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When I talk to people about open relationships the first question they usually ask is “how do you deal with jealousy”? It’s a great question, because jealousy is often hard to deal with. As open relationships become more popular and couples open themselves up to new experiences, everyone wants to be that partner who’s “not […] The post How To Transform Jealousy Into Excitement appeared first on Boodaism.

How quickly we forget history. Lately there has been a rash of articles and videos accusing millennials of being selfish, entitled, narcissistic, lazy and having little to no attention span. They are right, and also completely wrong. That’s because millennials are all those things — selfish, lazy and entitled, but those character traits have nothing to […] The post Millennials Aren’t The Problem, We Are appeared first on Boodaism.

Let’s get this out of the way first. I’m a happily divorced, ethically non-monogamous guy who thinks marriage ruins relationships — so take what I’m saying with a grain of salt. What I’m going to suggest will be wildly unpopular among “normal” people, since it goes against everything we’ve been taught to believe about marriage. Ready […] The post The Most Un-Romantic Marriage Advice Ever appeared first on Boodaism.

The world is inside you, And I hope that’s good news. Not just joy and beauty, Or the things that you choose. There’s nothing in others That you don’t possess, Although there are times You may not confess. Every emotion, Every kind of thought, Every part of nature, There’s nothing you’re not. So if you […] The post The World Is Inside You [Poem] appeared first on Boodaism.

As a musician, sometimes live music feels like Chinese water torture, because I notice all the ways the performers fall short of my hopes and expectations. I notice the gimmicks, the lack of originality and I notice the way people phone it in instead of really being present with the audience — and it drives […] The post You’re Not a Bad Person, You Just Have Great Taste appeared first on Boodaism.

Let me see if I get this right… You don’t like that someone else is triggered because you judge their upset as trivial and meaningless. Makes sense. Then you call them out and become visibly agitated by the fact that they’re triggered. Now you’re triggered that they’re triggered. Hang on a sec… You don’t like that […] The post I’m Triggered That You’re Triggered appeared first on Boodaism.

I’m writing this on Valentine’s Day, which is also Paula’s birthday. We just finished video chatting and catching up on each other’s lives and I felt a warm sense of relief. Many of the conversations over the last six months since we broke up have been painful – they would start out okay but quickly spiral […] The post 4 Relationship Lessons from 4 Years of Marriage appeared first on Boodaism.

The more I learn about true consent, the more I understand the essential role that privilege plays in getting it right. First it’s worth defining what I mean when I say privilege, because it’s a word that gets used a lot. Privilege is an advantage granted to or had by a particular person or group […] The post Why Understanding Privilege is Essential to True Consent appeared first on Boodaism.

I consider myself a “poly” guy, which means I’m someone for whom a polyamorous lifestyle resonates with. I don’t consider myself a Tantra guy, yet I choose to spend a lot of time around people who really dig it. I just spent a month in Hawaii clearing chakras and talking sex magic with some of the […] The post Why Tantra and Polyamory Don’t Mix appeared first on Boodaism.

“One is fruitful only at the cost of being rich in contradictions.” ― Friedrich Nietzsche Too often we hang on to our beliefs and decisions far beyond when they have stopped serving us, and we do it out of a misguided notion that it’s honorable to hold the same belief for a long period of time. […] The post The Fetish of Consistency appeared first on Boodaism.

Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication. ~ Leonardo da Vinci One of the greatest joys in my life has been letting go. Whether it was my last days as a Navy Officer, moving to a new city or even the end of a romantic relationship, letting go has always been a life experience I cherish. For […] The post Minimalist Packing Guide: How To Travel Indefinitely With A Normal Backpack appeared first on Boodaism.

There’s something so royal about going through airport security and not having to take your shoes off or take your laptop out of your bag. It’s funny how quickly we forget that this used to be the norm. Yes, I’m talking about TSA Pre-Check, and it’s glorious. As I sit here in the Hawaii sun […] The post The Purpose of My Travels appeared first on Boodaism.

At a time when we can’t go ten minutes without hearing someone declare how they’re going to turn everything around and make 2017 their best year yet, it’s a radical notion to propose that we simply continue on the course we’re on. We live in a culture that’s obsessed with instant results. New Years comes around […] The post I’m Not Changing a Damn Thing in 2017 appeared first on Boodaism.

2016. What a crazy year this has been. While the purpose of this post isn’t to summarize what happened in the world, it’s worth mentioning that I believe we will look back on 2016 and it’s significance for many years to come. That being said, let’s talk about my life and Boodaism. In this report […] The post 2016 Annual Review appeared first on Boodaism.

Twas the night before Christmas and I was a mess, I had not done my shopping, as you can probably guess. My family did plan, for months in advance, And never left holiday shopping to chance. I wanted to charm them, I wanted to share, A wonderful gift, to show them I care. I thought and […] The post A Minimalist Christmas Poem appeared first on Boodaism.

I’d like to take a minute to appreciate how profoundly lucky I am. I’m writing this from Winchester, Massachusetts where I’m currently spending a month living at home with my parents. Winchester (as described by Wikipedia) is “an affluent bedroom community for professionals who work in the greater Boston area.” The median house value is $899,700 […] The post The Unexpected Reason I Can Afford an Adventurous Life appeared first on Boodaism.

Letting go of who you think you should be and trading that in for who you want to be is the sexiest thing anyone can do. That’s what feminism means to me, and here are five reasons I get a tingle in my loins around short-haired*, independent women. * = not all feminists have short hair, […] The post 5 Reasons a Feminist Is Sexy appeared first on Boodaism.

Silver linings. That’s been the subject of my thoughts recently. I’ve been contemplating the ways recent events in the United States have effected positive change, and thankfully I’ve found some. Yesterday I saw another. I was walking through Natick, Massachusetts when I heard the revving of an engine. I turned to see a Jeep full […] The post It’s Not Okay To Be Silent Anymore appeared first on Boodaism.

A few years ago I finally realized how homophobic I was. I was shopping for clothes at a local mall. As I browsed the dress shirts, I made sure to avoid any that were too stylish. I remembered how my friends used to make fun of me if I was too fashionable so I picked […] The post I’m Afraid of Being Gay appeared first on Boodaism.

You are already an activist, you’re just too scared to hit the streets. You are already an artist, you’re just too scared to pick up a brush. You are already a singer, you’re just too scared to pick up the mic. You are already a writer, you’re just too scared to hit publish. You are […] The post Art is Disagreement appeared first on Boodaism.