Marriage Radio: Helping Your Marriage

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Your spouse believes you had an affair. You've done nothing wrong, but you can't convince them otherwise.Maybe you believe or have evidence that suggests your spouse is the one having an affair, and now you've pointed fingers, only to hear your spouse getting defensive and denying the affair.How should you respond?In recent news headlines, Elon Musk (Founder of SpaceX & CEO of Tesla) was recently accused by Sergey Brin (co-founder of Google) for having an affair with Anne Wojcicki (wife of Sergey).While the allegations have yet to be determined, this story sounded all too familiar from the thousands of couples we work with here at Marriage Helper.We wanted to take this moment in history to educate and explain what to do if you have found yourself in this exact situation. The advice we give might surprise you!Visit marriagehelper.com to purchase the Foundations Course!

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Most of the time, when we hear about a marriage affected by an affair, the partner who was cheated on asks us to help them understand if they should try to save the marriage. And if so, how? If the straying spouse is still out somewhere, is there some way to get them to return to the marriage?But, a certain number of calls we get are just the opposite. The spouse who cheated has now come to their senses and said, "Wow, I want to save the marriage. But my spouse either isn't sure they want to, or they've made up their mind. No, they can never forgive me for what I did. So, is there any hope for putting my marriage back together?" Actually, there is. And we'll talk about that on this episode of Relationship Radio.To sign up for a workshop, click the links below!Couples WorkshopSolo Spouse Workshop

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!We know that sex is a part of marriage. We also know that sex doesn't always occur in marriage.But what about your marriage? Perhaps you want to be making love to your spouse, but when you attempt it, your spouse doesn't want it to occur. And you feel that you've been sexually rejected or are continually being sexually rejected by your spouse.What do you do about that? We'll talk about that on this episode of Relationship Radio.For more information on courses, workshops and coaching, visit marriagehelper.com.

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!One of the most common questions we get here at Marriage Helper is, "We're having marital problems, but my spouse still wants to sleep with me." Now, sometimes that just means sleep. Maybe they want to be in the same bed. But more often, that question means, "My spouse wants to have sex with me. What do you think? Should I have sex with my spouse after they cheated on me?" There are definitely pros and cons to this decision, and it should not be made lightly. We discuss that and how you can choose a path forward on this episode of Relationship Radio.

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!In today’s episode of Relationship Radio, we interview Annette. Annette has been standing for her marriage after her husband decided he wanted to pursue an affair. Annette shares her struggles and accomplishments while standing, and sheds light on ways to overcome the hardships of living alone through separation.Although she has not reconciled her marriage, we believe in sharing stories like these because you may be going through a similar situation. We know that no matter what the situation may be, there is always hope.

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!While marriage might be between two people, many other people can influence it. For example, parents, siblings, and even distant relatives can positively and negatively affect your marriage. Your family may lead you down the right path 99% of the time because they care about you. But biased people and biased advice can lead you to make poor decisions. This is especially true if you’re having troubles in your marriage.If you’ve determined that you can set enough STOPs and COREs that it’s safe to return to your relationship, you will have to stand firm against your family. You’ll get pushback from them, but set your parameters and expectations and stick to them. Demonstrate the changes that you make to everyone involved. The families involved are more likely to accept and support the marriage when they believe it's a healthy marriage for both people.

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!We often hear that a couple can’t start to reconcile their marriage because one of them is too ashamed. They might have had an affair, gambled away their money, or had an addiction problem, and now they feel like their spouse won’t forgive them.Guilt can be a positive thing if it helps us realize we need to change. But long-term guilt can lead to a sense of shame that can affect your sense of self-worth, self-confidence, self-esteem, and your physiology.People experiencing deep shame have to first realize what they are feeling before they can begin to heal. There are still ways that your spouse can help. Using SMART contact can help you remember to avoid PUSH behaviors, respond in a kind, strong, and gentle way, and take it one day at a time.Visit www.marriagehelper.com for more information on workshops, courses and coaching.

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!If you’re going through a separation or a divorce, your spouse may have stopped wanting to communicate with you. At Marriage Helper, we’ve developed a method called SMART contact that we built just for this situation. SMART contact is an acronym that we use to describe the process a person can go through when they are trying to teach themselves how to best communicate with their spouse.SMART contact works. But even if you do everything right, your spouse has the free will to choose not to respond and continue leaving the marriage. But using this framework is the healthiest way of communicating, especially in a marriage in crisis. Communication in your marriage did not fall apart overnight, and it will not magically be repaired overnight either. Read further to see what SMART contact stands for and how it can be used to rebuild positive communication.

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!In this episode of Relationship Radio, we interview Rozanne; a Marriage Helper client who sought help after going through some difficult problems in her marriage.Hidden addictions, poor communication, and other issues were leading them towards disaster. She later found out that there was a secret affair going on between her husband and another woman. Rozanne found Marriage Helper and has since started to find a renewed hope for her marriage.Listen in on this episode of Relationship Radio as we talk with Rozanne about her story and hear why she still has so much hope for the future despite her past.

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Forgiveness can be difficult to both give and receive. When we’ve been hurt, especially by a loved one, that pain will take time to heal. The first and most important key to remember is that you can’t force forgiveness. Accept that your spouse has the right to forgive you or not. But is there a way to get your spouse to forgive you?Forgiveness must be earned. You can take several actions to aid this process, but everyone grieves at a different pace. Continuing to apologize might do more damage to your marriage than good. So, after you clearly, sincerely, and humbly apologize, continue to work on being the best version of yourself through working on physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual attraction.Episode Mentions:Marriage Helper Workshops - https://marriagehelper.com/workshops/Spark of Life - https://www.sparkoflife.org/Visit marriagehelper.com for more information on workshops, courses, and coaching.

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!If you knew that you’d done something that might hurt your spouse, would you tell them? Maybe you have a porn addiction that they haven't discovered. Perhaps you have a gambling problem, have had an affair, or one of the hundreds of other possibilities. Any one of these could be devastating to your spouse and your relationship. So is there ever a good time to not share everything?The answer is complicated. At Marriage Helper, we advise that you weigh the benefit versus the cost. Think about the outcome of telling your spouse and ask yourself who it will benefit. For example, if your secret is decades old and your relationship has continued to grow, then it is possible the costs would greatly outweigh the benefits. This is only one of the many questions you’ll need to answer before you can decide to tell your spouse what you’ve done.

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!It can be very frustrating when you can’t get your spouse to understand what you feel, saying, or how their actions affect others. Or maybe you need to talk to them about the fact that what they're doing is causing more harm than good. Is there something that you think you just must discuss with each other, but your spouse doesn't even want to do that?Join Dr. Beam and Kimberly as they offer some ideas about how to get your spouse to understand your point of view.How do you get your spouse to understand you? This is part 2 of "How Do I Get My Spouse To Understand Me." For part one, listen here - https://www.buzzsprout.com/1725542/10594625Episode mentions:The Exploring Reconciliation Course is available by speaking to a Client Representative either via the chat at the bottom of  marriagehelper.com or by calling 1-866-903-0990.Marriage Helper Workshop: https://marriagehelper.com/workshops/

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!The experiences and traumas from your past can significantly impact your current life and marriage. This week, our Director of Marketing, Gemma sits down with Shel to discuss the tumultuous times that caused her marriage to fall apart and how she’s using Marriage Helper to try and rebuild herself and her marriage. Shel discusses both of their parents’ past use of drugs and how that affected them differently, the stresses of 12 years of failed conception, and how depression played a part in their problems. She has realized through these struggles that the picture she had for her life might have only been part of the picture. And while she's still mired in the troubles of her marriage, she sees the hope for her future.Download our free eBook on SMART Communication to learn how to best communicate with your spouse, even if they won’t engage you.

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!It can be very frustrating when you can’t get your spouse to understand what you feel, saying, or how their actions affect others. Or maybe you need to talk to them about the fact that what they're doing is causing more harm than good. Is there something that you think you just must discuss with each other, but your spouse doesn't even want to do that?How do you get your spouse to understand you?Join Dr. Beam and Kimberly as they offer some ideas about how to get your spouse to understand your point of view.Mentions:SMART Contact Toolkit: https://marriagehelper.com/product/smart-contact-toolkit-product/Marriage Helper Workshop: https://marriagehelper.com/workshops/

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Reconciling a marriage is a long and challenging process. You may feel at times that you and your spouse are getting along and becoming close again. Yet, other times you might feel them pulling back. So how do you handle these cycles of emotion or false starts?Today, we look at four steps to avoid false reconciliations when trying to repair your marriage. We look at the reasons these can occur, how you can reset this path with STOPs and CORES, and use PIES to work on yourself and look for long-term, lasting damage for both you and your children

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Divorce can be as painful and confusing for your children as it is for you. If you've realized "my children won't talk to my spouse," there's still hope.Research from all over the world has proven that marital issues, when children are involved, affect them as well. After divorce occurs, 25% of fathers will no longer see their child after the first year. This percentage increases to 50% around the five to the ten-year mark. So, how can you help to mitigate those chances?How can you help your children’s relationship with your spouse?Listen to this episode of Relationship Radio for the four options to help ensure your children still feel loved and lovely.Forgiveness is a crucial part of letting go of the anger you have toward another person. Reconciliation is optional, but there are many times when it is the best decision to heal the relationship. Especially if there are children involved. Download our free eBook The Ultimate Guide To Reconciliation.

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Preparing to have a difficult conversation with your spouse can be nerve-racking and stressful. In most cases, you can already assume that they will react negatively to it. Is there anything you can do to make the situation easier?In this episode of Relationship Radio, we’ll discuss the "two Es" of being prepared, environment, and emotion. Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes break down why each is so important and what you can bring to the table in the way of solutions. The goal of every conversation should be to listen. So, practice your listening skills and take some notes on how to talk about hard things with your spouse.

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Communication is a vital part of any marriage. But what is communication? Speaking to each other every day about bills and mundane happenings isn't enough. So, what do you do when your spouse refuses to communicate with you anymore?Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes discuss how to improve your communication skills in this episode of Relationship Radio. Taking a look at how you might be contributing to the rift should be your first step. Look at your body language, your responses, and if you’re genuinely listening when your spouse is talking. Tune in to find out all the ways that Marriage Helper can get the communication flowing again in your relationship.Get the SMART Contact Toolkit here: https://marriagehelper.com/product/smart-contact-toolkit-product/

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!What do you do when you're trying to save your marriage only to find out your spouse is in love with someone else?In today's episode of Relationship Radio, Lawrence shares his story of how he found strength to continue standing for his marriage despite his wife still being in limerence. Through introspection, self-improvement, and forgiveness Lawrence cultivated unwavering hope for his marriage and his future.No matter what has happened in your marriage, there is hope. There is a way forward. We will show you how.Mentioned in Today's Episode: Understanding Limerence eBookWhy Does My Spouse Hate Me ToolkitSolo Spouse WorkshopInformation about our 3-day intensive workshopshttps://marriagehelper.com/workshops/Get our FREE Mini-Course "How To Get Your Spouse Back"https://your.marriagehelper.com/how-to-get-your-spouse-back-mini-courseSchedule a FREE Call with one of our Team Members:https://marriagehelper.com/marriage-strategy-call/Learn more about our Sav

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Hate is a strong emotion; it’s intense and passionate. But, we can also define love, especially in its initial stage, using the same words. They are bound together through intimacy, passion, and commitment. But what can you do when your spouse hates you? Is there a way to get your marriage back on the love path?In this episode of Relationship Radio, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes give their five keys to turning the hate in your marriage back to love. Along the way, you’ll learn what Marriage Helper can do to support you in this effort. The path is long, but patience and consistency will get you there.