Marriage Radio: Helping Your Marriage

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Can You Repair A Marriage After Your Spouse Had An Affair?The answer to this burning question is yes. You can repair a marriage after an affair for a lasting and even stronger relationship than when you were dating.According to research at Marriage Helper, 2 out of 3 couples seek marriage counseling services due to their spouse having an affair, teetering on the edge of divorce, or their final attempt to salvage their relationship. If your spouse cheated on you with someone else, you might feel hurt, betrayed, untrusting, suspicious, and maybe even shocked that your marriage has led to this point. If you're asking yourself the question, can you repair a marriage after an affair? We have the answers. In today's article, we uncover reasons for an experience, understand what people or things might draw your spouse away from your marriage, and ways of understanding and rebuilding trust. Information about our 3-day intensive workshopshttps://marriagehelper.com/workshops/

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!How can you make your marriage better and stronger? Research shows that 33% of married couples want to seek help for their relationship. However, Gottman's research shows that couples wait an average of six years after problems begin to occur in their marriage before they get help. One of the biggest reasons people want out of a relationship is that they feel disrespected. The way you communicate with your spouse, the tone, the facial expressions, and the volume demonstrates the respect you have. Dr. Beam says if you're going to work on anything, work on communication in a way that the other person will most likely hear; that you do communicate respectfully, that you do love them, that you don't like them, and then it'll go a whole lot better if you can do that. Listen to It Starts With Attraction episode with Dr. John Gottman here. Information about our 3-day intensive workshopshttps://marriagehelper.com/workshops/Get our FREE Mini-Course "How To Get

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!It's a fact. Not every marriage is going to make it. However, we wish every marriage would because we are very pro-marriage. In this episode, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes provide points about when it may be the right time to divorce and when it's not the right time. Divorce isn't a decision to take lightly. On the contrary, it's a weighty decision that you don't want to make when other people are persuading you, who are saying things to you like:"You'd be better off alone."" Why don't you just go on and divorce." "It sounds like this can't ever work." "I think you just need to go ahead and file the papers."Those are people who are probably very well-meaning but should not and do not get to make that decision for you. It is your life. It is your decision, and you should be the one who makes it because you are the one who has to deal with the outcome.  It is your decision.  This episode wil

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!In this episode, Gemma from the Marriage Helper leadership team has a conversation with  Stephen and he shares his brave testimonial about having multiple affairs and still wanting to save his marriage. This testimonial is about betrayal, heartbreak, self-improvement, and hope.  You'll hear Stephen's truth over the years, where he is at today, and the tools he has used to help move forward. If you have had an affair or maybe your spouse did, please see the list of resources below and reach out to us. Affair Toolkit - For The Hurt Spousehttps://marriagehelper.com/product/af...Affair Toolkit - For Help In Deciding To End An Affairhttps://marriagehelper.com/product/af...Information about our 3-day intensive workshopshttps://marriagehelper.com/workshops/Get our FREE Mini Course "How To Get Your Spouse Back"https://marriagehelper.com/how-to-get...Schedule a FREE Call with one of our Team Members:https://your.marriagehelper.com/meeti...Learn more about our Save

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!How can you overcome the emotions of an affair? You can't change emotions just by sheer willpower. Understand that time changes emotions. So the intensity of what you're feeling toward other people will evolve with time. So whatever you or your spouse are feeling towards somebody else right now will not be the same thing you feel three years from now. The actions you take and the behaviors you put into your life working with time will change how quickly your emotions evolve. So we hope that you take from this not that we're trying to discourage you but that we're trying to give you hope. The hope is not in control; the hope is in understanding human nature and that people continue to change.Learn more about our Save My Marriage Course:https://marriagehelper.com/product/sa...Learn more about our Reconciliation Toolkit:https://marriagehelper.com/product/ex...Learn more about our Marriage Saving Workshops:https://marriagehelper.com/workshops/

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Let's talk about emotional affairs. Where do they come from? How do they happen? What stages does a person go through when they're having an emotional affair? Typically, an emotional affair will begin with somebody who's not looking for one. Understand that an emotional affair has to involve a deeper, emotional connection with another person. The only way we can develop a deep, emotional connection with another person that's reciprocal, between two people communicating with each other, but not just about mundane, ordinary things.  Typically, an emotional affair will begin with somebody who's not looking for one. Any positive interaction you have with another person can be the beginning of an emotional affair because the first thing that happens after that vulnerability is that you start having interactions with each other to the point that they gradually begin to cross boundaries. There are multiple stages to an emotional affair, so let's talk ab

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Do you know the difference between a physical affair and an emotional affair? Typically people refer to an emotional affair with no physical interaction between the two people, or if some physical interaction; it's not regular sex. In this episode, Dr. Joe Beam explains the differences between physical affairs, emotional affairs, and limerence. You'll learn what to do if you or your spouse have had an affair and what you can do to start repairing your marriage. This is a three-part series so make sure you tune in each week as Dr. Joe talks about the stages of affairs.If your marriage needs help, please visit marriagehelper.com for more information.

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!In this week's episode, Gemma from the Marriage Helper leadership team, interviews Shane, a recent workshop graduate. Shane shares his story of fighting for his marriage by using Marriage Helper resources while his wife stood her ground on wanting a divorce. This is a beautiful story of Shane using the PIES of attraction to work on himself and his relationships. Shane's growth and knowledge are inspiring, and he still hopes to reconcile with his wife and rebuild what they once had. If your marriage needs help, or if any, what Shane has shared, resonates with you, please visit marriagehelper.com for more information.

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Did you cheat on your spouse, get caught, and now you don't know what to do?Your mistake doesn't have to last a lifetime and it doesn't have to define you. No matter how you feel right now, this isn't how you will feel forever.Consider all the years you've put into this marriage. Look at all that you have invested into it. Look at who you were before you committed this particular act of cheating and think, which person do I want to be? The person I was before, who was faithful to my spouse, or the person I was when I did that thing which was unfaithful to my spouse.Your marriage can be saved. This doesn't have to be the end. Start by being honest with yourself and your spouse.Join us as we discuss what to do when you've been caught cheating.We have a free mini-course we are offering to all our listeners of this podcast. It's called the How To Fall In Love Again mini-course.  Another way that we have termed it is the How To Get Your Spou

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!What do you do if your spouse says they don't love you anymore? We know it hurts, but it's not time to panic. We can teach you a way to bring love back to life. We call it the LovePath.Over decades, we have worked with so many couples where that very statement was made and these couples are now very much in love.Love can be built.Love can also be rebuilt.We know that when people follow this process, they can fall in love, and fall back in love even after a crisis.Join us as we discuss what to do when you are in a loveless marriage with your spouse.

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!You're in marriage counseling with your spouse, but maybe it's not going exactly as you expected. Maybe it seems to be making things worse instead of better.I believe that there are great things that can come from marriage counseling. Still, the number one thing that people need to understand is that marriage and family therapists; licensed professional counselors, are humans.You're not going to get the same experience from one counselor to the next. One person has a different goal for why they're in counseling, and that becomes an ethical issue for the counselor because the counselor has to decide who the client is. Is it you, your spouse, or the marriage?Remember and realize that when you're looking at getting marriage counseling, it is great, number one, that you have decided to get help with something. There is no shame in that.Number two, you can quit a therapist. You do not have to stay with them. Instead, you can find someone you feel is good a

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!If you’re married to a self centered spouse, you may be wondering if it’s possible for them to change. Listen to this episode of Relationship Radio  where CEO of Marriage Helper, Kimberly Beam Holmes, shares the answer society has been searching for: Can a narcissist change?

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!This video was created in response to our episode: “Married But In Love With Someone Else?” Listeners commented on the first video wondering if Dr. Beam would have different views on marriage if his lover hadn’t left him and they ended up together. In this Relationship Radio episode, Dr. Beam explains what really happened once his lover left, how his feelings changed, and how he changed. He went from idealizing the situation with his lover, to viewing it more realistically. Dr. Beam wants to encourage us to reach beyond feelings we have at the moment in order to make the right decision.

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Is your marriage in trouble? We know how difficult it is: the pain, helplessness, and hurt all seem overwhelming.We not only know this pain, we UNDERSTAND it. We've had the privilege of helping thousands figure a way past this marital mess (and to find a path to being in love with each other again!)YES - even those who said they were not in love with their spouses any longer.YES - even those who wanted OUT because they felt they were deeply in love with someone else.In today’s Relationship Radio episode, Dr. Joe beam explains how you can be the person who doesn't give up on your spouse. How YOU can be a person that will FIGHT for your marriage, and we'll stand alongside you and help in every way we can.

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Does your spouse say, “You aren’t fulfilling me sexually.” Or, “If you really loved me, you would want to make love with me.”If so, you probably have a reason why you are refusing sex. Are you refusing sex because you aren’t interested in doing what they want to do sexually- or you aren’t interested in having it as often as they would like? Whatever the reason may be, if you want to make love, that is your right. And, if you don’t want to make love, that is also your right. However,If your spouse is truly, sexually unfulfilled, and you refuse to be a vital part of their sex life, this could be harmful to your marriage.In this Quick Tips Relationship Radio episode, Dr. Joe Beam provides 3 suggestions for how to best approach the situation.

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Choosing between lover or spouse – You have a decision to make.It may be that somebody has told you that you’re really not in love with this other person; that it’s a fantasy, that it’s infatuation, or that it will go away. You're trying to make a choice between whether to leave to be with your lover, or stay with your spouse. In other words, you’re married, but you’re thinking:“Maybe I should end the marriage and go to be with this other person because I’ve never felt love like this.”If you are in a situation where you're torn between a lover and your spouse, listen to this 20 minute episode where Dr. Joe Beam shares key things to consider when making this life changing decision.

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!There are some MAJOR misconceptions about what attraction is and why it matters.Often, attraction is seen as a physical connection or draw to someone...but it’s actually so much more than that. With the thousands of couples we’ve worked with, our principle about attraction helped them transform themselves AND their marriage.What is the principle? We have to first start at the beginning- the process of falling in love. Once you fall in love, continuing in this process leads you to fall deeper in love. However, if you do not continue the process, you can fall out of love. (And, it all starts with attraction.)What is attraction? We know it as the “PIES.” The four pieces of attraction are physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual.In this Quick Tips Relationship Radio episode, Kimberly Beam Holmes, shares how to attract your spouse back using these 4 key principles.

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!So you’ve heard of this word called “limerence.” (It sounds like some kind of disease, doesn’t it!) Maybe somebody told you, “You’re not in love. What you’re feeling is limerence.” And you’re thinking… “What’s the difference between love and limerence?” I'm here to help. In this Quick Tips episode of Relationship Radio, Dr. Joe Beam, explains the difference between love and limerence. Plus, he'll show you how limerence is this amazing sensation some people feel, but it’s a kind of love that won’t turn out like you expect it to… 

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!It is one of the most painful things you can experience. You probably think, “What happened to love...to trust?” You may feel anger, even rage. You may be questioning who you thought you married. You may even question yourself.Every day at Marriage Helper, we work with people in these EXACT situations. (And we’ve been doing so for over 20 years.) We understand that people may not want to get back together with their spouse. But since you have decided to listen to this episode, we ask, is there something inside you that – even in your hurt or anger – wants to know if there is a way to put your marriage back together?…or are you wanting to know if it even makes sense to try to do so?In today’s Quick Tips Relationship Radio episode, Dr. Joe Beam presents crucial points to consider when you’re trying to decide if you want to save your marriage. 

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!You probably never meant for it to happen. It’s not as if you went looking for a lover. However, once you fell in love with someone else other than your spouse, things got rather intense.It may be difficult for you to know exactly how you got into this situation.But no matter how you got here, there are 4 options you have moving forward.Listen to this Quick Tips episode by Dr. Joe Beam to learn  what to do if you're married but in love with someone else.