Over It And On With It

This week Christine shares about her experience at Dr. Joe Dispenza's week-long advanced retreat - learn a little about who Dr. Joe is, what he teaches, and how to move through resistance when you are breaking out of your comfort zone.  Christine also announces more about the retreat she is teaching in September: www.christinehassler.com/austin

This episode is about how to break addictive behaviors. Today’s caller, Dee, had a chaotic childhood and is unconsciously creating chaos in her adult life because it feels familiar and safe. We work through the process of identifying her emotional addiction and unpack why it’s hard to shift and then how to shift it. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode234] How we know that an unresolved issue from our past or an old emotional addiction has created a pattern of acting that is so unconscious that we have a hard time ‘controlling’ it is at play is that we do something that doesn’t match our current life. If you are doing something that doesn’t match up to what your current life represents, you have some work to do in terms of going back and cleaning up the past. When we have a lot of chaos or are used to feeling it, we become addicted to negative or lower vibrational feelings, like anxiety. Sometimes the revved up, anxious, addicted behavior creates a feeling of peace because it is familiar. Wit

Amber Lilyestrom is a transformational branding strategist and business coach, author and speaker. She is the host of The Amber Lilyestrom Show podcast, which has over 100,000 monthly downloads . She is the creator of the Ignite Your Soul Summit, an annual live event in Portsmouth, NH and multiple life-changing online programs.  Amber's mission is to empower women to position themselves as sought-after experts and thought leaders through the creation of an online brand presence. Her transformational mindset work sets her apart in an industry focused on a strategy-first, inner work later approach. She’s worked with thousands of women worldwide building a seven-figure business from home, while also homeschooling her daughter and retiring her husband from his 11-year police career. Amber spent 10 years working in collegiate athletics marketing before launching her business. She managed the University of New Hampshire Wildcats brand, where she taught sports marketing and mentored student interns. She was recogni

This episode is about how to get over a breakup but we go much deeper than that. Today’s caller, Miranda, had a profound spiritual experience during her previous relationship. She thought the feeling came from an external source when it actually came from her internal divine source because her mind was quiet enough to feel unconditional love for herself. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode233] We are all headed towards breaking old personality patterns and emotional addictions that have kept us in a certain frequency to elevate ourselves into a different energetic field. This is why journey mates come into our lives. There is a specific reason a journey mate comes into our lives. A journey mate relationship is a contract but it’s a short-term contract. We come together with a person to have an important experience or to help us get through a difficult time we can’t get through on our own. The other person acts as a mirror to show us the aspect inside of us we need to transform. Usually, once

Antonio Neves is an internationally recognized leadership speaker, author and award-winning journalist. He's the author of three books including, '50 Ways To Excel In Your First Job (and in Life) and he’s currently working on his next book. On his podcast The Best Thing, he talks with fascinating people about the “best thing” to happen to them that would never appear on a resume, bio or come up in conversation. For nearly 10 years, Antonio has helped organizations increase workplace engagement, create strong cultures of accountability, and tell stories that make people lean in Antonio's clients and audiences are some of the largest brands in the world including. An award-winning journalist, Antonio worked as a correspondent, host and producer for over 10 years in New York City with top networks including NBC, PBS, BET Networks, Advertising Age and Nickelodeon.

This episode is about asking for what you need in relationships. Today’s caller, Megan, feels overwhelmed when faced with too many choices and is afraid to be truly seen. She doesn’t want her pattern of uncertainty to sabotage her new relationship. Like in many coaching sessions, her initial question isn’t exactly what we focus on. This is for anyone who has trouble making decisions, doubts themselves, or is in sabotaging patterns.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode232]   For empaths, love can feel overwhelming because we love so deeply. When we are in a relationship it can feel smothering and overwhelming. Instead of communicating that we need boundaries and space with love we are often afraid of confrontation or don’t want to make the other person upset. So, we unconsciously push them away by either judging them internally, nitpicking, or acting out in other ways. Empaths need to know what they need — especially at the beginning of the relationship. When you are first dating someone you

This is a must listen, especially for aspiring or current entrepreneurs. Marie joins Christine for the 3rd time to inspire you with stories around her mantra, "Everything is figureoutable."  We also talk about her signature program, B-School, for teaching modern, heart-centered entrepreneurs how to build a successful business.  I also reveal my EPIC B-School bonuses for this year which you can access here: www.christinehassler.com/bschool

This episode is about self-soothing strategies for empaths. Today’s caller, Alexis, wants guidance about how to find self-worth after getting out of an abusive relationship. But, we go deeper and discover that self-worth is just part of the issue. She realizes that moving toward self-soothing will be more beneficial to her at this time. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode231] We can’t amp up our self-worth if we keep judging and shaming ourselves. If you are trying to increase your self-worth, I want you to consistently think of things you are proud of. Not just accomplishments but choices and characteristics and all courageous actions you have taken. Increase your feelings of pride and it will increase your self-worth. Narcissists are very attractive to empaths because empaths have huge hearts and can see what’s behind narcissism. While narcissists are self-absorbed, empaths are often selfless and are more concerned with other people’s happiness. If you are an empath who is with a narcissis

Dr. Judith Orloff is a New York Times bestselling author, psychiatrist and is on the UCLA psychiatric clinical faculty. Dr. Orloff specializes in treating empaths and sensitive people in her Los Angeles based private practice. Judith Orloff MD asserts that we are keepers of an innate intuitive intelligence so perceptive that it can tell us how to heal — and prevent — illness. Yet intuition and spirituality are the very aspects of our wisdom usually disenfranchised from traditional health care. Dr. Orloff’s latest book “The Empath’s Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People” (Sounds True, 2017) is an invaluable resource to help sensitive people of all kinds develop healthy coping mechanisms in our high-stimulus world without experiencing compassion fatigue or burnout. Empaths can then fully embody their gifts of intuition, creativity, and compassion. Dr. Orloff’s work has been featured all over the world in various media outlets.  You can learn more about at www.drjudithorloff.com.

This episode is about our money story. Today’s caller, Emily, calls in asking about gaining clarity and her purpose but what we reveal is her relationship with money impacts many things for her. Her unconscious programming holds beliefs that are directly at odds with what she wants for herself. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode230] If you grew up not having a lot of money or being told money was evil then there you may have some trauma around having money. And just like going back and healing emotional wounds, we have to go back and heal our financial wounds as well. Our careers, being parents, or what we do in the world gets confused with what we think we are here on the earth to do. Your purpose in life isn’t your career. We mistakenly think that it is our purpose. What I feel is true, is that our purpose is to evolve our soul as much as possible. Our purpose is to elevate our consciousness, move out of fear and judgment, and come back into knowing we are whole and we are love. Doing the

This episode is incredibly educational when it comes to our attachment styles.  I talk with licensed psychotherapist Ellen Boeder about how attachment styles are formed, how they impact our adult relationships, and what we can do to heal them so we can have more secure attachments. A little more about Ellen . . . She has been a therapist since 2003.  She has a strong background in yoga and meditation, and her graduate training in Transpersonal Psychology also deeply inform her work.  Since getting married 12 years ago, and becoming a mother to two children, Ellen transitioned from working primarily with women to focusing on couples.  Ellen is trained in PACT, a therapeutic modality for couples founded by Stan Tatkin, PsyD., that synthesizes attachment theory, neuroscience, and affect regulation models to support couples in creating an enduring and nourishing relationship through secure functioning. In addition to maintaining a part time private practice, Ellen is on faculty for the Relationship School—a busin

This episode is about finding the tools to help you better deal with trauma and breaking the cycle of numbing. Today’s caller, Charmaine, has had multiple traumas in her life and uses marijuana as a coping strategy. But this isn’t a call about stopping marijuana use. When discussing any type of addiction or numbing device, you have to uncover the deeper issue.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode229]   From my point of view, we can’t deal with addiction effectively unless we deal with the core issue that is creating the addiction or coping strategy. Most addictions are coping strategies for when we didn’t have the tools to deal with the drama and trauma that’s happened in our life. Addiction to anything is a symptom of a deeper issue.   When we speak of addiction, we often just think of drugs and alcohol but there are so many other things we use as coping and numbing strategies that become addictions. Sex, gaming, gambling, food, and even things like work, falling in love, and caretaking. B

Don't miss this episode! One of my soul sisters, Kate Reardon, drops some serious wisdom and compassion bombs in this episode.  Kate is a naturopath, intuitive metaphysical healer, author, host of the podcast "Lean In" and co-founder of Natural Instincts Healing's Transformational Retreats.  She is one of the most powerful and magical people I know. Enjoy this episode!   Learn more about Kate's healing centers here: https://naturalinstincthealing.com/

This episode is about getting out of your head and in touch with spirit. Today’s caller, Michelle, is intelligent and has a lot of awareness but her awareness and her thinking are blocking her from a deeper connection to spirit and to the essence of who she truly is. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode228] We can’t answer spiritual questions with the mind. That is just the nature of spiritual questions. They can’t be answered through the intellect. I have found that sometimes the smarter you are, or the more you are in your head, the harder it is to meditate, to find a connection to spirit, and to drop into your heart. It doesn’t mean it’s not possible. It just means when we have a strong mind it likes to hold on to thinking and control with a tighter grip. We think and think and think about how to figure something out but how do we figure out a truth? You can figure out a puzzle, you can figure out a math problem or how to build something but you can’t figure out enoughness. There is no mat

My husband, Stef Sifandos, is back on the show.  We talk about how to disagree in any relationship in a healthy way and share our seven-step process for navigating an argument. This is great info for any relationship and imperative for romantic ones.

This episode is about consciously and completely leaving a religion someone else chose for you. Today’s caller, Christina, has recently discovered what her core wounding is and she is in spiritual crisis. She would like guidance on how to protect herself during her vulnerable self-discovery process.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode227]   When we leave a religion, whether we drift away from it or there is a point where we cut the cord, it is like a breakup. And, on some level, we are changing the course of our religious beliefs especially if we are baptized into a certain religion. Our soul, for whatever reason, decided to come through those parents who baptized us in a religion so when we leave it, it is important to have a healthy breakup with it. Not just leave in anger or run away. There are soul contracts. This makes it important to make peace when you leave it.   Just like you would want to leave a relationship with looking at “What are the lessons I’ve learned,” “What are the thin

In this last episode to support you in feeling supported as you walk into this next decade, Christine offers a more feminine approach and guided meditation for clarifying goals.  This is a must listen if you are feeling a call to be more repetitive and inspired. 

This episode is about finding your voice when you have low self-worth. Today’s caller, Sarah, calls in asking about a breakup but as usual, we dive deeper into core issues she has been carrying around since before her birth. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode226] Not being able to see things from a self-honoring perspective is one of the many side effects of low self-worth. People who have zero self-worth give up on themselves completely and don’t call in or listen to podcasts like this. If you believe you have low self-worth I want you to recognize the ways in which you act that demonstrate your self-worth. I promise they are there. You can’t just focus on how you have no or low self-worth because it’s not true. You wouldn’t be listening to this if you didn’t. Acknowledge the ways you take care of yourself. Even if you are an introvert you need to take up space and be seen. Especially in your most intimate relationships. Low self-worth can make it challenging to attract a healthy relations

With this New Year upon us, setting goals and intentions is in the air. In this follow-up episode to creating your 2020 vision, Christine guides you through her favorite ways to make changes that last! Also, join Christine for our next live virtual group coaching call which will be an intention setting workshop www.christinehassler.com/group.   If you are interested in the journal Christine mentions in this episode, you can get it here: https://christinehassler.com/40-day-journal/

This episode is about overcoming people-pleasing patterns and getting into alignment with who you truly are. Today’s caller, Emily, recognizes she has people-pleasing patterns but finds herself withdrawing from others. She is exhausted by the effort it takes to socialize and doing what other people expect of her. If you are a people pleaser and an introvert, this is an important call for you to listen to. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode225] Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback Waitlist@ChristineHassler.com — Get on the waitlist for this show