New Rules Podcast

What if the past isn’t behind you—it’s within you?

What if the past isn’t behind you—it’s within you?" In Part 1 of this powerful two-part episode, Adrian and Bri explore how time isn’t linear; it’s dense, layered, and often hidden in the way we think, feel, and lead. The conversations we have today, the choices we make, and even the insecurities we carry are often echoes from the past—shaping us without us even realizing it. Through personal reflections and raw honesty, they unpack how family history, childhood experiences, and seemingly small moments have ripple effects in our lives. But this isn’t just about looking back—it’s about understanding the present and recognizing how presence is a skill that can transform relationships, leadership, and self-awareness. Key Takeaways: The Layered Nature of Time: How the past, present, and external influences overlap more than we realize. Hidden Time Capsules: Unprocessed moments from childhood that shape how we view ourselves and the world. The Legacy of Family Patterns: How inherited beliefs impact our ident

Authenticity is a word we hear all the time, but what does it actually mean to live it out? In this episode, Adrian and Bri dive deep into the reality of authenticity—why it’s hard, why most people avoid it, and what’s waiting on the other side when you choose to embrace it. We explore the pressure to conform, the fear of being truly seen, and the cost of showing up as your real self. If you’ve ever felt the tension between who you are and who you think you should be, this episode is for you. Key Takeaways: The Fear of Authenticity Why stepping into your real self can feel terrifying—and why so many people avoid it. The False Self vs. The True Self Understanding the internal battle between who you present to the world and who you truly are. The Cost of Being Authentic Authenticity isn’t free—it comes with challenges, but the reward is a life of true impact and fulfillment. Why Most People Stay in Their False Self The subconscious reasons we cling to an inauthentic life and how to start b

Welcome to Car Chronicles! Today, we’re taking you on a drive—literally. These are the kinds of conversations we usually have on the road, but this time, we’re bringing you along too. In this candid and reflective episode, Adrian and Bri dive into the profound impact of faithfulness in leadership, relationships, and personal growth. They unpack the hidden value of staying present, the discipline it takes to remain committed to your purpose, and why “someday” isn’t a real plan. Whether you’re navigating the challenges of a big vision or feeling stuck in a season of waiting, this conversation offers practical insights on how to recognize the lies that hold you back, build an abundance mindset, and stay faithful to the work that truly matters. Key Takeaways: Why Faithfulness Matters: It’s not about grand gestures but the small, consistent actions that create compounding growth over time. The Myth of “Someday”: Waiting for perfect circumstances can paralyze your progress. Start where you are with what y

We’re kicking off the New Year by diving into the story behind New Rules—how it all began, the moments that shaped its vision, and the purpose driving its growth. From an unexpected inspiration during the NBA Finals to the journey of creating a movement that unlocks human flourishing, this episode is filled with insight, reflection, and inspiration for anyone ready to write their own rules in 2025. Key Takeaways: The Origin of New Rules: Every movement begins with a moment of clarity. For New Rules, that moment came during the NBA Finals, when a Jay-Z commercial reframed how success could be defined. This sparked the idea to create a collective that challenges traditional measures of achievement and helps people redefine success on their own terms. Moments That Define Us: Life offers defining moments that demand a response. Adrian and Bri reflect on how being aware of these moments—and choosing to act on them—can alter the trajectory of your life. These moments often come disguised as challenges, but they

Leadership is a weight that many carry, but few truly understand. In this episode, we dive deep into the challenges, tensions, and motivations that shape leaders. From balancing vision with reality to finding purpose beyond the paycheck, we explore what it means to lead authentically in 2024. Bri and Adrian unpack lessons learned about carrying the responsibility of leadership, defining authenticity, and why motivation matters more than ever. Whether you’re a seasoned leader or just starting your journey, this episode will inspire you to embrace the challenges and find clarity in your purpose. Key Takeaways: Carrying the Weight of Leadership: Leadership isn’t about avoiding pressure—it’s about learning how to carry it well. We discuss how to stay grounded when the demands of leadership feel heavy and why it’s crucial to align your actions with your values. Purpose Over Paycheck: Motivation matters. Leaders who are driven by a deeper purpose—not just financial or external rewards—create lasting impact. We

What happens when your confidence shines in one area, but deep down, you struggle to believe in your worth? In this episode, Bri and Adrian explore the powerful differences between self-worth and self-confidence—and why understanding these differences is critical for growth. Through personal stories and practical insights, they discuss how self-worth influences relationships, careers, and how we show up in the world. From overcoming imposter syndrome to navigating spaces where you feel like you don’t belong, this episode is a relatable and thought-provoking guide to embracing your value. Key Takeaways: Self-Worth vs. Self-Confidence: Self-worth is the belief that you are inherently valuable, while self-confidence is belief in your abilities in specific areas. Motivation Matters: Healthy self-worth fuels a desire to add value to others rather than seeking approval or survival through achievements. The Role of Community: Having the right people around you helps you stay grounded and avoid arrogance or del

This episode is a candid, freestyle conversation where we dig deep into the complexities of life, leadership, and everything in between. From the unique challenges of parenting sons and daughters to navigating big emotions and staying resilient in a world that demands so much, we explore what it really takes to show up authentically. We reflect on the importance of balancing who we are with who we’re becoming, diving into how resilience and adaptability shape not just our lives, but the people we lead. And yes, because it’s Thanksgiving season, we couldn’t help but share a few of our favorite holiday food traditions—because growth doesn’t happen without a little fun along the way. Key Takeaways: Parenting isn’t one-size-fits-all: learning to adapt to the unique needs of each child. Big emotions aren’t weaknesses—they’re opportunities for growth when handled with care. Resilience is more than a skill—it’s a necessity in navigating today’s world. How to stay authentic while balancing the demands of lead

Is your attachment to the process holding you back? In this episode, we dive into Process Attachment Disorder—the unhealthy dependence on established systems and methods that can keep us stuck. It’s easy to get so focused on the how that we lose sight of the why. But real progress comes when we’re willing to adapt and stay loyal to the mission, not the method. Adrian and Bri explore the Control Paradox, why we cling to comfort and predictability, and how letting go of rigid processes creates room for transformation and innovation. From leadership strategies to personal growth, this conversation is packed with insights on embracing change while staying mission-driven. Key Takeaways: What is Process Attachment Disorder, and how does it hold you back? The Control Paradox: Why the need for control limits progress. How to stay loyal to the mission while being flexible with methods. Why purpose and values must always guide the process. The power of adaptable allegiance: letting go of personal preferences

Are you chasing goals that feel just out of reach? In our first-ever live episode, Adrian and Bri tackle the concept of Chasing Smoke—the relentless pursuit of dreams and expectations that often leave us feeling empty. Too often, we measure success by society's scoreboard, only to find ourselves disillusioned. But what if the real victory comes from defining success on your own terms? Broadcasted in front of a live audience, Adrian shares his journey of redefining his personal scoreboard, breaking away from comparison and societal pressures. He reflects on the challenge of balancing ambition with authenticity, explaining how true fulfillment comes not from achieving external markers but from living in alignment with one's calling and purpose. Bri adds insight on sacrifice and faith, emphasizing the importance of trusting that the time invested now will pay dividends in the future. Key Takeaways: The dangers of "Chasing Smoke"—pursuing success based on external expectations. How to redefine success by sett

Are you a leader who simply manages tasks, or are you someone who transforms lives? In this episode, Bri and Adrian dive into the critical difference between transformational leadership and transactional leadership. Too often, leaders fall into the trap of operating in a give-and-take dynamic, where interactions are merely transactions. But transformational leaders aim to create deep, lasting impact across every sphere they touch—whether in the workplace, their community, or personal relationships. Bri and Adrian unpack what it means to lead with purpose, focusing on long-term growth and developing people, rather than just achieving short-term results. They highlight how a transformational approach encourages trust, loyalty, and true engagement from those being led, and why these leaders leave a legacy far beyond the transactional. Key Takeaways: The difference between transactional leadership and transformational leadership. How transformational leaders impact lives deeply by creating meaningful connecti

Have you ever been paralyzed by a piece of criticism, feeling like it cut deeper than just your work—like it was an attack on who you are? What if you could learn to see feedback as fuel for growth instead of a personal blow? In this episode, we dive deep into the power of resilience when it comes to handling criticism and feedback. For leaders, creators, and individuals alike, the ability to separate feedback from personal identity is a crucial skill—one that requires practice and self-awareness. Key Takeaways: Building the Feedback Muscle: How learning to receive and respond to feedback without internalizing it is like training a muscle—you get stronger the more you do it. We explore strategies to embrace constructive criticism while maintaining your self-worth and confidence. Parts of the Whole: Your actions, decisions, and work are only parts of who you are. Understanding that feedback often targets those parts, not your whole identity, can help you process it without feeling attacked. Self-Awarenes

How do you handle feedback that hits you hard? In this episode, Adrian and Bri dive into the art of receiving feedback—even when it’s not given in the most loving way. They unpack the uncomfortable but necessary role of feedback in leadership growth, sharing personal stories of the hardest feedback they’ve received (and had to give). Through these experiences, they highlight how enduring painful feedback is often the key to unlocking growth and becoming a better leader. Join us as we explore how to turn criticism into strength and why true progress often requires embracing discomfort. Key Takeaways: Feedback Fuels Growth: The toughest feedback often leads to the most significant breakthroughs. Receiving with Grace: Learn to hear the message without becoming defensive, even when feedback is harsh. Growth Requires Discomfort: Personal development comes with challenges, but pain is a crucial part of progress. Giving Tough Feedback: Leaders must learn to deliver feedback effectively, balancing honesty wit

What happens when a team full of potential crashes under the weight of expectations? Florida State Football was supposed to dominate this season, but instead, they've become a case study in how even the most talented teams can struggle without the right direction. Adrian, a seasoned expert on team dynamics and cultures, walks us through his approach to identifying and addressing the core issues holding the team back. In this episode, we dive into the unexpected struggles of Florida State Football. Once a team predicted to be a top contender, they've fallen short of expectations, leaving fans and experts alike questioning what went wrong.  But this isn't just about football. Adrian highlights the broader leadership lessons we can all take from the challenges FSU is facing. Whether you’re leading in the boardroom, a community, or even in your own home, there’s something to learn from how teams fall apart—and more importantly, how they can be rebuilt.    

What happens when you take a hard look at reality? How do we truly assess where we are, what we're capable of, and where we should be going? In this episode, Adrian and Bri explore the often uncomfortable but necessary process of interrogating reality. From understanding your current skill set to mapping out a realistic path forward, they discuss the discipline required to grow without getting stuck in self-doubt or unrealistic expectations. Adrian shares personal stories from his days playing basketball alongside legends like Kobe Bryant and Michael Jordan, reflecting on how those experiences forced him to confront the reality of his own skills. Meanwhile, Bri dives into her journey of less thinking and more doing—learning how to stop overanalyzing and start taking action. Together, they offer strategies to accurately assess where you are, tools to help you embrace that reality without spiraling, and practical advice for cultivating the discipline needed to move forward, regardless of your current skill set.

Have you ever wondered what happens when power meets fear?

What happens when creators meet critics? Are they truly at odds, or do they share more common ground than we think? We explore the complexities of these roles, offering insights on how to navigate the delicate balance between creation and critique. Discover how to engage in conversations that uplift rather than tear down, and learn how to take criticism without letting it stifle your creativity. We’ll also examine how to deconstruct entrenched ideals and how different generations can come together to rebuild with fresh perspectives and collaborative spirit. Highlights: Creators vs. Critics: Defining the Roles: Understanding the core differences between creators and critics. Shared Traits: How creators and critics can exhibit similar behaviors and thought patterns. Constructive Critique: Offering Help, Not Harm: Techniques for giving feedback that encourages growth. Critique vs. Criticism: Distinguishing between helpful critique and criticism that stifles creativity. Receiving Critique: Maintaini