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If you love traveling, this episode will help you travel with more intention for your personal wellbeing so that the next time you go somewhere, it’s not just an escape where you’ll come back to the same routine and patterns that you left. It’ll be an opportunity to grow.Travel is a great way to boost emotional intelligence, which consists of self-awareness, emotional management, and empathy. When we force ourselves outside of our traditional environment, it automatically expands our perspectives in who we thought we were when we’re able to connect with those who are living very differently than us.The issue is when we travel in a disconnected manner. Disconnected from yourself and your intentions, disconnected from the culture and people that you’re visiting, disconnected from the land and environment that have the privilege of walking on.This is why I’m excited to share this conversation with travel coach, Sahara Rose, who helps people in the workplace travel with more intention in order to maximize the man

Emotional Intelligence is one of the missing skills from our education system. Rarely were we taught how to deal with conflict, how to make good decisions for the long-term, how to manage stress, and how to be comfortable expressing our deeper feelings and what we truly want.I’ve noticed the lack thereof within my life and how it’s kept me complacent in my career, relationships, and hobbies. Learning about emotional intelligence has created a shift from me passively sitting in the backseat of my life to taking lead and being more assertive with how I want to live.-------------------------------------Resources: List of emotions to improve vocabulary Psychologist Lisa Feldmen Barrett’s TED talk on what emotions are Research study on cultural differences in emotion Automatic Negative Thoughts (ANT) Therapy Wait But Why Article on becoming the chef of your life vs the cook 11 exercises to jumpstart emotional intelligence on your own-------------------------------------Provide me feedback on where you’re at in

Emotions are hard to talk about. They’re hard to define. They’re hard to feel. They’re hard to manage.Learning the neuropsychology behind emotional intelligence provides a framework to help us with all of that. It gives us the ability to better interpret our emotions as data that can help us think more clearly.And when we better understand our emotions, it strengthens our roots so that we’ll become more resilient and adaptable with change.-------------------------------------In this episode, we talk about how: Mieka's studies in political science, social impact, body trauma and neuroscience got her here We are expected to be emotionally competent but weren't taught the skills Our emotions serve as an antenna to provide us with more information for decision-making Social and emotional capacity is the missing ingredient at both the societal and human level Emotional resiliency is built by addressing the core needs-------------------------------------Resources: Join her 6-week in-person workshop series in Se

How do you present yourself through your behaviors, words, and even fashion? Have you held back what is true and feels good to you in any of those three areas? If you have, I completely understand, having been influenced by so many cultural norms and perceptions that put pressure on me to blend in, rather than express myself.Self-expression comes in many forms and in this episode we hit on what that means coming from the perspective of men in fashion and creativity.-------------------------------------In this episode, we talk about: How Antonio started Seattle Gents Building community for Seattle men Identifying and sticking to why you're pursuing your creative projects rather than comparing yourself to others Everyone is creative, you just have to train it like a muscle Finding your own groove and style by unapologetically expressing your creativity-------------------------------------Resources: Come out to Seattle Gent’s 3rd Anniversary Banquet celebration on November 14th: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/

Coming from an Asian immigrant family, raised in America’s masculine culture, emotions and feelings are the last thing we would talk about. But in that suppression we also push away the people around us. It’s why we end up in either stagnant relationships, or feeling lonely that no one can relate to us because we’ve been used to dealing with it on our own.The first step to curbing this loneliness and connecting with others on a deeper level is to connect back to your own emotions. It’s to become aware of those sensations and situations that make us uncomfortable and to purposefully lean into it. When you can understand your own emotions better, what triggers them, and be confident enough to express them, it gives other people a better understanding of who you are and how to connect with you as well.-------------------------------------In this episode, we talk about: Why men might struggle talking about emotions because of limited outside structures placed upon us Steven's journey in starting his podcast How

Subconsciously, we have been trained to stick to one thing and it’s hard to break out of that, or explore a completely new path. You might even be telling yourself things like, “I’ve invested so much time, money, and energy into this already,” “I don’t want to waste all that I’ve learned,” “It’s too late for me to do something completely new and unrelated,” “I’ve come so far, might as well stick it through,” “I’m not a quitter.” That is the sunk costs fallacy.We think that we only have one life. We think that once we’ve chosen that school, that major, that job, that career, that expertise that that’s what we have to stick with. It’s what we know, it’s what we’re good at.Let’s challenge that. What if we don’t only live once? What if we can live multiple lives?-------------------------------------Check out the blog post for this episode here: https://medium.com/the-ascent/you-have-more-than-one-life-9b242c4b84c2?source=---------15-------------------------------------------------------Become a Patron to support

I love you, Technology.I love the way you provide so much excitement in my life. I love how you do so many things for me, how you make my life so easy and convenient.But...I’m worried about who I’ve become with all this time with you. I know, it’s really self-centered for me to say this, but I’ve become too dependent on you.-------------------------------------Check out the blog post for this episode here: https://psiloveyou.xyz/technology-its-not-you-it-s-me-6c88f4bf5373Become a Patron to support this content: http://patreon.com/humanup.Send me a voice message with any thoughts, feedback, praise, takeaways, or stories you want to share with this podcast at http://victorung.com/podcast.Subscribe to get your free list of 11 Emotional Intelligence exercises and to get updates on this podcast and blog at http://victorung.com/subscribe.If you’re a reader, clap for my writing on Medium: http://medium.com/@victorung.Schedule your Discovery Coaching Call with me to personally work on building your own emotional inte

“Adulting like a revolutionary is taking a self-loving, logical look at where you are fighting the battles that are unwinnable vs looking at where you might be ignoring the battles that you can win.”Serving eight years as a psychotherapist, who now calls herself a Soul Medic, Rachel Alexandria is helping people “adult like a revolutionary” by helping them explore the rituals that are missing from their transition into adulthood.-------------------------------------Timestamps:[6:00] Rachel's background[7:54] Even adults need support in growth[15:37] What is "Adulting like a Revolutionary?"[22:49] The process in living with intentionality[28:55] The importance of rituals[32:44] How do you become an adult, separate from your family?[39:23] Living on purpose vs flowing through necessary phases[42:49] Learning about your own emotions makes you resilient to change[45:32] 5 Core Emotions-------------------------------------Resources: Visit https://rachelalexandria.com to sign up for a free 10-day adulting sampler or

Are you the type of person that gives so much love, compassion, and encouragement to others, but forget to give to yourself?I definitely do and it frustrates me.I sometimes feel like a hypocrite or an imposter who can’t take his own advice. Then I would doubt my ability to give and help people because I was not good enough, smart enough, or wise enough.Why is it so hard to love myself?Turns out I'm not the only one who has this problem, according to University of Waterloo psychologist, Igor Grossman, who coined this phenomenon as Solomon’s Paradox.Read the research paper here: https://uwaterloo.ca/wisdom-and-culture-lab/sites/ca.wisdom-and-culture-lab/files/uploads/files/grossmann_kross_-_exploring_solomons_paradox_-_article_proof.pdf-------------------------------------Send me a voice message with anything thoughts, feedback, praise, takeaways, or stories you want to share with this podcast at http://victorung.com/podcast.Subscribe to get your free list of 11 Emotional Intelligence exercises and to get updat

We can’t control our emotions, but we can control how we respond to them. That’s the power of emotional intelligence, to be able to better manage what we do with how we feel in the moment in order to be productive rather than destructive. The issue is that so many of us haven’t been provided the education or tools to deal with our own emotions or those of others, which creates a lot of tension in many social issues today.The process of becoming more emotionally intelligent is simple, but difficult to master: Awareness Acceptance Action (or not)It starts by slowing down so that you can become aware of your emotions and what it means for you. Then we can embrace how we’re feeling, to acknowledge its presence, so that we can start taking steps to do (or not to do) something with it.In this episode, my guest Matt Perelstein of EQ4Peace shares his passion for emotional intelligence education as we nerd out about how to use this as a tool to train our emotional muscles for both internal and external peace.--------

Emotional intelligence doesn’t come natural for many people, no matter the circumstances, but it’s especially missing in a lot of men. I’ve noticed this especially true for myself, where I was unwilling to be uncomfortable feeling my emotions. It made me feel weak, or childish, or “feminine.”But why is something as natural as our emotions something we try to hide?I talk to a good friend, Ryan Shirley, co-founder of Pursuit and Tie, about how important of a role EQ plays in business/client service, marriage, and friendships, as well as what it means for men to manage our emotions.*Due to previous audio setup, there will be occasional background noise in the recording.-------------------------------------Timestamps:[7:50] Does a person's value solely come from the ability to product outcomes?[9:49] Men don't prioritize emotional growth[12:38] Men's balance with power[13:43] Yes, you can have too much EQ[9:38] But lack of EQ creates stale relationships[17:05] What we practice grows stronger[19:04] Competition is

I've grown up being scared of my emotions. I was told they were weak, "girly," so I suppressed them, especially the more heartfelt ones. Anger was OK though, since it was more fierce and powerful, but also dangerous. But as we know, all human beings are social, emotional beings at the core. We are meant to feel emotions, whether we like it or not, we'll feel things. And like anything, when you try to silence that voice, there are many consequences that result from that, i.e. shallow relationships, stagnant life, burnout in career, loss in integrity and direction, low self-confidence.Only when we identify what we're feeling specifically, get to the root cause of the issue, can we start developing the steps and strategies to know what to do with it. But if we leave our emotions clouded in vagueness, it will always feel overwhelming and difficult to deal with.This is why I love this conversation with former professional MLB player, fellow life coach, and motivational speaker, Christian Lopez about society's

I used to be proud of calling myself a ‘perfectionist.’ It was like one of those things I would say in job interviews when they ask, “What is your biggest weakness?” And I would spin it to say that I just have really high standards and love delivering high quality work.I didn’t realize what other effects perfectionism would have on my personal well-being. The fact that having impossible standards for myself added so much unnecessary weight and stress on me and my work. And how the self-criticism got worse the more I thought I had to be perfect.I’m excited to share this episode with another recovering perfectionist, Kendra Lee, a writer and self-love coach who embraced the Japanese philosophy of Wabi Sabi to help her find relief and love for herself. We talk about how it’s helped her in her life personally, while finding the intersection of those ideas with the ideas of emotional intelligence.-------------------------------------Timestamps:[1:32] Ad[4:33] Kendra's recovery from perfectionism[9:04] The 3 Truths

Excitement is a complicated emotion. When asked this question, many of us don’t know how to answer. And some of us might even avoid answering or to feel it too much out of fear of setting ourselves up for disappointment.I was definitely a part of both of those groups. Growing up, anytime I did feel excitement towards something, it was usually met with something less than what I was expecting. So I trained myself to not get too excited anymore. But I’ve now realized, that is so limiting! It’s time to find that excitement, be excited, and stay excited! Do what you want to do!This episode, I asked people to send in audio recordings of what gets them excited, either personally, professionally, or within the world. Here are there stories.-------------------------------------Timestamps:[4:51] Laura, excited about a new career path[8:31] Bob, Metal and Mortgages podcast, on exploring what excitement is[12:46] Carolina, career coach, how to get back into excitement[14:17] Christian, life coach and motivational speake

Being raised in two different cultures is both a blessing and a curse. On one hand, I am grateful for the cultural values and traditions that come from my Asian background and to be able to compare and contrast that against American ideals that helped broaden my perspectives. On the other hand, being pulled in two different directions left me confused and stuck in who I wanted to be, which didn’t leave much room to build confidence within me. Do I follow the Asian traditions that have been passed down for generations, like family and sacrifice? Or do I embrace the American culture as an individual being born-and-raised in America and seek out personal passions and self-care? The short answer is that I don’t have to pick one or other, instead, I acknowledge that it’s actually a privilege of mine to be able to balance these two worlds so I can use that to create my own culture, traditions, and values.I talk about all of this with Seibo Shen, one half of the duo from the Happy Asian Males podcast, where they tal

Paradoxically, chasing comfort in an effort to avoid the anxiety of discomfort might end up causing more anxiety. Comfort as an achievement is an illusion. We think we want it to become worry-free, but then we’re freer to worry when we finally have it. Rather than avoiding discomfort or numbing the suffering, accept that it is a necessary part of life, and in doing so, you'll find relief and peace.-------------------------------------Link to this blog post: https://medium.com/the-ascent/comfort-is-why-youll-never-grow-983af6bdfc08Subscribe to get your free list of 11 Emotional Resiliency exercises and to get updates on this podcast and blog at http://victorung.com/subscribe.Become a Patron to support this content: http://patreon.com/humanup.Clap for me on my blog on Medium: http://medium.com/@victorung. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/victorung/message Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for m

Our minds have been protecting us humans since the beginning. We were one of the most advanced, conscientious, and intelligent species because of our ability to survive. But the problem is, we didn’t do it as individuals. We banded together. That’s how we’ve always done it. Why is it that so many of think we now have to do it alone? Why is it so hard for some of us to ask for help? To really lean into our strengths and allow others to use their strengths against our weaknesses?In this episode, I talk about that with my guest, Riah Gonzalez, CEO and Founder of Admin Prestige. We talk about her business that helps heart-centered businesses with the administrative work so that they can focus on what they do best by serving their customers.-------------------------------------Timestamps:[4:51] Riah's background in insurance and healthcare [9:47] We're the only ones holding ourselves back [13:00] How to get over the Imposter Syndrome without needing external validation [20:34] Confidence comes from

How do we become self-aware? How do we know who we are? How do we find our identity?It may very well be that we’ll never find who we are because identity is fluid. It’s always changing based on our environment, culture, the people we surround ourselves with, the perceptions and beliefs you take in, the questions you ask and the answers you decide to listen to. So who we are today will likely be different than who we were even just last week, or who we will be 5 years from now.So rather than spending time looking for our identity, what if we can create it instead? How can we design ourselves to do what we want to do, to be who we want to be?I talk to a friend and mentor, John B. Johnson, about his entrepreneurship journey in creating his own identity in both his personal and business lives and how this self-awareness is a crucial part of emotional intelligence and understanding ourselves.-------------------------------------Timestamps:[7:01] John's background[10:45] The transition from architecture school to e

In my recent years, I’ve realized how much I’ve held myself back in my level of expression in my career, relationships, and even my hobbies. One of the contributing factors was the lack of the skill of emotional management and how to develop self-awareness in my upbringing. Not having the emotional support I needed, I was left on my own to develop it and it was definitely a struggle. I let outside perceptions affect how I view myself, which created limiting beliefs in who I was and was capable of being. Unfortunately, society and peer pressure is not completely avoidable, but we can at least control how we respond to it.-------------------------------------Subscribe to get your free list of 11 Emotional Resiliency exercises and to get updates on this podcast and blog at http://victorung.com/subscribe.Follow me on Instagram: http://instagram.com/_victorung.Clap for me on Medium: http://medium.com/@victorung.--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/victorung/message Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy

When I reflect upon my upbringing in my early education, I realize how much I’ve been lacking in the skills to manage my own emotions and to communicate that with the other kids around me. I wasn’t taught how to be social and emotional and while I learned a lot on my own, I also became skilled at keeping to myself. Sure, that gave me independence and resourcefulness, but it also left me alone and that much less assertive in how I interact with people. In my journey through increasing my own emotional intelligence today, I’ve been curious as to why this education hasn’t been taught in schools until now. And after talking with Wendy Horng Brawer, a Leadership and Transformation Coach who’s been working in education for more than a decade, as well as starting a business to help adults unbind themselves from the mental and social barriers that have been placed upon us, I feel so much better about the future emotional health of our society.-------------------------------------Timestamps:[4:33] Social and emotional