day and see yours on Wednesday, November 8, 2023.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This episode is for anyone walking through grief or for those wanting to support a loved one who is grieving.  The world is especially heavy right now. From global events and also from a season of what feels like unending loss and pain. In this episode, guest Christy Knutson joins us to share 10 things that will help us to keep in mind when we're grieving or anticipating loss.  Christy Knutson is the co-founder of NEAR, a website on a mission to improve the way we care and connect during times of serious illness or grief. CLICK HERE for the special resource for 10 Things To Tell You listeners Learn more about NEAR here Follow NEAR on IG   FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: The 5 Stages of Grief as described by Elizbeth Kubler Ross Finding Meaning: The 6th Stage of Grief by David Kessler   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell Yo

Jamie Golden is back!  This week I'm welcoming one of my favorite people (and favorite guests) back to 10 Things To Tell You to talk about our shared obsession: skincare and makeup.  FOLLOW @JAMIEBGOLDEN ON IG On this episode, my fellow obsessive Jamie and I share our current (and all-time) favorite skincare and beauty products. No need to write everything down - links to everything we discuss will be in the show notes for you to bookmark and reference for the future.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE GET THE EXTENDED EPISODE ON SECRET STUFF   More about Jamie: The Popcast with Knox & Jamie Faith Adjacent podcast  Jamie's new substack B. Golden Episode 14: Skincare and Makeup Favorites with Jamie Golden (April 30, 2019) Episode 105: Needles, Lasers, and Fillers in Your Face (Jamie Golden RETURNS!) (Feb 23, 2021) Episode 51: Masterminds: How To Create and Structure A Business Peer Group (Feb 4, 2020) Episode 164: Are We Friends or Not? (March 7, 2023)   SPONSORS: Check out the What Came Next podcast with Amy B. Chesl

Where a 40-something aunt (me) chats with her 20-something niece (Alex) about what we're reading, where we get our book recommendations, and how the algorithm affects both of these things.  I often find my 24-year-old niece reading on the couch in our shared home. Sometimes she's pulled something off my bookshelves, but more often she's in her own world of reading, influenced by her age, tastes, and, of course, TikTok.  In this episode, Alex and I talk about the differences in what her generation is reading (and why) and mine. Then we share the best books we've both read lately.  I loved talking with her officially on microphone because it reminded me that there is always so much to learn from other generations. (And because I always love to talk about reading.) FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Wattpad Chloe In Letters  Ep. 187 Book Bans: 5 Things A Librarian Wants You To Know Currently Reading Podcast  Series of Unfortunate Events series by Lemony Snicket  Harry Potter series by J.K. Rowling

This episode is for anyone who struggles with outside influences they can't shake.  I thought when I turned 40 that I had turned a corner in my personal developement, that the shift into caring less about other people's opinions would also mean that my inner critic would pipe down.  But here I am, a few years down the road, and the voices from my past live rent-free in my head and their chatter can affect my confidence and my choices.  In this episode, I'm talking about the five types of voices that rattle around in our heads and how we can identify them and turn down their volume.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   SPONSORS: HelloFresh // Go To HelloFresh.com/50YOU and use code 50YOU for 50% off plus free shipping   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon

This episode is for anyone who cares about tv and movies.  I have 10 things to tell you about the historic Hollywood strikes of 2023. The Writers Guild of America and the Screen Actors Guild have been fighting for wage increases, protection against artificial intelligence, and more. Think it doesn't affect you? Think again! Here are the 10 Things I talk through in this episode: What are the basics of the strike? What is the history here? What exactly do Hollywood writers do? How do they get paid? So why are they striking?  (And what does striking mean? Can they not work at all?) What does mandatory staffing mean? What is the AI threat? Some notable things that happened during this strike.  What was finally negotiated?  How does this all affect the viewer? I want this show to be about connection, conversation, and sharing our stuff. The Hollywood strikes are something our family cares about, so I'm sharing it here with you.  If this episode teaches you something, please share it on social

This episode is for moms who are drowning in this season. After years of rarely talking about parenthood on this show, this topic suddenly continues to find me. I'm not sure if this because of my kids' ages (11 & 13) or just the season I'm in, but motherhood is something I want to talk about more now than I did when the kids were young.  My guest today is Dr. Morgan Cutlip, a highly sought after relationship expert, who has helped hundreds of thousands of people worldwide learn how to form and maintain healthy relationships. Dr. Morgan has been a featured relationship expert with Good Morning America, Teen Vogue, and The New York Times. Her new book, Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself, is out now. Dr. Morgan and I talk about motherhood as an identity and the mental load of parenting that so often falls more heavily on women. We also discuss how that affects our mood, our partnerships and sex drive. I even share a real life example of this dynamic happening in my home right now. If you've been carrying

The episode is for anyone looking for an insider perspective on the rise of book bans in America. My life’s greatest passion is reading. Books are my lifeblood. And so you will not be surprised that I have been greatly alarmed by the rise of book bans in America in the last few years. The idea of banning books is so archaic to me, so outdated, so harmful, it’s as if we have learned NOTHING from history. My guest is writer and librarian Emily Jones. As a former teacher and current librarian in Arkansas, Emily shares her perspective on the fear and concern around certain books that are available in these public spaces.  FOLLOW EMILY on IG FOLLOW EMILY on TIKTOK SIGN UP FOR THE 7-DAY FREE TRIAL of SECRET STUFF FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: The Origin of the Species by Charles Darwin Leaves of Grass by Walt Whitman The Handmaid’s Tale by Margaret Atwood How To Be An AntiRacist by Ibram X. Kendi It's Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex and Sexual Health by Robie Harris This Book

This episode is for anyone who has (or wants) a Soul Sister.  In my book about friendship THE LIFE COUNCIL: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, I write about my freshman college roommate and longtime LA roommate Lindsay Lawler. In the book, and in my life, Lindsay occupies the seat on my my life council that I call the SOUL SISTER. And in this conversation you’re going to see why. We have been connected spiritually and logistically and our lives have been intertwined since we were 18 years old. In this episode, Lindsay and I talk about living in the dorms together, living in the Hollywood hills together, the ways we (accidentally) broke one another's hearts, and the ways we light each other up. Our bond and this conversation is a special one.   But the BIG reason I wanted to share this Secret Tapes conversation with Lindsay with you right now is that Lindsay is a singer and songwriter based in nashville and her latest album comes out this week! It’s called Peaches Holyoke and the first single Trying To Get Back T

This episode is for anyone interested in how the podcast sausage gets made. We're doing something a little different in this episode. I'm analyzing the results of this summer's podcast listener survey, where more than 1,000 people gave their feedback on 10 Things To Tell You. Listeners shared their favorite (and least favorite) episodes of the show, and suggested topics and guests for the future.  I wanted to talk these results through with you because I value your feedback and want to involve you in the bigger picture of what we're creating here. I love making 10 Things To Tell You for you, and I also want to continue to make it helpful and entertaining.  I'm also sharing some of my personal thoughts on the state of the podcasting industry right now, and as a listener, you're part of that industry. So I'm giving a little peek behind the curtain of what's happening from the creator side, based on my own experience and from conversations with many of my podcast friends.    FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED

This episode is for anyone looking to transition well between the end of summer and beginning of fall.  Whether you mark the end of summer by the school calendar, the weather, or football season, we have come to the end of the season.  In this episode, I'm walking through 8 questions to ask yourself as we close one chapter of the year and enter into another. As usual, these questions work best when you share them with a friend, partner, coworker, or the whole family. They're also great for taking to your journal and sitting with your thoughts in this seasonal transition.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Ep. 180: Four Metaphors For Turning 44 Ep. 181: Favorite Things (Right Now) Summer 2023 On Our Best Behavior by Elise Loehnen Monsters: A Fan's Dilemma by Claire Dederer Atomic Habits by James Clear   SPONSORS: SECRET STUFF by Laura Tremaine   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @1

This episode is for cooking newbies, confident chefs, and everyone in between! Bri McKoy is one of my favorite creators on the internet (and one of my favorite people, period). She's back on the podcast to talk about her new book The Cook's Book: Recipes for Keeps & Essential Techniquest To Master Everyday Cooking, which launches this month.  Get THE COOK'S BOOK by Bri McKoy Get THE COOK'S BUNDLE preorder bonus  In this conversation, Bri shares 5 things she wish she'd known when she was learning how to cook. And I have to tell you, I've been cooking for 20 years and I loved hearing her talk about these things.  The Cook's Book by Bri McKoy comes out 8/29 and is so beautiful and useful, you will for sure want one for your own shelf and also one to give as a gift.  Learn more about Bri McKoy Follow Bri McKoy on IG   FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Ep 164: Are we friends or not? (a conversation with my business mastermind Jamie Golden, Kendra Adachi, and Bri McKoy) Ep 24: 10 Favorite Ki

This episode is for the therapy-curious and therapy champions. Ten years ago this summer, I was in one of the lowest points of my life. I had a toddler and a baby, was grieving the death of a loved one, the diagnosis of another loved one, and the near-fatal crisis of yet another loved one. My husband was away making a movie, so I was solo parenting and circumstantially very isolated during a rainy season that had flooded our home.  And also....I had just started therapy for the first time.  I needed the therapy. Making that phone call was one of the best decisions I've ever made. But as many people will tell you: it often gets (a lot) worse before it gets better.  In this episode, I'm sharing 10 Things About Therapy that I've learned or noticed or want to share after 10 years of being on this journey.  There are practical tips and also my personal stories. This is completely my own experience and not meant to be prescriptive or authoritative - just me, sharing my stuff.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   MENTIONED in th

Kevin Miller is a former pro athlete, respected personal development guide, top-ranking podcast host, published author, and father of nine who has devoted himself to helping people elevate their personal experience and improve the way they show up for others. After our fantastic conversation a few months ago on his show The Self Helpful Podcast, I knew I wanted to talk to him about his new book What Drives You.  One of the things I've been working on personally this summer is examining and resetting some of the systems in my life, mostly professionally related, but also personally. This book and this conversation came at the perfect time. Identifying what motivates you can be such a key to your success.  Learn more about Kevin Miller Listen to the Self Helpful Podcast Buy What Drives You  * SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Grou