Tuff Love With Robert Kandell

For millennia, women have been conditioned to suppress their anger, borne of well-founded consequences such as violence, exile, and even death. Most women carry not only a lifetime of our own rage, but the ancestral traumas of our foremothers. and yet, anger is a natural, healthy part of relating. When we suppress it, anger gets relegated to the “shadow” and wreaks havoc in our sexuality. Eva and Tobin share specific skills on how to bring it to the light for healing.   Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! Here’s How » Join the Tuff Love Community today: robertkandell.com Tuff Love Facebook Tuff Love Instagram Tuff Love YouTube Tuff Love LinkedIn

Rob bares it all out as he takes your questions—about love, relationships, and all other concerns—and answers it with honesty and sincerity. Explore the difficulties of developing a crush on another person during marriage; learn how to share your own shadows with your partner; find the generosity to your partner when facing big fundamental triggers in your relationship; know how to deal with narcissists and sociopaths; and address differences in money maturity in romantic relationships. At the heart of all of this Q & A, you’ll find the value of keeping authenticity not only in your relationship but yourself as well.   Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! Here’s How » Join the Tuff Love Community today: robertkandell.com Tuff Love Facebook Tuff Love Instagram Tuff Love YouTube Tuff Love LinkedIn

We all have them—sexual taboos. And usually, they’re our biggest turn-ons. Why is “The Forbidden” so erotic? Taboo rules most religions; it’s launched wars, divorces, and probably some of the best sex you’ve ever had. Acclaimed sexologist, Eva Clay and, spiritual teacher and therapist, Tobin Zivon unravel the allure and share their perspectives on how to playfully (and skillfully) incorporate taboo into a relationship so you keep the turn-on, but skip the damage. Learn as we explore how to turn the parts of ourselves that we’re afraid of and nervous about into power.   Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! Here’s How » Join the Tuff Love Community today: robertkandell.com Tuff Love Facebook Tuff Love Instagram Tuff Love YouTube Tuff Love LinkedIn

Nas is the host of the highly successful and amazing podcast, The Gender Knot. Our first meeting was when we recorded my guest appearance on the show about men and shame. There are many ways that I can describe my experience of this first meeting and the best way I can describe it is this week’s title, “Conflict and Mess.” We hit a communication gap within the first five minutes on the conversation and it got rockier and rockier from there. Then, about minute 40, we started to reconnect, and as the 90 minute interview completed, I had met a new friend. What do you do with conflict and mess? For Nas and I, we LOVE it because it allows us to practice our presence in the face of it. Come read as we wax the poetic around this concept.   Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! Here’s How » Join the Tuff Love Community today: robertkandell.com Tuff Love Facebook Tuff Love Instagram Tuff Love YouTube Tuff Love LinkedIn

What do you do when life is so good that you don’t know what to do with it? How does one confront when things are going your way? How do you stay sane when all you’ve known is stress and pain to motivate you? It’s no easy feat. Listen to your own internal voice. Say yes to what you desire. Start to work towards it and start to receive it because that’s the way that we can all up-level ourselves, our family, and our relationships. Rob digs into the richness of his life and how he stays sane when life is so good.   Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! Here’s How » Join the Tuff Love Community today: robertkandell.com Tuff Love Facebook Tuff Love Instagram Tuff Love YouTube Tuff Love LinkedIn

Boldness is the courage to get free and be free. That means internally getting free from your ego and from anything that keeps you smaller. Adam Gilad has excavated boldness in conversation, presentation and lifestyle choices. He’s been a dating, relationship, lifestyle, and business coach and teacher for fourteen years. He says you’ve got to be bold. You’ve got to pivot, pay attention, and constantly learn because the whole business has utterly changed. The pace of learning in life requires boldness. That means boldly facing down your habits, mindset, what’s keeping you small, and boldly acting on your will as long as you’re not hurting people. As a prolific author, speaker, screenwriter, film producer, mentor and coach, Adam has a huge heart, wisdom, and passion about leading people into living the bold life. He talks about his experience, his vulnerable upbringing in his past, and how he’s gone from a man who felt closed down after an epic change around the year 2002.   L

When I first started dating Morgan, I said to her a simple phrase, “You’re a free woman.” I explained that when it came to our dating or engaging in physical intimacy with other people, she didn’t need to ask me permission, owe me an explanation, or even have to tell me ahead of time. She was free to do what she pleased. This brought some interesting responses from my bride-to-be. She was new to the non-monogamous world and this openness had her believe that I cared less. She didn’t understand that it was actually about creating a space for her to make her own decisions to be free. In this week’s podcast, we’ll be talking about concepts from Ester Perel’s Mating in Captivity on how to create safe spaces for you to express your desires. Her book tackles the subject of how we get into partnership and then set exquisite deep rules of how we want to be owned and own.   Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! Here’s How » Join the T

Sometimes a whole pattern or strategy in life can be set into motion in one moment. Growing up a raging introvert, acclaimed sexologist Eva Clay was always nervous during family gatherings and would sit during the whole gathering with this book open pretending to read it. It gave her incredible comfort and set into motion a way that she hid which is behind intellect. Eva reveals that when she gets anxious or feels unsure or disconnected in any way, she often reverts to knowledge and what she knows. For spiritual teacher, therapist and tantra master Tobin Zivon, it’s this up and out thing where he blows up and out and he’s in a realm of either excitement or expounding articulation amazement. Tobin says where you’re usually good at something is where you hide. Your superpower is your shield. Learn how you can truly connect with yourself and being truly in your body to show up in life and run it optimally as Eva and Tobin take a closer look at how we hide from the world and the reasons behind it.   Love the

All of us have great dreams and great things we want to do. We may implement great practices in order to achieve them, but how do we motivate ourselves mentally to do that? Luke Storey is an amazing human being. After kicking heroin, alcohol and crack at 26 years old, he went on to become a celebrity stylist for stars such as Aerosmith, Ozzy Osborne, Kanye West and Kim Kardashian. Leveraging his immense skills, he started the world’s independent fashion school in 2008 and has recently celebrated nine years in business. He also is the host of the very popular podcast, The Life Stylist Podcast, with over 1.5 million downloads since its inception in 2016. Luke shares his motivations for overcoming adversity and discusses a wide array of his metaphysical knowledge such as finding God without religion, the law of attraction, and overcoming self-doubt. He also touches on his physical practices such as infrared saunas, cryotherapy, float tanks, and more on how to level up your life.   Love the show? 

The warrior aspect within us is the one that’s willing to feel and walk on the path where there are inconveniences in our life, where we have a contracture, where we hold back from magnifying our full destiny. For Satyen Raja, the warrior is the one that moves forward, in spite of fear, in the face of whatever things that might hold us back. The sage within us is that aspect which is related to inner wisdom, inner humility, inner freedom that’s always rested in a type of humor. Satyen says that type of realization that there is nothing to really get is all here now. That beautiful yin and yang of the warrior sage has been the archetypal energetic that he likes to hold in his own self and like to share with others. Satyen talks about his organization called Warrior Sage, intimacy, relationships, men’s work, Me Too, and the state of men and women in the future.   Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! Here’s How » Join the Tuff Love Community today: robertk

Women these days are starting to look for something else. Being a provider as a man, to succeed these days, at least from a dating perspective, isn’t enough. You have to have social confidence. You have to become the person who brings the whole package, someone excited about his life, someone who’s got his own friends and his own thing going on. You have to be in shape and you have to understand women, too. The traditional role that men have been led to believe from back in the day doesn’t apply anymore. Men have to evolve if they want to date the evolved women. Myke Macapinlac’s job is to lay out a specific plan that’s easy to implement to help men become a person of value, a people magnet, and someone worth getting to know, not just to attract partners but to make friends and even to have leadership positions at their workplace. Myke is the program director at Social Confidence Mastery. He lays down some serious knowledge about how to find yourself, how to work past your own fear, how to look at

You could be subconsciously unaware or undeliberately playing small in your little straight jacket to ensure that there will be no disruption between yourself and the person you’re in a relationship with. Sometimes, you’re taking steps to minimize yourself to protect myself from the fear of being abandoned or the chasm that may be created if you kept getting bigger and bigger. Rob talks about the experience he had with Morgan about the three options he saw in his life of how to be in relationship with her and the places where he was keeping himself small, the concept behind that, and how that can apply to other people. He calls is the three paths at a crossroad, which are that (A) he could be a huge success, a distant husband, make lots of money, or (B) he could keep myself small and safe, or (C) they could create the exact world they wanted. Rob talks further about his research into what it means to be big.   Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! Here’s How » Join the Tuf

Esmee A St. James is the Dating Muse helping singles find each other in this challenging world of romance. She first found this calling as a professional model and photographer where she felt her fascination around the attraction between the sexes. She is releasing her book, “Chick Magnet: What Men don’t know what women wish they did” on June 28th. We’ll be discussing why women like ‘Bad Boys’. Esmee writes ““I don’t understand why the first date is always the last. Why don’t women want a nice guy like me?!” asked Mark, a successful divorced dad. That’s a question I hear far too often from single men. Guess what the single women I meet tell me … “I just want to date a nice guy for once. Could someone please tell me where they’re all hiding?” Yup, that’s the flip side of the coin there’s a reason why women often fall for the Bad Boys, and a reason why many men fall into the Friend Zone.”   Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share!

A viewpoint in business says hire slowly, fire quickly. The concept of that is take your time for strategic hires into your business. Take your time to figure out the right fit and the right thing fit into the culture. The fine line between the power of working alone and the time to hire, you may be facing this challenge right now with your own business as your schedule gets fuller and fuller and the time tighter. You may be thinking how you’re limiting your business’ growth by your management of it. The questions is not really should you hire or should you not hire; it’s when it’s time to hire. It’s time to bring someone on to help and produce. However, just because you hire someone doesn’t guarantee that your life will be easier. In fact, sometimes it can get much harder, especially in the short term as they onboard and learn how to work with you. Rob discusses his long history of hiring, firing and all the things in-between.   Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and sh

I had a blast doing Samantha Skelly’s show Hungry for Happiness. It was one of those interviews where we started ending each other’s sentences. We’ll be talking about the vicious cycle of self-care and love in today’s world. Sam writes, “The idea that happiness, wholeness, and joy is conditional upon getting ‘there’ goes against the very truth of the matter. It keeps us stuck in a constant rat race, always hustling for our worth and hoping that every milestone we achieve will bring us closer to the elusive happiness, wholeness, and joy. We are constantly distancing ourselves from our truth. We are in constant denial of the light, love, and power that is innately within each of us. We throw thousands of dollars and hours of our time at every self-help method or tool under the sun, hoping they will help us get ‘there.’ We have a destination addiction, and when we fail to get ‘there,’ we shame ourselves before throwing away even more money. Like the weight loss industry, the persona

In the news this week, a 30-year old man moves out of his parent’s house after they took him to court. He had lived there for eight years with no signs of ever leaving. He said that there were never any expectations of him to pay rent, contribute to the household, or even clean. A report came out in December 2016 saying there are more millennials living with parents, relatives, grandparents, or step parents now than living on their own. There’s upwards of 40% of young adults living at home. It’s time for men to grow up. On the flip side, there are people like me who have thought they were adult since I was fourteen years old. I say this not to brag because I feel the intensity of not being able to slow down, be kind to myself, and enjoy the simpler things in life. Things just tend to be serious with me all the time. When is it time to be an adult and time to be a kid? In this show, we discuss both sides of the equation.   Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! Here’s H

After Rob Kessler’s wedding, he looked at the day’s photograph and was unhappy with how he looked. He described himself “looking like a beach bum”. Inspired, he started to look on the internet for the ideal shirt to no avail. Most people at this point would have given up. Instead, Rob created the “Million Dollar Collar” and has over 150,000 sales after two years. He is now known as the No Tie Guy after inventing the most dramatic enhancement to collared dress shirts in the last 70 years. His mission is to give men an alternative to the unbuttoned, sloppy dress shirt look. Rob combined his experience as a businessman and knowledge of the clothing manufacturing process to help make men more comfortable and stylish with a staple clothing item. Listen to his story about how he came up with the product and the success of being an entrepreneur.   Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! Here’s How » Join the Tuff Love Community today: robertkandell.com Tuff

In last week’s show, we discussed the hero’s journey as discussed and described by Joseph Campbell. In this week’s show, Robert will discuss his framework for your evolution (i.e. growth, expression, expansion, or just finishing a damn project). He will walking the listeners through his frame work and how it can add value to your life.   Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! Here’s How » Join the Tuff Love Community today: robertkandell.com Tuff Love Facebook Tuff Love Instagram Tuff Love YouTube Tuff Love LinkedIn

When we hear the phrase, “call to adventure” – we think of Alice falling down the rabbit hole, of Odysseus embarking on a ship, of Luke Skywalker receiving Princess Leia’s call for help in Star Wars Episode IV: A New Hope. They all had the nerve to follow the white rabbit, and just fall down the rabbit hole of endless possibilities. Joseph Campbell talked about the Mono-Myth concept in his epic book “The Hero with a Thousand Faces”, describing that every single major story or myth follows a very similar timeline. The book stands as a powerful guide for YOU if you ever feel lost inside your own odyssey of life. You might have some expertise in an item, you might be a great stockbroker or you might be a good soldier. There’s just a level where you’re living at your status quo and things are good or things are kind of bad but not horrible. It’s just sort of that middle status quo. Then you have the call to adventure. You have the opportunity to take the next step into your life. Time to become

What if we lived in a society where our desires are welcome, approved of and right, even if it conflicted with someone else’s? Are you shutting down your own desires in order to fit in, in order to please your partner, and in order to be a good person? In today’s world of desire and pleasure, there exists the power of being selfish which is being highlighted in nonprofit organizations like The Welcomed Consensus, Feed the Need, One Taste, and Fill Up America. Selfishness has a bad rap, but one can actually redefine selfishness through sensuality training like Taking Touch where you will learn how to please your partner by pleasing yourself first. Take a listen as we talk about basic human conditioning, how to touch your desire, and what’s underneath most of our actions.   Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! Here’s How » Join the Tuff Love Community today: robertkandell.com Tuff Love Facebook Tuff Love Instagram Tuff Love YouTube Tuff Love LinkedIn