The Alcohol & Addiction Podcast

It’s the International Day Against Drug Abuse… and alcohol didn’t even make the list.   Why? Because society doesn’t treat it like a drug. And that’s exactly how the Liquid Lie survives.   In today’s episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, I expose the most dangerous substance masquerading as normal: alcohol. You’ll learn why alcohol causes more deaths than cocaine, heroin, and meth combined—and yet still gets passed around at weddings like it’s a gift.   It’s not.   It’s a drug. And the more we deny that truth, the more power it has.   So let’s name it, shame it, and leave it behind.     #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #alcoholawareness #alcoholisadrug #TheLiquidLie #selfledliving #alcoholrecovery #sobrietytruth #mentalhealth #recoverycommunity #endthestigma

Ever found yourself beating yourself up after a small mistake? You miss a workout. Snap at a loved one. Lose focus at work. And suddenly, the voice kicks in: “You’re pathetic. You always screw it up.”   That voice isn’t just cruel. It’s your Inner Judge. And it might be sabotaging your sobriety.   In this episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, I break down how that harsh inner critic feeds shame, triggers alcohol use, and blocks you from living a SELF-led life.   You’ll learn how to spot the Judge, respond with compassion, and build real self-trust without needing a drink to escape your failures.  

You’re not paranoid. The Liquid Lie is watching you.   It knows what you click. It knows what you linger on. And it knows how to sell alcohol—without ever mentioning alcohol.   In this episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, I reveal how the Liquid Lie has evolved into digital mind control. From Gmail ads to superhero movies, it’s not just selling booze—it’s programming you to crave it.   But awareness is the antidote.   Tune in to learn how to spot the manipulation, reclaim your attention, and live a SELF-led life, AFAF—where your nervous system isn’t hijacked by dopamine bait and your identity isn’t outsourced to algorithms.   Listen now to reclaim your feed, your mind, and your power.   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #TheLiquidLie #alcoholrecovery #digitalwellness #alcoholawareness #attentioneconomy #alcoholfreedom #selfledliving #quitdrinking #alcoholmarketing #dopaminemanagement #identityshift #nervoussystemhealing #reprogramming #IFS #heinekentrigger #mindspacehygiene

You’re not imagining it. The tension. The fear. The gnawing sense that something’s off.   Living with someone who drinks can make you question your sanity. You want to be supportive, patient, strong—but deep down, you don’t feel safe.   In this episode, Lee Davy rips the lid off the unspoken reality of living with a drinker. You’ll learn how the Liquid Lie keeps partners trapped in cycles of blame, confusion, and fear—and how to shift the dynamic without losing yourSELF.   This one is for the STRIVERS quietly suffering, thinking they’re the problem. You’re not. You’re just not safe.   Listen to learn: — Why your boundaries matter more than their promises — The difference between loving communication and control — What to do when they won’t stop drinking—but you won’t stop loving yourself   It’s time to stop shrinking and start choosing you.   Much love, and STRIVE on!   Lee   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #TheLiquidLie #alcoholrecovery #boundaries #emotionalabuse #relationshipadvi

You want to be alcohol-free-as-fuck. You want it to feel light. Joyful. Liberating. But your relationship feels like a war zone. You flinch when they speak. You numb out when they touch you. And when things get tense, your PARTS whisper, “I deserve a drink.”   Sound familiar?   After 15 years of helping people live SELF-led lives, I’ve learned this truth: Your relationship with alcohol is often a mirror of your relationship with relationship itself.   In this episode, I unpack the three relationship models most STRIVERS get trapped in—and how each one quietly fuels alcohol use.   We’ll cover: – Why most of us are stuck in legacy burdens from our parents – How the “good guy” 50/50 model kills intimacy – What the 80/80 model looks like in real life—and why it starts with YOU – The real reason alcohol starts to look like a solution – What to do if your partner refuses to do their work   If you’re trying to be AFAF while your relationship’s a mess, this one’s for you.   Subscribe. Rate. Share it with someone brav

You’re at a wedding… They’re laughing over wine. You’re swirling sparkling water—and silently spiralling.   That voice inside you says: “Why do they get to drink—and I don’t?”   In this episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, Lee Davy breaks down what’s really going on when we feel resentful that others can drink “normally.” Spoiler: it’s not about them. It’s about the PART of you that still believes you’re missing out.   You’ll learn how to meet resentment with compassion, how to reconnect to your SELF, and how to stop using someone else’s illusion to betray your truth.   In this episode: – Why resentment is a red flag from PARTS, not a signal from truth – The five-step path to transform resentment into SELF-leadership – How to release the myth of “normal drinking” once and for all – Practical ways to meet unmet needs without turning to alcohol   You’re not the one being punished. You’re the one breaking free.   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #resentment #alcoholfreejourney #norma

What if your peace depends on someone else’s buzz?   In this episode, I’m speaking to anyone who’s alcohol-free-as-fuck but still living with a drinker. And here’s the twist—sometimes, when they drink, they soften. They touch more. Laugh more. Love more. And part of you likes it.   That’s not weakness. That’s conditioning. And it’s costing you your SELF.   If you find yourself hoping for their next glass—not because you want to drink, but because you want them to become softer, safer, sweeter—then this episode is for you.   You’ll learn how to shift from the outside-in life to the inside-out life—where connection doesn’t depend on sedation, and where intimacy isn’t performance, but presence.   Hit play, STRIVER. And take your power back.   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #TheLiquidLie #relationshipadvice #alcoholrecovery #emotionalintimacy #nervoussystemhealing #alcoholfreeasfuck

Here’s a hard truth no one’s talking about:   75% of sexual assaults involve alcohol. Most perpetrators are men. And most of them were drinking.   That’s not a coincidence. That’s not a cultural quirk. That’s a crisis.   In this episode, I explore how the Liquid Lie hijacks our integrity—especially in moments of high emotion and low inhibition. I talk about what happens when alcohol fuels desire faster than your conscience can catch up… and why real leadership starts with staying sober.   This isn’t about policing men—it’s about showing them a better way.   A SELF-led way.   Because when we ditch the bottle, we get our boundaries back.   And when we lead from presence, we don’t just avoid harm. We model something better.   Something safer. Something stronger. Something real.     #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #TheLiquidLie #MensMentalHealth #ConsentMatters #RealMenLead #QuitDrinking #DrunkSex #AlcoholAwareness #Integrity #NervousSystemRegulation #LeadershipDevelopment

You know what’s lonelier than being single? Being with someone who makes you feel completely alone.   This episode cuts deep into a subtle but devastating behaviour many of us carry—especially in our closest relationships. It’s the Devil’s Advocate PART. The one that pretends to be logical, reasonable, mature… but actually pushes people away.   Lee opens up about a recent rupture with his wife, Liza. Not through shouting. Not through cruelty. But through a quiet abandonment disguised as “seeing both sides.” Sound familiar?   Whether you’re the one playing Devil’s Advocate—or the one who’s been reasoned into silence—this episode will show you the emotional cost of intellect without presence, and how STRIVERS rebuild intimacy without a drink in hand.   You don’t need to win the argument. You need to stop being alone inside it.       #1000DaysSoberPodcast, #LeeDavy, #STRIVE, #STRIVEMethod, #AFAF, #AlcoholAwareness, #QuitDrinking, #RelationshipRepair, #YoungMums, #EmotionalIntelligence, #StopDrinking, #SelfLedLif

Two killers. One gets banned. The other gets branded.   In today’s episode, I expose the brutal hypocrisy behind how our society talks about drugs. Fentanyl is seen as a crisis. Alcohol is celebrated like a dinner guest.   And yet alcohol kills 3 million people every year—double the U.S. death toll of fentanyl.   Why does one spark outrage while the other gets a toast?   We explore the lies politicians won’t touch, the silence that costs lives, and the cultural conditioning that keeps us trapped in the Liquid Lie.   If you’ve ever wondered why quitting alcohol felt impossible—this episode might just show you why it was never your fault.   STRIVERS don’t play along. We name it. We walk away. We live SELF-led, AFAF.   Tune in and start seeing clearly.   —  

Don’t drink? You must be gay. That’s what they said—not because they knew, but because they needed to wound. Because in a world ruled by the Liquid Lie, the fastest way to make you conform is to make you ashamed of who you are.   This episode goes deep into Pride, shame, masculinity, and what it means to survive a culture that punishes difference with a pint. Whether you’re queer or not, if you’ve ever hidden your truth to fit in, this one’s for you.   We talk about South Wales, rugby clubs, toxic masculinity, and the invisible contract boys sign the moment they pick up a drink. And we end with a vow—to stop drinking not to be perfect… but to be free.     #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #PrideMonth #LGBTQIA #QueerHealing #InternalFamilySystems #AlcoholCulture #ToxicMasculinity #LiveYourTruth #AlcoholFreeLife #HealingFromShame #IFS #LiquidLie #PrideNotPints #ChildhoodWounds #LiveAFAF #SelfLedLife #CulturalConditioning #EndTheLie #FreedomNotFear #ShameFreeLiving #MasculinityRedefined

You don’t drink because you love the taste. You drink because—deep down—you’ve been taught that you’re not enough without it.   Today’s episode is a straight-up callout of the Liquid Lie that links your self-worth to the glass in your hand.   We’re diving into shame, perfectionism, and the impossible game of chasing approval through alcohol. We’re talking about Brené Brown, the inner child who still aches for love, and what it really takes to build your worth from the inside out.   This one’s for every STRIVER who’s ever felt like walking away from alcohol meant walking away from being “fun,” “lovable,” or “worthy.”   You are already enough. Let this episode remind you.       #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #alcoholtruth #shamerecovery #brenebrown #alcoholfree #selfworth #youareenough #validation #belonging #alcoholculture #selfledlife #healingjourney #alcoholawareness #innerchildwork #sobercurious #personaldevelopment

You used to feel bold after a few drinks—witty, fearless, invincible. Now you’re alcohol-free, or trying to be… and suddenly, silence. You think you’ve lost your edge. That you’re not assertive. That you can’t speak your truth.   But what if that’s not true? What if that’s just a PART of you trying to protect a younger, scared version of yourself?   In this Coaches Corner episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, we dismantle the belief that alcohol made us confident. We explore how to shift from PARTS-led narratives to SELF-led conversations—without a drop of booze.   You’ll learn how to: – Spot the inner voices that keep you silent – Use motivational interviewing to shift from fear to truth – Build the courage to speak up from a place of clarity—not chaos   If you’ve ever felt like you can’t express yourself without a drink in hand, this episode is for you.     #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #emotionalintelligence #alcoholrecovery #selfleadership #motivationalskills #soberconfidenc

You’ve just coached your heart out. Held space. Changed lives. And as the silence creeps in… so does the craving.   Not for taste. Not for fun. But for something deeper: rest, validation, a nod from the tribe that says, “You’ve earned this.”   But what if alcohol isn’t a reward? What if it’s just a culturally-approved permission slip to disconnect—from your body, your brilliance, your SELF?   In this episode, Lee Davy explores why so many coaches, healers, and high-performers fall into the reward trap… and how to climb out.   You’ll learn: – Why alcohol feels like a reward (but isn’t) – How tribal conditioning fuels your cravings – What your nervous system is really asking for – How to build rituals that nourish, not numb – The one question that can break the loop instantly   If you’ve ever poured a drink at the end of a long day and whispered “I deserve this”—this one’s for you.     #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #selfledliving #coachingculture #alcoholtruth #rewardmyth #somatiche

This morning, I walked past the Ivor Davies pub in Cardiff. It was 9:04 am—and already, ten men were drinking pints in silence.   Not celebrating. Not connecting. Just… escaping.   Fifteen years ago, I might’ve judged them. Today, I feel heartbreak.   Because this is what “normal” has become. Early-morning sedation. Loneliness on tap. And a culture that teaches men to drown instead of feel.   In this raw episode, I unpack the quiet tragedy of early pub drinking, the post-divorce disintegration of male identity, and the real story behind the law that made it all possible. This one’s for the men who’ve lost their way—and the STRIVERS ready to help them find it.   Much love, and STRIVE on! Lee     #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #alcoholawareness #mensmentalhealth #divorcedfathers #emotionalhealth #toxicmasculinity #theliquidlie #selfledlife #morningdrinking #cultureofescape #alcoholfreejourney #healingmen #masculinitymatters #purposeoverpints #reclaimyourlife #notjustadrink #pubcultur

When Zia told me—so matter-of-factly—that she’ll probably drink wine when she grows up, it hit me like a truck.   She’s eight. She’s never seen me drink. Barely sees her mum drink. She doesn’t live in a booze-soaked house.   And yet… she thinks she will.   Why? Because culture doesn’t need to knock. The Liquid Lie slips through the cracks—TV, school, books, weddings, jokes.   This episode isn’t about parenting. It’s about programming. It’s about the invisible inheritance we pass down—even when we try not to.   If you’re a single mum, a dad trying to do things differently, or someone who’s ever thought “just one glass” was harmless—this one’s for you.     #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #parentingtruths #alcoholculture #alcoholawareness #mumswhodontdrink #singlemumlife #livingAFAF #breakthecycle #raiseconsciouskids #healingjourney #alcoholfreedom #theLiquidLie #ZiaSaidItAll

You quit drinking. You meditate. You read all the books on masculinity.   And then your partner looks you in the eye and says: “It feels like I’m married to a little boy.”   That’s what happened to me. And it broke me—so I rebuilt.   In this episode, I unpack a quote from John Wineland and explore what masculinity really means when you stop performing and start embodying. We’re talking nervous system regulation, emotional safety, and how to live with clarity, stillness, and integrity—without reaching for the bottle to fake it.   If you’ve ever wondered what it looks like to lead from your core—this one’s for you.   —   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #masculinity #mensmentalhealth #emotionalintelligence #nervoussystemregulation #alcoholrecovery #embodiment #selfledlife #johnwineland #menswork #spiritualmasculinity #sobercurious #mensgroup #traumahealing #IFS #healingjourney #menscoach

In today’s episode, I sit down with STRIVER John Bell—a father, a counsellor, and a man who used to drink to forget who he was.   We talk about what it’s like to be a healthcare professional struggling with alcohol, the guilt of being physically present but emotionally absent as a parent, and the deep identity shift required to live a SELF-led life, alcohol-free-as-fuck.   John shares his journey from being a mechanic stuck in the wrong life to becoming a therapist who helps others navigate their own. We unpack approval-seeking, male friendships, parental shame, and the culture that tells us numbing out is normal.   This is a conversation about regret, redemption, and the quiet power of presence. And it’s for anyone who’s ever wondered if it’s too late to change.   Spoiler: it’s not.   If you’d like to connect with John or work with him, visit daisyhillwellbeing.co.uk.   —   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #emotionalpresence #alcoholrecovery #fatherhood #mensmentalhealth #IFS #repar

BrewDog just inked a deal with West Ham United. To most, it’s just marketing. To me? It’s a megaphone for the Liquid Lie.   In this episode, I take you back to my boyhood in Manchester—pies, Bovril, and the first time I swore at a match. But beneath those memories was something deeper: a craving to belong.   The pint wasn’t about taste. It was about validation. It said: “You’re one of us.”   Football is supposed to unite us—but for many boys, it teaches that manhood is earned through alcohol. That to be part of the tribe, you must drink like one of the lads.   We’re not just talking beer and goals—we’re talking identity. And it’s time we rewrote the script.  

#1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE   You hit the goal. You land the deal. You finally feel proud.   And then… you pull back. You brace for impact. You numb the joy.   This episode dives into the hidden reason so many high-achievers can’t feel happy even when everything looks right. It’s not sabotage. It’s self-protection—rooted in something Brené Brown calls foreboding joy.