Intentional Relationships

What does maturity even mean? And how do you grow in maturity? Those questions sparked a conversation for us and it lead to us diving into both maturity and self confidence. We discussed what characteristics we think build maturity and self confidence in an individual, in a relationship, socially, and at work. We share what drives our own self confidence and had a great conversation about why it is so important to identify your shortcomings and work on yourself.

This episode’s discussion stemmed from one of our daily devotionals in the Bible app called “10 Choices Successful Couples Make” By Dr. Ron Welch. We all have unspoken beliefs and if you don’t take the time to reflect on what they are, they could be ruining your relationship. We’ve learned that you have to put in the work and be vulnerable with one another to work through past experiences and past hurts to work on being your best selves for yourself and for your partner. We also share how we’ve learned the importance of “timing is everything,” especially in regards to disagreements and difficult conversations.

We both come from very different exercise and nutrition backgrounds and in this episode we talk about our relationships with them. We dive into how our journeys have changed over the years and how our mindsets around fitness have shifted over time. We discuss Dr. Suzuki from NYU’s research about the benefits of exercise for your mind, tips for getting started on your journey, and staying consistent to develop a healthy relationship with exercise and nutrition. And so much more!

In this episode we answer your questions on how our challenges have strengthened us and how we motivate each other. Enjoy!

Do you live problem-focused or purpose-focused? Some timeless truths state what you think about, you become, you get what we expect, and you find what you’re looking for. In this episode, we discuss living a problem-focused or purpose-focused life. Where is your focus? What are you focusing on? Understanding the power of your focus and mindset is life changing for you and your relationships. We discuss a devotional we recently completely from YouVersion Bible App called 2 Are Better Than 1: Uncover Your Marriage Purpose by Greg and Julie Gorman and a few other exercises that we have found to help us shift our mindset, getting better and more comfortable with change, and living a more purpose-focused life.

Give yourself love first - be kind to yourself. Focus on becoming the person your dream man or woman would want to be with vs. making lists of what your dream man or woman looks like. It's not all about looks at the end of the day because those will fade. From a faith-based understanding, knowing and trying to understand or grasp God's unconditional love for you, helps us love others. When we are secure in God's love and grace and mercy on us, we can give mercy and grace to others when they let us down or wrong us. Being confident in who you are. We’re all imperfect people - do not count one another’s flaws.

When you start focusing on all the blessings you have, both big and small, it can change your life. Making this a daily habit and living a life of gratitude is not easy but it is so powerful. We also dive into living your life with an optimistic approach and stop hanging around people that are energy takers. Enjoy!

In this episode, we talk about incorporating three one-liners we have learned that has helped our relationship big time. We got these from one of the devotionals in the YouVersion Bible app that we read every morning. #1 – “We have rich people problems.” #2 – “Do you want me to fix it or feel it?” #3 – “We know tragedy and this isn’t it.” We realize life is complicated and you need more than three one-liners in your relationship toolbox, but we often make relationships way too complicated by creating our own drama. Having simple ways to get our relationship back on course is crucial. Give these a try for two weeks and let us know what happens.

Welcome to our first episode! We are getting serious about taking action this year and that includes starting this podcast. In this episode, we're sharing a little about who we are, why we decided to start a podcast, and what we plan to talk about in future episodes.