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Talking points: psychology, attachment theoryWe've had a LOT of newcomers recently, and I'm getting some great questions around what attachment theory means for men specifically. To that end, I've made you all a compilation; an episode chock-full of info on the two most common styles! One that cuts through the jargon and gives you some things you can work on literally right now. (00:00:00) - The core of anxious attachment(00:06:33) - What causes anxious attachment, and how it shows up in a relationship(00:16:59) - What to do with anxiety, starting with the breath(00:22:02) - Reclaiming your ability to ground yourself, and exposure therapy (00:27:13) - The first, most important things to know re: avoidant attachment (00:31:46) - How avoidant attachment shows up, and where it can come from in childhood(00:43:54) - How it can show up in a relationship(00:47:25) - Healing avoidant attachment: six simple tacticsFor EVEN MORE info, dig into the Ultimate Guide To Attachment HERE: https://training.mantalks.

Talking points: psychology, masculinityIf you've ever found yourself in strange push-pull dynamics, self-sabotaged relationships, or just feel like you never get it "right" with women, this may be your podcast. I see a lot of men battle their mommy (and daddy) issues instead of healing them. Let's change that.(00:00:00) - Intro, what a “mother wound” is, and the most common variations(00:14:22) - How a mother wound shows up, from hypervigilance to underachievement to zero boundaries(00:21:19) - How do you work through this? Step one: how to build awareness of it(00:23:56) - Step two: learn how to regulate. Seriously.(00:25:33) - “Reparenting” the child in you(00:27:52) - Stop outsourcing your self worth, and learn how to end your projectionsA Man's Guide To Self-Worth: https://lnk.to/sRB9v6How To Lead In Relationship: https://lnk.to/8xv131***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Pr

Talking points: history, psychology, mindset, cultureLike George Santayana said, those who do not learn from the past are condemned to repeat it. There's so much we can learn about ourselves, where we come from, and what needs our attention when we study the past. Grateful for the host of Cost of Glory, Alex Petkas, coming back on the show to lay down some real history, difficult truths, and deep insights on ol' Gaius himself.(00:00:00) - What the modern man can learn from Julius Caesar(00:17:52) - The importance of philosophy and poetry to ancient men(00:23:06) - Why Caesar’s storytelling ability was so important, and how modern men can benefit from being better storytellers(00:35:51) - The usefulness of old stories and ideas, and the psychological strategies that Caesar used(00:45:48) - How Caesar handled women(00:52:12) - Misconceptions of Caesar’s demise and attitudeAlex Petkas is writer, entrepreneur, and founder of The Cost of Glory,  a bridge for the virtues of ancient heroes and the modern world’

Talking points: relationships, mindsetI see so many men struggle with this, without ever knowing why. Part of it's the realities of modern dating, but there's a few things you can do to rise above. Listen in.(00:00:00) - Here’s the situation(00:04:32) - Stop overfunding the account in an effort to get something(00:06:51) - Be her best option, but don’t stuff it in her face(00:10:55) - Re-prioritize your needs and expectations, and do it like this***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check o

Talking points: money, success, mindset, financesGrateful to have the thoughtful and straightforward advice of Sahil Bloom when it comes to wealth—minus the get-rich-quick schemes and "hacks" you see too often on social media. We covered a ton, from financial skill development and a healthy relationship with money, to how you balance that with what really matters.(00:00:24) - Understanding the Misconceptions of Success(00:12:34) - The Lottery Mindset and Its Pitfalls(00:21:32) - Developing Skills for Financial Success(00:26:04) - The Value of Deep Thinking, Writing, And Conversation(00:30:10) - Understanding Antigoals And "Time Wealth"(00:42:22) - Balacing Risk And WealthSahil Bloom is an inspirational writer and content creator, captivating millions of people every week through his insights and bi-weekly newsletter, ‘The Curiosity Chronicle’. Sahil is a successful entrepreneur, owner of SRB Holdings, and the managing partner of SRB Ventures, an early-stage investment fund. Sahil grad

Talking points: conflict, relationshipsYou're going to get into arguments. There will be differences of opinion. But what if those were gateways to something more? Today, the latest in the Man's Guide series.(00:00:00) - Choose someone you’re willing to conflict with, and be someone she’s willing to conflict with, too.(00:04:11) - Your nervous system sets the tone.(00:07:41) - You need rules of engagement.(00:10:45) - Stop trying to “fix” her emotions.(00:15:25) - Don’t fall for The Trap. Connect instead.(00:18:47) - Lead the repair.***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Talking points: masculinity, isolation, culture, suicideLook, Netflix's Adolescence was solid. But like anything Hollywood, it's not the whole picture. The big picture is complex, systemic, and deeply uncomfortable—and we seem to have built a culture that simply doesn't want to talk about it meaningfully and practically. I'm grateful for men like George (aka TheTinMen) who work tirelessly to point out how men's issues are important, complicated, and deserving of attention. Listen in.(00:00:00) - Intro, and wtf is going on in the UK.(00:12:28) - How do you actually speak to men's issues, and where the conversation unfortunately goes(00:21:44) - The collapse of male spaces, and why are struggling men framed as inconvenience?(00:38:09) - George’s take on increasing levels of loneliness and isolation in men, and possible solutions(00:44:51) - What people get wrong about male suicide(00:50:43) - Is it inherently bad/toxic that a man wants to provide for people?(00:58:51) - Data on how domestic violence and sexual

Talking points: mindset, addiction, pornIt's a serious challenge. You're doing well, you think you've broken free—and suddenly you're back. This week, I dig into practical ways you can reinforce and reenergize your commitment. For more helpful info, check out my free guide here: https://training.mantalks.com/Quit(00:00:00) - Intro, and the first step(00:04:13) - Get to the bottom of what’s driving the urge(00:08:56) - Purpose beats porn(00:11:15) - Redirect AND replace(00:14:05) - Understand porn as a “pseudo-attachment”***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthJoin myself, Ryan Michler, Larry Hagner, and Matt Beaudreau on a mission to improve yourself as a man, husband, business owner, and community leader at the Men's Forge. May 1-4, St. Louis, MO: https://orderofman.clickfunnels.com/uprising-landing-page1715263442491Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Fi

Talking points: culture, economics, mindset, debt, Ed HardyTo maybe understate things, it's a jungle out there right now, financially speaking. I've really enjoyed Morgan's books and perspective, so in early April, I asked him to come on. He shared TONS of insight on tariffs, what's next, how the average person can change their financial straights for the better, even Fartcoin. Listen in.(00:00:00) - What in the world is going on(00:09:35) - If it’s about bringing manufacturing back, then will jobs go to workers—or to automation?(00:16:37) - On tariff misconceptions and myths, and the difference between personal debt and government debt(00:25:27) - How does the average person weather the storm?(00:29:49) - How building wealth is behavioral, not intellectual, and the anti-capitalist mindset(00:38:19) - What to do when you’re struggling to get your finances under control(00:44:00) - Discovering why you actually want more money, and raising kids with good financial sense(00:59:04) - How do you learn what “enoug

Talking points: relationships, leadershipA while back, I launched a video on how men can better lead themselves and their relationships. It got a ton of dialogue, let's just say. Here's what I mean by lead, and three definitive steps to getting it right.(00:00:00) - Defining what “lead” actually means(00:04:08) - The first thing to do(00:07:14) - Stop taking her emotions personally(00:12:47) - Lead in connection, lead in repair***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthJoin myself, Ryan Michler, Larry Hagner, and Matt Beaudreau on a mission to improve yourself as a man, husband, business owner, and community leader at the Men's Forge. May 1-4, St. Louis, MO: https://orderofman.clickfunnels.com/uprising-landing-page1715263442491Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to

Talking points: masculinity, regret, anger, cultureIt's been too long since I sat down with The Captain himself. I am continuously grateful for Kyle's honesty about his own life, his process, and his opinion on things. Which means this conversation is as refreshing as it is frank. Strongly recommend sharing this one, team.(00:00:00) - Why is regret such a thing, are men conditioned to beat themselves up, and should it impact our decisions?(00:10:47) - How a recent writing project nearly broke Kyle, and what he learned(00:18:28) - On Netflix’s “Adolescence”, social media, and male role models(00:26:24) - How Kyle manages anger(00:31:38) - On maintaining discipline and motivation for creative or side projects, and what Kyle would’ve done differently(00:41:41) - Why therapy didn’t work for Kyle(00:49:38) - Kyle’s new bookAs is tradition, I'm share Kyle's unedited bio here because it's...well, it's just fantastic."As a kid, I wanted to be a cowboy. Then, my mom bought me a skateboard and I got on with my life. In

Talking points: attachment, relationships, mindsetAnxious attachment can make any relationship feel fraught with tension and threat. It doesn't have to be that way, and there are clear steps you can take that really do get results. Start with these ones.(00:00:00) - Anxious attachment refresher(00:04:04) - Priority number one: develop safety internally—and how(00:09:37) - Number two: recognize false flags(00:14:10) - Number three: practice calm connection***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthJoin myself, Ryan Michler, Larry Hagner, and Matt Beaudreau on a mission to improve yourself as a man, husband, business owner, and community leader at the Men's Forge. May 1-4, St. Louis, MO: https://orderofman.clickfunnels.com/uprising-landing-page1715263442491Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachm

Talking points: relationships, masculinity, mindset, nice guy syndromeA bunch of you have reached out requesting an interview with Nick, aka The People Displeaser, and I'm happy to say we finally got the chance to talk. Nick's practical, no-nonsense frame is a breath of fresh air. If you're looking for ways to combat your own people-pleasing tendencies—and some really good reasons why you should—this is the episode for you. (00:00:00) - Is people-pleasing really that bad, and what creates one(00:08:39) - How “needs” turned into a form of manipulation, and the nuance of privilege(00:14:15) - Does people-pleasing show up differently in men and women, and what the true cost is(00:24:59) - Where does a man start dealing with people-pleasing(00:38:31) - The importance of rejection, and do women play a role?(00:48:55) - Nick’s hard truths for introverts(00:54:22) - What you’re going to face when start putting yourself firstNick Pollard, aka The People Displeaser, is a world-renowned coach and speaker who specialize

Talking points: boundaries, relationships, mindsetThe counter-intuitive truth is this: if you're stuck in people-pleasing, you're generally not people-helping. I see a lot of men go through this, and many are unaware of what it really is and where it comes from. This week, straightforward insight and direct steps to breaking free.(00:00:00) - What the heck is people-pleasing?(00:03:02) - Two specific origins of people pleasing, and uncovering where it started in your own life(00:06:18) - The effect of trauma on one’s needs and self-worth(00:07:34) - The two major challenges of people-pleasing, and how to start breaking out of this(00:10:39) - Reflecting on tendencies, practicing your No, and prioritizing what you need (00:14:45) - On boundaries***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthJoin myself, Ryan Michler, Larry Hagner, and Matt Beaudreau on a mission to improve yourself as a man, husband, business owne

Talking points: anger, trauma, relationshipsThis is an essential episode for two reasons. One, it clearly shows how emotions and behaviors get passed down not just in mind but in body. Two, this episode also shows there are men out there doing real work—and they're committed to it; my guest was already familiar with the somatic part of his feelings. If you grew up in a volatile family, this is doubly worth listening to. ***Join myself, Ryan Michler, Larry Hagner, and Matt Beaudreau on a mission to improve yourself as a man, husband, business owner, and community leader at the Men's Forge. May 1-4, St. Louis, MO: https://orderofman.clickfunnels.com/uprising-landing-page1715263442491Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your R

Talking points: archetypes, psychology, relationshipsI genuinely feel this is one of the most important concepts we as men should understand. It affects a lot of us, and it definitely affected me. It definitely fits the word "complex", but it's absolutely something you can work on. So grab a notepad, dig in, and share with any man you think would benefit.(00:00:00) - Intro, definition, and why knowing about this is useful(00:08:09) - What causes this split?(00:21:55) - Rounding up what kind of man is at risk of this, and where to start healing(00:26:04) - What are you hiding, and what do you reveal(00:32:16) - Important: have conversations ***Join myself, Ryan Michler, Larry Hagner, and Matt Beaudreau on a mission to improve yourself as a man, husband, business owner, and community leader at the Men's Forge. May 1-4, St. Louis, MO: https://orderofman.clickfunnels.com/uprising-landing-page1715263442491Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: htt

Talking points: relationships, evolutionary psychology, cultureYou know it, I know it, and Michael Sartain knows it: there are a LOT of men out there facing extreme difficulty. I wanted to pick Michael’s brain on how to help men understand why this is, but from the perspective of evolutionary psychology, and the boots-on-ground experience of a fellow coach. I appreciate Michael’s ability to follow (and focus) the data without getting lost in reactionary antics. Listen in. (00:00:00) - How Michael works with men(00:13:13) - What makes evolutionary psychology such a charged subject?(00:25:40) - Why risk is important for men(00:31:36) - Strategies to boost your risk tolerance(00:39:02) - The difficultly of modern male relationships, and staying neutral(00:48:42) - Does the unwillingness to take risk can impact relationships?(00:53:23) - On status, Bonnie Blue, and what most don’t get about the “bottom third” of menMichael Sartain’s journey from a studious kid in Dallas, TX, to a leading expert in high-status net

Talking points: attachment, relationships, cultureI recently brought in an attachment specialist for the Alliance because a lot of men are noticing an uptick in women who are emotionally distant, avoid vulnerability, and break it off the second things get serious. There are a ton of ways to look at this, and lots of factors, but I wanted to dig in a bit—and give some insight into what YOU can do if you're dating an avoidant woman.***Join myself, Ryan Michler, Larry Hagner, and Matt Beaudreau on a mission to improve yourself as a man, husband, business owner, and community leader at the Men's Forge. May 1-4, St. Louis, MO: https://orderofman.clickfunnels.com/uprising-landing-page1715263442491Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead

Talking points: attachment, marriage, traumaThere’s a lot of attachment content out there. I should know, I make a fair bit myself. But in my work with this week’s anonymous guest, you can see just how complex things can get. My guest is managing the anxious-avoidant dance really well, but processing what causes it is something that requires deeper work. Listen in.(00:00:00) - Intro, handling the anxious/avoidant dance in marriage, and the what it felt like losing a father(00:11:21) - Who was there for you? (00:22:52) - The search for peace***Join myself, Ryan Michler, Larry Hagner, and Matt Beaudreau on a mission to improve yourself as a man, husband, business owner, and community leader at the Men's Forge. May 1-4, St. Louis, MO: https://orderofman.clickfunnels.com/uprising-landing-page1715263442491Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FR

Talking points: relationships, attachmentThere's one significant trap a lot of men fall into when they're anxiously attached. Good news? It's manageable—as long as you know where it's coming from. If you or your partner has this attachment style, dig in. (00:00:00) - Defining the trap, and why it happens(00:04:29) - What you’re really up against, and the first step in escaping the trap(00:09:15) - Uncovering where it shows up in your relationship, and taking action(00:12:09) - Don’t just practice in the relationship, and what causes blacksliding***Join myself, Ryan Michler, Larry Hagner, and Matt Beaudreau on a mission to improve yourself as a man, husband, business owner, and community leader at the Men's Forge. May 1-4, St. Louis, MO: https://orderofman.clickfunnels.com/uprising-landing-page1715263442491Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FR