How To Get Away With Parenting

Who gets my stuff when I die? Can I make my friend raise my kid if my husband and I are both dead? I'm kind of obsessing about death lately so I asked my friend, and lawyer, Leslie Sultan to tell me everything she knows about making a will. I make a lot of jokes along the way because talking about death makes me nervous. After all the death chat my husband comes back to talk about a life update. See what I did there? Life after death...anyway. Find out what we're most excited about with our move to California and what we're going to miss the most about living in New York. Show notes: Here are the basic components of a will: http://www.aarp.org/money/estate-planning/info-09-2010/ten_things_you_should_know_about_writing_a_will.html  This might help you decide if you need a will or not: http://estate.findlaw.com/wills/what-happens-if-i-die-without-a-will-.html Someone wrote a pretty extensive review of a recent episode of HTGAWP! https://hearthatnoise.wordpress.com/2016/06/30/htgawp-how-do-i-talk-to-my-kid-

My husband is back again! This time we have an intense conversation about racism and white privilege in the wake of the most recent police shootings. We also discuss how being in an interracial marriage affects the way we communicate with each other about the reality of racism. What are we going to tell our daughter about the world she's growing up in? Let me how your family is dealing with racism. I'd like to compare notes. Show Notes: There is a white privilege conference: http://www.whiteprivilegeconference.com/   Not sure what "White Privilege" means? Here's the definition:  https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B9uofOxNGMYONlBLS1k1RUxXNlhqbDZoMmFkQzM3SmItZXRB/view?usp=sharing   This hilarious video of Eddie Murphy trying to find out what white people do when black people aren't around is priceless! http://www.nbc.com/saturday-night-live/video/white-like-me/n9308 Email me:  htgawppodcast@gmail.com  Website me (write a comment!): www.htgawp.com  Tweet me: @htgawp

My husband and I have made a big decision that will change our family's trajectory. So I brought him on the podcast to discuss why we're doing what we're doing. And, we ask the listeners what decisions they have made with the hope of making a better life for their family. Let us know what you think: Email me:  htgawppodcast@gmail.com  Website me (write a comment!): www.htgawp.com  Tweet me: @htgawp  

I plan to live forever. But, just in case I don't, I want my kid to have something to put in her pocket when I'm gone. So, my husband and I need life insurance. My friend Aljerice Hasty walks me through the different types of life insurance policies out there and the steps to take to make sure we're covered. Then, my girlfriend Laura is back to bitch and moan with me for our "Wah, Wah, Wah" segment. This time we're complaining about birth control. It sucks!   Show Notes:   *You can email Aljerice with questions: Aljarice.Hasty.f7du@statefarm.com   *Here's a handy insurance calculator: http://www.lifehappens.org/insurance-overview/life-insurance/calculate-your-needs/   *When the hell is there going to be male birth control? Soon-ish: http://www.webmd.com/men/news/20160325/male-birth-control   Website me:  www.htgawp.com Email me:  htgawppodcast@gmail.com Tweet me: @htgawp Review me:  https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-get-away-with-parenting/id1084576130

Child molestation is a topic I’ve been worried about since the moment I found out I was pregnant. What if someone touches my kid? Can I legally murder a predator? Is it my fault? I asked Courtney Watson, MFTi to talk me down from my panic ledge by discussing how we can talk to our kids about their bodies and consent. We also get into ways to advocate for our children and heal with them and the entire family if a violation does occur. This will hopefully be the first of a series of episodes where we discuss age appropriate sexual behavior and responses to that behavior. Because just like all things in parenting, there is no one size fits all solution. Show Notes: *Please! Please! Please go to my website for all the resources and statistics Courtney mentions in the podcast. *You can contact Courtney via her website (http://www.doorwaytherapeutics.com/) *She wrote a special blog post all about how to talk to young children about sexual assault. It’s ESSENTIAL!     Email me: htgawppodcast@gmail.com Tweet me: @ht

What does it actually take to make your kid bilingual. I ask my friends Junichi and Enjulee Ito how they are teaching their baby Japanese. Is it working? Can my husband and I teach our daughter Spanish even though we're not native speakers? I have a lot of questions. Show notes: -here are some tips on how to go about it (http://www.omniglot.com/language/articles/bilingualkids1.htm) -Junichi is a rad photographer (http://www.junichiito.com/) -Enjulee is a rad crafter (https://www.pinterest.com/enjulee/) -They have a rad family (https://www.instagram.com/enjulee/)  Email me: htgawppodcast@gmail.com Tweet me: www.twitter.com/htgawp Website me:  www.htgawp.com 

My friends are having a baby! Derreck and Vanessa Johnson are my very special guests on this episode. They're expecting their first child any minute now. We sit down in their living room to chat about all their hopes, fears, and questions about giving birth and life after baby arrives.  Show notes: Hypnobirthing is not for weirdos. It helped me (and hopefully Vanessa) a lot. Derreck's twitter stardom really is a thing (@deephunk) He's also the unofficial Mayor of Brooklyn Summer. I met my husband at this party! (Makossa BK Cookout)  ___________________ Email me:  htgawppodcast@gmail.com Tweet me: @htgawp Website me:  www.htgawp.com 

A day in the life of any mom is busy, to say the least. But, what does it look when you have infant twins, an intense job, a loving husband and a serious exercise routine? My friend Daphne Palacio is here to give me a detailed account of her typical Wednesday. My eyes were bugging out in shock and amazement during most of this episode. Daphne is a force of nature! Show notes: Daphne talks about her life with PCOS. Learn more about it here   Babies can start taking swim classes as early as 6 months. We take our baby to the YMCA near us. Find classes here   There are a million slow cooker recipes online. So here is a list of the best slow cookers on the market ______________ Email me: htgawppodcast@gmail.com Tweet me: @htgawp Website me: www.htgawp.com 

My guest, Whitney Dwyer, and I dip a toe into the deep water that is DISCIPLINE. I've been reading (and reading and reading) a ton of articles and a couple of books on the subject. Yet, I'm scared of how I'll react when my little girl starts pushing boundaries. Whitney's been a mom for a few years longer than me, so I have lots of questions and concerns. We both know we don't want to do things the way our parents did it. But what does that look like when your kid hits your with a wooden train track? Show notes: *Whitney's awesome project My Post Baby Body *50 years of research confirms that spanking is mentally harmful to children *It seems like Time Outs aren't much better either *Luckily there are lots of alternatives to Time Outs *My #1 priority for my daughter: Emotional Support _______________________________ Email me: htgawppodcast@gmail.com Tweet me: @htgawp Website me: www.htgawp.com 

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY! My own Mommy is the special guest for this episode. I ask her to do a little self evaluation as a parent. Then I tell her what it was like to be parented by her. It gets deep. We also discuss how parenting has changed since I was a kid. What would she have done differently? What does she think of me as a mother? Honestly, this is my favorite episode ever!  Show notes: *My mom would like everyone to know where Guyana is. Here is a map. ______________________ Email me: htgawppodcast@gmail.com Tweet me: @htgawp Website me: www.htgawppodcast.com    

How did a year go by so fast? I try to get some insight from my friend Nadia Hussain. Her son turned 1 last month and my daughter turns 1 this week. Then my husband and I reflect on the year gone by. Did we get away with parenting? We ask our baby girl what she has to say on the matter. Her answers will surprise you. Just kidding! She can't really talk! But she does say "mama" and "dada" throughout this episode a lot. Show notes: *Nadia's funny blog post *My baby does look fly in her overalls *Yet Pinterest searches like this make me poor __________________________ Email me: htgawppodcast@gmail.com Tweet me: @htgawp Website me:  www.htgawp.com        

Is it ok to make my baby a vegetarian if I'm not? I've been hesitant to feed my little one meat and sugary stuff because I want her to eat better than I do. Am I a hypocrite? Should I just share my burger and ice cream with her? Today I talk with my friend Sherisa de Groot about what she's feeding her vegetarian toddler. We also get into the different ways you can go about Baby Led Weaning. Sherisa is the founding editor of Raising Mothers and she's also the maker of a great P-I-Z-Z-A. Show notes:   We started using the Baby Led Weaning techniques when our baby was about 7 months old. This the website helped us get started.   Sherisa uses the Yummly app to do her meal planning. I like the Yummly website too. Here's an article I found about the Ital Diet that my brother adheres to. ------------- Email me:  htgawppodcast@gmail.com Tweet me: @htgawp Website me: www.htgawp.com  

Saskia Rumbelow-Lall is my guest this week. She's my longtime family friend and part of my Mommy Committee.  I ask her how she chose the right daycare for her two kids and what I should look for in a daycare for my baby. Then, it's the first installment of Tool Time! My husband and I talk about a book we've been reading: The Conscious Parent. This must be the manual they forgot to give us at the hospital. Just kidding! It's a great book that might help us not screw up our daughter too much. We hope!  Show notes: Saskia's kids go to a Reggio Emilia philosophy nursery and preschool.  Dr. Shefali has a bunch of clips on YouTube. We've watch most of them because reading the book together is kind of hard. RIE is also something we're working on Email me:  htgawppodcast@gmail.com Tweet me: @htgawp Website me: www.htgawp.com 

My wonderful father-in-law sits down with me to talk about grandparenting.  I ask him if he's finished parenting now that his kid has a kid. Then he blows my mind with a revelation about my daughter, his son (her father) and another family member! We also talk about nature versus nurture and how fatherhood has changed in the past 30 years. Oh, and I do a call for guests at the end of the episode.  Do you want to be on the podcast? Let me know! Email me: htgawppodcast@gmail.com Tweet me: @htgawp Website me: www.htgawp.com

On this episode my friend, and world class artist, Andrea Chung joins me on a Saturday night to talk about our kids. We cover everything from birth, postpartum depression, sippy cups, Youtube vlogs, and racism on the playground.  I don't know if I'm ready to deal with this yet.  But at least I have friends like Andrea that I can talk to about it. Email me: htgawppodcast@gmail.com Tweet me: @htgawp Website me: www.htgawp.com

Expert alert! On this episode I talk with Kenya Fairley, a birth doula with a particular focus on trauma-informed birth support for survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault. Isn't it great that she exists! We talk about what a doula does and does not do and how her work helps empower expectant mothers.  I share a bit about my great experience with my doula. Plus, Kenya hears all about the wolf that was chasing me while I was in labor.  Email me: htgawppodcast@gmail.com Tweet me: @htgawp Website me: www.htgawp.com _________________________ Resources Kenya mentions: 1. International Center for Traditional Childbearing 2. Ancient Song Doula Services 3. Mama Glow  

My longtime friend Sonnet Swaby-Brizan helps me sift through all the thoughts in my brain about having a second baby.  She's firmly planted on one side of the fence. I'm sitting in the middle. I mention this article during our conversation that reminds us that every baby is different.  It's a crap shoot! Plus, it's the first installment of: Tell Me What You Know. A new segment where I mine information from someone who knows something I don't. My podcast Godmother and personal finance writer, Mandi Woodruff, clues me in on educating kids about money.  Are allowances still a thing? Are we poor? Buckets full of money? There's a lot to think about. Email me: htgawppodcast@gmail.com Tweet me: @htgawp Website me: www.htgawp.com  

I confess to my friend, and musical phenom, Donwill, that I'm not that into music. Then we try to come up with a healthy musical menu for my kid's childhood.  Are Prince songs too racy for a baby? We also chat about his daughter's budding filmmaking career and her alter ego. We both just want our children to know that we'll be there for them, no matter what. Even if that means they want to turn into a dog or a donut. It's a fun conversation! Email me:  htgawppodcast@gmail.com Tweet me: @htgawp Website me:  www.htgawp.com  

My friend and neighbor, Meiyin Wang, came downstairs to chat with me.  She's moving to California and also traveling to Singapore with her baby. Oh yeah, she's got to figure out how to get her dog across the country too.  And, she wows me with her incredible toe pick up skills. Plus, it's the first installment of the "Wah, Wah, Wah" series with my friend Laura Camins. We talk about everything we hate about pumping at work.  Spoiler alert: we hate pumping at work. Email me: htgawppodcast@gmail.com   Tweet me: www.twitter.com/htgawp

I'm talking to my pal Adam Gerloff in this episode.  He's a father of two girls and he's a teacher in Brooklyn.  So, I grill him on everything from nose blowing tutorials to the difference between daycare, preschool and Pre-K. Plus he's a jujitsu master chopper! Email me: htgawppodcast@gmail.com   Tweet me: www.twitter.com/htgawp   Website me: www.htgawp.com