The Alcohol & Addiction Podcast

I moved back into my childhood bedroom at 35. Same carpet. Same curtains. Same crushing sense of failure. My marriage was over. My son no longer lived with me. And I felt invisible. Powerless. Drowning in silence.   This episode is for every divorced parent—especially dads—who feels like they’ve lost more than a partner. If you’ve ever stared at a ring on your finger and asked, “What now?”… you’re not alone.   Inside, I share the powerful concept of The Line—and how learning to live above it changed everything for me. This isn’t mindset fluff. It’s how we stop parenting from PARTS, co-parenting from pain, and living in survival mode.   Tune in to discover how to return to SELF, find your TRIBE, and finally stop drinking just to feel okay.   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #AFAF #TheLiquidLie #DivorcedFathers #SelfLedLife #IFS #MensMentalHealth #TribeNotTreatment #EmotionalSobriety #HealingAfterDivorce #ConsciousParenting #VictimConsciousness #AboveTheLine

You probably don’t crave alcohol as much as you think.   You’re not in pain. You’re not desperate. You’re just… human. A human living in a world where drinking is the default—where Fridays mean wine, and success gets toasted.   In this episode, I’m speaking directly to the coaches, therapists, and healthcare workers—the ones who know how to regulate a nervous system, but still pour a drink when the house goes quiet.   This isn’t about relapse. It’s about realisation.   Because when you stop and ask, “How intense is this craving, really?”—you might discover there was never a craving at all.   You were just following a script.   STRIVERS don’t follow scripts. We ask better questions.       #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #alcoholawareness #emotionalregulation #nervoussystemhealing #alcoholfreecoach #coachingtools #sugarcravings #drinklesslivebetter #stopdrinking #cravingsupport #healthcareworkerburnout #therapytools #integrity #alcoholfreelife #mentalhealthawareness #selfleadership

Have you ever tried to iron a shirt in the dark with wet hair, no hot water, and a podcast deadline breathing down your neck?   That was me—in Montenegro, mid-power cut, spiralling.   No electricity. No way to work. No escape.   And that’s when I realised something most people never stop to see: we don’t drink because we’re weak—we drink because we’re trying to run. From stillness. From feeling. From ourselves.   In today’s episode, I’m sharing what happens when all your exit routes vanish—and you’re left with nothing but your nervous system, your stories, and the one voice that’s been waiting underneath it all… your SELF.   Tune in as we explore: – Why alcohol becomes a default escape route – How your parts hijack your peace – The surprising power of discomfort when you stop running from it – The STRIVE Method’s way of helping you stay present without sedation   If you’re ready to stop escaping and finally arrive, this episode is for you.   Much love, and STRIVE on! Lee     #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #ST

We’ve been sold a lie. That alcohol is a treat. A reward. A moment of pleasure after the grind.   But what if that “reward” is actually keeping you stuck?   In this episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, I unpack a core idea from Allan Dib’s Lean Marketing—and show you how alcohol functions just like Muda (waste) in a broken system.   If you’ve ever poured a glass at the end of the day and called it “self-care,” this one’s for you. We’re not here to deprive ourselves. We’re here to reclaim our value system—and redesign it around what actually matters.   You’ll learn how to spot the false rewards, break the belief system that keeps you stuck, and start building a life that flows from SELF, not sabotage.   Much love, and STRIVE on! Lee     #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #TheLiquidLie #alcoholawareness #selfledliving #quitdrinking #emotionalfreedom #rewardnotregret #alcoholtruth #selfleadership #healyourself

They told us the desert wouldn’t drink. That tradition would hold. That some cultures were sacred.   But now even Saudi Arabia—the heartland of spiritual resistance to the booze-soaked West—is cracking.   Quietly, and commercially.   In this episode, I explore the truth behind Saudi’s creeping alcohol policies—and what it reveals about the global spread of the Liquid Lie. From secret stores to tourist resorts, this isn’t about freedom. It’s about profit. And the cost is culture.   I’ll share a story from the Grand Canyon that perfectly exposes this myth—and remind you why your joy doesn’t need a cork in it.   Listen in if you’ve ever… – Equated alcohol with celebration – Believed “progress” means wine lists and whiskey lounges – Wondered why even dry nations are selling out   Living a SELF-led life, AFAF, means saying no to that lie—even when the world calls it luxury.   Join the movement at www.thestrivemethod.com   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #alcoholinSaudi #TheLiquidLie #alc

You press the “Do Not Disturb” button and expect peace—but they walk in anyway.   That’s what happens when we try to set boundaries in a world that’s wired to ignore them. Whether it’s hotel staff ignoring a sign or your mate ignoring your choice not to drink, the message is the same: your needs don’t matter.   In this episode, I share a story from Montenegro that exposed how broken systems train us to abandon ourselves—and how that internalised override keeps us stuck in the Liquid Lie. We’ll talk about emotional boundaries, the systems we inherited, and why alcohol becomes the go-to escape when saying “no” feels impossible.   If you’ve ever been afraid to say stop—this one’s for you.     #1000DaysSoberPodcast, #LeeDavy, #STRIVE, #STRIVEMethod, #AFAF, #boundaries, #alcoholrecovery, #peoplepleasing, #mentalhealth, #IFS, #selfledliving, #healingjourney, #emotionalintelligence, #sayno, #recoverytools

You made a promise. Then you broke it. You drank. Again. And now the shame spiral begins…   “You’re weak.” “You’re broken.” “You’ll never change.”   Sound familiar?   In this episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, we explore the Japanese philosophy of Wabi Sabi—a radically beautiful perspective that challenges everything the Liquid Lie taught you about perfection, failure, and worth.   This isn’t just about relapse. It’s about rewriting your relationship with shame.   You’ll hear how one simple comment from my wife sent me spinning—and how I used Wabi Sabi to reclaim my SELF.   We’re not here to be flawless. We’re here to be real. Cracked. Honest. Gold-filled.  

Can you be alcohol-free as fuck… forever?   That question terrifies people. It shakes your identity, your culture, and your story.   Because if you say yes… something has to die.   And if you say no… you never get free.   In this raw Coaching Corner episode, I walk STRIVERS through the fear behind the “forever” question. We’re not tiptoeing around this one—we’re naming the PARTS that panic, the memories that bind us, and the nervous system that says, “Not safe.”   But here’s the twist: it’s not about alcohol.   It’s about letting go of the version of you that needed it to feel alive.   You’ll learn why “one day at a time” isn’t enough—and how STRIVERS train for one trigger at a time. We’ll break it down, Lincoln City style, and teach you how to win your next 15 minutes.   If the forever question haunts you, this episode will set you free.   Let’s go.     #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #alcoholrecovery #IFS #selfledlife #alcoholfreejourney #nervoussystem #traumahealing #innerwork #c

I didn’t quit drinking because I hit rock bottom. I quit because I made a vow—and I never broke it.   In this raw and reflective episode, I take you inside the truth of what happened when I finally saw through the Liquid Lie. No rehab. No AA. Just one sentence that changed everything: “I will never drink again.”   But what makes a vow stick? Why do some commitments feel shaky… and others feel unshakable?   I unpack the five N’s of alcohol, the drama triangle, and the reason your PARTS panic when you try to let go of the bottle. I share the exact moment my Fundamental Choice came from SELF—and what it taught me about peace, pressure, and power.   If you’re wrestling with the idea of quitting, or wondering how to make your vow last, this episode is your mirror.   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #alcoholrecovery #alcoholfree #TheLiquidLie #IFS #sobercurious #vow #selfled #innerwork #emotionalhealing #15YearsAFAF #quittingalcohol #transformation #dramatriangle #soulwork #personaldevelop

  You can delete a photo. Bury a memory. Pretend it never happened.   But you can’t un-smell it.   The stench of stale alcohol is more than unpleasant—it’s a time machine. One whiff and suddenly you’re back in the storm. The broken glass. The glazed-over eyes. The pain you tried so hard to escape.   In this episode, I break down how alcohol manipulates our most powerful sense—smell—to cement emotional memories that keep us drinking. I’ll share my own story of how the smell of Bacardi once triggered my trauma… and why it doesn’t control me anymore.   We’ll explore new research that shows why the same smell can make one person crave alcohol and another want to run.   This isn’t just about memory.   It’s about programming.   And how to break free from the Liquid Lie—so you can remember who you truly are.   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #TheLiquidLie #alcoholfree #traumahealing #nervoussystemhealing #recoveryjourney #alcoholawareness #memoryhealing #selfledlife #smelltriggers #IFS

You think you’re afraid of not drinking at the party. But you’re not. You’re afraid of standing in the truth—while everyone else is sleepwalking through a lie.   In this episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, we’re diving into the real reason socialising without alcohol feels so scary. Spoiler: it’s got nothing to do with the drink and everything to do with safety, connection, and being truly seen.   Lee shares what it’s like to walk into a loud, glittering party—AFAF—and listen to the PARTS that want to run. But instead of drinking, he experiments with truth. Presence. And SELF-led courage.   If you’ve ever felt awkward, anxious, or invisible in social settings without a drink in hand—this one’s for you.   Let’s tear the Liquid Lie apart and find out what’s really underneath your fear.   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #TheLiquidLie #AlcoholFree #SocialAnxiety #IFS #ConnectionOverComfort #SelfLeadership #SobrietySupport #HealingWithoutAlcohol #AFJourney #PresenceOverPoison #DeepCo

You’re not staying because you love it—you’re staying because you’ve invested too much to leave.   Whether it’s your nightly glass of wine, your crumbling relationship, or the identity you’ve built around being a ‘drinker’—this episode uncovers the real reason it’s so hard to walk away: the sunk cost fallacy.   We go deep into how your PARTS cling to safety and familiarity, even when it hurts. And we offer a new way forward—one led by your SELF.   This episode is a wake-up call, a mirror, and a door to freedom.   Listen in and ask yourself:   — What are you still holding onto just because you’ve held it so long? — What would it look like to let go, not in shame, but in love? — And what kind of life could you build if you stopped letting the past decide your future?   Because you didn’t waste your time—you just spent it. And now… you get to choose where you invest next.     #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #alcoholfree #sunkcostfallacy #innerchildhealing #IFS #letgo #alcoholawareness

What if I told you scientists were running a clinical trial… …to find out if a known carcinogen could improve your health?   No, this isn’t satire. It’s Spain. And it’s wine. And it’s the Liquid Lie in a lab coat.   In this episode, I break down the €2.4 million Spanish study that’s got 10,000 people drinking wine every day—under the banner of science. But here’s the truth:   This isn’t research. It’s a justification project. And it’s not just absurd—it’s dangerous.   Let’s talk about how culture uses absurdity to wrap poison in respectability, how science gets hijacked by our deepest fears of change, and why the Liquid Lie survives on denial, not data.   We’ll also explore what it means to step out of the charade—and live from SELF, AFAF.   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #TheLiquidLie #alcoholawareness #alcoholfree #saynotoalcohol #selfledlife #wineculture #alcoholtruth #alcoholresearch #alcoholharm #ditchthelie #culturalconditioning #europeanstudy #moderationmyth #dailywine #alc

You love them. You want to help. But nothing seems to work.   They keep drinking—and you keep breaking.   In this raw and powerful episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, Lee Davy speaks directly to the STRIVERS who aren’t battling alcohol themselves—but love someone who is. If you’ve tried to fix, rescue, or reason with someone stuck in the Liquid Lie, this one’s for you.   Lee shares what actually helps—not from PARTS, but from SELF.   You’ll learn how to:   – Stop trying to change them – Build boundaries that set you free – Communicate with compassion instead of control – Heal yourSELF first, so you can hold space when they’re ready   This episode isn’t just about helping them—it’s about saving you.   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #alcoholrecovery #boundaries #relationshipsupport #nonviolentcommunication #emotionalresilience #alcoholawareness #IFS #selfledlife #healingjourney #emotionalboundaries #liquidlie

You say you’re lonely on Fridays. But are you really? Or are you just bored—uncomfortable with your own company?   In this powerful episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, Lee Davy explores the deeper truth behind why so many of us reach for alcohol at the end of the week. It’s not about celebration. It’s about escape. And often, the ache in your chest isn’t loneliness—it’s the absence of SELF.   Lee breaks down the difference between boredom and disconnection, challenges the myth that alcohol connects us, and offers a new way to reclaim your Friday nights with purpose, presence, and peace.   If you’ve ever sat in silence and wondered, “What now?”—this one’s for you.  

You ever feel yourself becoming someone else just to survive the moment?   In this episode, I share a story from a recent poker night—my second game in eight years. I sat down calm and centred… until one of my PARTS panicked. What followed wasn’t strategy. It wasn’t presence. It was mimicry. A desperate attempt to blend in and belong.   This isn’t just about poker. It’s about the moments we abandon ourSELF for approval. When fitting in feels safer than standing strong. When the urge to be accepted overpowers the desire to be authentic.   If you’ve ever laughed at a joke you didn’t find funny, nodded along when your gut said no, or shrank yourself to keep the peace—this episode is for you.   Let’s talk about what it really means to live a SELF-led life, AFAF—even in the pressure cooker.     #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #InternalFamilySystems #PartsWork #PokerStory #AuthenticityOverApproval #LivingAF #AlcoholFreeAsFuck #MensMentalHealth #SelfLeadership #IFS #Belonging #PerformanceT

You think perfectionism is your edge. Your armour. Your proof that you’re holding it all together.   But what if that polished surface is just a terrified PART doing everything it can to keep the cracks from showing?   In this episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, I break down how perfectionism feeds alcohol reliance—not because you’re weak, but because you’re scared to be seen as you are.   You’ll hear my own story of growing up with conditional love, chasing achievement to feel worthy, and the pivotal moment I realised: perfectionism isn’t strength. It’s protection.   So if you’ve ever thought, “I can’t quit drinking until I’ve got it all figured out,”—this one’s for you.   Join us as we talk about the power of letting go, being messy, and embracing the real you underneath the mask.   Much love, and STRIVE on! Lee   #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #alcoholawareness #perfectionism #IFS #selfled #mentalhealth #healingjourney #alcoholfree #selfworth #vulnerability #TheLiquidLie

One in four children live with a parent who has alcohol or drug problems.   Sounds shocking? It shouldn’t.   Because that’s just the smoke. The real fire is the Liquid Lie—a culture that has normalised alcohol so deeply that even kids growing up in so-called “healthy” homes are affected.   You don’t need a parent with a diagnosis for alcohol to hurt your childhood. You just need a mum who “deserves a glass,” a dad who drinks every weekend, or a birthday party where Prosecco is poured alongside the cake.   In this episode, I unpack how the Liquid Lie seeps into family life, how it shapes our nervous systems from childhood, and what it really means to live a SELF-led life, AFAF—for yourself, and for the next generation.   If you want to break the chain, this one’s for you.     #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #alcoholawareness #parentingwithoutalcohol #childhoodtrauma #familyrecovery #soberparenting #alcoholculture #theLiquidLie

If you’re afraid to stop drinking because you don’t know who you’ll be without it—you’re not broken. You’re responding to a culture that taught you to cope with alcohol instead of connection. In this episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, Lee Davy explores a powerful quote from Buckminster Fuller via Seth Godin’s This is Strategy, inviting STRIVERS to stop trying to fix the old system—and build a new one instead.   You’ll learn why shouting “I’m sober!” isn’t the point… and how living a SELF-led life, AFAF, is the quiet revolution that renders the Liquid Lie irrelevant. Because you don’t beat the old system by fighting it. You make it obsolete.   In this episode: ✅ How the Liquid Lie keeps us stuck in old paradigms of shame and silence ✅ Why becoming AFAF is more than abstaining—it’s about authorship ✅ How Internal Family Systems helps PARTS trust SELF ✅ Why silence feeds the old system—and visibility helps dismantle it ✅ What it really means to build a better system   Reflection prompts: Where in your life

What does it really mean to be alcohol-free-as-fuck?   It means you stop apologising for your power. It means you stop shrinking for the comfort of others. It means you stop negotiating with a poison that was never serving you.   In this episode, I share how the STRIVE community evolved beyond the word “sober”… …and why alcohol-free-as-fuck became our battle cry.   You’ll learn why this identity isn’t about perfection—it’s about pride. And why it’s not for everyone—and that’s the point.   This isn’t just about abstaining. It’s about rising.   So if you’ve ever struggled to explain why you don’t drink— or felt like your truth made others uncomfortable— this one’s for you.   Let’s roar it.     #1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE #STRIVEMethod #AFAF #TheLiquidLie #alcoholfree #selfleadership #quittingalcohol #identitywork #alcoholawareness #personaldevelopment