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As I head back to my home state of Oklahoma this week to promote The Life Council, I'm feeling nostalgic in every way.  Even as life has marched forward, and I entered my twenties, then my thirties, and now my forties, I have found it useful to tap back into the childhood version of me. It reminds me who I am in my core and it reminds me where I came from.  And sometimes, even as I evolve in a positive way, I need that reminder of where I started. I want to tap into that original spirit.  This episode has four questions to ask yourself about your childhood self. We're going to talk about: Place People Our bodies Our dreams Maybe you think about your childhood self all the time. Maybe it's been a long time since you really remembered that version of you.  This episode and these questions will bring you back to who you were when you were young.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Episode 68: Hometown: A conversation about race   SPONSORS: Betterhelp // Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your f

Welcome to the final episode in my Friendship Stories series.  My guest today is someone you might recognize if you've ever emailed or DM'd the show, or you've just heard me talk about her giant contribution to 10 Things To Tell You, my book launches, and all other behind-the-scenes operations around here: Caroline! In this episode about the serendipity of friendship, Caroline tells us the story of her longtime friend Judi. After Judi experiences a tragic loss, Caroline was there for her when she needed it most. This is a story about the gift of friendship and how friends help us navigate life’s ups and downs. Throughout the course of this conversation Caroline also shares about her twin sister, Jill, which is a friendship story in and of itself.  Caroline’s multiple friendship experiences were the perfect ones to cap off this Friendship Stories series because I think it highlights the width and breadth of good friendship and its importance in our lives. This episode concludes the Friendship Stories series, w

It's time for another episode of Favorite Things (Right Now)! As a reminder, we do Favorite Things episodes because they're fun and also because thinking about what we're really into right now is another way of making a gratitude list.  Plus who doesn't love hearing and sharing awesome things?!   On this episode, I'm sharing a variety of favorites, including: The Life Council Book Tour New Favorite Alarm Clock The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control by Katherine Morgan Schafler Neon Sign Big blanket Full Panic lipstick Dog trainer Laura Beth Davidson and also Jess Koehler Aura Judy Blume Forever   FULL SHOW NOTES HERE I'm also sharing some BONUS Favorite Things in the Secret Stuff community JOIN SECRET STUFF HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown Essentialism by Greg McKeown  BONUS Episode with Emily Ley: 5 Tips for Morning Routines   SPONSORS: HelloFresh // Go to HelloFresh.com/YOU50 and use code YOU50 for 50% off plus free shipping on your first box   SUBSCRIBE to 10

Welcome to another episode in my Friendship Stories series.  Carol and Gloria's friendship spans a few cultural differences, including race (Carol is Asian and Gloria is Black) and a large age gap (they have twenty years between them). In this episode, Carol speaks candidly about how these differences affects their friendship and bring both challenges but also beautiful gifts.  This conversation is also one about the importance of openness and vulnerability in friendship. I do want to say that as a white woman hosting this conversation, my job here was to listen to their lived experiences that are so different from my own. Carol and Gloria listened to this episode after we recorded it to make sure that their perspectives were represented.  Carol and Gloria’s friendship definitely qualifies as unique and I think you’ll enjoy hearing about it. The FRIENDSHIP STORIES series is a set of conversations I had while writing my new book The Life Council: Every Woman Needs.  BUY THE LIFE COUNCIL NOW * SUBSCRIBE to 10 T

Welcome to another episode in my Friendship Stories series.  Over the last few months, we’ve heard a number of uplifting stories about unique and transformative friendships in this series. But today’s episode is about an aspect of friendship that is painful and rarely discussed: the friendship break up. My guest, JeriLynne, shares that when her marriage ended, there was collateral damage in the form of friendship loss as well. That friendship breakup left her without real closure and she continues to struggle to be vulnerable in friendships. While it’s certainly easier to talk about all the positive aspects of friendship, I think it’s also important to discuss these harder, more painful parts of these formative relationships. JeriLynne’s experience is significant and unfortunately a very real part of these friendship. I write about friendship breakups and friendship loss in The Life Council in a chapter called The Empty Chair.   BUY THE LIFE COUNCIL NOW   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss a

In my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, I write about how the "old friend" doesn't necessarily mean than you've known one another for decades. All that is required to hold that Life Council seat is to have a friend who has known you from one version of yourself into another. That actual timeline might vary.  But Shauna Niequist is one of my oldest friends however you measure it. We met in the late 90's working at summer camp, where (as I wrote about in my first book Share Your Stuff), I learned from Shauna a different way to walk in the world than I had previously been exposed to.  For twenty-five years, Shauna has been a friend, role model, mentor, and, yes, even a fellow obsessive as we discuss in this episode.  Shauna Niequist is the New York Times bestselling author of Cold Tangerines, Bittersweet, Bread & Wine, Savor, Present Over Perfect, and I Guess I Haven't Learned That Yet. She is married to Aaron, and they live in New York City with their two sons.  To listen to the full

Welcome to another episode in my Friendship Stories series. The childhood that my guest Kammy is going to describe in this conversation is unlike any I've ever heard. She grew up on a remote island just two square miles in size, without much contact with the rest of the world. Looking back, Kammy can see that the friendships from this time in her life shaped her relationships to come, and the bond she shares with other children from the island is unrivaled.  This is a fascinating conversation so different from the rest of our Friendship Stories.  * The Friendship Stories series came from the dozens of interviews I conducted while writing my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs. BUY THE LIFE COUNCIL NOW * SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret

In the framework of my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, the duo behind the Pantsuit Politics podcast could be considered Business Besties or Old Friends, but I see them primarily as BATTLE BUDDIES. Beth Silvers and Sarah Stewart Holland have spent nearly ten years publicly discussing the American political landscape on the podcast Pantsuit Politics, and, well, you can imagine why I see them as having walked through a battle together.  Somehow, though, these two women have navigated these conversations with integrity, grace, and - especially - nuance.  I've been a fan of Beth & Sarah for years now, and respect their work so much. It was honor to have them on the show to talk about their friendship and partnership.    FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   Listen to Pantsuit Politics Follow Pantsuit Politics on IG Follow Beth on IG Follow Sarah on IG Buy their book I Think You're Wrong (But I'm Listening) Buy their book Now What?   MENTIONED in this episode: The Pantsuit Politics Premium Episode

The Secret Tapes and all other ORDER BONUSES for my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs are back for a limited time! BUY THE LIFE COUNCIL NOW Purchase The Life Council in any format from any retailer and take your receipt number to TheLifeCouncilBookBonuses.com to fill out the form and get all of the order bonuses including the exclusive book club, the printable discussion guide with journal prompts, and the Secret Tapes private podcast series.  CLAIM YOUR BONUSES NOW The Secret Tapes are 10 episodes of conversations with some of the friends I write about in The Life Council. These are not just idle chats, these are insightful and meaningful conversations.  You do NOT want to miss out on these bonuses. You have until midnight Sunday, April 9 to go to TheLifeCouncilBookBonuses.com to fill out the form and claim your bonuses.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I have 10 things to tell you about my new book The Life Council, which launches TODAY April 4, 2023 in every format: paperback, hard cover, ebook, and audiobook (read by me).  BUY THE LIFE COUNCIL This is my second book in two years, and the process and mindset behind writing and marketing The Life Council has been so different from launching my first book in 2021.  In this episode, I wanted to share with you ten thoughts about the book, the creative process, why I felt like a fraud writing it, and why I believe in its message so deeply.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: The Life Council PREORDER BONUSES (which expire at midnight on 4/4) Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. (my first book) Ep 167: Five Friendship Philosophies (an audiobook excerpt of The Life Council)   SPONSORS: Betterhelp. Get 10% off your first month by going to BetterHelp.com/YOU   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLL

My new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs launches in ONE WEEK! BUY THE LIFE COUNCIL NOW This episode is an excerpt from the audiobook version of The Life Council, read by me. The sections I'm sharing here are called A Friendship Reckoning and Five Friendship Philosophies.  If you like what you hear, and want more on this topic, THE LIFE COUNCIL is available in hard cover, ebook, audiobook, and paperback on April 4! And if you PREORDER one of those versions before midnight eastern standard time on release day (April 4), then you're eligible for all of my preorder bonuses, including my private podcast series called The Secret Tapes, created especially for those who preorder The Life Council.  CLAIM YOUR PREORDER BONUSES HERE Just one short week until The Life Council is out in the world and I can't wait! The Five Friendship Philosophies: Friendship is a To Do Believe the Best Just Go Like Every Selfie Your Spouse Is Not Your Best Friend FULL SHOW NOTES HERE * SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell Y

Welcome to another episode in my FRIENDSHIP STORIES series!  Can men and women be "just friends"? Kerith & Lee are here to answer that OF COURSE they can. Their unique friendship story starts with a surgery that results in hours-long phone marathons and a friendship that stretches across time and gender roles.  In this conversation you’ll hear what Kerith’s husband thinks of their friendship, how it’s impacted Lee’s dating life, and how others have reacted to their unusual friendship. * Preorder THE LIFE COUNCIL: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs  * SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your a

My second book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs comes out in just two weeks, and so I have writing on my mind.  PREORDER THE LIFE COUNCIL NOW Becoming an author has been my life's biggest dream since I was in elementary school, but I was in my 40's and had been writing professionally for over a decade before it finally happened. And, truthfully, my first two books are not what I ever pictured myself writing!  I created this episode because I really wish someone had broken down the process of writing a book for me years ago. And because I think a lot of people want to write a book, but have no idea where to start.  Although the 10 steps I walk through here follow my own process of writing nonfiction, a lot of what I'm sharing here could apply to any sort of creative endeavor. I'm talking about preparation, mindset, rituals, and radical honesty.  How To Write A Book (in 10 Steps): Be honest about the WHY (and if a book is the best format to tell your story) Decide what you’re really trying to

My favorite thing in the world to talk about is BOOKS and two of my very favorite people to talk books with are Meredith Monday Schwartz and Kaytee Cobb of the Currently Reading podcast.  I've been such a fan of these two women and their podcast since it launched and it is always fun to chat with them about the best books we've read lately. PREORDER my new book THE LIFE COUNCIL GET THE PREORDER BONUSES HERE Meredith and Kaytee fall into both the Business Bestie and Fellow Obsessive seats in my framework for my new book The Life Council, and we talk more about their relationship and business origin story over on my Secret Stuff patreon. But for this episode, we wanted to go straight to the reading recommendations! FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Make sure to follow @meredith.reads, @notesonbookmarks, and @currentlyreadingpodcast   MENTIONED in this episode: Kaytee’s books: Black Cake by Charmaine Wilkerson Emily Wilde's Encyclopaedia of Faeries by Heather Fawcett The Light We Carry by Michelle Obama   Meredith’s books: T

Welcome to another episode in my Friendship Stories series.  When I was young, I always dreamed of having a pen pal. It seemed like something straight out of a movie! Well wait until you hear Sarah's story...it really is like some magical fiction.  In the years before the internet connected us all, Sarah and her childhood pen pal exchanged hundreds of letters. But when they went to college, they naturally lost touch. A very serendipitous mutual aquaintance reconnected Sarah and her long lost letter writing friend and THEN....well, you just have to listen to find out.  I just loved this story of friendship evolving through pen and paper across the decades.  * The Friendship Stories series came from the dozens of interviews I conducted while writing my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs.  PREORDER The Life Council now!  If you preorder the book in any format from any retailer before April 4, you're also eligible for my preorder BONUSES.  CLAIM YOUR PREORDER BONUSES HERE. * SUBSCRIBE to 10 T

Back In 2019, I infamously said on this podcast that the women in my business Mastermind were not my friends. Jamie Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi are back to refute that claim and also take their offical seats on my Life Council as my "Business Besties," as I write about them in my book. PREORDER THE LIFE COUNCIL NOW In this conversation we tell our Mastermind origin story, share the biggest mistake we've ever made as a group, talk through our occasional professional jealousies, and dissect what makes an actual Business Bestie.  This conversation is part of my private podcast series called The Secret Tapes, a free bonus available ONLY to people who preorder my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs. Preorder The Life Council in any format from any retailer and take your order confirmation to TheLifeCouncilBookBonuses.com and fill out the form to get your bonuses within 24 hours - including the FULL episodes of The Secret Tapes.  CLAIM YOUR PREORDER BONUSES HERE Follow @jamiebgolden  Fo

My new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs will come out on April and starting TODAY you can get all three of my PREORDER BONUSES with your proof of purchase.  CLICK HERE TO CLAIM YOUR PREORDER BONUSES Preorder The Life Council in any format (hard cover, paperback, ebook, or audio) and take your order/confirmation number to this page and fill out the form to get these bonuses: Discussion Guide & Journal Prompts  Entry into The Life Council Book Club with live zoom meets and an exclusive FB group dedicated to all things friendship for the next two months Access to my private podcast series called THE SECRET TAPES - 10+ episodes with friends I write about in The Life Council.  Trust me, you do not want to miss these FREE bonuses and they will go away once the book is released - they're for preorders only!  Purchase The Life Council by going to your favorite bookseller like amazon, bookshop, barnes & noble, or your local indie and make sure and save your order confirmation number.  THEN

You're not crazy - Episode 163 has been removed from the feed.  This is a short explanation for why.  In the meantime, make sure you don't miss: BONUS: 5 Tips for Morning Routines (with Emily Ley) Ep 162: 10 Ways to Handle Overwhelm Ep 159: Reading Roundup   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You'll have to excuse my fangirling on this episode, but it's a full conversation about something I love to talk about (routines - especially morning routines) with someone I've long admired (Simplified founder Emily Ley) and I just couldn't contain my excitement.  In this conversation you'll hear Emily Ley talk about her 5 of her best tips for a successful morning routine and she's full of grace about the whole deal. As in: do what works for you! But also here are some fresh ways to think about it.  Learn more about Emily  Buy Emily's new book Sure As the Sunrise  Follow Emily on Instagram  Follow Emily on Facebook   FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Loftie Alarm Clock It's One of Use by J.T. Ellison Essentialism by Greg McKeown Atomic Habits by James Clear Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You

We all have seasons of overwhelm, whether it's a packed schedule, an insane To Do list, or events that require a lot of emotional processing. I've been navigating my own overwhelm in the last few months while juggling a larger-than-normal workload with travel and family obligations. So I sat down to make a list of the things that are helping me handle it.  Circumstances are often largely out of our control, but we can still find pockets of peace that keep us in the present and help us maintain a clear mind.  I made this episode for me, but I hope it helps you, too. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk Burnout by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski   SPONSORS: Betterhelp // Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN