Kate Hastings Show

This can apply to relationships, careers, emotions, health, goals, or anything else you desire, aim for, or want to improve. Outcomes will undoubtedly face challenges, and it is only by focusing on the process and progressing toward the outcome with measurable results that you will be able to achieve your goals.   www.phenyx.fit @coachkate1 

Wellness Coach  @coachkate1    

We all need to be seen. It's part of what makes us human. When we don't allow ourselves to be seen, we diminish our greatness. We undervalue ourselves by lying, withholding, protecting, and defending a false sense of self that isn't our true nature. We limit our potential for greatness by defending things we believe we must defend in order to be worthy of love and respect. @coachkate1 www.phenyx.fit 

Putting yourself out there requires a willingness to be seen and heard from your truth.  I realized that putting oneself out there begins with yourself. Working from the inside out is the only way to this self discovery. Coach Kate Wellness Coach Phenyx Fit www.phenyx.fit @coachkate1

@coachkate1 Wellness Coach  

Have you ever convinced yourself that you won't be worthy or good enough until you achieve a particular goal?  Setting standards and having goals are extremely important in life.  However, when it's only motivated by that inner critic and unrealistic expectations, it's a formula for reinforcing the hamster wheel of your negative core beliefs.  (not good enough, unworthy, incapable, stupid, failure.)   Perfectionism is motivated by how things will appear and what others will think.  People strive for perfection out of shame, only to feel even more humiliated when they can never achieve "perfection."  You are so much more than your ability to impress others. Within you is a valuable, creative, and loving individual who longs to be authentic.     @coachkate1 Kate Hastings  Wellness Coach   

Have you noticed in yourself a tendency to minimize your own needs? To not cause a fuss and keep the peace at all costs? These may be reflections of one of codependency’s main symptoms: self-betrayal.  Self-betrayal causes cognitive dissonance. This is when your heart and your head are saying different things. This creates inner conflict which is an invitation to address the issue that is out of alignment. If you are numbing out your feelings and denying reality, you don’t address the conflict. Breaking the cycle is about gaining self-love and self-worth. Know your value and what you deserve. Do not numb out your pain, rather learn to get your needs met in healthy ways.     Self-betrayal can look like: Allowing your boundaries to be violated so as not to be abandoned Going along with the group in order to be included Doing things to please others when it’s not what you want to do Letting someone else choose what you eat, how you dress Working in jobs that other influential people approve of, but you don’t li

I think one of the bravest things you can do is start something new when you're not “ready.” Nothing in life will be perfect, and no new beginning will be perfect. To be a beginner in anything takes courage, humility, and a willingness to just put yourself out there.  I was able to see more of my true self and grow into who I am today. I realized what truly mattered to me by looking at my own struggles and strengths.  Listen in to learn about my experience recording 100 episodes!!

Integration work is more than just joining a sharing circle, meditating, and eating clean. It signifies facing the shadow, all the forgotten, suppressed, invisible, and unintegrated mental material we left behind as we grew up and into the world.   At a very basic level, ayahuasca integration means cleaning up your act in support of your newly upgraded self. Job, relationships, diet, habits, mindset—all these are up for transformation in the weeks following ceremony. A second aspect of integration involves shadow work. Ayahuasca is a potent activator of the unconscious, bringing buried traumas, forgotten experiences, and rejected aspects of self to the light.  As we continue, a third level of integration emerges: the task of bringing soul to the world, showing up as our true whole selves. We begin to cultivate a way of being that is in touch with what really matters. Ayahuasca can be a very strong mirror.  She works in a way of bringing things up to the  surface, right in front of us. Giving us the  opportuni

You can begin to learn how lying was used as a traumatic response.  We only lie when it feels unsafe, to tell the truth.  In some cases, lying is the only way to avoid experiencing shame, dysregulation, or other unpleasant emotions if we tell the truth.    When I was a child, my father labeled me a snitch.  I was told I was fine when I wasn't, that everything was fine, that I just needed to get over it, that it didn't matter, that I didn't matter and that I had to get through it.  But my question to you is, who are you without your lies, suffering and pain?  Who are you if you didn't live or feel the desire to avoid pain? What possibilities would be available?

Before you can determine your life's mission, I believe it is more necessary and valuable to figure out what prevents you from becoming whatever you want to be in life.  You create this story to match your limiting beliefs, which manifest in a persona you identify with.  The true challenge isn't in the mission it's self its removing the barriers in the way that keep you in a stagnant place.

  @coachkate1

Gratitude  when it is possible. However, while some  from gratitude, for most it is challenging. The reason has to do with an overactive nervous system. For many survivors, the reactive part of the brain is in charge much of the time. This is not because they do not try—or do not want—to be positive. Their nervous system holds them in a constant state of  reactiveness. The pain of trauma has left them feeling “not good enough,” ashamed, guilty, injured, and unworthy. Their upper brain is not engaged enough to overcome those feelings and contemplate gratitude on an on-going basis.

What are you dependent on every day when you get out of bed?  Likes on social media, how many texts you receive, how many empty people pay attention to you, and how many calories you ate ????  Wake awake and cling to the carrot known as truth.    @coachkate1    

Because we don't properly grasp how to see, hear, and comprehend our needs, we don't feel seen, heard, or understood by others. The problem is that most of us are in so much pain and suffering just going about our everyday lives that we feel alone, disheartened, and alienated from our true self.    @coachkate1 Phenyx Fit 1-1 Wellness Coaching   

When we avoid doing the work that is required to heal, we create a reality of resistance, avoidance, and chaos. Even after the storms have passed, we leave an overcast of suffering, resentment, and disconnect. The aftermath is your identity becoming entwined with the impacted version of yourself. When you heal, you may experience a sense of loss because your identity is closely linked to the person you thought you had to become in order to move on.   @CoachKate1 

Have you ever asked yourself what does it truly take to change? I don't mean your physical body, bank account or hair. I’m referring to the type of change that drastically alters your perception of who you are and how you relate to the world. I’m talking about the type of change that provokes your very being at a core level that shifts your habits, emotions, behaviors and to a level of awareness. I can't tell you what the truth is but I can tell you what its not.  Tune in!! @coachkate1 

What would your life be like in 10 years if you kept up with your current lies? What's the impact of living this way, and what are you willing to lose? And if you can't face the truth or at least tolerate it, get honest and admit you live a lie by choice.   @coachkate1    

Struggle to see how anyone would want to help you?  Ask yourself these 3 questions:      • While you were growing up what kind of messages did you get about asking for help? • Did your family place more value on “doing it yourself” or “letting others in?” • When you did attempt to reach out in childhood, how did the people in your life respond?   @coachkate1