Marriage Radio: Helping Your Marriage

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Hearing that your spouse, who you love deeply, hates you can be devastating. But how did that love turn to hate? Is it possible to save your marriage after that? We believe so at Marriage Helper, and today’s episode of Relationship Radio is geared to help you do so.Understanding how intimacy, passion, and commitment lead to both love and hate can guide you down the path to reconciliation. Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes will inform you how your spouse’s perceived reality can be different from the truth and provide you with several tools to start having a deeper understanding of your road back to happiness.

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!You’ve decided to end your affair and go back to your spouse. But how do you do it? How honest do you need to be when they ask you details about your affair? Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes will give you their five keys to reconciling your marriage from the perspective of the person who cheated.Affairs can cause hurt for both parties involved. Find out how to deal with the pain by using empathy, speaking truthfully but not hurtful, and other techniques perfected over the 23 years that Marriage Helper has been in business helping families. Do you want to save your marriage? That's what we'll be talking about today in this all-new season 3 of Relationship Radio.Like, subscribe, and turn on notifications to hear more helpful episodes and unique stories from other people going through the same situations you're in right now. We exercise compassion and understanding to all couples and individuals we meet. We know no one is perfect, and people make mistakes. Th

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!We at Marriage Helper get a lot of questions about marriage, particularly marriages that are having problems. And people know that one thing we do is that we help people get past extramarital affairs. And as a matter of fact, I have a pretty good record of helping people to do that. And so, a lot of the questions that we get are from the spouse that's been cheated on.But, understand that we do get a great number of questions from the spouse who had the affair. Is there different information for that spouse, the one who had the affair, but now wants to put the marriage back together? Well, actually, to some degree, there is. What would it be? We share more in this season 3 opener of Relationship Radio. Like, subscribe, and turn on notifications to hear more helpful episodes and unique stories from other people going through the same situations you're in right now. We exercise compassion and understanding to all couples and individuals we meet. We know no one is perfe

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!While limerence has three very distinct stages, the lines between them can be somewhat blurred. Stage one creates an infatuation with your new limerent object, while stage two crystallizes the feelings you have for each other. Stage three is called deterioration because the infatuation can start to wear off, and you can finally see the flaws.Stage three of limerence can often lead to regret and remorse for the relationship. But does this mean that your significant other will come running back to you? Can your relationship be healed? Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes talk about how limerence ends and give advice on the best way to get through it on this episode of Relationship Radio.Like, subscribe, and turn on notifications to hear more helpful episodes and unique stories from other people going through the same situations you're in right now. We exercise compassion and understanding to all couples and individuals we meet. We know no one is perfect, and people make m

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!While stage one of limerence is about infatuation, stage two is about crystallizing those feelings and knowing that the other person feels the same way you do. The highs and lows continue to an extent, but the feelings turn more toward vilifying their current significant other and pushing them away.Stage two of limerence is when most spouses discover that the affair is taking place. This can be a confusing and challenging time that puts them through an emotional roller coaster of their own. However, there is light at the end of the tunnel, even if you can’t currently see it. Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes will discuss the signs to look for and the underlying principles that can help you get through this phase in this episode of Relationship Radio.Like, subscribe, and turn on notifications to hear more helpful episodes and unique stories of reconciliation from other people going through the same situations you're in right now. We exercise compassion and understandi

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!When people talk about falling madly in love, they’re describing what we in the social sciences call limerence. There are three distinct stages of limerence. We’ll be going through them all, but we’re starting with stage one of limerence on this episode of Relationship Radio.Stage one of limerence is an infatuation, a longing for your emotional connection to be reciprocated. What was once a close friendship can quickly evolve into something much more and supplants your spouse for emotional and even sexual needs. Join Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes as they take you through some of the signs to look for to determine if your spouse is in limerence and how to handle what comes next.Like, subscribe, and turn on notifications to hear more helpful episodes and unique stories of reconciliation from other people going through the same situations you're in right now. We exercise compassion and understanding to all couples and individuals we meet. We know no one is perfect,

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!You’ve worked hard at trying to save your marriage, but that doesn’t always make it work. So how do you decide if it’s time to file for divorce?Everyone’s tolerance for pain is different, and understanding how much pain you can stand is an important part of deciding on divorce. Using the P.I.E.S. method that we teach at Marriage Helper can guide you to knowing your threshold.It’s important to ask questions like, is it hurting the kids? Am I hurting myself or my partner? Take time to understand your feelings, and don’t make a snap judgment based on a single event.Please leave a comment below, give us your feedback and opinion, and share this episode with someone you believe needs it. Like, subscribe, and turn on notifications to hear more helpful episdodes and unique stories of reconciliation from other people going through the same situations you're in right now. We exercise compassion and understanding to all couples and individuals we meet. We know no one is perfect, a

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Can taking your time getting a divorce actually help save your marriage? If your partner is in limerence, the state of being “madly in love” with someone new, waiting out the newness of that relationship could help.There are ways to do this without becoming someone mean or evil in your partner's eyes. The key takeaways, in this case, are to be firm but fair and don’t let them walk all over you. Your lawyer is trained to handle these situations if your spouse gets agitated in the short term, so listen to their advice.Please leave a comment below, give us your feedback and opinion, and share this video with someone you believe needs it. Like, subscribe, and turn on notifications to hear more helpful videos and unique stories of reconciliation from other people going through the same situations you're in right now. We exercise compassion and understanding to all couples and individuals we meet. We know no one is perfect, and people make mistakes. The best thing you can

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Watch this video if you are going through a divorce and want to save your marriage. People file for divorce for numerous reasons. They lose compatibility with their partner; there is a lack of intimacy, or they no longer feel liked, loved, or understood by their partner. People don’t leave what they have unless they believe what they’re going is better. This is the underlying motive for separation and the real reason why people file for divorce. Your spouse believes being out of the marriage is better than being in it. That’s something to keep in mind, especially if your spouse wants a divorce and you don’t know what to do. There are many benefits to marriage. According to research at Marriage Helper, married couples live longer, have better financial stability, better mental health, and live happier lives together than divorced couples. Of course, there are exceptions to this claim, like being married to someone abusive or dependent on drugs, but overall, marriage has its be

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Our culture over the years has changed dramatically. The number of people willing to participate in an affair continues to grow. More men and women are willing to participate in unfaithfulness because the thought is, "This makes us both happy. And even though I know that you're married to someone else, this was meant to be because it makes us feel good at the moment." And when you live in a culture where it's acceptable to be unfaithful to your spouse, the temptation to do so becomes much, much stronger. Not every single person is like that. But some single people feel so lonely and abandoned that if someone came along, that appears to fulfill their needs, they will choose to engage, even if it isn't healthy to do so. Marriage doesn't solve this problem. Even if a person is married, they might believe at the moment, "This person is just right for me." So it becomes irrelevant that either person is married. And, if the spouse involved in

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!It never feels good to suspect your spouse is cheating on you. Cheating is a form of betrayal to your marriage and your family life. It's such a severe accusation it could disrupt the trust and foundation of your marriage, so it's essential to be 100% sure before you start raising suspicions toward your spouse. If you believe your spouse is cheating on you, pay attention to the signs before you start snooping around their things. There are signs and ways to expose infidelity without incriminating yourself to turn everything around on you. Cheating is frightening and frustrating, but if you pay attention to the changes in your relationship, it may help you determine where your marriage stands. In this video, we cover:-The roadmaps to cheating-Gaslighting-The missing signs-Reasons for cheating-Behavior changes to watch out for -Hard conversations-Free resources to save your marriage Cheating is never okay, but there may be a deeper issue involved. At Marriage Helper,

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Learning that your spouse had an affair is an earth-shattering feeling. It leaves open-ended questions like, "where did we go wrong?" Or "What could I have done differently?" Infidelity happens for numerous reasons, and we all play a part in our marriages. Sometimes cheating happens because of internal traumas, resentment, fading feelings, and more. There's no way to go back in time and figure out what went wrong, so forget about trying to change the past. Reflection is essential, but dwelling on your spouse's actions worsens the feeling and leads you down a rabbit hole. If your marriage feels torn apart by an affair, there are ways to heal and even better ways to forgive your spouse for the pain they've caused. We believe that forgiveness is a process, so even if you don't feel ready yet to forgive your spouse, we offer advice on slowly climbing the stairway to reconciliation and ultimately making your marriage stronger than before. In

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!If you have divorced your spouse or want to file for divorce, watch this video today. Going through a divorce is hard, but it doesn’t have to be the end of your marriage. Couples separate mainly because one person no longer feels liked, loved, or respected in their relationship. We are here to help you figure out where your marriage went wrong and how you can win your spouse back. Divorce is common due to infidelity, losing interest, or lack of communication with your spouse. We offer insight into why you feel this way, the part you played in your marriage, and ways to minimize the actions that hurt your relationship. In this episode, we discuss:-Steps to Better Your Relationship-Behaviors that lead to divorce-How to avoid pushing your spouse further away from you -Using consistency to win your spouse back-Actions you should avoid to save your marriage-How to become more attractive for your spouse and yourself -Free resources to help you save your marriageAt Marriage Helper,

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Should you walk away if your spouse cheated on you? We have the answers here for you in this video. We understand the hurt and frustration you’re feeling right now, and no matter how hard you try, you can’t seem to forgive your spouse for hurting you. At Marriage Helper, we are pro-marriage and believe that long-term marriage is worth it, yet, everyone has their breaking points. Some circumstances call for one person to walk away from the marriage forever, and today we break down the key factors. This episode will help you decide when you should walk away if you’ve caught your spouse in an affair. In this episode, we cover: -Questions to ask yourself before making your decision-Conditions where you should walk away from your marriage-The 10,10,10 rule-How to avoid making impulsive decisions -Ways to boost your mental health -Resources if you wish to save your marriageWhen it comes to marriage, every situation is different. Some are more complex than others, but our experts wi

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!The worst thing about losing your marriage is also losing yourself. Sometimes we've been married for so long that we lose a sense of identity and don't know who we are without our spouse. Today we interview Amanda, a member of our Marriage Helper Community that went through a six-year-long battle with her husband. They were on the edge of divorce, they stopped communicating with each other, and over time things just went from bad to worse. Amanda tells us how she stopped focusing on her marriage and instead concentrated on herself. Through her self-reflective efforts to prioritize her happiness and figure herself out, she became a better person not only for her but for her husband, her children, and her future relationships with friends and family. In the fight for your marriage, you are never alone. There are people just like you who want to stand for their marriage and fight for the one they love. Information about our 3-day intensive workshopshttps://marriagehelp

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Can You Repair A Marriage After Your Spouse Had An Affair?The answer to this burning question is yes. You can repair a marriage after an affair for a lasting and even stronger relationship than when you were dating.According to research at Marriage Helper, 2 out of 3 couples seek marriage counseling services due to their spouse having an affair, teetering on the edge of divorce, or their final attempt to salvage their relationship. If your spouse cheated on you with someone else, you might feel hurt, betrayed, untrusting, suspicious, and maybe even shocked that your marriage has led to this point. If you're asking yourself the question, can you repair a marriage after an affair? We have the answers. In today's article, we uncover reasons for an experience, understand what people or things might draw your spouse away from your marriage, and ways of understanding and rebuilding trust. Information about our 3-day intensive workshopshttps://marriagehelper.com/workshops/

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!How can you make your marriage better and stronger? Research shows that 33% of married couples want to seek help for their relationship. However, Gottman's research shows that couples wait an average of six years after problems begin to occur in their marriage before they get help. One of the biggest reasons people want out of a relationship is that they feel disrespected. The way you communicate with your spouse, the tone, the facial expressions, and the volume demonstrates the respect you have. Dr. Beam says if you're going to work on anything, work on communication in a way that the other person will most likely hear; that you do communicate respectfully, that you do love them, that you don't like them, and then it'll go a whole lot better if you can do that. Listen to It Starts With Attraction episode with Dr. John Gottman here. Information about our 3-day intensive workshopshttps://marriagehelper.com/workshops/Get our FREE Mini-Course "How To Get

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!It's a fact. Not every marriage is going to make it. However, we wish every marriage would because we are very pro-marriage. In this episode, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes provide points about when it may be the right time to divorce and when it's not the right time. Divorce isn't a decision to take lightly. On the contrary, it's a weighty decision that you don't want to make when other people are persuading you, who are saying things to you like:"You'd be better off alone."" Why don't you just go on and divorce." "It sounds like this can't ever work." "I think you just need to go ahead and file the papers."Those are people who are probably very well-meaning but should not and do not get to make that decision for you. It is your life. It is your decision, and you should be the one who makes it because you are the one who has to deal with the outcome.  It is your decision.  This episode wil

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!In this episode, Gemma from the Marriage Helper leadership team has a conversation with  Stephen and he shares his brave testimonial about having multiple affairs and still wanting to save his marriage. This testimonial is about betrayal, heartbreak, self-improvement, and hope.  You'll hear Stephen's truth over the years, where he is at today, and the tools he has used to help move forward. If you have had an affair or maybe your spouse did, please see the list of resources below and reach out to us. Affair Toolkit - For The Hurt Spousehttps://marriagehelper.com/product/af...Affair Toolkit - For Help In Deciding To End An Affairhttps://marriagehelper.com/product/af...Information about our 3-day intensive workshopshttps://marriagehelper.com/workshops/Get our FREE Mini Course "How To Get Your Spouse Back"https://marriagehelper.com/how-to-get...Schedule a FREE Call with one of our Team Members:https://your.marriagehelper.com/meeti...Learn more about our Save

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!How can you overcome the emotions of an affair? You can't change emotions just by sheer willpower. Understand that time changes emotions. So the intensity of what you're feeling toward other people will evolve with time. So whatever you or your spouse are feeling towards somebody else right now will not be the same thing you feel three years from now. The actions you take and the behaviors you put into your life working with time will change how quickly your emotions evolve. So we hope that you take from this not that we're trying to discourage you but that we're trying to give you hope. The hope is not in control; the hope is in understanding human nature and that people continue to change.Learn more about our Save My Marriage Course:https://marriagehelper.com/product/sa...Learn more about our Reconciliation Toolkit:https://marriagehelper.com/product/ex...Learn more about our Marriage Saving Workshops:https://marriagehelper.com/workshops/