10 Things To Tell You

In this busy season I’m so aware of how neglectful I can get about my own self care. When life feels crazy, the first thing to fall to the bottom of my priority list is ME. And I’m becoming increasingly aware of what I’m teaching my own children in this realm. So when Toye Penny reached out to share 4 ways to “Model Well-Being for Generations to Come” I knew I needed to hear what she had to say. Toye shares helpful, thoughtful and practical ways to love the next generation by loving ourselves well first.  Toye Penny is a Luxury Well-Being Strategist, Author of Love “Them”, Love You More, and creator of The Love You More Method℠. She specializes in helping High Performing CEO Moms put their oxygen mask on first so they can save everyone around them. Toye is a wife, mother to 3 daughters, and she seeks to intervene in women’s lives so children won't have to be the result of generational trauma passed down from their mothers. You can learn more about her work by going to ToyePenny.com. I loved chatting with Toye

One of my core friendship philosophies is that my spouse is not my best friend.  When I talk about this, people raise their eyebrows. Some assume our marriage is in trouble or that we're ill matched. It has become so common in romantic relationship culture to claim that you're married to your best friend that anything else seems unhealthy.  But while my husband Jeff is the most important person in my life, he is NOT my best friend. He's my partner. My co parent. My lover. I have best friends, and those relationships are different. Early in our marriage, when I tried to make Jeff be my best friend, the pressure for him (and me) to be all things to one another was too much.  We both needed and wanted lots of different types of relationships in our lives. Our marriage was stronger when we were closely connected to our friends. I write more about this in my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, but I wanted you to hear Jeff and I talk about it with each other. We don't have the exact same take

This is a conversation about infidelity.  Welcome to another installment of the FRIENDSHIP STORIES: a new series where guests share their experiences of the friendships that have shaped their lives.  In this episode, Melissa tells us about her best friend "Lauren." This story has several jaw dropping moments, but this isn’t a perspective only about scandal. There are also so many details here about those friends - or sometimes even acquaintances - who met Melissa in the moment, just when she needed it most.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Preorder The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   SPONSORS: Zocdoc // Zocdoc.com/YOU to download the Zocdoc app for free Betterhelp // Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show not

My favorite thing in the world to talk about is books and while I will always have occasional reading episodes here as part of 10 Things To Tell You, did you know that I do a reading roundup every single month as part of my Secret Stuff membership? Every month on Secret Stuff I share what I've been reading lately (the good, the bad, and the unfinished), and I wanted you to have a sneak peek to what one of those episodes sounds like.  FULL SHOW NOTES FOR THIS EPISODE ARE HERE MENTIONED in this episode:Kindle Paperwhite vs. Kindle Oasis What Laura Read:Now Is Not the Time to Panic by Kevin WilsonThe Anatomy of Anxiety: Understanding and Overcoming the Body’s Fear Response by Ellen Vora, M.D.We All Want Impossible Things by Catherine NewmanOur Missing Hearts by Celeste NgSpare by Prince Harry  Also mentioned:Nothing to See Here by Kevin Wilson Perfect Little World by Kevin Wilson Little Fires Everywhere by Celeste Ng Geek Love by Katherine Dunn The Only Good Indians by Stephen Graham Jones The Great Believers by

This conversation is for anyone who will go through menopause, is currently going through menopause, or who has already gone through menopause.  Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz is my personal gynecologist and I trust her completely with the information she shares in this episode about the changes that women go through biologically, hormonally, physically, and emotionally. She's recently published Menopause Bootcamp: Optimize Your Health, Empower Your Self, and Flourish As You Age.  In this conversation we talk about her path to this work that combines holistic and modern medicine and her compassion and mission to help other women find the answers they need for this next stage of life.  Don't be scared by the "m" word. This conversation (and this information) is helpful, thoughtful, practical, and important.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   Learn more about Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz on her website Follow Dr. Gilberg-Lenz on facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Buy Menopause Bootcamp by Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz   SPONSORS: Apostrop

This is an important topic. Since the explosion in popularity of the true crime genre over the last decade, I've questioned the ethics of crime as entertainment. Many of us have become obsessed with grisley stories of murder.  But have you ever actually talked to someone whose loved one was murdered? Would it change your opinion on the true crime entertainment genre?  This episode is a conversation with author, award-winning blogger, and actress Amy B. Chesler. Amy's mother was murdered in 2007 and her book Working for Justice: One Family's Tale of Murder, Betrayal, and Healing is about the events before and after this tragic event.  Amy surprised me with her take on the popularity of the true crime genre and it definitely affected how I consume these stories.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Amy B. Chesler's website Working for Justice: One Family’s Tale of Murder, Betrayal, and Healing by Amy B. Chesler Evil Lives Here episode with Amy Chesler "Making a Murderer" Documentary on Netflix "

Introducing FRIENDSHIP STORIES: a new series where we explore different aspects of one of the most important relationships of our lives. We're going to talk about friendships that work and friendships that end. We're going to hear about soul mates, infidelity, friendship breakups, rogue bridesmaids, and more. Last year when I was researching for my book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, I did dozens of interviews with women about their friendships. We talked about the best parts and the worst pain of adult friendship and these stories were fascinating. I am excited to share some of them with you over the next few months leading up to the release of The Life Council. PREORDER The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs We're kicking off the series with soul mates Christi and Cindy, friends who met at work over twenty years ago when they both had toddler daughters. Though they met when their circumstances were similar, things soon changed when Christi's husband joined the military after 9/11, a

I'm hosting a class this month called Journaling for Grownups!  SIGN UP HERE I'm going to teach you: WHY journaling can change your life MYTHS of what journaling is (and is not) FOUR ways to journal that can be effective in any season We're going to talk through: ETHICS of journaling when you're writing sensitive information about yourself and others SECRECY of having a journal with deeply personal thoughts that could potentially be read by others And together we're going to: Journal together with my guided prompts using the four journaling styles  Have a Journaling for Grownups community where you can post your questions and progress Journaling for Grownups starts SUNDAY, JANUARY 8 @ 4pm PT / 7pm ET with a 90 minutes zoom gathering The second zoom gathering will be SUNDAY, JANUARY 22 @ 4pm PT / 7pm ET for 90 minutes **Replays will be available if you can't attend LIVE** SIGN UP HERE  Journaling for Grownups is FREE for annual members of my Secret Stuff Community  Not part of Secret Stuff? No problem -

Happy 2023!  As we kick off a new year, it's natural to think about what we want to do differently going forward. For me, I want to return to some habits that promote work/life balance and I'm activitely working to shift some of my mindsets by using affirmations.  Somewhere along the way I got out of the affirmation habit (I really stopped doing my whole morning routine in general) and while it was fine for awhile, I'm definitely noticing it now. The simple repetitions that you write in a journal or put on a sticky note on your mirror really do make a difference to your self-talk.  So I'm sharing the 3 affirmations and 3 habits that I'm working on in the early days of this new year, and I hope these help you as you think about the changes you want for 2023.    FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod Episode 79: 10+ Mantras and Affirmations for RIGHT NOW Episode 145: Time Anxiety Sign up for JOURNALING for GROWNUPS   SPONSORS: Journaling for Grownups by Laura Trem

The week between Christmas and New Years is one of my favorite parts of the year. I love the reflection, the final Best Of lists, the hope and excitement for the year ahead.  In the past, I've called this final episode of the year "10 TAKEAWAYS from 20__" but as I was journaling through all that had happened in 2022, I realized that (for me) it was all about the lessons learned.  From Covid wreaking havoc to writing my second book to welcoming two new members to our household, 2022 became a season of learning how to change.  I hope that listening back to the lessons I took from the year inspires you to think about the biggest takeaways of YOUR 2022.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: jackass forever Max the Dog Trainer The Life Council (preorder!)    SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episod

It's the FIFTH annual Best Books of the Year episode with my real life book club friends Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith.  This is one of my very favorite conversations every single December and I do not apologize that it is super sized! Yasmin, Stephanie, and I share 3-4 of our favorite books of 2022 across all genres.  As usual, there are some suprises, some curveballs, and LOTS of opinions.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   Laura’s Picks: I’m Glad My Mom Died by Jennette McCurdy The Measure by Nikki Erlick The Only Good Indians by Stephen Graham Jones   Yasmin’s Picks: Small Things Like These by Claire Keegan Mercury Pictures Presents by Anthony Marra Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want To Be by Becky Kennedy Stolen Focus: Why You Can't Pay Attention-- And How to Think Deeply Again by Johann Hari   Steph’s Picks: Tomorrow, and Tomorrow, and Tomorrow by Gabrielle Zevin People Love Dead Jews: Reports From a Haunted Present by Dara Horn Ghosts by Dolly Alderton Sirens & Muses by Antonia

I'm sharing my Favorite Things of 2022 including my favorite style choices, kitchen items, apps, and gadgets and more.  At the end of the episode, a few listeners share their favorites, too!  We share Favorite Things on this show because it's fun and as an act of gratitude. If you share your stuff on social media, make sure to tag @10ThingsToTellYou.    Sign up for the SECRET POSTS newsletter by 12/31/22 and get the annual Not A Gift Guide  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode:   Kindle Paperwhite Kindle Oasis Sunday Riley Power Couple Share Your Stuff, I’ll Go First Secret Stuff patreon community Not A Gift Guide CEO Glow by Sunday Riley V-Line Lifting HydroGel and Collagen Mask Clarins V-Facial Intensive Wrap Chrysler Pacifica Minivan  Life 360 app Stubbs Brand Citrus and Onion Marinade Blue’s Hogg Smokey Mountain BBQ sauce MZ Wallace bags Think Royln bags Accupuncture Canvas Lamp Jennifer Zeuner gold Margaux hoops LISTENER Favorite Things: New Babies! NPR Podcast “Up First” Waterproof Tr

We all have to start over sometimes. A project, a job, a relationship, a new year.  And for me, this podcast! 10 Things To Tell You is BACK and this week I'm sharing 10 (oops, actually 9!) prompts that will help you think through anything you're starting over. Take these prompts to your journal, to a business partner, to significant other, or anyone who is walking alongside you in your fresh start.  NOTE: Your ears are not deceiving you - one prompt is missing from this episode. I accidentally skipped prompt #7. The question was meant to be "What are your top two priorities?" so add that one in as you're journaling.     MENTIONED in this episode: Sorta Awesome podcast  Smartest Person in the Room podcast Atomic Habits by James Clear   SPONSORS: Secret Stuff by Laura Tremaine   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for

10 Things To Tell You is returning to weekly Tuesday episodes starting December 6! At the beginning of 2022, I took a step back from weekly podcasting in order to focus on my family, my health, and more importantly to write my second book.  And I did that!  (Preorder The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs in all formats now.) I always knew I wanted to return to podcasting, but I wasn't sure if it would be 10 Things To Tell You or if I would be ready for a new project. After I turned in The Life Council this fall, I realized I still have LOTS of things to tell. And I just love what we've created together on the 10 Things To Tell You podcast. So I'm bringing it back! I've already recorded dozens of conversations for you for 2023, including a series on friendship that is fascinating. I can't wait for you to hear it. But I wanted to go ahead and relaunch in December because I love end-of-the-year episodes designed to make us think about how to end the year strong.  10 Things To Tell You will have a fresh

This final episode of the 10 Things To Tell You podcast contains the the 10 most important things I have to tell you: READ SHARE NOTICE MOVE DECORATE ARMOR UP DOCUMENT PRACTICE LISTEN THANK Thank you for being on the ride with me - for listening and sharing and also showing up on Tuesdays, ready to reflect or learn something or simply to chat. It has been such an honor to make these episodes for you, and I will never forget our time here together. Laura Find me on IG: @laura.tremaine Find me on FB: @mslauratremaine www.lauratremaine.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

After the final episode of 10 Things To Tell You airs, you will still be able to find me talking about books and reading (my favorite topic) in these places: On my personal Instagram account: @laura.tremaine In my free email newsletter the Secret Posts In regular episodes of my SECRET STUFF Patreon This episode is an excerpt from the SECRET STUFF Patreon podcast where I share my top books of the year (10 fiction and 10 nonfiction).  If the book episodes will be the biggest thing you'll miss about the regular 10 Things To Tell You show coming to a close, consider joining the SECRET STUFF Patreon to get your monthly reading fix. We have a book club meeting and personal reading episodes every month.  I'll be sharing this "Best Of" list to the Secret Post email subscribers this week (it's free!) and also to social media. But this shared episode is the only place I talk through why each book made the list.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Hosted on Acast. Se

I'm sharing my 10 Most Important Takeaways of 2021, a year that was personally hard and full of change and life lessons.  On this solo episode, I talk about everything from my word of the year to moving houses to confusing health problems to spiritual insight. And at the end I'm telling you about a big decision I made regarding the future of the show.  Thanks for listening, friends. I am honored and grateful that you would spend so many hours with me in your ears every week for the last three years.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

10 Prompts for self-reflection or great conversation at the end of the year (any year). My third annual 10 Questions for the End of the Year episode is here and while some of it may be a little familiar, there's a lot of new thoughts in this one.  Take these 10 questions to your journal, the holiday table, or to start any great conversation with friends, family, co-workers, neighbors, or anyone at all.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Sponsors: Olive & June. Go to OliveandJune.com and enter promo code YOU at checkout for 20% off your first mani system Honey. Go to JoinHoney.com/10Things to get Honey for free Skillshare. Go to SkillShare.com/YOU for one month free premium membership * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine Learn mo

My real life book club is BACK with our annual conversation about the Best Books of the Year! Please welcome my friends Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith back to the show for our fourth annual Best Books of the Year episode. We talk about what our reading life looked like in 2021, and then we each share a few of the best books that we read in the last twelve months.  CLICK HERE FOR THE FULL LIST OF BOOKS FROM THIS EPISODE **Please note that my OFFICIAL and FINAL Best Books of the Year 2021 list won't be posted until the very end of December. I'll share that list online and on social media. SPONSORS Betterhelp. Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month. Rothys. Go to Rothys.com/YOU for $20 off your first purchase. Ana Luisa. Go to Shop.AnaLuisa.com/YOU for 20% off your order. * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things

I'm working on my next book, and while I can't give you too many details yet, I would love your help on one particular aspect:  I want your unique friendship stories! This next project is all about friendship, and I'm collecting unique friendship stories that could potentially be used in the book or part of a podcast series on the same topic.  Here's what I'm looking for: Stories about a surprise in a friendship  The heartbreak of a friendship breakup Something very unusual about a friendship (a wide age gap, for example, or a workplace friendship, etc) Something dramatic that happened within a friendship (someone saved a life, a cult infiltrated a friendship, a friend married another friend's ex, etc.) If you think you have a unique friendship story that fits this description (or anything along these lines), I would love to hear from you.  Please fill out the form HERE: https://www.10thingstotellyou.com/friendshipstories And of course feel free to share this call out with anyone who might be interested.  I