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Implementing Chores Many parents ask the question should allowance be attached to chores? The response is what are we training them for? The purpose of training up a child is to ready them for adulthood. There are many jobs that we as adults have to do around the house. I don't remember ever receiving a [...]

Chores Teach A Child To Choose We discussed yesterday that chores train a child to do what is responsible rather then what is pleasurable. The question is where is a parent to start? The concept of chores is something that can start as early as preschool with simple tasks.  In our house, we are working [...]

Why It’s So Important Why is it so important to fight the chores battle as parents? There are four main reasons. First there is nothing that teaches a child personal responsibility as well as chores.  It teaches a child to make the choice between what they want to do and what they need to do.  [...]

Why Don’t We Give Our Kids Chores Anymore? This week will be spent talking about the importance of children doing household chores. The interesting thing is that it seems overall families don’t prioritize their children doing chores.  Why is this? There are many reasons for this but it seems that the main reason is time.  [...]

Learning About Your Spouse and Physical Intimacy Make sure to take the time to learn your spouse.  Are they the kind of person who likes surprises or do they need time in advance to adjust to ideas?  When planning activities to help get out of a rut learning this may be key, to not only [...]

Never Settle For Less There are things we can do to make the marriage exciting.  We need to find ways to get out of the routine.  There does need to be some one on one time set aside with your spouse.  Make sure to make time for date nights, but you can even set aside [...]

Never Quit Trying It’s interesting how we think of having an infant or small children as an exciting time/phase of life.  It is draining, but we will still label it as exciting or never a dull moment.  If we stop to think about it a baby can’t give anything back yet we are continually meeting [...]

Choose To Prioritize Your Marriage We need to be prepared to build a team or “become one flesh”.   There are things that can hinder this process that we need to work through.  The first is expectations. Often our expectations of how marriage will be, often unrealistic and influenced by Hollywood, can taint our attitude about [...]

The Relationship Takes Work We try to talk about the topic of marriage here on Parenting on Purpose, once a month.  Here are some of the reasons we feel that it is so important to discuss. First, if you are married, the parenting won’t work to its potential if the marriage isn’t working.  Second, your [...]

Learning how to cope when other children are mean is something that unfortunately every child will have to face. How we handle these situations as parents can affect their self-esteem.

How Competition and Performance Impacts a Child's Self-Esteem We discussed earlier this week that our self-esteem is determined by answering the question of whose we are.    If that is the case we need to look at what He created us to be.  He made us human beings not human doings.  Our self worth cannot be [...]

How does discipline affect self-esteem? It seems that many today would think that disciplining a child would hurt their self-esteem, which is why we have so many homes with so little rules. In fact the opposite is true. When a child has no consistent boundaries placed around them they feel very insecure.

Where does self-esteem Begin in a child's development process? It actually begins at birth with the mother/child bonding. Through the bonding experience of those early days and months we are communicating love and security. A child cannot yet comprehend the concept of God as their Father so until that time we are communicating His love through our parenting.

The concept of self-esteem can be a very elusive and ethereal topic. What is it, and how can I make sure that my kids have positive self-esteem?

Get Organized- Part 2 Here is a list of reminders for parents on how to consistently communicate positively to your child. It will also help you to maintain the balance of structure and relationship. 1. Listen to your child- make sure you are taking the time to listen to your child through the process of [...]

Get Organized- Part 1 A great list found on ADDitudemag.com for helping parents get organized and mobilized to help their child/family function with ADD/ADHD. 1. Give specific instructions. "Put away the toys on your carpet on the shelf in the closet." Be consistent — if the toys are stored on the shelf one night, they should be [...]

Isn’t ADHD Just An Excuse For A Lack Of Discipline? A great response to this question was found in ADDitudeMag.com, by Robert M.A. Hirschfeld, M.D., who is a psychiatrist and a father of an ADHD child…. "The idea that willpower can solve all problems is as American as apple pie, but so are compassion, tolerance, [...]

Mom Is Key Children with ADD/ADHD have a very difficult time maintaining focus on things that do not interest them.  This can become very frustrating to parents when they see their child get very focused for a long period of time over a video game or some other hobby but are unable to maintain that [...]

Have Hope ADD/ADHD seems to be something that many parents have questions about because it is so prevalent in today’s society, to the point where many parents worry about their children unnecessarily.  It appears that currently only 3-5% of children truly suffer from ADD/ADHD. The characteristics of ADD/ADHD are impulsivity, inattention, and hyperactivity. The problem [...]